I mean, genuinely changed.
Do you think it's possible?
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I mean, genuinely changed.
Do you think it's possible?
by Anonymous | reply 38 | June 6, 2023 4:25 AM |
Nope.
by Anonymous | reply 1 | May 29, 2023 6:25 PM |
I think a chronic cheater might give it up as they aged. Might. And I’m not talking about going from 25 to 30. Someone in their 50s or 60s might run out of sexual energy or get too old and fat to attract the level of cheating partner they enjoyed in the past and just give up.
There are also people who have cheated once or twice in their lives. If they have done it once, they could do it again. But under the right circumstances almost anyone will cheat.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | May 29, 2023 6:30 PM |
So, no. Not “genuinely changed” their character. But circumstances can change.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | May 29, 2023 6:31 PM |
Some people are born without the cheating remorse gene. So many people I've known in the creative arts, though nice people, are cheaters, for ex.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | May 29, 2023 6:38 PM |
Terminal illness might do it
by Anonymous | reply 5 | May 29, 2023 7:42 PM |
I cheated once on a sweet boyfriend in college, when I was young and dumb and drunk. It made me feel horrible and dirty, and I never did it again.
It is possible to touch a hot stove once in youth, and feel the burn, and get the message.
by Anonymous | reply 6 | May 29, 2023 8:02 PM |
Cheating once, yes they may change. A serial cheater however does not change.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | May 29, 2023 8:04 PM |
No.
Never.
And if they do stop it's only due to fear of blowing up their lives. Once they work up the confidence and believe they won't be caught again, they will do it, again.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | May 29, 2023 8:17 PM |
That's such a frau question.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | May 29, 2023 8:33 PM |
Yes and no, OP. It's easier to put the change down as temporary rather than permanent.
Warren Beatty fucked anything with a pulse back in the day. Didn't matter whether he was attached or the partner he was after had another partner of her own, everyone was fair game. He gave it up for a while to have kids with Annette Bening but now, years later, he's back on the prowl and has been for a good long while. People are who they are, they very rarely change. Core sexual behaviors are difficult to alter.
by Anonymous | reply 10 | May 29, 2023 8:41 PM |
As written above (although I believe the meaning was different) weight gain is the most meaningful way to change cheating habits. Although the behavior morphs, from actual cheating to virtual cheating. Typically cheaters consider this to be an improvement, but same void, need for attention, problems being masked, etc.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | May 29, 2023 8:48 PM |
Monogamy is not a natural human behavior. Once people figure that out, and are honest about it to everyone involved, life gets much easier.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | May 29, 2023 8:51 PM |
This is most likely a frau thread.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | May 29, 2023 8:55 PM |
Are you also r,9, r13?
by Anonymous | reply 14 | May 29, 2023 8:56 PM |
r9
by Anonymous | reply 15 | May 29, 2023 8:56 PM |
Nope! R14
by Anonymous | reply 16 | May 29, 2023 8:57 PM |
Agree with R2 that age might slow down or halt a cheater. My mom dated a guy who was retired from law enforcement (local police). This was someone she had known for a long time, but never dated.
I also used to work in law enforcement and I'm convinced that access to women (who are attracted to the uniform, the position) is a draw for recruitment.
Anyway, before this guy (that my mom dated) retired, he was married and cheated all the time on his wife.
My mom and this retired cop dated for a few years and I don't think he cheated on my mom.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | May 29, 2023 8:59 PM |
I did on my ex after he touched me. No remorse either. He deserved it.
by Anonymous | reply 18 | May 29, 2023 9:01 PM |
R18? If you were together with your ex before you cheated, wasn't he supposed to touch you?
by Anonymous | reply 19 | May 29, 2023 9:18 PM |
Yes, my brother, He was married four times and cheated on each of his wives. Hus cheating ended when he died.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | June 5, 2023 8:45 PM |
[quote]Monogamy is not a natural human behavior.
Funny, it's completely natural for me. Maybe I'm an alien.
by Anonymous | reply 21 | June 5, 2023 8:51 PM |
If he cheat WITH you, he will eventually cheat ON you.
by Anonymous | reply 22 | June 5, 2023 8:52 PM |
Have you ever known a cheater who changed addresses? Yes.
by Anonymous | reply 23 | June 5, 2023 9:00 PM |
I'd argue there is a difference between a cheater and someone who has cheated.
