Is it just me? I'm astounded by the number of people--friend, family, colleagues--who just never reply to messages.
It's infuriating.
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Is it just me? I'm astounded by the number of people--friend, family, colleagues--who just never reply to messages.
It's infuriating.
by Anonymous | reply 69 | May 26, 2023 5:12 PM |
Crickets
by Anonymous | reply 1 | May 25, 2023 12:23 AM |
People I know get one chance for this. You don't reply to me? You will never hear from me again.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | May 25, 2023 12:27 AM |
If someone doesn't reply to you, they do not want to be your friend. They do not value you as a family member. You provide nothing to them as a coworker. Never reply to them.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | May 25, 2023 12:28 AM |
They’re busy
by Anonymous | reply 4 | May 25, 2023 12:54 AM |
Can’t you take a hint?
by Anonymous | reply 5 | May 25, 2023 1:00 AM |
R4, people make time for people who are important to them.
by Anonymous | reply 6 | May 25, 2023 1:01 AM |
is this considered ghosting? Or is that only when you know you will never see or hear from them again?
by Anonymous | reply 7 | May 25, 2023 1:10 AM |
I’m with R2…off my list
by Anonymous | reply 8 | May 25, 2023 1:12 AM |
Too many people send random texts: I don't bother to respond to those.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | May 25, 2023 1:15 AM |
I don’t respond if it’s generic (hope to see you there!) or trying to boss me around (be sure to …). They get the message - sometimes no response is the response.
by Anonymous | reply 10 | May 25, 2023 1:16 AM |
I hate receiving texts with links. They're usually about things I'm not interested in, and I hate accessing youtube on my phone in particular. And usually, I'm not going to bother looking something up on my laptop. Email is fine.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | May 25, 2023 1:19 AM |
I don't reply when a colleague at work say, "Hi".
WTF? If you need something, state it outright and stop wasting time.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | May 25, 2023 1:22 AM |
I never want to hear any of you who don’t respond to texts you deem worthless complain about being lonely or having a lack of friends.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | May 25, 2023 1:22 AM |
R13 Ok, you won't
by Anonymous | reply 14 | May 25, 2023 1:24 AM |
[quote]I don't reply when a colleague at work say, "Hi".
That's one of the oddest things I've ever heard.
by Anonymous | reply 15 | May 25, 2023 1:32 AM |
R15, this is one of the oddest places you’ll ever visit.
by Anonymous | reply 16 | May 25, 2023 1:33 AM |
[quote]I don't reply when a colleague at work say, "Hi".
And also, "oh, dear!"
Do you reply when a colleague at work [bold]says[/bold] "Hi."
by Anonymous | reply 17 | May 25, 2023 1:41 AM |
Punch and delete
by Anonymous | reply 18 | May 25, 2023 2:22 AM |
R17 he probably does not.
DL is fertile ground for those with social phobia
by Anonymous | reply 19 | May 25, 2023 3:09 PM |
OP torments his friends and family with banal chit chat!
by Anonymous | reply 20 | May 25, 2023 3:15 PM |
I've started to do this myself to people since it's become so rampant. It's not in my nature though. But I WILL tit for tat.
by Anonymous | reply 21 | May 25, 2023 3:28 PM |
Did somebody say something?
by Anonymous | reply 22 | May 25, 2023 3:29 PM |
They have a life, OP.
by Anonymous | reply 23 | May 25, 2023 3:34 PM |
I do believe that some people get a lot of texts, and sometimes open them when they're in the middle of something and then since it no longer looks like a "new" text, it gets lost in a sea of texts. Not an excuse, just an explanation.
by Anonymous | reply 24 | May 25, 2023 3:36 PM |
People who leave multiple VMs, emails AND texts are the devil's right hand.
People who leave VMs period, are annoying. I hate VM and either have voice transcription deal with it for me and read it, or I won't listen to it. VM is antiquated.
People who leave VMs saying "Call me" when that could have been a text, you're pissing me off. Call ME you MFer if you want to talk, I didn't see my phone ring!
I respond to most texts if they aren't group, randos or some You Tube.
Emails when it should have been a text: you're walking on thin ice. Email is for more complicated matters, the most warrant a phone call.
by Anonymous | reply 25 | May 25, 2023 3:54 PM |
I have VM switched off, have for the past 25 years. If I don't answer your call I'm not going to listen to Voicemail.
by Anonymous | reply 26 | May 25, 2023 4:00 PM |
I have an annoying neighbor that texts me to complain about other neighbors and I just started to ignore her because I just can't stand her anymore. I was kind to her once and she took advantage. Now she can text out complaints about me
by Anonymous | reply 27 | May 25, 2023 4:20 PM |
[quote] 'Beware of writing to me. I always answer . . . my father spent the last 20 years of his life writing letters. If someone thanked him for a present, he thanked them for thanking him and there was no end to the exchange but death.' -- Evelyn Waugh, letter to Diana Mosley
Over time I learn the communication habits of my friends and don't take things too personally. Different people have different modes of communication and keeping up with others. Adjust your expectations...or don't.
