Let’s admit things that aren’t easy to admit to

*deep sigh* Same.

Congratulations, OP. You are 90% of living Americans.

I just get stoned.

I'm really very lonely -but I don't admit it to anyone. I keep my time full of volunteer work, regular job, etc. but I come home to an empty house since my last pet died a couple of months ago. I suppose I am clinically depressed.

Have you thought about rescuing another animal, R4?

I am . . .

I am a . . .

Fat whore.

Most people make their own problems by poor decision making.

I am on a massive amount of pain pills. I had to file for disability and received it in three months due to all my medical records. I just want to work and be successful again. I really once was a huge success. I know many people love to be disabled and do not fit the label, because they are active and full of life. Unfortunately, I fit the label.

My damn mind is strong my body says it cannot take much more. I see friends from school and I feel like an absolute failure. When I graduated from high school my principal gave me my diploma and said to the class “you are going to hear about him someday. He will make it big.” Yes, a big ol’ flop.

I feel bad for my husband. He married a loser.

Join the club, OP.

You do know where you are posting, right, OP?

R10 lmao!!

I do intend to adopt a cat, R5, but I am scheduled to retire in a few months and will be moving to a new place. All of that would be hard on any pet, let alone a recent rescue animal, so I'm going to wait until I'm settled in the new place and can spend some time bonding with her/him. In the meantime, I have Datalounge!

My life hasn't turned out well at 63 because I am lazy, no confidence and have little ambition since about age 30.

Have never worked in a career despite an economics degree (not a high GPA, though) and a grad-level certificate in something else three years later. ALL MY FAULT.

Yes. I admit that I occasionally wish some people not to succeed too much, as I'm probably jealous. But they likely earned their success and happiness, thus I feel foolish-- but I do not wish them ill health or anything like that.

Its funny but none of this kind of nonsense is true of me. I'm fine with where I'm at and I don't resent successful people unless they are evil like Peter Thiel.

I tipped over the porta potty with you in it.

My mother was the only kind and rational person in our immediate family. My father and sister are completely emotionally closed off and can say the rudest, most hateful and hurtful things to me. But they’re peas in a pod, so they would never do it to one another, just me.

I try to love my dad. I really do. I tell him I love him.

But I also think about him laying on his deathbed, unable to move or talk, and telling him what a horrible person he always was, and how lucky he was that my mother loved him. Because I don’t.

And if he were to miraculously recover and completely disown me 🤷🏻

[quote]I feel bad for my husband.

I feel the same way, I've been sick for a long time and my partner has to do so much. He claims he doesn't mind but I still feel guilty.

OP, R1, and R2,

I just can’t fathom living life that way. I’ve always been a person that wanted to celebrate the accomplishments of others instead of finding joy in their misery.

I think that’s why I feel the way I do about my dad. Because he’s one of those people.

I’m not saying any of you are truly bad people. I’m just different. But my feelings about my dad aren’t easy to admit, and obviously I am as susceptible to feeling hate as everyone.

R17, it sounds like your partner loves you, and that doesn’t sound like anything you should feel guilty for.

R17 he says the same thing. He says he married me for better or for worse. We do have fun it’s just he would like to travel. I have given permission for him to leave me and I would never resent him. We could remain friends, etc. He said he would never give up on me.

He continues to help me fight this fight and sees me finally able to work again after this next surgery. I do to.

R18-

R18

I’ve been living with stage four cancer for 3 years. My dr recently told me I should “prepare myself” and “make the most of my time.” I’ve spent three years fighting and undergoing almost constant chemo. I can cope when I’m fighting so I’m not ready to concede yet. Fuck cancer. I’m only 44, I still have a whole life I want to live and I actually really do enjoy life.

R21 and R22 are deeply bitter, sad people. Pity.

R24 please quit projecting your own thoughts about yourself. You have no clue of our struggles and our mentality.

R24 Enjoys entering threads about shame and things that aren’t easy to admit to, and gloating that she’s better than the rest of us. Maybe she’s actually the most damaged of all?

R24’s shameful secret is that they’re a sanctimonious, smug prisspot who delights in their own perceived superiority.

R24, r26, and r27, what’s the problem? I acknowledged that you’re deeply bitter, sad, and piteous.

That’s what you came here for, after all.

R16 do you see your dad or sister often?

R29, too much

R23 absolutely fight. That's really shitty. How are you feeling?

R8 maybe your success can look a little different from what you expected? Is it a specific health condition or chronic pain you are experiencing?

R4 sending you a big hug. Have you felt lonely for long or more recently? Sounds like you've had big life changes with more on the horizon

R8 Please don't be so hard on yourself.

