Anyone else never have a good day in their entire life?

I have had many wonderful days. But I no longer expect to have them anymore.

Yes, even though dealing with surgery after surgery 27 to be exact. In a couple of weeks a complete chest reconstruction. I make everyday the best day possible. We are not guaranteed tomorrow and I’ll be damned if I allow health or others to rent negative space in my head. They do not get that power. I may not be wealthy anymore but I am healthy in love, friendships and the family that still converse with me, because you know Gay is a sin to some. Their loss, my happiness and stability. FUCK THEM!

Yeah, same, it just never came together for me. I did have some nice days, but those were back during summer vacations in my childhood. It's basically been one failure after another since primary school. My mom told me once I needed to be tougher, more ruthless, in order to succeed in life. She was right, but I never had it in me to suppress my softer side that way. And now here I am, suicide occupying my thoughts several times per week.

I see today is another sad day…

Count your blessings. At least you have the potential for a good day in the future. I'm 67, diagnosed with cancer this month, and nothing to look forward to but endless sickness, misery and death. Is that depressing enough for you?

OP maybe you should try medication. What do you have to lose? St. John's Wort is a natural to help with depression.

I have had many good days, it's all in your head, it's your choice to be happy in spite of the circumstances. Go to some 3rd world country sometime and walk into a small village had you will find some people as happy as a clam but still dirt poor, no health care, no voice, crime you name it.

I find people like OP who whine about their circumstances are often more privileged in life than 90% of the rest of the real world. Yet they fail to see it and live in a poor me mentality.

I've had maybe three good days. So, I haven't done much better than you.

r7 I don't like when people bring the third world into this. No, I'm not living in a slum without food or healthcare, but the first world has plenty of problems that make life miserable and not worth living. The people in the third world don't have my problems. That's like saying you shouldn't whine over a broken leg because somebody else had their's amputated.

[quote]My mom told me once I needed to be tougher, more ruthless, in order to succeed in life. She was right,

No your mother was a cunt. You can be successful without being an a-hole. Maybe all the straight men she knows are like that but being ruthless is more of a character flaw than a trait that aids success in life.

How do you define success? Money? How Boomer naive was she? Real success is being happy with your life, and believe it or not, some of the richest men in the world know that's far more important than how much money they have.

Hugs to you r5. I’m sorry to hear that.

I was waiting for something to motivate me to get off the couch and this did it. I always feel better after I walk.

OP, seconding R6. What you're describing sounds like a chemical imbalance or something organic. I'm not a medical professional but hope you'll check in with one soon.

R6 op doesn’t want medication or therapy.

I'd prioritize mitigating the gambling addiction.

[quote] I don't like when people bring the third world into this.

Of course you don't because it destroys your argument.

This woman I work for from time to time is divorced living off the millions she got in a settlement. She lives a totally glamors life, on the 22 floor of a high-rise near Beverly Hills, drives a Porsche Turbo, has a home vault with more than a million in jewelry, etc. She whines all day about how depressed she is and wants to kill herself.

Sounds just like you. When I point out how lucky she is compared to someone middle-class. " It's not fair to compare me to THOSE people. "

Op doesn’t want to change. He enjoys wallowing in self pity. All of his posts are the same. Wise up everybody l!!!

Do something for someone else. That might actually help.

I had one hell of a great day today.

OP, I'm sorry. Are there things that bring you small moments of joy? I think a lot of people would look at me and think I don't have much of a life. But I try to do very small things throughout the day that make me feel content. Things like a little gardening, drawing, and enjoying food I make. I just hope there is some joy, somewhere in your life.

OP wont do what R18 suggested.

I posted above about a rich woman I work for who sounds just like OP. She's the same way. Been told by her shrink, life coach, friends to help others, goes in one ear and out the other. In 7 years I have known her, she's never lifted a finger for anyone except herself. Nope, not going to try that, too much effort. Sounds just like OP.

Life is always a challenge and often times difficult. Take it small doses. Don't let it overwhelm--and I know, it's easier said than done.

I know it sounds cliche, but you must have other interests, some kind of extracurricular activity, at least one other friend, and an outlet for periodic exercise. It's productive, takes your mind off things for a while, and it's healthy.

There has to be some sliver of hope, anticipation or something to look forward to even it's rather mundane at times. Look for a friend. You must have an outlet to vent, to laugh and to hear about other people's problems once in a while. It helps to put things in perspective.

