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After Coming Out as Gay, I’m on the Outs With My Ex-Wife’s Family. Help!

DLers, I really don't know where else to go. I have a 27-year-old son from my days in the closet, and he & his fiancée (a woman) are having an engagement party soon. My ex is LOSING HER SHIT over it.

I came out in 2009, and my marriage obviously ended. My then wife and I were in our 40s. She and I are still estranged, but I've maintained loving relationships with our three children. They will all be at the party for about 25 guests, along with my new partner of 12 years, my ex-wife (who is still single), her parents, my former brother- and sister-in-law, and their adult kids. There is no love lost between me and my ex-wife’s family, and I am thrilled not to have been in contact with them for years. I am not looking forward to a three-hour party with them. I have no desire to say much more than hello, and they probably feel the same way.

Any advice? Do I call out her obvious jealousy over my newfound happiness? Eviscerate her failure to land a man who doesn't suck dick? Or should I weaponize one of our kids to savage her and my fuckhead former in-laws?

by Anonymousreply 18September 29, 2023 12:44 AM

Cheesy cut and paste from Galanes’s column. Go away 0/10.

by Anonymousreply 1September 28, 2023 8:24 PM

Skip the party and take your son and his wife-to-be out for an intimate dinner.

by Anonymousreply 2September 28, 2023 8:25 PM

Ask your son and his finacee if they want you to skip it to make everyone else comfortable. If they insist that you come spend your time talking with your other kids and the family of the bride to be, friends, anyone who is not your ex or inlaws.

I would either skip it or make a cameo appearance and get the hell out asap.

by Anonymousreply 3September 28, 2023 8:26 PM

Tell us more how you were a lying, cheating, closet case who tricked a woman in to marrying you before you left her for another cocksucker.

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by Anonymousreply 4September 28, 2023 8:30 PM

It's obvious: DON'T GO. You left. Stay gone.

by Anonymousreply 5September 28, 2023 8:33 PM

I suggest you completely ignore them. And ask your son to tell them all that if they plan to start anything they will not be welcome.

by Anonymousreply 6September 28, 2023 8:35 PM

R1 wins! THREAD CLOSED.

by Anonymousreply 7September 28, 2023 8:43 PM

At least you didn't become a basso voiced drag queen/transvestite, so there's that.

by Anonymousreply 8September 28, 2023 8:50 PM

It’s her problem let her deal with it. Just act like a sane rational person and behave and she’ll look crazy if she tries any shit

by Anonymousreply 9September 28, 2023 8:50 PM

Go to the party and be a gentleman. Be polite and pleasant. That’s the best revenge and it’ll needle the hell out of her.

by Anonymousreply 10September 28, 2023 8:55 PM

[quote]Any advice? Do I call out her obvious jealousy over my newfound happiness? Eviscerate her failure to land a man who doesn't suck dick? Or should I weaponize one of our kids to savage her and my fuckhead former in-laws?

Interesting how you list "weaponizing" your adult child (real classy), but not one word about how your son, who's wedding this is, feels about any of it or what you've said (or not said) to him about it.

I mean, do you realize you're actually not the center of attention here? If it were me I would ask my son what he would want, and how he would feel if I skipped this particular event for the sake of family harmony and not ruining his wedding. Basically "be the bigger person" in contrast to your ex, and allow your son, the actual person centered in all of this, his own say.

But you definitely sound like you want to take a different tack. Good luck.

by Anonymousreply 11September 28, 2023 8:58 PM

r11 has sage advise.

by Anonymousreply 12September 28, 2023 9:00 PM

OP lifted this from the NYT at R4's link. Troll post. F&F

by Anonymousreply 13September 28, 2023 9:09 PM

R13 you’re kidding me! I don’t believe you for a minute.

by Anonymousreply 14September 28, 2023 9:11 PM

Oh, I say!

by Anonymousreply 15September 28, 2023 9:38 PM

OP did you cheat while you were married. And please be honest.

by Anonymousreply 16September 28, 2023 9:39 PM

They are angry that you ruined her life? What a surprise.

by Anonymousreply 17September 29, 2023 12:40 AM

OP will not be able to answer our questions because this is a story from The NY Times.

by Anonymousreply 18September 29, 2023 12:44 AM
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