I’m a goblin and a villain. I spend too much time on social media. I’m irritable, impatient and anhedonic. I drink too much which (among other things) made me fat. It’s hard to make any decisions now, and my anxiety is through the roof. My friends hate me because I don’t call or go out anymore. Nothing is pleasurable and EVERYTHING just comes with people and their problems/expectations/dullness. But I also have unrealistic standards for myself and others, so there’s no solution. It’s exhausting having to even remember what I’m mad at these days. It’s easier to just pour a glass or eat or bate or doom-scroll.

The uncertainty and general crushing nature of capitalism (and of life) make me more upset now than ever. Like others, I thought I’d be at a different place and don’t even know how to start living where I am. I can’t deal with the waiting, the slow descent into societal dystopia and personal madness. I need consistency, so that I can ignore politics, and focus on me again? Though it’s probably best that I don’t have a lot of money. My moral compass is gone, I believe in nothing and serve no real purpose, though I’m terrified of beyond. Sorry for the folks suffering with cancer upthread, but I pray for it daily.

Anyway, I carry on stuffing my face until I can forget that I’m angry-bored for awhile.

That sucks, R23. Cancer is cruel, especially for those as young as you.

We came within a hair's breadth of massive die off in the South last week due to wetbulb temps. It's only a short matter of time before we tip the scales. No one seems to notice or care. It's frightening.

I’ve had really shitty luck in life and I’ve never been able to live up to my potential due to lifelong health issues.

what a thread

I admit people like op piss me off.

The "I’m pretty full of anger and hatred because my life hasn’t turned out the way I hoped it would" part is true for me, the rest, thankfully (or not) isn't because I turn that anger against myself or random, stupid things or dumb people. I have not reached the stage where I get joy from the misfortune of others, unless they were assholes to begin with.

Big hugs r4, r8, r17 and r23 (especially).

And r35 I'm turning the same. I used to be so attractive and funny, I'm now a miserable, bitter person.

What can we do?

It won't be easy You'll think it strange When I try to explain how I feel.

I'm scared about global warming & I don't know that I want to live in a world that slowly roasts us all to death

[quote] The uncertainty and general crushing nature of capitalism (and of life) make me more upset now than ever. Like others, I thought I’d be at a different place and don’t even know how to start living where I am. I can’t deal with the waiting, the slow descent into societal dystopia and personal madness.

Yes, to all of this! I don't want to live through another 30 years of this, I just don't. But I don't want to off myself; I'd like to simply vanish before things get any worse. I am full of loathing at humankind for ignoring climate change, ignoring COVID, ignoring anything that fucks up their profits or personal conveniences, and killing us all with toxic positivity.

Some will say to enjoy what you can of life now, before everything is gone, but I can't do that either as I'm responsible for an aged parent.

You won’t be here when that happens, R44. And that isn’t how it’s gonna go down anyway.

I have purposely ignored my health and indulged in unhealthy habits because I want out. This world and where it's heading isn't something I wish to witness or endure. Call me a coward, I really don't care. Watching the complete destruction of the planet by the rich and privileged, no rule of law for the rich and wealthy, the abuse of the middle class and poor, the dehumanizing of the homeless, the demonizing of minorities, and most of all the enabling of an evil pos like Trump who has the IQ of a head of lettuce and the heart of a demon has robbed me of any joy and hope as well as left me angry and bitter. The only time I ever smile is when I am here on DL. This isn't living, it's enduring and I am exhausted.

I eat whole tubes of raw cookie dough.

[QUOTE] We came within a hair's breadth of massive die off in the South last week due to wetbulb temps.

Mary!

R44 I feel like saying this when colleagues are announcing their having a baby. I'm actually happy being childless although I realize I'll probably have loneliness in my future without any family. I think the globe is going to be an unpleasant place to live in

I'm sorry but I feel it is so selfish to bring children into this works at this point. Why! So they witness the apocalypse?

I pissed away my youth wishing for all the wrong things and being too afraid to take chances because it was easier being mediator instead of a troublemaker.

Life has been a struggle with body image and finding love.

I’m in my mid-thirties. I’m too broke to live somewhere I’d love to live. My job doesn’t pay great, and I don’t have much prospects. have credit card debt…but not horrible debt, but I can’t seem to get out of the credit card hole that I have gotten myself into. I’m always about $1,000 in debt each month.

I hate my job. I know everyone hates their job, but it’s really a bummer when you hate your job.

I’m about 50 pounds heavier than I would like to be and have tons of ailments and health problems.

I’m angry and anxious all the time.

