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What does DL think of people who refuse to share recipes?

My sister recently made a delicious no-bake banana pudding. As a fat whore, I love banana pudding but hate breaking out the double boiler and whipping egg whites to make it. My sister said she got the recipe from one of her in-laws and had to promise not to share.

I’m sure this person found the recipe somewhere. She didn’t spend a weekend in the kitchen formulating it from scratch.

This phenomenon is pretty common. I have older relatives who found recipes on labels, magazines, newspapers etc. When people ask how it’s made or ask for the recipe, they’ll smile and say it’s an old family recipe and they’ve never told anybody. Bitch! You got that recipe off a can of Eagle Brand Condensed Milk. The original can label is tucked inside your recipe book for Pete’s sake!

Personally, I love sharing recipes if someone asks. I’ll copy it out onto a recipe card and put my name on it so they’ll remember where they got it from.

by Anonymousreply 94September 2, 2023 2:19 PM

I can make my own raman noodles, thanks.

by Anonymousreply 1August 24, 2023 2:45 AM

People who refuse to share recipes are just trying to prevent Greg's plagiarism.

by Anonymousreply 2August 24, 2023 2:50 AM

^ 🥱

by Anonymousreply 3August 24, 2023 3:53 AM

People who don't share recipes are control freaks.

If I find a recipe that's perfect, I share it with everyone because I want everyone else to enjoy who wonderful it is.

by Anonymousreply 4August 24, 2023 4:08 AM

I share it even if they haven’t asked.

by Anonymousreply 5August 24, 2023 4:11 AM

There’s only one solution, search online, find her recipe and then top it.

She probably got it from Cooking.com or The Prairie Ho or some vapid site that spends 1500 words on an unremarkable backstory.

by Anonymousreply 6August 24, 2023 4:35 AM

Does it have Cool Whip? Because online it looks like 5000 incarnations of the same recipe. To make it better use fresh whipped cream

by Anonymousreply 7August 24, 2023 4:41 AM

Did someone say a delicious no-bake banana pudding?

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by Anonymousreply 8August 24, 2023 4:49 AM

^^^ My favorite part of the recipe:

[quote] To reduce calories, I used skim milk, fat free Cool Whip, as this does not affect the taste at all but if you prefer the full calorie flavor, that’s certainly ok, too!

by Anonymousreply 9August 24, 2023 4:58 AM

That white trash pie recipe a DLer posted in June was sure a hit.

In my grandmas last days, I drove up a few states to be with her and my parents. I made that pie for them a few times, and I made it for other family members during that time.

After I went back home and things went back to normal, it seemed like my mom was making them for everyone in their neighborhood, too.

by Anonymousreply 10August 24, 2023 5:11 AM

Yes. My ugly-as-sin, can't-cook-worth-shit, sister-in-law used to bring "California Dip" to every family function and act like it was some big fancy secret. It was an envelope of dry Lipton Onion Soup Mix stirred together with full-fat sour cream, served along side a bowl of off-brand Ruffles. She'd sit there on her enormous fat ass like the Cheshire Cat, smirking like she did something with this fucking "recipe."

by Anonymousreply 11August 24, 2023 5:36 AM

I bet that’s it R8 because my sister said it was just 4 ingredients. I’m going to make it this weekend and see how it is.

by Anonymousreply 12August 24, 2023 1:38 PM

r12, whipped cream or CoolWhip?

by Anonymousreply 13August 24, 2023 2:45 PM

I'll share if they ask. I don't share on DL much anymore because I don't want it to show up here redone as "Gerg's Simply Scrumptious Cum Cake" or something. You know the cunt would.

by Anonymousreply 14August 24, 2023 3:02 PM

[quote]and put my name on it so they’ll remember where they got it from.

I bet you check up on them too, don't you? "Just calling to see how it went".

by Anonymousreply 15August 24, 2023 3:09 PM

My mother shared a recipe & the lady took credit. She doesn’t share anymore. Said that’s the rule. Martha StewRt was called out by Julia Child for doing the same thing. So maybe that?

by Anonymousreply 16August 24, 2023 3:21 PM

If you have a great recipe for bread pudding, come sit by me!

by Anonymousreply 17August 24, 2023 3:31 PM

Look up Paula Deen's recipe for banana pudding. Yes, I know she is a horrible racist and I know she probably stole the recipe from someone else, but honest to god it's good and decadent as hell. It has cream cheese, condensed milk, milk, Chessman cookies, whipped cream from scratch and each bite is about 1000 calories.

by Anonymousreply 18August 24, 2023 3:31 PM

I adore a well-made pain perdue.

by Anonymousreply 19August 24, 2023 3:32 PM

[quote] My mother shared a recipe & the lady took credit.

