How friendly are you with your neighbors?

One not at all - the other a nod & hello - once or twice we feed his cat.

Same. My neighbors are pretty cool except one couple that just moved in but they seem to be mellowing out.

We have a friendly floor and the new people would keep opening and shutting their door when other neighbors would quietly kibbutz in the hallway (which never happens before or 10:00am or after 8:30pm.) However, the wife herself kibbutzes in the hallway from time to time so they have calmed down somewhat.

I live on a street with all gay couples. None of us are super close social friends but we have had a few times a year where we hang out together. It's a nice setup.

Friendly with a few people a few streets over but not to the point of having them over.

I seem to be unable to meet any new friends that are capable or interested in more than some quick pleasantries. Have to really accept that and try to find things to do for myself, with myself. (And yes, hahaha, not just jacking off)

No of course not. Fuck them. They all have BO anyway. My building has turned completely third world, and rapidly so. It's quite shocking to see. I'm looking to sell, fast, which I don't want to do as my place is pimped out with custom renos that cost me a fortune. I don't want to repeat that in a new place, but I clearly can't stay here. People don't reciprocate friendliness anyway. Especially the smelly Muslim beardos walking around with their hands behind their backs like they own the place. All they do is drive down property values.

[quote]would quietly kibbutz in the hallway

The segregate by sex and set up a tent and everything?

I am nice but have no desire to be friends with any of them.

[quote] pimped out

A whore.

[quote] kibbutz

What kind of produce do you/they grow?

No. We pretend each other don't exist and we are happy that way.

I used to know at least one neighbor on my floor (I live in Manhattan, NYC), but now I don't know anyone. Tenants in this building tend to stay a year or two and leave due to its proximity to a university. I actually have only ever bumped into one of the new tenants on my floor in the hallway once, since they moved in sometime in the last year, and that was just an acknowledgement of each other and nothing more. There is only one tenant in the entire building who has been a resident longer than I have, at this point, and we occasionally say hello because we have passed each other for years, but that's it. I'm fine with not having more than occasional contact with neighbors except for passing each other in hallways, because I know plenty of people who have lots of contact with neighbors here and not all of it is that pleasant. Granted, they live in buildings with a co-op board (I don't), but it sounds like a lot of power-tripping busybodies that I would have zero patience for, with lots of attention paid to what everyone else is doing. I want to live my life unbothered when I am at home.

I live in a condo building. I'm very friendly and they respond accordingly. Few encounters will the greeting be initiated by them.

During the holidays, I give a goodie bags to my row, my stack and the board members. It's surprising that out of 11, only 3 say thank you or acknowledge the gift....says a lot.

I actively avoid them and plan to social distance from them as long as I can.

I'm very friendly to my neighbors. We live in a small building in Manhattan. I know at least half by name. It's good to have good neighbors.

I live in a small co-op/condo community, and I’ve gotten to be friendly with a few folks here. I hang out with them sometimes in the common outdoor area. Have been out to dinner with a few of them. They keep trying to get me to be on the co-op board, but fuck that! There are also some real assholes who live her, but I give them a wide berth.

Very good relationship with more than half the neighbors in my small building. There’s really only one person that I hate, but everybody hates that person.

One of my neighbors and I hang out but our cats actually hang out more than we do. If either of us needs to travel (or just needs an uninterrupted break) we have access to one another’s places and we’ll just chuck all the cats in whoever’s unit is empty because they can play together for hours and never get bored. I’ve thrown mine in her place on more than one occasion when I was trying to work from home and she was at her office and one of mine was driving me crazy. My young cat and her cat are BFFs and my older cat is supposed to supervise them (but he usually just ignores them and takes a nap).

R14 lives in a sitcom.

My crazy neighbor old lady has a few parties under her belt. She has a weed growing operation and has her relatives come from New Mexico to run it. They stay firmly behind a locked gate. Fine with me.

The folks in my building are all mighty friendly. We’re not above bathing together.

If you saw the way I interact with my fruity Nextdoor neighbor, you’d swear you were watching an R rated comedy.