Lately I have also developed feelings for my friend’s boyfriend. This has been a huge problem because I don’t find joy in anything…but I find joy in him and I look forward to seeing him when I do…but then I also feel horrible guilt because he doesn’t like me in the same way, he is my friend’s BF, and apparently I have been obvious about it and they all know…so it’s only a matter of time before even having a flirtation to look forward to will be gone as well.

Basically I’m not well.

If your main concern in life is global warming, then you don't have enough real problems.

I wish I had gone into politics. Maybe I could have encouraged some good people to run for office or had some positive effect, maybe not but I wish I had tried.

I think I’m going to end up fully street homeless with my teeth falling out by the end of my 30s.

I have nobody but myself to blame for my weight issues which have led to some health issues (fortunately, nothing too severe...yet)!

I hate that, we as a society, are normalizing obesity. When I see those morbidly obese people, I think "at least I'm not that big" and then proceed to make poor dietary choices! Ugh! It's a very self-defeating way of living.

R58- It isn't all your fault. The amount of sugar and other harmful substances allowed to put in our food is criminal. If one can not afford the healthy grocery items they have no choice except to consume fattening food. When I was growing up we were all mostly thin. This crap wasn't allowed to put into our food then.

R57 how so?

54, if you have time, work a second job until you can clear your debt. I did this, I was forced to do this, during the recession. After I cleaned up my debt, I kept the job and squirreled away savings.

1000 per month is 250 dollars per week.

Its only temporary. Yes, you will be exhausted but you can have a social life if you treat your personal life as a job. The most important job you have is yourself.

I am a coward.

I'm basically in a state of financial ruin, even though people think I have money, and I do have a decent paying job - drowning in debt and I can't seem to make headway.

Like r35, my moral compass is gone. I’m starting to wonder if I’m a sociopath. I drink heavily and have sex with strangers to dull the pain.

R57- For the past two months I have faced being disabled and homeless , and the only advise I can you is surround yourself with friends, involve Social Services, and if you are religious join a church. I am a loner and have lost all of my family. I had no one to call for a little help and no money as I live on disability from MS. It was a mistake to isolate myself the way I have. We need people, as much as someone like myself hates that fact.

R59 You're very sweet, thank you. I also do tell myself that. The crap they put in food these days contributes to so many illnesses, obesity, cancer, diabetes etc. etc. However, when I do rationalize this way, I feel like I'm not taking responsibility for my actions.

I'm not one of those people who feels sorry for myself, never have! I step up and take responsibilities for my actions (or, at least try to). I don't know if I can fully "blame" the pandemic for the way I feel lately (mildly helpless, and not really giving a shit about things), or is it just the realization that I'm aging and I didn't really accomplish anything. I HAVE had a great life: great parents, wonderful friends, many unique and fascinating experiences but that's all in the rearview mirror it seems.

Well, maybe I'm feeling a LITTLE sorry for myself at this moment! LOL

R58.

Moun. Jar. OOOH.

OOOOH.zempic.

I can't wait to get a prescription for these meds!

I won't say you have no prospects. People who want to work? Are being hired right now.

Employers have more opportunities than good prospects right now. Right now is your time to get hired.

Look into getting a prescription for weight loss to increase the odds in your favor!

[QUOTE] I drink heavily and have sex with strangers to dull the pain.

Doesn't that describe 90% of DL?

i'm very successful, have more than enough money, and a caring boyfriend. On the surface I look like a winner.

Instead I am sorely envious of the small group of people above me, the few who really have it made, who are famous, powerful, or wildly wealthy. I reject my successes as not good enough, and pine for better ones. I don't know how to accept my place in the world.

The more I seem to have, the more I resent not having more. I am ungrateful. I am a total mess.

I like black dick.

R66- You sound lovely! 😘

Harry is still hot even though he's a pussy-whipped nutjob.

"Ever see a hearse carrying luggage?"

- Colonel Tom Parker

Money matters. Appearance matters. I'd never argue with the reality of that. Anybody who denies those two things don't make life easier aren't being honest.

Still, so does, "It's better for me to want what I have, than have what I want."

I know. Slogans are no match for real depression. Struggle is real. Capitalism sucks and the game IS rigged.

But, Let go, or, be dragged, by your false illusions that you matter only as much as your perceived measures of status and success.

is not being honest.

If things don’t get better financially for me soon I’m going to start anonymously ruining my enemies’ reputations and exposing all their secrets. A few might go for an extended vacation paid for by the federal government.

Jeez! So many of you are so obsessed with what OTHER PEOPLE are eating, and all the "bad" things that are allegedly in all kinds of food you are NOT EATING!