The very idea.

by Anonymousreply 20August 24, 2023 3:32 PM

[quote] I don't share on DL much anymore because I don't want it to show up here redone as "Gerg's Simply Scrumptious Cum Cake" or something. You know the cunt would.

R14, you give me way too much credit.

Please, do share some of your recipes with us.

I'm aching to see them.

by Anonymousreply 21August 24, 2023 3:35 PM

^I wish I weren't this way, but I would be so beside myself with guilt that I couldn't enjoy that. Regular banana pudding is 'bad enough.'

by Anonymousreply 22August 24, 2023 3:35 PM

In all seriousness, I really don’t give a shit!

by Anonymousreply 23August 24, 2023 3:35 PM

[quote]I adore a well-made pain perdue.

Is it made with chicken?

by Anonymousreply 24August 24, 2023 3:39 PM

When would you ever bake a banana pudding?

by Anonymousreply 25August 24, 2023 3:39 PM

Damn auto correct!

Yes, R24, I am well aware that it is pain perdu.

by Anonymousreply 26August 24, 2023 3:47 PM

R18 that is definitely not Paula Deen's. She took that because I saw that recipe way before Paula Deen was around.

by Anonymousreply 27August 24, 2023 4:12 PM

Last recipe I posted here was some years ago. I too-die-for lemon trifle and lemon-pineapple mousse that my mother had from their days of being in a gourmet club. Anyone remember those from the 70s? Sounds fun. I think at some point they were resurrected as "underground dining" in the late nineties/early 2000s.

by Anonymousreply 28August 24, 2023 5:43 PM

Sorry, to-die for.

by Anonymousreply 29August 24, 2023 5:49 PM

Lol R11 that's the exact recipe on the Liton onion soup box. It's called "onion dip". She's got balls to try that so blatantly.

by Anonymousreply 30August 24, 2023 5:55 PM

***shocked gasp***

r25, when would you [italic]not[/italic]?

by Anonymousreply 31August 24, 2023 5:57 PM

My great aunt, by blood, owned a tavern and had a sauce recipe for beef brisket. Although she was very generous and loving, she didn’t share the recipe. She took it to her grave.

Years later, I asked her daughter about it. She told me some of the ingredients, but couldn’t fully remember the recipe.

by Anonymousreply 32August 24, 2023 6:23 PM

Reminds me of the scene in In and Out where the old lady confesses to serving a dead woman's rice crispie bars, having stolen the recipe. I shudder at rice crispie bars at a wedding reception though.

by Anonymousreply 33August 24, 2023 6:56 PM

I'm happy to share recipes - if asked. Otherwise, I wouldn't impose on people. But then to me it's just a recipe, not a self-esteem builder.

by Anonymousreply 34August 24, 2023 7:06 PM

^^^Please discuss this with Gerg then, please.

by Anonymousreply 35August 24, 2023 7:24 PM

I'd rather stick needles in my eyes.

by Anonymousreply 36August 24, 2023 7:30 PM

I can see why some family recipes are guarded. I know someone who had a killer key lime rum cake in her family. One day she baked a bunch and took them to our little farmers market and gave out samples. Every one of them sold. This continued every weekend until she finally had so many demands she opened a shop and started up a business selling those cakes. I've tried and tried to duplicate but have yet to succeed.

by Anonymousreply 37August 24, 2023 7:33 PM

I asked someone why her guacamole was so delicious. She said, "So many people have asked me, but I never share my recipes (smiling)". I told her to go fuck herself.

by Anonymousreply 38August 24, 2023 7:43 PM

I do share recipes. I don't like it when people won't share recipes. I see it as a sign of being insecure. (People love me for my famous banana pudding. If I give away the recipe, people will love _____ instead of me.)

by Anonymousreply 39August 24, 2023 7:44 PM

Good obsevation, R39. They may indeed love you for your XYZ dish, but they'll dislike you twice as much a by acting like it is too good to share the recipe!

I've asked people for the recipe before, because, as a cook, I know it is a very high compliment-- I often have zero intention of making it myself (I have my own tastes and methods), and I certainly wouldn't make anyone else's recipe to the letter, anyway-- but asking for the recipe is simply a way to show interest in another person who put effort into making something.

I don't think I've been able to suppress an eye roll when someone says it's a secret-- bitch, I was just being nice!

by Anonymousreply 40August 24, 2023 7:52 PM

^I shouldn't have said "I have zero intention of making it myself..."