^ hmmm fruity??

I smile and say hello to other residents. But I make sure to be especially friendly to the Managers office and our security guys. It's been working well for me for the past 10 years.

Lived in this apartment for 4 years. Don't know any of my neighbors. In fact, don't know anyone in this entire building of 125 apartments.

Nope. Drama. Avoid.

Friendly and cordial with young couples on either side of me, but don't hang out because they all wekl and have small children to deal with. I figure they'd rather hang out with other harried, working parents. I give them their space and vice versa. We all casually look out for each other and share neighborhood info/intell pretty freely. The people directly across from me are loud, showboating ASSHOLES and so are their lame-ass kids, who all think they are major sports gods. Ha. Little bossy crotchfruit are the worst. Fuck them.

^they all WORK. Not wekl.

We live in an HOA of some 350 houses. Every morning I spend a hour walking around the neighbrohood.

During that time, I am talking to the neighbors walking their dogs. This involves getting kissed on the mouth by a german shepherd and generally licked by the others.

I learned to not talk politics. It's Floriduh!

I'm friendly with the couple who live above me. When I'm out of town I give them my mailbox key so they can pick up my mail, and I do the same for them. I also have a key to their apartment in case they're away and the building catches fire so I can rescue their cat. (This, thankfully, has never happened, and, no, I've never used their key to look around their place when they're not there.) Two other renters are snotty millennials who wouldn't piss on you if your heart was on fire. Or maybe they have "social anxiety." I always nicely say Hello, [insert name here] when I run into one of them because a) I was raised to be polite and b) I'm sure it annoys them. Fortunately, I rarely run into either.

Just my two next door neighbors. Sometimes they pick up my Amazon orders for me if I’m not home. One I talk to more than the other. But I don’t socialize with them and vice versa.

Just 8 apts in my building and I chat with anyone in the hall or elevator but they're all a little but grumpy most times

I have fucked them all but I would not say we are friendly with each other.

[quote][R14] lives in a sitcom

It’s an hour long dramedy and it’s on Max, so you know it’s one of the good ones that wins all the Emmys.

R5 For the most part, yes.

Have I told you about Joel?

Happy to not encounter them but I'll say a breezy hello and keep walking if I do.

Interesting question but the responses need context. I think OP lives in a house in a residential / urban area where the houses are fairly close. Others may live in single unit dwellings where the nearest house is a half mile away. And while I live in a high-rise, there are only two units per floor. I'm friendly with the couple next door but I only pass the other residents in the lobby or the mail room. I'm not sure of names and who lives where. And since condo board meetings moved to zoom versus in person, it's really hard to interact with anyone.

My next door neighbor absolutely hates me. I have live next door to him for 13 years and we've barely even spoken but my existence has bugged him almost as soon as I moved in. He is a joyless old man who hates everything.u neighbors across the street are pretty cool with me. Other then the old man two houses down is kind of a friend. But I don't really talk to any of the others. Funnily enough there are three at least three guys I see on Grindr all the time that live on my block. I know they've also viewed my profile but we never say a word to each other when we see each other in the neighborhood.

"KIBBITZ" My phone autocorrected it to "Kibbutz."

No interaction unless their tree falls on my roof. Mostly MAGAT, loud kids, nothing in common. If I died here I’d rot to death without anybody knowing. The stench might be a clue, but they’re pretty clueless.

[quote] But I make sure to be especially friendly to the Managers office and our security guys.

are they hot?

r4 Your frustration is palpable. Where do you live?

I like to keep to myself, but my partner is a bit of a social butterfly. Even though he’ll claim to be an introvert. But we’ll be in the yard, I’ll be talking to him, only to turn around and find he’s wandered off down the lane to talk to someone. Never fails. He’ll talk about so-and-so, and I’m like, who? He’ll be like, you know, those people down the street.

R10 Rows and stacks?

It's concentric circles.

I know the first and last names of the people about three doors either side.

I know the first names a bit beyond that.

I know and speak to the people beyond that when out walking the dog.

I know the people beyond that to see them and nod.