That IS an eating disorder, with a big dose of Gladys Kravitz!

Knock it off. Minding your own business will make you a lot happier!

I'm scared sometimes about my future and the future of this country. The racial divisions are real, but I don't believe everything comes down to race.

I hear advertising on the radio for employment that now refer to women as "females." That bothers me. I do believe there are some people who are born in the wrong bodies. But that's very small. Transgender activists are going down a road of erasing biological facts. That's wrong.

We need to be more concerned with the erosion of democratic institutions in this country and around the globe

I drain my pasta

I don't play well in the sandbox with others. I'm a good person, but not a team player.

Throughout life, I have especially avoided anything other than very shallow/brief friendships with females, because I assume the dynamics will be toxic.

I think this will be to my detriment, especially as I get older, and will need social connectedness with other in order to avoid senility and isolation.

Go away, Trump.

[quote] We came within a hair's breadth of massive die off in the South last week due to wetbulb temps.

Not close enough.

[quote]I do believe there are some people who are born in the wrong bodies.

A rational and scientific impossibility.

What bothers me is that people can be convinced of this and seek to convince children of it!

R83 exactly they might be victims of mental illness, abuse and homophobia, but they’re not “born in the wrong body”.

I only have empathy for beautiful people.

If ya hear a little noise and ya smell a little smell. That's me.

R83 and R84, I hear you.

We should be concentrating gender fluidity rather than changing sexes. There, you have women who might not be feminine and men who might not be masculine. You do not have to undergo operations to change yourgenitalia or take hormone blockers or boosters to express your gender

I wish all the Anti Trans freaks would die in a grease fire soonest.

Hugs R23. You’re so brave. Keep doing what you do.

DLers are best hidden behind a screen.

r88 thinks people are "born in the wrong body" which is somehow easier to believe than "people are poisoned by severe heteronormative bullshit"!

All I care about is smoking weed all day long and waiting for 7pm so I can start drinking. Today is the first day of not smoking weed in...15 years maybe? Also, yesterday I tossed all my alcohol and cigarettes since its all interconnected for me. I'm about 135 lbs overweight and haven't had sex since...also about a decade? The last dick I sucked was in 2021 and I can't remember the last ass I fucked. I have no gay male friends and am scared of even trying because I only want to talk to guys I'd want to fuck.

I just don't see the point in life and have been praying for a heart attack or aneurysm, or cancer that I could let run untreated. I'm 44 and have felt this way since my 20s. I think I am smarter than therapists so that is a nonstarter.

I’ve lived my whole life thinking that money isn’t really that important, and that it is far more important to do work which I actually enjoy. I’m now in my mid-40s, living in a flat with noisy neighbours who treat the building as if it is a complete dump, and I fear that I am never going to be able to afford to make the leap to a better standard of home.

I feel as if I have been an utter idiot and a doormat. I still believe that cash is not the absolute most important thing in life, but I have been an absolute fool to totally undervalue the options it gives you. All my life I put other people first, caring for elderly relatives and seeing my actual career as a secondary task. Now I wish I had devoted more time to developing a career and had demanded that my siblings did their fair share of caring for our family.

I don't really like blue.

I'll probably never find love again.

I never found love at all

I'm miserable and horrible to be around, and my partner only sticks around because he can't do any better. So far, anyway.

Didn't take long for this thread to become about Trans.

If you are in your mid forties, you have some time to turn it around. Not much time, a small, flat cushion.

I was molested.

NY, LA, SF, Philadelphia and Chicago are rapidly declining and it's not GOP propaganda. It's poor leadership.

If that's it, R100, I'd hate to know what you can't stop talking about.

R92 bless you 🕯️ your honesty & humor count in the assets column

[quote]to admit to

Oh, dear.

I pick my ass while preparing meals for family

Some of you all spend waaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyy too much time thinking about Trump. Yeah he was terrible, but he’s gone (and hopefully to prison soon). And you all let him rule your brains every second of the day. And if you’re angry about the SCOTUS, blame the millennials who wouldn’t vote for Hillary.

^^^bump^^^sick of hearing about him. Too many people have allowed him to live in their head rent free.

I'll enjoy not talking about him...when he's in jail or dead.

I fucked Muriel and I liked it.

I would personally pour the grease on the Oh Dear Troll and ignite it.

R110 - 😂

I have the best bowl movements reading BonniePrinceCharlie's posts.

^ You constipate me dear.

I dislike aggressive vegetarians and two of my circle are exactly that. They claim that eating any animal products whatsoever sends them to the ER.

So when I make, say, an apple pie, I use generous amounts of lard in the pie crust and put finely grated cheese in the filling.

