There's a subreddit called GayYoungOld, where gays of all ages seek advice and tell stories about their age-gap relationships and broader sexual/romantic desires for older/younger coupledom. It's not outwardly filthy (there's a separate group for that), but it can get raunchy, raw, and occasionally profound. And sometimes, you run across dangerously lonely individuals like the person below.
A middle-aged gay man wrote for advice a few days ago, asking for advice on how to land his friend's 19 year-old son as a boyfriend. He is deeply in love with the boy, almost to the point of obsession. The boy is not openly gay, and has expressed zero interest in this guy or in any other guy. He says the boy's dad is his only real friend, and they've known each other for years, but he's willing to throw it all away if it means finding true love with the friend's unsuspecting son. He originally sought advice on how to approach the young man to essentially say "You're precisely what I've been waiting for all my life. Come be my husband!" Commenters were, understandably, not too sympathetic to this one-sided affair.
Daddy came back today with an update: He is now planning to buy the 19yo a new car, in part because the kid needs one but mainly so he will, in Daddy's words, "Reevaluate the nature of our friendship and maybe explore a new direction." The kid still has zero idea this older man is obsessed with him. Several of us lost our shit with Daddy, and advised him to let it go before it gets any worse.
I told him he was living out the first half of a 60 Minutes segment, and needs to step back and gain some perspective. This boy isn't into him, and the man is being selfish by seeing their imaginary relationship only through his own eyes. The boy is the boy of HIS dreams, but he is likely not the person of the kid's own dreams.
He says I don't know how it feels to be single at his age, to go decades without meeting a suitable "high quality boy," and to finally find one who checks every box for him. He says the boy will see how much he loves him once he buys him a car and shows him how important he is.
What say ye, Gays and Daddies? Do you sympathize with this lonely heart? Is this what we're all destined to become if we're still uncoupled at 50? Was I right to call him out so rudely?