A cheater cannot change. But, just because you've cheated, it doesn't mean you'll do it again.
by Anonymous | reply 24 | June 5, 2023 9:18 PM |
I know a couple who fell madly in love around age 30, and one insisted on an open relationship, while as with most open relationship, the other resentfully waited for him to come home - I shall call them Horndog and Doormat.
So Horndog went around telling the whole world about the benefits of an open relationship for years, and would tell Doormat and their friends all about the other people he was fucking. This went on until Doormat finally got sick of it and met another man, and told Horndog all about it, and Horndog was FLOORED!!! And because he was suffering, he realized that Doormat might have been suffering too, and completely rethought his philosophy of relationships. From then on, Horndog shut up about his adventures, which were mostly done while traveling for work, and with time and age he seemed to become a devoted and faithful husband. They're both gone now, but they really were deeply in love, and stayed in love as long as they both lived.
by Anonymous | reply 25 | June 5, 2023 9:51 PM |
[quote]From then on, Horndog shut up about his adventures, which were mostly done while traveling for work, and with time and age he seemed to become a devoted and faithful husband. They're both gone now, but they really were deeply in love, and stayed in love as long as they both lived.
In no part of your story does it suggest that Horndog actually stopped hooking up with randos, merely that he stopped talking about it.
Also, there is an enormous difference between being in an open relationship (whether one partner truly wanted it or not) and actually cheating where one partner thinks they're monogamous and, more importantly, behaves accordingly, while the other partner hooks up at will.
by Anonymous | reply 26 | June 5, 2023 9:55 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 27 | June 5, 2023 9:55 PM |
^^^They were on a break. A BREAK.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | June 5, 2023 9:58 PM |
[quote] Have you ever known a cheater who changed? I mean, genuinely changed. Do you think it's possible?
Nope, Never, Nada. Don’t believe it, it’s all a pack of lies.
by Anonymous | reply 29 | June 5, 2023 10:12 PM |
The.only time a serial chester stops is when they are old enough to need a caretaker.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | June 5, 2023 10:16 PM |
Again, nope. Maybe some old hetero dogs who get older (65+) and start to feel they need "someone to take care of them." Even then, they will usually settle down with someone 15+ years younger than them (if they can.)
by Anonymous | reply 31 | June 5, 2023 10:52 PM |
"In no part of your story does it suggest that Horndog actually stopped hooking up with randos"
I have no idea what "Horndog" did when he was out of my sight or traveling, we just don't know everything about other humans. All I know is that a mouthy guy with no known filter never said anything about randos or affairs, even when his beloved husband was not around. So while I don't *know*, the indications are that he stopped fucking around.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | June 5, 2023 11:41 PM |
No such thing, OP
by Anonymous | reply 33 | June 5, 2023 11:42 PM |
[quote]So while I don't *know*, the indications are that he stopped fucking around.
Or, more likely, he simply stopped talking about it.
by Anonymous | reply 34 | June 5, 2023 11:44 PM |
There’s no such thing as cheating in the gay community.
by Anonymous | reply 35 | June 5, 2023 11:48 PM |
Cheaters don’t change, they merely conceal their behaviour more effectively.
by Anonymous | reply 36 | June 6, 2023 3:57 AM |
[quote] From then on, Horndog shut up about his adventures, which were mostly done while traveling for work, and with time and age he seemed to become a devoted and faithful husband.
Translation: Horndog became old and was no longer able to attract others. Hence, Horndog settled on Doormat.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | June 6, 2023 4:18 AM |
I dated a coworker who, during the early stages of our relationship, fucked another coworker. Because we were all coworkers, I saw it unfold in front of my face. (Not the fucking, but the attraction, etc.) I was hurt and disgusted and cut off the relationship. I remained professional, though, and we continued to work together.
However, for months, he continued to ask me out. Finally, I relented and he treated me well for about 2 years. During those 2 years, we were almost constantly together and I think he was monogamous with me.
I broke up with him (not due to fucking around) and we went our separate ways.
Years later, he came creeping. He's in a relationship that's on the rocks, blah blah blah.
My point: I don't think he changed. Even if he had been monogamous w/me for 2 years, I think he would inevitably have gone back to his old ways.
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