I love R115

R115 it’s all in their head. I knew a Muslim who claimed that he had to go to the hospital after accidentally eating pork.

I was the victim of a sexual assault when I was 15. The only people who know are a close friend and a cousin. Even though twenty-three years have gone by, I sometimes get really down if I hear rape or molestation jokes in various settings. I wish I had the courage to talk about it more to people in my life including my parents and siblings.

I actually like G.

One of these days R115 is going to kill someone. An asshole at work nearly killed me by putting clams into a spicy dip and insisting that it was vegetarian. I hadn't mentioned that I am severely allergic to shellfish, because as a vegetarian I never expected to eat any... Fortunately someone saved me with an epi-pen, but I still had an overnight in the ER.

NEVER FUCK WITH PEOPLE'S FOOD.

My parents were batshit crazy.

They sound like vegans, R115.

I was too ashamed to admit to friends that I had gone into congestive heart failure.

I got community acquired pneumonia (basically a catchall for “you have pneumonia caused by something but we don’t care“) in the middle of the pandemic. Kind of freaky because I just wasn’t feeling well so I had a virtual visit with my doctor on absolutely no notice and he was concerned that I was having trouble breathing and wanted to know if I knew my blood oxygen. I didn’t have a pulse oximeter, so, even though I wasn’t feeling that bad, he convinced me to go to urgent care. My pulse ox was low but not below 90, so I got sent for an x-ray and sure enough, pneumonia. This was after 4 Covid tests in one day (because who the fuck was getting pneumonia during Covid). I got sent home with an antibiotic and within a week or so I was feeling better. But two weeks later, I started feeling extremely weak. So I went back to urgent care.

During my first visit, I had a normal EKG. At my second visit, I had an abnormal EKG. At my second visit I also had a pulse ox hovering in the 80s. Had a troponin level test to make sure I hadn’t had a heart attack, and then got sent home on oxygen. Within a week, I could barely walk. For three months, I couldn’t walk further than the front door of my apartment. And for nine months, I couldn’t walk more than a block.

When I got diagnosed with congestive heart failure, my life ventricle ejection fraction was below. 40%. Normal range is somewhere between 50% and 70%.

And the five-year survival rate for congestive heart failure is 50% .

I got started on lasix along with other drugs, which caused me to get so dehydrated that one of my follow up blood tests looked like I was in early stage kidney disease. My mother died of end stage renal disease and my father lives with congestive heart failure. I felt like I had just been delivered the two biggest blows of my life. I got the two worst diseases of both of my parents.

My cardiologist was smart enough to figure out that I was probably dehydrated from the lasix and had me stop it and get retested two weeks later and my kidney values were normal again. But it was a year and a half before I felt normal, and it was a year and a half before I was out of congestive heart failure and had an ejection fraction of 75%.

I didn’t know I was gonna come out of it. It can be caused by weight (which wasn’t a factor for me), genetics (which could be a factor for me, but my father has a congenital heart defect. I don’t), or even a virus. If it had just been viral, I should’ve recovered within months, not a year and a half. But that’s not always true.

The only people I told were my immediate family and two friends. In a small serendipitous way, the pandemic allowed me to stay at home and not have to tell friends and cancel plans for a year and a half.

I cried a lot and was pretty sure I was gonna be dead within five years. But instead of just feeling sorry for myself, six months into my diagnosis, I went to Belize. I was pretty fucking miserable, because I really couldn’t walk more than a block, but I enjoyed the hell out of it. And I started buying tickets to every single play and musical and concert that I could go to and sit down.

And I turned out to be extremely lucky. It resolved itself. I’ll always have a history of congestive heart failure, but I am not in congestive heart failure anymore.

My heart goes out to everyone who hates themself, who is struggling with their weight or physical or mental health, and holy fucking lord, it goes out to r23 and r118. I thought I’d be dead in five years, but now I might not be.

But it never made me take pleasure in the misfortune of other people. I was lucky (to not become hateful).

But the people who choose to hate other people. Who choose to find pleasure in other people’s misery. On purpose.

They can all go fuck themselves. I’m sorry your life sucks. But that’s no excuse.

Huh. That was easier to admit than I thought it would be.

I'm so glad you're going to be alright, R123. Loved your comment.

Glad you are still with us to tell people to go fuck themselves R123! It's one of the few joys in life and I hope you have many more years to be able to do it.

I really hope my father dies before he deteriorates any further. My mother's life & death was so awful. I want to be able to go travel and not be stuck here any longer.

