“I Flew to Israel for a Man Half My Age - What’s All This War?”

It’s just the news until it affects your online hookup. Then, shit gets real.

Well twitters going to have a field day with this one. Israeli guy is cute though.

He's pretty cute but I can't imagine flying all the way across the world for him.

If I are as unattractive as the author I might be tempted to do something as foolish as fly to another continent to meet up with someone mildly attractive. But I surely wouldn’t publish an article about it.

Folks - don't get caught up in long-distance internet relationships. They've spent 3 years without meeting? Why so long?

I don't care if they facetime or video call - it's just not a great foundation and it becomes a case of flirting, wishful thinking, dreaming and distraction.

You spend 3 years pining away for somebody on this fantasy.

I know everyone wants to be loved - but how did he NOT know this guy would never leave Israel? I get that this can provide some daily spark in people's lives and hope - but it can also be very hurtful and destructive too.

Online relationships are almost ALWAYS better than real ones. You communicate when it's convenient for you both, you send lovey text messages of support and desire, etc.

I don't doubt that they like each other - physically and romantically even - but it's not real. And then the older guy is flattered and has a kick in his step that a younger man takes such an interest in him.

On the pessimistic side, I have to wonder if there are any other older men that the younger guy is talking to in other countries.

The pained smile on the younger man's face screams "How much longer until this guy goes home??"

The Israeli guy isn't crying because of Hamas.

This why they hate us. Some people really need to shut up at times.

[quote] He “woofed” at me on a gay dating site called Scruff from 10,700 miles away,

Well someone needs to adjust their filter.

[quote]He “woofed” at me on a gay dating site called Scruff from 10,700 miles away

Some enchanted evening.

Sizemeat Verifica?

Yikes, that poor young man is desperate.

r4 "But I surely wouldn’t publish an article about it. "

You sure wouldn't - you can barely put together a couple of readable sentences.

If I are you, 4, I were proofread.

Chin up, ladies...

r11 Put it this way. The Hamas rockets weren't the biggest thing I saw that night.

Here's another article from the author. While most gay men can relate to the body issues, this guy was on a different level.

And it seemed like he was partnered at the time - but wasn't a great partner.

There's 25 years age difference here. This guy is lost in this internet fantasy.

He seems like a nice guy - but man. And yes, he's an attractive guy for his age.

This reminds of the gay New Jersey governor and his Israeli Hunk

R17 at least Golan got Jim to stop marrying and having children with women.

R13. Thank you. You really are lovely. Honestly, just lovely and charming.

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So the author was a childhood bully, in his own admission.

Yeah - I'm thinking this guy is a mess and a bit of a jerk.

He rationalizes it away - but a lot of people in the same situation did not traumatize others. As much as he sorts through it all and takes responsibility, I feel like there's more the left out.

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r21 So he's always had an unfortunate face even before you get to the personality. Can Avichai Refael Sofer really not find an attractive mid 50s daddy in Tel Aviv if thats what he's going for?

He was cuter fat.

[quote]One afternoon, after a long trail run, as I was driving home, I was overwhelmed with sadness and burst into tears. “What the fuck is wrong with me?” I cried out loud to myself. The answer came in a whisper from a voice inside my head: “You’re still the same insecure little boy you’ve always been, just in a different package.”

Oy vey.

He flew to Israel for a bottom?

They're both desparate.

desperate*

r25 Seriously - now that was pathetic

How sad for him. The selfish world ruining his plans.

I once had a flight with an Israeli guy 1/3 my age. The Israeli was very very sure of himself and racist AF.

Three years? Ridiculous

I flirted with a guy in Chicago for three years but then we simply hooked up, nothing more, nothing less. We drop each other a note every once in a while

^ * "fling" not "flight" at R30.

He looks like that Toronto gay serial killer. Avigdor, run!

Self-absorbed much?!

He must be the first man ever to take a sex trip to Asia to fuck someone half his age who actually wants the story known.

Ain't that bout a bitch! Hope that young man's snatch was worth it

R30- Racist about whom?

and what did he say?

Three years? What happens when you finally hook up and he smells odd or has weird nervous habits or poor hygiene. Things you cant tell from video.

The Israeli guy looks a little... special.

I’ve been exchanging text messages on Instagram with a handsome guy. Told him my age 67 and he’s 43 and that I’m married happily and he asked if I flirt!

R37 - Palestinians/Arabs. Vocally supported apartheid-style restrictions on those groups in Israel.

I love Rob Reiner! I’m happy he found some affection.

Flew to Israel to meet a guy half his age right before a war broke out?!!

Damn.

I took my profile offline because I’m tired of 25 year old guys who are half my age calling me daddy and insisting on sex on demand. I’ve told them all no, but I’ve told some “you’re more than 1/2 a mile away, so nah.”

25 year old bottoms are very pushy and persistent. Other 50 year old daddies have corroborated this phenomenon here.

Do Israelis get special visas if they want to move to the US? That would have been a better solution wouldn't it?

Fucking hell. The Canadian daddy is hotter than the half his age Twink and is exactly why I can’t find a 50-something year old to date a 50-something year old me BECAUSE THEY’RE ALL FUCKING 25 YEAR OLDS!!

FML. 😠

It’s still not as stupid as flying to the Philippines or Thailand to meet a guy.

R46, the last 50-something year old I dated WAS born in the Philippines. You’d never know it. He was half Filipino and had an American father (and naturalized US citizen Filipino mother) but he looked more like his dad and you wouldn’t realize he was if you saw him. BIG bear, handsome as hell, not the best guy in the world. But his brothers definitely looked Filipino (also-handsome as hell). I’d travel to the Philippines for a 50 year old over Israel for a Twink. I’m just pissed that hot Canadian daddies like the guy who wrote the article won’t date other hot 50 year old guys.

Whatever. I’m still seeing someone and he’s in his 40s, so close enough. But that took a LOT of work on my part!! More work than should be necessary. The cruelty of turning 50 wasn’t that guys aren’t interested in you anymore. It’s that guys your own age aren’t interested in you anymore.

I wouldn’t even know what to talk to a 25 year old about!! I don’t want to have to explain things like having to buy a separate long distance plan for your land line or spend my time googling “Doja Cat” so we could have a conversation.

Getting old didn’t make me feel old. Aggressive 25 year olds and 50 year olds that ignore me for 25 year olds make me feel old.

I’m tired of the dating merry go round. I just want to drop dead if things end with the current guy end (and seeing as I’m not in a 30 year marriage, they’ve all ended so far).

Trying to date sucks. Enjoy it until you’re 35. It just sucks after that. My brain hurts.

[quote]the last 50-something year old I dated WAS born in the Philippines. You’d never know it.

Well duh, most Asian men look like little boys even when they are 40.

R47 I was in the same boat. I got dates with younger guts, but guys my own age (50) were not interested (or married).

Ended up “settling” for a slightly older gent with a mild fetish. Not ideal but also not bad.

[quote]Well duh, most Asian men look like little boys even when they are 40.

Talk about racist generalizations.

OP picture is hilarious. The older guy looks so smug and pleased with himself. The younger guy looks like he can’t wait for somebody to rescue him.

This is beyond parody.

R41 I can't blame him. Look what happened.

[quote] I got dates with younger guts

Pics please.