My husband is so social it requires a high degree of luck to catch him when he is still and available and in the mood to chat or swap messages. He can go weeks barely checking for anything that leaps out as important or interesting, deleting thousands of texts and calls on various media. His cleverer friends and family learn that to go through me may improve their chances of a response (or not); and I have to avoid being too very helpful or they will plague me to reach him, my phone emitting buzzing and beeping constantly.
He's an excellent friend but he can't be an excellent friend to a few thousand people every hour of the day and so he has an unintentionally brutal and imperfect triage system. He might respond immediately that he'd love to go to meet you right now for drinks, or he might miss seeing old friends from continents away have were in town but he didn't read their messages until weeks after they were back home.
Everyone is different in his expectations and style of responding to messages. It's not always a Victorian cut direct to not have an immediate reply to your message.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | May 25, 2023 4:25 PM |
R25 is satanic
by Anonymous | reply 29 | May 25, 2023 4:27 PM |
R28's husband sounds like he's lucky he HAS any friends.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | May 25, 2023 4:28 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 31 | May 25, 2023 4:28 PM |
R29 thank you? LOL
Everyone who knows me at least a little knows this about me. It's not a surprise.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | May 25, 2023 4:30 PM |
[quote] Emails when it should have been a text
If something's not urgent, I prefer emails to texts, both as a receiver and sender.
by Anonymous | reply 33 | May 25, 2023 4:32 PM |
I’m with R25
by Anonymous | reply 34 | May 25, 2023 4:36 PM |
I'm going deaf and my speech is not as clear as it used to be, so for business, I prefer to send/receive emails so there is a history in writing, and I both understand what's being said, and don't mis-speak.
by Anonymous | reply 35 | May 25, 2023 4:36 PM |
Perhaps they haven't seen the email or text?
by Anonymous | reply 36 | May 25, 2023 4:41 PM |
R35 I'm not deaf but I always appreciate that too.
Plus customer service reps lie.
I always try to communicate in writing.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | May 25, 2023 4:41 PM |
I lived with and rented a room with an old woman before I met my husband, and she tried to fuck me over rather than give me my deposit back when I moved out. I said,
“You ruined a perfectly good friendship. THIS is why all your friends let your call go to voicemail rather than pick up!”
by Anonymous | reply 38 | May 25, 2023 4:42 PM |
If you indeed said that r38 you’re a complete flop
by Anonymous | reply 39 | May 25, 2023 4:45 PM |
I have a work friend whom I have not seen in person since the pandemic struck. We have texted etc but no long phone chats or hangouts. She has asked 2x to hang out , I made excuses she is not getting the hint. She sent me what's app msg since Easter. I am scared to check it because she will see I read it and have not responded..
by Anonymous | reply 40 | May 25, 2023 4:45 PM |
R39, I let her off easy because I still had stuff in the apartment to move out. My now husband already had already gave it to her double barrel in the lobby and she wouldn’t let him back up to help me move out! Lol
She said she felt “unsafe” letting him back up, and I didn’t want to have to spend another $400 to reschedule moving if she kept me out as well.
by Anonymous | reply 41 | May 25, 2023 4:49 PM |
[quote] People who leave VMs saying "Call me" when that could have been a text, you're pissing me off. Call ME you MFer if you want to talk, I didn't see my phone ring!
First, they DID call you. Second, they left a voicemail to ask you to call back when it’s convenient for you. Why should they follow up with a text?
So many rage-aholics here.
by Anonymous | reply 42 | May 25, 2023 5:22 PM |
Think of what you asked the person and multiply that by 10. You are not the only person in their orbit. If they have kids multiply by 20.
Texts can seem friendly and casual but are also pretty invasive:
I know you see me. Everyone checks their phone all day
I won’t be a lame email and wait for my turn in an inbox
Whatever you are doing now should be interrupted so you can think about what I’m thinking about
by Anonymous | reply 43 | May 25, 2023 5:42 PM |
Take the hint?
by Anonymous | reply 44 | May 25, 2023 5:45 PM |
People are getting pretty burned out and forgetful with 40 different alerts all day: for meetings, Dr confirmations, payment alerts, bills, family logistics, etc.