I spent my early life in chaotic, unsafe, abusive environments. I think it broke my brain and I can't function as a person within the confines of safety. I feel safe and stable for the first time in my life and it feels wrong - almost depressing - despite my life objectively being the best it's ever been.

R123 glad you came out of it ❤️

I am spent. Like for a lifetime.

My dad died. My mom has no short term memory and my aunt is squabbling for control of her care. My company is in a tailspin, and the job search is moving but slowly. I just broke down at the vet. My dog’s brain issues are no longer treatable. She’s really the only thing I love anymore.

Oh, R129. I don't know what to say other than that I feel that deeply, and I'm genuinely sorry for you.

R106 you are aware that he’s running for president again, right? And that he’s way way ahead in all early poles, right??

[Quote] you are aware that he’s running for president again, right? And that he’s way way ahead in all early poles, right??

So, what! R131How is worrying or thinking about him all the time going to change that? How long have people been waiting for his comeuppance? Calm down!

In the water I'm a very skinny lady.

I'm struggling to come up with anything that's too hard to admit to.

Not that I haven't made my share of mistakes or struggled in life. But at 68, maybe thanks to therapy and a lot of introspection, I have fortunately come to the conclusion that I'm perfectly OK with who I am and that my problems are just human, and that everyone else on Earth has an imperfect existence and goes through ups and downs like I do, and that no one can claim to be in a better place because they're richer, or better looking, or healthier, or have more friends.

R129 I’m sorry about your dog.

I think I’m done with my job. It’s painful to admit that, because I really like the people I work with and I’ve been there for over 20 years. But I’m stuck in a dead-end, because my job is in a very small, very specialised department which is completely separate from the main activity of the company. I work really hard to meet increasingly impossible deadlines and I feel burnt out and no-one notices or wants to know.

I have the stress of an important job, but none of the recognition which usually accompanies that.

I need to move on, but I don’t even know where to start.

R134, I agree with almost everything you’re saying, but we’re talking to and about people who live in the west primarily, and have Internet access and grocery stores. I’ve seen the shanties in Cape Town. I know what the slums of India look like. There are people living in such abject poverty that we are totally taking our extremely lucky existences for granted. That’s one of the reasons I can’t be upset about the hand that I’ve been dealt. I’m alive, I have friends, I have air conditioning and can go to movies. Even when I thought I was gonna die, I knew if I did, I was gonna die in a hospital and not on a dirt floor.

I completely share your outlook on it being OK to not be perfect, rich, or even happy. I do have great sympathy for the people here that are suffering. I just don’t for the people whose lives didn’t turn out the way they wanted them to and are full of hatred for other people for absolutely no reason.

R137 What I was trying to say is, I'm so at peace with myself I'm an open book so I don't really need to admit to anything. God knows it wasn't always like that.

R134, that’s a great outlook

That I find Ann Romano to be an empowering role model.

[Quote] So, what

R132 is a sad excuse

There’s always someone with a bigger cock. And a smaller one for that matter!

[quote]There’s always someone with a bigger cock. And a smaller one for that matter!

My state’s department of wildlife and fishery is very specific about what size fish and cocks you can keep. I carry a tape measure with me, and if it’s too small, I have to throw it back. IT’S THE LAW.

R143 And to think some people are cruising the parks just out of the goodness of their hearts.

I don't feel your pain.

[quote]I don't feel your pain.

Oh, DO! But can you feel your feet? Because if not, that could be a sign of a serious circulatory issue. You might want to start that 20 mile walk to the nearest Red Cross.

I’m responsible for what happened here tonight

R147 You’ll douche next time?

You trans people need to stop blaming us “problematic” gay white men for the LGBs not wanting you in their club because it’s pathetic. I got news for ya! My gay male Asian partner, my Mexican gay male friend, and my lesbian cousin are just as fed up with your antics as I am, so if we gay white men suddenly disappeared off the face of the earth, the remaining gays and lesbians still wouldn’t want you in their club. And don’t blame us for your other problems either. It’s not our fault that you continue to get killed in prostitution-related murders, and it’s not our fault that the general public is turning on you because you keep pushing this crazy shit like “trans kids.”

R149-fuck off TERF.

[QUOTE] If you are in your mid forties, you have some time to turn it around. Not much time, a small, flat cushion.

Turn what around? Finances?

R152,

“This Women’s Mag Is Like a Gen Z ‘Cosmo’ for the Far Right

The Peter Thiel-linked Evie Magazine is harnessing the culture war to grow its audience”

Thanks for the link, conserva–troll.

R153 said the nword in another thread. Nice try Nazi

I will never, ever give PII (personally identifiable information) on DL because of how crazy some of you are. I used to10-15 years ago, but never now.