I sometimes have an intention of making it myself, but not to the letter of the actual recipe-- sometimes I just want to know the seasonings or how to assemble something, or determine which ingredient is giving a texture, then I apply that formula to something else. Regular cooking enthusiast stuff.

Do guitar players not show other guitar players a technique when asked? Do woodworkers? I'm. sure there are some, but they must be regarded as such full-of-themselves assholes in their circles.

by Anonymousreply 41August 24, 2023 8:11 PM

I can't imagine refusing to share a recipe. I'm laughing just thinking about a frau's outlandish sense of self importance.

by Anonymousreply 42August 24, 2023 8:38 PM

Ancient Chinese secret!

by Anonymousreply 43August 24, 2023 8:40 PM

[quote] Do guitar players not show other guitar players a technique when asked? Do woodworkers? I'm. sure there are some, but they must be regarded as such full-of-themselves assholes in their circles.

At my old workplace, I was helpful to a new coworker. Answered all her questions, gave her whatever materials I had.

I was looking at some documents, trying to read them and trying to read signatures (medical people). My new coworker saw me struggling to decipher these signatures. Turned out she had this "key" of all these undecipherable signatures with the names, typed on the side, but didn't share that with me.

I also invited this bitch to a lot of parties & introduced her to people. One Halloween, she made plans to go out with people that I introduced her to. She fucking didn't invite me. I blame all of them, frankly. (Her AND my supposed friends.)

by Anonymousreply 44August 24, 2023 9:04 PM

Maybe she objected to your filthy mouth, r44.

by Anonymousreply 45August 24, 2023 9:07 PM

God, to be paid by the hour.

by Anonymousreply 46August 24, 2023 9:07 PM

[quote] Please discuss this with Gerg then, please.

Give me a break.

I am only too happy to share my recipes. And I will continue to do so.

by Anonymousreply 47August 25, 2023 3:35 PM

Impose. Impose your recipes. And your ugly self. Freak.

by Anonymousreply 48August 25, 2023 3:57 PM

R48, you sound like a truly lovely person.

Thank you for your response and encouragement!

by Anonymousreply 49August 25, 2023 4:50 PM

For everyone else: I apologize if my recipe sharing feels like an imposition.

Please do tell me if I'm imposing myself.

That is not my goal.

by Anonymousreply 50August 25, 2023 4:52 PM

And right on cue, our resident "world famous recipe" troll is attempting to hijack this thread and make it all about "It". With the usual pendulum swing of "prim and proper" to "passive aggressive".

by Anonymousreply 51August 25, 2023 4:59 PM

Oh, I pity you, R51.

You simply cannot read or comprehend.

I was just replying to R14's kind sentiment:

[quote] I'll share if they ask. I don't share on DL much anymore because I don't want it to show up here redone as "Gerg's Simply Scrumptious Cum Cake" or something. You know the cunt would.

R51, I have every right to respond to people who mention me and say such things. This is not hijacking.

You really are mind bogglingly stupid. Seriously. You are.

Furthermore, you love my attention, otherwise you wouldn't be so quick to respond to anything I post.

I am happy to give you all the attention you desire.

by Anonymousreply 52August 25, 2023 5:06 PM

And to clarify and correct what R51 said:

[quote] With the usual pendulum swing of "prim and proper" to "passive aggressive".

I am not "prim and proper"—I am polite, interesting, kind, and generous.

Neither am I "passive aggressive"—I am aggressive. I have no desire to be passive about it.

Lastly, why the quotation marks, R51? Do you even know what quotation marks are for? Next time you write "passive aggressive" just write it. Seriously, no quotation marks.

by Anonymousreply 53August 25, 2023 5:10 PM

If R51's speaking is nearly as clumsy as his writing, then I suggest he have a native speaker of English following him around to help translate what he tries to say.

Pathétique!

by Anonymousreply 54August 25, 2023 5:14 PM

Come on, R51—you know you're dying to respond to me and be the recipient of my negative attention.

I'm waiting.

by Anonymousreply 55August 25, 2023 5:17 PM

Is it not able to create its own threads anymore R51? It now has to try and hijack others?

by Anonymousreply 56August 25, 2023 5:18 PM

A lot of my recipes are from cookbooks, so I just tell people what book to look in. It’s especially easy now with the internet.

On ones I made up myself, I usually give a good verbal description. I don’t always know exactly how much I use of things, and I tell people that.