As I have been writing this Trip Advisor just flashed on my screen asking me if I’m interested in a hotel I searched once 3 days ago. A family member texted with a question, a NYT alert will prob go offer with news that isn’t thrilling, an email or 3 will have come in.
Sometimes people have other pressing issues or need to tune out, and it’s not personal.
by Anonymous | reply 45 | May 25, 2023 5:45 PM |
You can turn off a lot of those alerts.
by Anonymous | reply 46 | May 25, 2023 5:49 PM |
[quote] You can turn off a lot of those alerts.
Of course you can. And you should, especially for dumb things like trip advisor.
by Anonymous | reply 47 | May 25, 2023 6:24 PM |
[quote]Everyone checks their phone all day.
I don't. And the only sound I hear is my alarm. I have all the other shit turned off. I'll get to it when I get to it.
by Anonymous | reply 48 | May 25, 2023 8:47 PM |
“a few thousand people every hour of the day…”
Jesus, R28. Is your husband an exceptionally high-volume prostitution whore?
by Anonymous | reply 49 | May 25, 2023 8:54 PM |
R47 R46 Yes I can turn off alerts that I don’t want. I want NYT and I downloaded Trip Advisor to look something up and forgot to delete it. The point is tech stalks us and adds to the general noise.
by Anonymous | reply 50 | May 25, 2023 9:05 PM |
When my oldest sister, an avid Facebooker started forwarding those "inspirational beach/words/sea" memes I had to shut her down. I asked her not to send those as the links are not trustworthy. She stayed stopped replying altogether. Oh, well.
by Anonymous | reply 51 | May 25, 2023 9:47 PM |
I hate getting audible text notifications while I’m sleeping. I often turn them off prior to going to bed but sometimes forget then at let’s say 2 am. FedEx sends a text that I have a package arriving later in the day.
by Anonymous | reply 52 | May 25, 2023 9:57 PM |
[quote] Yes I can turn off alerts that I don’t want. I want NYT
I wouldn't want NYT alerts.
by Anonymous | reply 53 | May 25, 2023 10:19 PM |
I'm guessing some of you are ancient eldergays that press "Allow" on every popup request you get from any and every website.
by Anonymous | reply 54 | May 25, 2023 10:20 PM |
r54 That doesn't even make sense.
by Anonymous | reply 55 | May 25, 2023 10:26 PM |
That's funny, they always reply to mine, OP.
by Anonymous | reply 56 | May 25, 2023 10:29 PM |
R56 is that because you put out?
by Anonymous | reply 57 | May 25, 2023 10:31 PM |
R54 How could it not make sense?
Many sites ask you for permission to send you alerts and notifications when you're on the site. You have two choices, block or allow. (Or ultimately, block those messages all together, though some will still get through.)
by Anonymous | reply 58 | May 25, 2023 10:33 PM |
Oh hon. It's not other people, it's you.
by Anonymous | reply 59 | May 25, 2023 10:41 PM |
What doesn't make sense, r58, is your assumption that because I'm older—and I am!—that I would consistently press "allow" rather than "block." That shit lives in your ageist cunting mind. It has nothing to do with what I do on the internet.
Maybe you'll become more intelligent when you're out of grammar school.
And I was r55, not r54, double-dumbass.
by Anonymous | reply 60 | May 25, 2023 10:42 PM |
R60 You're yelling at two different posters.
UP YOUR MEDS MARY
by Anonymous | reply 61 | May 25, 2023 10:51 PM |
They're just not into you, OP.
Any of them.
Obviously.
by Anonymous | reply 62 | May 25, 2023 10:59 PM |
R38 Wow, I bet she had a hard time recovering from that scathing takedown.
by Anonymous | reply 63 | May 26, 2023 11:57 AM |
Kids, stop arguing. We're almost there.
by Anonymous | reply 64 | May 26, 2023 12:00 PM |
The worst friends are those who send machine gun multiple texts instead of combining into one or two longer texts. A friend of mine will spend 15 minutes sending dozens of texts in that time frame when it all could have been consolidated into a long text or a phone call.
by Anonymous | reply 65 | May 26, 2023 12:01 PM |
No one calls back a telemarketer, dear.
by Anonymous | reply 66 | May 26, 2023 12:01 PM |
R66 take your dementia meds
by Anonymous | reply 67 | May 26, 2023 12:04 PM |
I detest excessive digital intrusions and have a fairly low bar for what I consider intrusive.
by Anonymous | reply 68 | May 26, 2023 2:43 PM |
R68 I’m sure it’s mutual
by Anonymous | reply 69 | May 26, 2023 5:12 PM |
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