Round the corner, no idea.

I wave at the neighbor on one side, but it's been a while since we talked. They're a straight couple 20 plus years younger than me, so we haven't much in common. The house on the other side has been vacant for a while. The family that lived there moved out, but still own it. They haven't had tenants for a while. Suits me fine, since that house has a pool and the neighbors had noisy pool parties (complete with a DJ) every weekend when they lived there. Otherwise I think everyone in the neighborhood hates me, because I always assume that about everyone.

I've been in my neighborhood for 10 years now, but I still don't know any of my neighbors. Admittedly, there's been a lot of turnover in that time.

The neighbor to the west constantly has people over, and I think the son is running a barber shop without a license. They block my driveway all the time. Assholes.

The neighbors to the east throw raging parties every few weeks that go long into the night.

R39. Mississauga

I live in a small building , just five flats. I have got to know the young married couple downstairs, but I have barely spoken to my other neighbours. They keep themselves to themselves.

This being DL, I'd like to know how unfriendly you are with your neighbors?

I’m so unfriendly to my neighbors that when they ride home on their horse, I don’t even bother to say “Fuck you and the horse you rode in on.” Then as soon as they are inside, I get my pooper scooper out to collect the horseshit to feed my 20 foot high shrub blocking my view of them.

I live in a high rise chiefly to avoid this kind of interaction.

I am friendly with all my neighbours even the stupid cunts that live across from me.

The first 8 to 10 years in my building were bliss because my neighborhood was in the commercial/industrial side of town. Many owners in the building used their units as a second home, so there were years where it was just a friendly older couple and me as full time residents on my floor. In the past 15 years, the area has exploded in popularity and now we have primarily empty nester couples moving into units that were previously rented to single people or second homes that were empty half of the year. The empty nesters are the kibitzers for the most part. Nice people but I often miss the space and solitude.

My neighbors are all middle aged single women. Next door an architectural engineer from the UAE, on the other side an accountant and across the street an over the road trucker. I like all three of them but the guy who lives behind me is my favorite. Oh my he is a hot dude. He's in his early 50's and so smooth. Super nice guy too.

I live in a 4 unit block with all in single units. I only speak to and text with the woman downstairs. She is out a lot walking her dog around the block. When she went away for 2 months I offered to water her plants, which she accepted. The other 2 are men and both noisy selfish bastards I have no patience for.

Sometimes I'm terrified my neighbor will be found murdered in his house because I know I'll be the first suspect.

My next door neighbors are lovely, and I'm friendly with them but sometimes there's too much! It's a straight couple...his second marriage, her third or fourth. They're both retired from the same company. He is especially nice...a Vietnam War veteran. Very interesting stories. He's friendly, but a nod and hello will suffice much of the time. She's a talker...nonstop! And tells me everything they're up to. And she knows everyone in the neighborhood!

Across the street is another retired couple. He was a contractor. He's a bit of a curmudgeon who spends his days puttering around the house and taking care of his lawn. She's a nice woman., who picks up stray leaves on the walkway and picks out the dead leaves on flowers. They have a daughter who's about 30 and very cool....drives an old 1970s Westfalia van...just a cool kid!

Then there's the guy who moved into the house catty corner across from me, whose ex girlfriend lives a few doors away. She took him to court for stalking. I kid you not!

I fucked em all except Brenda next door

I live on a farm and all our neighbors are fields away. They all hate my dad because he hates everybody and is suing several of them over "easements" between our properties. He's 89 and I think they're all hoping he dies soon.

I live in a building of eight apartments, built a hundred years ago for one family. About half of the apartments owned by the current generation of the same family for whom it was built. The half of us who are owner occupants get along well or very well. The remaining family owners lease out their units and range from imperious to insane to sometimes okay. The renters are split between long-term oddballs and newcomers who usually don't stay long; some are friendly, others a little mercurial, and the same goes for some renters of a few small professional offices on the ground floor.

The better neighbors like their privacy and respect the same for others, but they are also friendly and helpful without being weird or intrusive. Good neighbors are important and a great thing to have - and easy enough to be.