[quote] I actually like G.

😘

[quote][R153] said the nword in another thread. Nice try Nazi

If by the N-word, you mean “Nazi“ then yeah I did. Because you’re a Nazi.

But don’t dare suggest I used the other word. Anyone can look at my history and see that that’s a lie. I would never do that. Because I’m not a racist Nazi conservative like you are.

R157 okay… talk about projection, trying to cover your tracks now.

R153

Thanks R154. I already had that poster blocked. Now I know I was right in doing so.

R160 (pastaboi) you keep SAYING you have me blocked but then you also keep saying that you check my posts from your phone.

Since you have me blocked, look at ignoredar. I’ve never use the N-word and I never would.

But you’re an annoying troll.

Can folks to me a favor? F&F r154 into oblivion? I’ll put up with a lot of bullshit here, but I don’t appreciate being called a racist and accused of using a word I would never and that is the most insulting thing anyone has ever said to me here. Because I pointed out that r152/r154 is linking to a right wing website.

Burn that troll to the ground please.

Pastaboi needs to be drained and rinsed.

[quote]Pastaboi needs to be drained and rinsed.

As long as we can fully submerge him in boiling water for 7-9 minutes first. 😠

Here’s a painful gut punch for you. People who don’t have what it takes to succeed in life look for more successful scapegoats to resent and blame for all their problems instead of working to make their lives better. This was true of some Germans suffering through the interwar period blaming their problems on the Jews, and this is equally true of some black and brown people who want to blame white people all their problems, and trans people blaming “cis” people for all their problems. And equally true of some of my acquaintances blaming rich people while doing absolutely nothing to improve their situation.

I hate wealthy people because they have advantages and connections and privileges I will never have. No matter how hard I work. Nepo babies don’t work hard. Unless they feel like it. While I’m over here struggling to pay basic bills and pray I don’t sink from an unforeseen crisis and unexpected bills.

Do not tell me I’m doing absolutely nothing to improve my situation. I’m surviving.

R165 you ARE a survivor. Just the fact that you post on here tells me that you handle your mental health well.

"Here’s a painful gut punch for you. People who don’t have what it takes to succeed in life look for more successful scapegoats to resent and blame for all their problems instead of working to make their lives better."

Yeah, no shit. Several people here have basically said as much about themselves. Notice the name of the thread is "Let’s admit things that aren’t easy to admit to"...

I feel dead inside most of the time and can’t stand seeing others be happy and carefree. They just seem oblivious to the world. And in my experience, often are.

Do you just not leave the house, then?

You have no idea what people are thinking or feeling, R168. Even if you asked everyone you ran into,why would they share their inner lives or turmoil with you? That's assuming a lot, brother.

R165 If you want to accomplish anything in life you need to get over that shit. Most of us weren’t born rich, but those of us who made it didn’t waste time being resentful. Instead we worked our asses off and got to a better place.

For asshole at R171: I am working my ass off all the time. What extra bullshit do I have to do to “get to a better place”?

I’m guessing you started at a pretty good place.

Probably best to ignore that one. I have, so it means they weren't cunty to just you.

R172 I grew up poor. I completed two degrees while working full time, getting help from my employer to pay for the education. I’ve gone from earning $8 an hour to a six figure salary, and it wasn’t because I had an easy ride. I just wanted more than poverty, and when you have enough drive you can get to a better place. If you’re working your ass off year after year and getting nowhere it means you have no plan.

Oh if it worked for you it should work for all. That is definitely how life is.

"Unlimited greed" aka capitalism and "unlimited persons" aka procreation, the two cornerstones of human existance, are obviously not well-controlled or deterministic. To exist as a "happy", self-actualized person, they have to accept that they and the rest of the world are somewhat cruel and unfair. Universal morality doesn't exist, only individual people's decision to do what they think is the "right" thing. And it's a disgusting, horrific fight most of the time. For people who commit to life (the majority of people), having millions of casualties is somehow a better scenario than those people having never existed. Maybe they rationalize that via religion, or for the sake of their own temporal joy, or maybe profit, or maybe they feel they somehow help the world by being here. But we should probably pull back being so jealous of other people, as it can all change in the blink of an eye, maybe for better, probably for worse. So, maybe we should instead just take more from the world than we give, maybe we should be hateful and destructive, if it makes us personally feel better. It'll obviously never be fair. It's all relative and probably meaningless in the end.

R165

[quote]Do not tell me I’m doing absolutely nothing to improve my situation. I’m surviving.