Mainly I refer people to certain cookbook authors: Marcella Hazan, Giuliano Bugialli, Joy of Cooking, Fanny Farmer, Ina Garten, Lucinda Scala Quinn, some Alice Waters or Martha Stewart.

by Anonymousreply 57August 25, 2023 5:33 PM

I certainly am able to create threads.

Other people hijack these threads when they simply start posting insulting things about me.

Your criticism is misplaced.

by Anonymousreply 58August 25, 2023 5:44 PM

Apologies, R56, you are asking R51 if I am able to create posts.

I'll let him respond to you.

It will be far more entertaining that way.

by Anonymousreply 59August 25, 2023 5:45 PM

Technically, r52, r14 wasn't referring to you, as he/she wrote "Gerg."

J/S!

by Anonymousreply 60August 25, 2023 5:58 PM

In what universe is banana pudding a baked recipe?

Or even cooking, stovetop?

Banana Pudding is a lowbrow dessert straight out of Flyoverstan. There shouldn't be any haute cuisine expectations out of it. It's already a 'no bake' recipe: crushed Nilla Wafers, bananas sliced into coins, instant pudding (either Banana Creme, or Vanilla with a bit of Banana Extract added to it). And Cool Whip. It doesn't need 'real' whipped cream.

Pulse the Nilla Wafers in a food processor; set aside. Peel the bananas, about seven to ten of them, slice into coins, and place in a big mixing bowl. By batches, blend a couple of boxes of instant pudding (the size that take three cups of milk each), and pour into the bowl with the bananas. Stir. Open the Cool Whip.

In a large plastic container with a lid (I use an empty ice cream container from Walmart, the big square ones), place a cup to a cup and a half of the crushed Nilla Wafers, just enough to cover the bottom of the container. Spoon two to three cups of banana pudding over that. Add a layer of Cool Whip, maybe ½ to one inch thick. Repeat layers until the container is nearly full to the top; if possible, make the last layer Nilla Wafer crumbs. Put the lid on it and refrigerate.

My best friend's dad has esophageal cancer, and has been undergoing chemo and radiation therapy. For perhaps three months, he couldn't eat anything, and was being fed by a tube in his side. Once he'd recovered sufficiently to be able to eat again, my banana pudding was one of his requests. I've been making this stuff for him across the summer, a container every three weeks or so. I just made a batch last night.

by Anonymousreply 61August 25, 2023 6:18 PM

[quote]I am not "prim and proper"—I am polite, interesting, kind, and generous.

If you have to tell people you are, you aren't.

by Anonymousreply 62August 25, 2023 6:19 PM

[quote] If you have to tell people you are, you aren't.

I don't have to tell people. Most people would agree with me.

I was simply saying that I am not prim and proper.

Thanks for coming.

by Anonymousreply 63August 25, 2023 6:24 PM

We just share the recipe and leave an ingredient out.

by Anonymousreply 64August 25, 2023 6:38 PM

Exactly R62. R51 I'm not sure if it can create its own threads at the moment or not. I'm sure we will find out this weekend though. Perhaps "it" finds it can get more engagement slumming it in other threads. The "dressing for salad" thread kind of fizzled out with it responding to itself.

by Anonymousreply 65August 25, 2023 8:40 PM

R65, you are very amusing!

Dumb as a post, but amusing nonetheless.

by Anonymousreply 66August 25, 2023 9:53 PM

I happily share my recipes, so of which came over on the boat with my immigrant grandparents and parents.

I automatically dislike anyone who won't share.

This no bake Magnolia Bakery Banana Pudding is very good. I've never been to Magnolia Bakery so I don't know if it's authentic but like I said, very good.

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by Anonymousreply 67August 25, 2023 10:22 PM

*some of which

by Anonymousreply 68August 25, 2023 10:23 PM

Virgil’s, off Times Square, has the best banana pudding I’ve ever had.

by Anonymousreply 69August 26, 2023 12:09 AM

There are two types of desserts called banana pudding.

One is a triffle made with whipped cream. The other is a baked custard with a meringue topping. Cooking the banana makes a great difference in the texture and flavor.

True southern banana pudding is always with a baked meringue topping served at warm or at room temperature, no matter what Paula Dean says.

by Anonymousreply 70August 26, 2023 12:25 AM

Bottom drama.

by Anonymousreply 71August 26, 2023 12:23 PM

Secret family recipes from grandma Nestlé Toulouse.

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by Anonymousreply 72August 26, 2023 12:48 PM

I think you have to grow up eating banana pudding to crave it and want to eat it.

by Anonymousreply 73August 26, 2023 12:50 PM

I just add "one tablespoon of tarragon" to every recipe I share, and that takes care of the would-be imitators.