Cole and Colby across the street moved in in May and quickly became friends and then FWB. They are a hot married couple in their late thirties and love getting repeatedly plowed by hot hung daddies. My husband and I take turns filling their asses several times a month. And just to keep things fresh, we let the boys breed the daddies.

Gated community of 99 single family homes. My house is next door to the pool and hot tub, so many of the neighbors, at least those with kids, know who I am but I couldn't care less about them. Several old male couples pounced on us when we moved in ten years ago. My then-husband cozied up to them, but I did not. Since we split a couple years ago, they avoid me.

The next door neighbors are a 40s ish Persian couple with two boys who used to torture opossums until I pointed a camera at their backyard and recorded them. I sent it to the police department which came out and interrogated them. The wife is a disbarred attorney (I looked her up) and she confronted me about recording her children without permission. Sorry, not sorry, bitch.

If I see somebody at the mailboxes, I'll hang back and wait until they're gone. It's not that I am antisocial – quite the opposite actually – but I am a private person. Keep to yourself; I'll keep to myself.

Two-building apartment complex (200/100 units, I'm in smaller one) opened in 2021. Mostly straight couples, some with kids. I know a few to chat with here and there, but no socialization for me.

I don't know my immediate neighbors much, although the guy next door is friendly when we run into each other. I suspect the people across the hall might be an illegal sublet.

Cul de sac with only 5 houses in a very popular, sought-after neighborhood in an overwhelmingly Democratic city. 2 of the homeowners are faculty members at a local university. Others are professionals, but ONE neighbor will, again, have at least 3 Trump yard signs in front of her house next year. Regardless, we all communicate, we all get along, we all look after each other, and we just collectively but unspokenly "let it go" when it comes to vastly different political opinions. Think of it as America, as it used to be.

I live in a densely populated suburb and have neighbors all around me. I’m one of the youngest people on my block at age 53. Yes, lots of elderly neighbors here who have lived in this nice, quiet suburb for decades.

I have cordial relationships with my immediate neighbors. We visit occasionally with coffee and donuts, and the couple next door cares for my dog and cat when I go out of town.

I love old people; living near them is nice and quiet, and most neighbors on my block are pretty liberal. The 90-something widower next door is a solid democrat and we enjoy talking politics.

I lucked out. They’re friendly and keep to themselves. The husband is a 49ers fan and Patrick Mahomes is my fantasy husband, so we find enough commonality to make chit chat for five minutes about once or twice a month and then we just say goodbye and go back down into our burrows.

I hate them. I've called parking enforcement on them a few times and even called the cops a few times when holiday fireworks got out of control and scared my dogs

We moved into our condo in 2021 and so far everyone we've met seems nice. There are five buildings of 20 or so units each, and we've met our adjacent neighbors in passing. Recently, two neighbors slipped invites under our doors to meet for a cocktail hour pot-luck on our dock (we're on the water) on a Sunday afternoon. It was fun. We were slightly disappointed because we've heard there's an older gay couple in our building who travel a lot and we've never met, and we hoped to meet them there, but I guess they were out of town.

I honestly feel so lucky not to have crazy/annoying neighbors. I did once when I was much younger, and I see horror stories online. It's very quiet and nice where I am now.

We always say hello to one another but nothing resembling a conversation. I live in a three story apartment building gone Condo. people mind their own business and they aren't unfriendly, but they are distant.

We were best friends with some neighbors for 20 years. Lived out of each other’s pockets. Went out together every weekend. One day they stopped answering our calls. Husband saw them in market and asked, “Did we say or do something that upset you? Could you please tell us what it was? Whatever it was, we apologize.”

“No, no, of course not! Everything’s fine.”

“So when we call and ask you out to dinner you’ll come with us? You’ll take our calls?”

“Of course!”

They never answered a call again.

I no longer get friendly with neighbors. My husband is a bit desperate for friends and will try to be nice to anybody so they’ll be friends with him. He can even be what they used to call “forward” - overly friendly. Not me, I’m done. Don’t talk to me and I won’t talk to you, ok?