R21 I feed stray cats and help an elderly neighbour with her shopping every week. These things don't make me feel better about myself. I just do it because I feel bad for the vulnerable around me.

Some people get joy just from a walk along the beach or in the woods.

For many people in their last days of life on this planet, just being able to do that makes them more happy than they have in years. It costs nothing. OP needs to get that.

OP, that is one of the saddest things I have heard in all my life. I cannot believe that you haven't had a happy day in your life and that someone hasn't been fond of you, loved you or at least felt intrigued by you. Life can be difficult for many people and in our generation, we're all worried about the future because we're all worried about not being able to have a pension or owning a house, but that doesn't mean that these things will last forever and we will all be condemned to hopelessness, anguish and despair.

R18 is right: do charity work and you will know lots of different people and most importantly, it will give you the opportunity to help others and bring some positivity and kindness into your life. There's a reason why we call moral, compassionate and selfless behaviour "humane" - because it is essential for us to show concern, support and affection to others, who will in return show it to us. Please, do not give up and remember that there is always room for improvement, and that improvement can come by opening yourself to other people.

Also, I am sure that there are things that make you happy, or for which you are grateful. I know someone who was terribly depressed and she started keeping a list of things for which she was thankful in life. She did this every morning, and reminded herself of these things every time she felt unhappy or stressed. It changed her life completely and while she still has problems, the way in which she faces them has changed - in fact, I started doing this every day after seeing the results it had for her, and I must say that it is very fulfilling. Please, do not give up and remember that you have the power to do MANY things that can make you, and those around you, very happy.

This miserable OP, today's bothersome queen of self-fulfilling losership:

Anyone else never have a good day in their entire life? In my entire life, I honestly can't think of one good day where I've genuinely had fun or appreciated life. My life has been a waste and I wish I'd never been born. There's never been a "wow, everything's going well" stage of life for me. I've always been lonely, ugly, underemployed, poor, depressed and gambling addicted. Most people have a peak or a pinnacle--not me, everything with me has either been steady or declining, never up.

Before anyone calls me a loser bum, I have tried.

What about you?

LMAO. The Lindsey Graham poster. I'm not American so I don't follow US politics that much, so when I saw posts on here mentioning Lindsey Graham, my mind automatically told me it was Ashley Graham, the model.

I finally decided to click on a Lindsey Graham thread today, and realized I had no idea who it was. Then googled and saw it was an elderly man, not a female model.

Here, I thought this was the person being posted about all the time.

I have a job interview in a few hours and I'm really nervous I've been stuck in an unemployment rut for almost a year now, and this hotel is the only one that responded to my application.

It's for a housekeeping/maid job. I've never worked in a hotel before and don't even know what to say/what to do.

I predict coatigans are going to be a hot trend for guys this fall I thought this was Andy Garcia.

How can two people look so similar but not be related? Marilyn Monroe and Britney Spears.

Robert Redford and Brad Pitt.

Vlado Kalember and Johnny Depp.

Kate Moss and that woman from Eastenders.

Signs You Know You Are Getting Old. You know when you sign up for an online account and they ask for your date of birth and you have to scroll down a long menu until you land on your year of birth? That makes me feel old.

Also, not knowing or caring about who the new Hollywood stars or pop singers are. I used to love gossip when I was younger, now I don't care and only read about Johnny Depp because he was a crush from my youth and it's interesting to see what a trainwreck he's become. Also, I can't believe he's actually 60.

Apparently, Tom Holland and Timotee Chalamet are the new Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp. I don't see the attraction.

What kind of American accent is this? The blonde lady's accent. Is it southern or midwestern? I like it?

People who make effort to be friends with the exes and then brag about how close they are Does anyone else find that weird and cringey?

There's a former couple I know who got divorced six years ago, but still like to post pictures each other all the time on social media, talking about how they're still best friends, that marriage is til death do us part even if they divorce because there's still love between them.

The woman is 20 years younger and have moved on to a new man, but she still invites the ex husband to picnics and cafes with her and her new boyfriend. They're always talking about how they have a child together (who is almost 18), so must remain friendly and warm because they will always be family.

Furious dad breaks nose of 8-year-old boy who was bullying his daughter. Avoids jail. I'm sure lots of parents would like to do this.

2023. Johnny Depp's new perfume ad. I have no interest in perfumes, so didn't know how expensive they were until I looked up a few websites. No way would I pay a few hundred for a small bottle of perfume, even if I won the lottery I wouldn't do it.