You do realize of course that there is a difference between surviving and finding a way out. Working four retail jobs may help you stay afloat but that is very different from developing a long term plan to put yourself in a better position, like getting an education and/or developing a marketable skill.

I’m responsible for what is happening here tonight

You’re a fat whore, who has to take pills, cause you’re a fat whore!

Diversity, equity, and inclusion is pretty much just for black people, and maybe to a lesser extent Latinos. Let’s face it - Asians and Indians don’t need it. They are very well educated and can find excellent jobs without DEI.

I’m a fool who sits around waiting for you

DEI is the latest HR effort to ruin organizations and expansive HR is a scam.

All that is needed is a competent staff of attorneys and efficient administrators to ensure that organizations and employees follow the law.

My employer's HR staff has grown from about fifty people when I started ~30 years ago to 800 or so now.

It takes two to tango.

there are too many Trump threads

I am a little manic at times which I can see people noticing and that's my signal to try to chill and shut up.

I talk a lot (but less than I used to).

I feel a touch of guilt when I'm reminded how talented and gifted I am.

Ahhhh...just kidding. I don't feel any guilt about it.

I was glad when my 96 year-old mother finally died this past February. I felt no sorrow or grief at all. She was extremely difficult because of the gay issue and we never got along. I ended up taking care of her in her home for the last year because my siblings had all died and I was the only one left to care for her. Good news is the old gal had a lot of money and I ended up with it all. But I paid a huge personal price for that money.

R92- Sucking cock IS sex.

We are in the Last Days.

we are here for only one purpose. To learn and make ourselves be better people. That's all and all there is to it. Take all these things that you don't like about yourself and Change it. If you don't you will come back with the same problems next time around. You have the opportunity to change it now.

Size queen.

I'm a old, bitter, closeted sixth grade English teacher. The only thing I have left that gives me pleasure is correcting gay men's posts on this pathetic website.

R192, you sound absolutely lovely!

There is no shortage of posts in need of correction.

Hugs to everyone with illness.

I just bought a 4 foot tall teddy bear so I have something life-sized to hug at night. I named him Tiny Tim.

Once a year in July I go to Chick Fil A and get one of their seasonal Peach Milkshakes. That's it, just the milkshake, nothing else.

I have multiple homes, a fantastic spouse, a great job that I enjoy, enough money to not need to worry about retirement, and I'm bored shitless.

[quote] my life hasn’t turned out the way I hoped it would BECAUSE I’m pretty full of anger and hatred

I fear R189 is right

[quote]Congratulations, OP. You are 90% of living Rescumlicans.

I live among hateful people in a god awful town and only socialize with my husband and my dog. I may die here, but hopefully my end will be somewhere else , preferably traveling in a foreign country, wondering whether I pronounced my last words correctly in their language

More I'm around people the less I want to be.

I’m 46, and I feel old, fat and generally stuck in a pretty mundane life. I keep waiting for something to happen to instigate change, or for me to get the gumption to initiate it myself, but I just keep on going down the same path. I just hope that my eventual death happens quickly, so that I don’t have time to reflect on the poor choices I have made.

I’m close to my younger brother but not sure I like him very much. He’s garrulous. If you ask a question you’ll get a story. He’s also impervious to reason. You gently suggest another way of approaching something or considering something and blows it off. He’s always on the outs with friends because he thinks he’s on a higher moral plateau but he’s just smug and insensitive. He’s been married for almost forty years and his husband resents any time he spends with family. On the plus side when our old brother had a health emergency he dropped everything to come to his aid and our brother is recovering nicely but my brother almost alienated everyone involved with our brother’s care. He told me that he’s so exhausted by these efforts that jokingly told me he can’t imagine doing this again if it happened to me but I know he’s on my side. When he comes over it’s a four hour one sided talkathon and it messes up my plans for the day. I’ve avoided him on some occasions but I think he’s lonely. I love him and he tires me out.

I missed the boat on finding love. I’m 35 and have no real prospects. My parents are aging and when they go, I will be alone. The only person I flirt with is my friend’s boyfriend; but nothing will ever come of that (for obvious reasons) and I’m sure he makes fun of me secretly for doing so.

I don’t fasten my seatbelt. I am deaf to the “buckle up” chime.

R206, no fear of flying through a windshield at high speed? That’s a big fear of mine.

It’s very, very rare to “fly through the windshield” at high speed in a bad accident.

You’ll most definitely be smashed against the steering wheel, dashboard, glass, etc. like a fly being smooshed by a giant hand. I’ll leave the gory details up to your imagination.

*And airbags won’t save you.

R205: at 35, there really aren’t that many age-based boats you’ve missed and finding love definitely isn’t one.

R208 Breaking News