We also have a cop who lives behind us and sets off professional fireworks on all holidays. Not Roman candles, but shell shock type explosions. I hate that fucker. Can’t call police on him because he is the police.

Another neighbor is an antivaxxer activist. Before I knew she was antivax I opined that RFK Jr and others pushing anti vax nonsense are engaging in junk science. I have a masters in public health and my papers and thesis were all about infectious disease. But she knows better because one of her kids has autism. She’s converted half the neighborhood to antivax.

I’m like, “Fuck y’all. Don’t come near me.”

R68 the neighbors who ghosted you sound bizarre. I wonder if it is something they are hiding and not at all something you have done. I also wonder if it might be politics. I got along well with my next door Republican neighbors for several years, until about a year into the Obama Presidency. They stopped speaking to me! (I'm African American.)

As if I'd acknowledge those lowlife pigs!

[quote]They all have BO anyway. My building has turned completely third world, and rapidly so. It's quite shocking to see.

A disbarred attorney with a family of opossum torturers

[quote]We also have a cop who lives behind us and sets off professional fireworks on all holidays.

[quote]As if I'd acknowledge those lowlife pigs!

I'm guessing some of you would argue with the idea that we are where we live.

I’ve often had them for dinner.

R68 The mystery of why the friends of 20 years ghosted you would drive me nuts. I mean, it is driving me nuts and I don't even know you. Do you have any mutual friends or acquaintances who might offer some insights into the situation?

Not very. Nor they with us. Which is fine by me.

No, R73. They moved a few years back. I laughed because they got much less for their house than others in the neighborhood. Why? The husband was a do-it-yourselfer who built great looking raised decking in most of his large backyard but didn’t get a permit.

I was shocked when I saw all the decking ripped out and, after it was sold, the owners put new decking in. Whatever he did with the decking was somehow not up to code. It affected the price of the house.

Which, even though I laughed, is not good for the whole neighborhood because it brought prices down on Zillow for a while. But housing prices have soared since.

I live in a condo and I’m friendly with them, but not overly chummy. Except for the handsome young bachelor who lives across from me. We chat quite often and he’s come in to fix a few things for me over me over the past few years.

He had a girlfriend for a while who was quite jealous and nasty. She did not like him helping me or being friendly with me in any way. Fortunately he ended things with her about a year ago and I haven’t seen her again. She was so nasty to me.

Is your last name Twist, Rupert?

[quote] I live in a building of eight apartments, built a hundred years ago for one family.

R58, this sounds interesting? Can you say the general area?

I'm cordial to my neighbors, but not really close to any of them.

Does no one live in a detached house?

R78: It was fairly common in Southern Europe from the late 19th and early 20th Centuries to commission apartment buildings for family use. As wealthy families outgrew old family houses, they might add an apartment block to accommodate a group of siblings and other family.

The apartments were usually built with vertical tiers of apartments that varied in size, typically built with flexibility in mind, with some walls that could be knocked out for expansion of one apartment into another as needed.

The family tenants usually shared a porter who had a space on the ground floor which might also have spaced that could double as apartments or professional offices or comercial premises to generate income.

Over time and family generations, these have often lost much of the connection to the family who built it as members moved to more scattered locations.

The same model on a vastly bigger scale is seen in palace architecture of Renaissance Europe and earlier. A Medici prince's palace was a mix of public spaces and private apartments (suites of rooms) doled out to various family members, the size and status of each matched that of its assigned occupant who might redecorate it or change the configuration of rooms according to his own fortune and ambition. The palaces were always in a state of internal architectural change which accounts for the sometimes schizophrenic shifts in style that you notice from one suite of rooms to another.

Now the idea of a large family house or apartment block is mostly out of favor with some exception for vacation houses. Multi-generational family houses are still common in Southern Europe but usually not configured as separate apartments, just an upper floor that might have a second kitchen and duplicate other aspects of the parents' space on another level or levels. Usually these share a main entrance, stairs, courtyard, etc.