Why are mothers usually louder/more aggressive than their adult daughters? Just something I've noticed. The moms tend to be more forceful, "get out of my way" kind of person, whereas daughters tend to be more patient and non-confrontational.

Everything happens to me.

I’m Always Chasing Rainbows.

OP is Beatrice Hunsdorfer.

This thread never gets old.

Hope posting your troubles to DL made you feel better, OP. The answers aren’t likely to - unless they make you laugh.

I had 5 good years (2012-17). All the days weren't good, but generally that period was fine. Even Trump in 2016 didn't seem so bad at first. But before and after those years I was aimless, lonely and depressed.

It’s your choice to be unhappy. You never developed the coping skills to deal with the realities of life. As bad as you think you have it…there’s someone out there who has it one hundred times worse and would love to be in your position.

We wake each day to our struggle, OP, not our perfection.

Sounds chemical. You should see a medical professional.

Telling people like OP that other people have it 100 times worse does not help them. In their mind the answer is "so what, I am not those people".

They fail to see the gifts they do have and only focus on outside comparisons of people who have more than they do. But people who have less, well fuck them. I am not one of them. I dont feel better because they are worse off than I am. I am one of the people who are doing better than me in life.

It's kind of an elitist, narcissistic personality trait. So even if OP was wealthy, he would still be a miserable bitch.

OP, if you NEVER have a good day, I'm guessing that you are seriously depressed. You really should go to a therapist - one who prescribes drugs - and see if you can get some relief.

Years ago, I was going through a bout of depression, and the therapist prescribed some meds for me. Within a week, I was "back to normal" and amazed that medication and therapy could do that. I stopped taking the drug because of side effects, but I'm sure better medications are available now.

Hope this helps.

I am going through a LONG bad period, since Covid.

I realized that I was living a renters life. It looked okay, but was stilts on sand during a hurricane.

Factor in a 40% pay cut this year, which my company tricked me into- (Long story- its really bad)

I am now living in an area well beyond my means, no siblings, 44, my parents both long gone- No inheritance.No idea where to go or what to do. Everything feels unbearably lonely. I feel like an utter failure. A major income decrease seems to be what really made me look at everything in a different way..

It is a lonely and scary time and its become a period of well, how do do I simply survive and enjoy life to the best of my ability, until death.

HOWEVER, OP. I have been blessed with some great days.

On my run this morning I remembered how my mom would make me the most wonderful birthday cakes. They were those Wilton Cake's from the 80's?? I had not thought about that in 3 decades. But they (to me) were beautiful. And I was OBSESSED with balloons and having a lot of them. And my mom took care of it. I can remember hanging "crepe paper" and I can see and feel that crepe paper in my hands...

I remember catching a crazy fly ball in gym class that no one thought anyone could catch.

I remember being good at hockey, when not being good at ANY sport until then.

And I remember more than anything some wonderful live shows/concerts for an artist that I have loved now for 25 years. Those specifically were some great, great days and nights of my life. That music was everything to me.

I had some great laughter too...

And I am grateful. And I am grateful to you for reminding me of my blessings. And to quote a film: "the lord's tender blessings"..

Op, r36 has the right response, you are depressed and have been for a while. Find professional help because that is not normal

Even the typical far sitting in their parents basement datalounget finds a little bit of contentment when their kfc arrives. I wish unwell

Well. Well, i wish you well

Also, think you are going to die. Take a walk, see a tree, grass, some kids going on with a dog. See a man with a nice ass walking in front of you. Read a book about the roman empire (preferably by Mary Beard who will look less attractive than you physically). Plan a journey.

[quote] St. John's Wort is a natural to help with depression.

*eyeroll*

I feel you OP. Lately I have been having better days because I have lowered my expectations of myself and others. It’s taken me a while to get to this point.

Marilynne Robinson is an American author. She has written a number of books, fiction and non-fiction. Two novels that she wrote that have inspired me for years are HOUSEKEEPING and GILEAD. But the following excerpt is from an interview that she gave to The Paris Review more than a few years back. Pretty self-explanatory but it's a small piece of writing that I return to over and over again... "The ancients are right: the dear old human experience is a singular, difficult, shadowed, brilliant experience that does not resolve into being comfortable in the world. The valley of the shadow is part of that, and you are depriving yourself if you do not experience what humankind has experienced, including doubt and sorrow. We experience pain and difficulty as failure instead of saying, I will pass through this, everyone I have ever admired has passed through this, music has come out of this, literature has come out of it. We should think of our humanity as a privilege." —Marilynne Robinson, Paris Review, The Art of Fiction No. 198

See a therapist. You can't possibly have never had a good day in your life. If you honestly think you haven't, you are either seriously depressed or deeply myopic and self-centered.