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by Anonymousreply 74August 26, 2023 1:19 PM

Silly me.

I didn't have my reading glass on.

by Anonymousreply 75August 26, 2023 1:20 PM

No-bake banana pudding with a mysterious, super-secret, perfect dish?

There's Google, doll.

by Anonymousreply 76August 26, 2023 1:29 PM

Nothing, never thought about this in my entire life.

by Anonymousreply 77August 27, 2023 1:48 AM

[quote] I don't share on DL much anymore because I don't want it to show up here redone as "Gerg's Simply Scrumptious Cum Cake" or something. You know the cunt would.

R14, you are too quick to give yourself credit.

That would only happen after careful and thorough testing, taste correction, focus groups, and a re-write.

By the time it made it to DL, it would be a mere shadow of its original identity.

by Anonymousreply 78August 31, 2023 10:56 AM

I think DL has a bigger problem with the ode that share their recipes all too willingly. Witness : [quote] I am only too happy to share my recipes. And I will continue to do so

On a side note, I have a friend a bit like Gerg, but instead of sharing recipes, he will excitedly tell me what he cooked the night before. Mind you that I have been cooking for him and our friend group for over 20 years, he started about 6-7 years ago when he got a subscription to Blue Apron.

When I first met this friend his refrigerator was used for his Brita pitcher, cigarettes, and condiments he’d use for his takeout food. Now he’s telling me about the wonder of spices like cumin and tarragon.

I know I sound a bit cunty complaining about this. I’m glad he’s excited about cooking and comfortable sharing it all with me. I just wish he was a bit more self-aware to realize he’s not an expert, nor the only, chef around.

by Anonymousreply 79August 31, 2023 11:20 AM

If the person who doesn't want to share is a senior citizen, their behaviour is part of their generation. I would just let it go.

by Anonymousreply 80August 31, 2023 11:25 AM

I can almost always find recipes for dishes I’d like to make at home, yet often food bloggers add paragraphs of irritating content to scroll through before you actually see the ingredients, cooking time and temperature, and steps.

Fortunately they now offer an option “Jump to Recipe”, so they must know the long introduction is irritating.

by Anonymousreply 81August 31, 2023 11:34 AM

Unless you are a professional bakery or restaurant with your livelihood depending on some secret formula, you have no business guarding your recipe as if it were the code to an atom bomb.

Just share — ingredients are only half the job, anyway. The rest depends on skill, tools used, type of stove or oven, etc.

by Anonymousreply 82August 31, 2023 11:36 AM

[quote]I just wish he was a bit more self-aware to realize he’s not an expert, nor the only, chef around.

That’s Greg’s job, right?

by Anonymousreply 83August 31, 2023 11:50 AM

Yes, but believe me - no one will ever ask.

by Anonymousreply 84August 31, 2023 11:59 AM

Has that jackass been banned or something?

by Anonymousreply 85August 31, 2023 1:35 PM

R79, that's exactly why people loathe Gerg.

by Anonymousreply 86August 31, 2023 2:45 PM

[quote] [R79], that's exactly why people loathe Gerg.

Well that’s a relief.

I was concerned it was for some other more serious reasons.

by Anonymousreply 87September 1, 2023 4:16 AM

[quote] I can almost always find recipes for dishes I’d like to make at home, yet often food bloggers add paragraphs of irritating content to scroll through before you actually see the ingredients, cooking time and temperature, and steps.

Yes—that’s how they make money.

by Anonymousreply 88September 2, 2023 4:58 AM

^^Gregs KNOWS. He's in the business.

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by Anonymousreply 89September 2, 2023 12:54 PM

People who don't share recipes are ridiculous. People who don't take no for an answer are dicks.

by Anonymousreply 90September 2, 2023 12:58 PM

Greg's recipes are delicious. I am grateful that he shares them with us.

by Anonymousreply 91September 2, 2023 12:59 PM

Gerg and his multiple sock puppets are running this site into the shitter. Maybe that's its goal. Oh, and Gerg, I cannot see your posts but by all means blather away.

by Anonymousreply 92September 2, 2023 2:17 PM

^ Thank you, Greg.

I like your name.

by Anonymousreply 93September 2, 2023 2:17 PM

R92, I have not even one single sock puppet.

The truth is, it’s losers like you who are running this site into the ground. Not me.

Have at it, but reflect occasionally on how pathetic you are.

by Anonymousreply 94September 2, 2023 2:19 PM
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