Yes, I've had great days.

Bad days too, for sure, and some miserable years too.

[quote] the typical far sitting in their parents basement datalounget

[quote] I wish unwell

Oh fuck me, the AI bots have become sentient and are posting all by themselves!

As R26 has pointed out, OP is depressed because s/he is a vapid twat.

I've had about eight seconds of happiness in life. Not all at once, but like one second here, and half second there.

I have lots of good days. My birthday was last Tuesday. I took myself out to breakfast, got a massage and went out to dinner with my husband. My son was working so we went out to dinner on Thursday and he gave me a wild bird feeder with seed. Today, I went swimming at the gym & out to dinner with another couple & then out for ice cream. Next weekend we are going through the corn maze (at night) with them & another couple.

I sit outside with a book and ice tea. I have something I want to accomplish each day, usually a chore & then something enjoyable. I go to the library, participate in a book club, a painting group & go to the gym and listen to podcasts. There are just so many things to do right where you are.

You ought to authenticate as "GLOOMY GUS", OP.

R5 hugs to you. Do you have support around you? I pray that you find peace and comfort during this very difficult and challenging time. We need you on DL, so please keep fighting to stay healthy and beat this insidious disease. Keep us posted. ♥️ I love and care about you even though you are anonymous. I will say a daily prayer for you to find comfort and peace.

Baby one day in your life….. 🕶️

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R37 knows what the secret is! Good for you, it's little things and memories that make us who we are and being able to reach back to those and feel happiness is basically the key.

Op, if you're a fucking gambling addict, you have too MUCH money. Jfc, are you kidding me? "Always been poor, blah blah blah" yeah, look to your gambling bullshit and maybe take up drinking instead, it's cheaper. Everyone who says the answer is to help others is absoultely on point. Stop navel gazing and thinking about yourself. Go help and elderly neighbor, say hi to people at the store, compliment a stranger and mean it. There's a million free things you can do to feel better, and none of them involve gambling or thinking about how badly you've always had it. You think about yourself way too much. You say you have tried, I say try harder. And go for a walk too, touch grass, get off fucking social media, and stay off the internet period if you're addicted to gambling. It takes 21 days to build a habit. Start today, the first of the month. Walk a little, talk to some people, help some people, and write a daily gratitude list, 5 things at least. I'll give them to you; you have a roof over your head, you have a job, you have food in the fridge, you have running water and power, you have your arms and legs and are able to walk. Build on that, you'd be surprised how much you have.

Wow! On Louis XIV’s deathbed he apologized to his wife for never making her happy. Are you Madame de Maintenon?

Not in a long time, OP. I keep waiting for my life to start. I want to ride a bicycle down some Autumn Lane, the crisp wind in my hair. But I don't have a bike, there are no parks nearby and traffic/crime is so bad here I don't feel safe.

I fantasize seeing myself on some windswept beach collecting seashells. I have 197 hours of vacation time but I can't take one because the staff is so sparse there's no one to cover for me. We just have to cash them out at the end of the year.

Sometimes I feel like a slave.

Hard for most of us to conceive of but many people have miserable bloody lives. They just exist , medicate and post on DL.

If their lives were that awful they wouldn’t be posting here 2/10 EST

You can make all those things happen, R56. Keep visualizing, and change your life in some small way every day.

Well, I haven’t felt true joy since I was a little kid. But I’m not unhappy, I just figure I’m not the joyful type. I read a lot and have hobbies. I don’t expect the unattainable.

Shit. And it was the lord's tender mercies. I tried to be deep and even fucked that beautiful quote up.. Hang in there OP!!

I bet op is seriously constipated.

Something of value! Thank you, R43! Marilynne Robinson makes a luminous argument for faith.

I have had some great days, but none where everything was just fantastic and error-free start to finish. I think you just have to roll with it. If you don't have anything to feel happy about, quit gambling and that'll be one really happy thing. A support group, therapy, pastoral counseling, whatever seems easiest to start.