Are There Any Dataloungers Over 45 That Are Still Flirted With, Cruised, Checked Out In Public , Pursued?

Seek professional help.

I walked by a well known restaurant here a few months ago and got the biggest smile and the eyes-cock-eyes cruise look from a hot older daddy.

Made my day.

(ps I'm in late 40s)

Why didn't you say 55, OP? Forty-five is a very different from late-50s.

I do! (I still have nice tits if I may say so.) Once in a while somebody just way the fuck out of my leagues flirts with me and it triggers the worst panic - that I'm about to get roofied, robbed, whatever.

R4- This thread question is now for Dataloungers over 55.

You're bored today, OP. Your earlier thread about Mommie Dearest, now this?

Girl no young buck wants your shriveled up dried over woo ha.

Am early 60's now. Pre-COVID, it rarely happened, but when it did, I was either frozen in shock and speechless, or clueless until after it happened. The last time it happened literally in the "nut butter" section at a Safeway. Was looking for a jar of organic peanut butter for my visiting hipster vegan nephew when this good looking guy, my age, struck up a conversation about cashew butter and how "creamy" it was and on sale. Very nice guy. Made a joke about my nephew and Generation XYZ. I just assumed he was straight -- despite that this is in SF. I eventually grabbed a jar, said thanks for the advice, and rolled my cart away with my head buried in my shopping list, almost erect. Later, he was way ahead of me in the checkout area, but looked back at me and waved as he left. If this had happened 20 years ago, I would have checked "Missed Connections" on Craigslist. Still, he could have just been a nice, exceptionally well groomed straight dude.

“Missed Connections” is still a thing, just FYI.

R7- The Mommie Dearest thread was out of TOTAL boredom with the threads on Datalounge.

This thread was of real interest.

R11-Is me OP

R9- He was flirting 🤗

Take off the mask.

R14- I might do that in another month and a half,

Pass the Dutchie on the left hand side

Why another month and a half, you're going to grow some balls by then?

I've been known to make eyes at fetching Capitol Hill interns

Yes, I get hit up by 23 year olds. I'm 50. 🙄

I *DO NOT* get flirted with by other 50 year olds or anyone in my preferred age range.

And I'm not interested in guys under 45.

I've said this here before, but I was visible until about 35, then I was completely invisible to men until I was late 40s with a full head of grey hair. I don't know what the fuck the kinderqueers want with me, but just chatting online with them on apps, it's apparently not money. I'll tell them I don't hook up unless we can meet for drinks first and see if we can hold a conversation and they absolutely don't want that. They want me to come over and fuck them on demand.

R17- Do you mean by that- I am going to start flirting back if per chance some good looking guy flirts me ?

Maybe

I am 67, 6’3” 200lbs and workout 3X a week. I just got sucked off by a 44 year old twinkiish boy and fucked a 27 year old boy Friday night. Life is good.

[quote] Any Dataloungers Over 45

Old! Ancient! Why bother with life?

I just turned 53. Yes.

My other question- Does the datalounge think the guy in my photo is good looking and or hot?

Yes. Not as often as before, but still occasionally.

It happens so rarely now that I usually try to find a mirror to glance in to see if I have something hanging out of my nose, or spinach in my teeth, I'm so startled by the attention. However, in large cities or places with large gay populations (like Palm Springs). I do get cruised and people flirt with me a fair amount. I'm 65, relatively slender build, (6'0, 175) not a male model, but decent looking with regular features. Usually I'm not really looking to pursue anything, but at least I smile back to acknowledge the compliment. I'm certainly checking out other people in public myself, without any intention to follow through. Why not? I may be relatively celibate now, but I'm not DEAD!

bump

56. Yesterday I was thoroughly cruised, pursued and all but wanked off by a guy thirty years younger than me. Unluckily for him, I am attracted to guys closer to my own age.

I’ve told this story before, but last fall, when I was 65, just as I exited my car in a, yes, Walmart parking lot, I heard what sounded like a young Black female yelling out at me, “Damn, you’re fine!” I looked around to see if there was anyone else around on foot who she could be talking about, but there was no one else. For some context, just months earlier I had attended a memorial service for a former co-worker. I greeted a fellow attendee, another former colleague, one whom I had not seen in maybe fifteen years. Even though I had on a name tag, this woman, who was never known to be at a loss for words, was visibly shaking when I informed her who I was. “This is shocking,” she muttered to herself, loud enough for me to hear. Another attendee later told me she had confided in him how “much younger” I had looked to her.

R29- Where do you live?

I'd like to be thoroughly cruised and pursued.

My comment was meant for R28.

Kinda the same sitch as r19. I'm 51. I turned heads until I hit 40 - had a shaved head and was muscle-y. Then I started working too much, lost my shape and became invisible pretty much. During Covid, I got back into shape and grew my hair in and a beard. All shimmery silver. Now I get twinks on my shit nonstop. Also, young latino guys who want to top me. HA.

I love daddies so it does me no good. I mean it's flattering but those guys want the twinks not a twin. Oh fucking well.

Clothed? Heck, no. Well, almost never.

In other environments I do slightly better.

I must have a classic case of butterface.

🥴

Why are you waiting for people to hit on you, lazy fuck?

R34-Are U talkin to me?

R29, that story is hard to follow.

[quote] that story is hard to follow.

Here's the Reader's Digest version, then.

Last fall, a young woman shouted out at me, "Damn, you're fine."

Months earlier, an old colleague of long ago didn't recognize me. Visibly shaking, sotto voce, she said (of me), "This is shocking." Same woman then tells another old colleague how much younger I looked.

R37- How many NIPS and TUCKS did you have?

R37, so, there's no connection between the people in the 2 stories. The "fine" incident reminded you of the old colleague incident, which happened before the "fine" incident. Hence, narrating the story in reverse-chronological order.

^ I've had some very good, subtle work done over time. Maintenance, not face-changing, procedures. Equally, if not more importantly, though, is a loss of weight. I was never fat or heavy, having what was described as a hockey player's build. Once I turned 50, I decided to shed weight & lost some 65 pounds. That was too much, so I put on about 15 pounds & have kept in the range of 165lbs ever since (I'm 6').

[quote] [R37], so, there's no connection between the people in the 2 stories.

Correct. As indicated, I've posted the "fine" incident elsewhere, attracting some pushback. Adding the "shocking" (earlier) incident was simply to lend some credence to the "fine" comment.

Playing games is too exhausting anymore. Where is the nearest KFC?

Respectfully, why do you wear a mask all the time? Just curious.

R43 Covid has been a blessing for the uglies. That habit is hard to break.

R43 and r44 = GOPers who freak out over people wearing masks

R44, it was hell on those of us with square jaws & high cheekbones.

Not freaking out. But the typical thin cloth, mask isn't effective.

Just accept some people feel more comfortable and safe wearing a mask and move on. Stop trying to ‘respectfully’ shame those who feel this way.

And on topic, mid-fifties here and invisible to others. But I’m ok with that, it doesn’t stop me looking at them.

R48- ca. 1999 were you visible to others or were you always generally invisible

R47, schools that required masks were less likely to have coronavirus outbreaks. Trumpsters, begone!

Replying to OP at R49

I was a whore in my 20s and 30s. Settled down in a relationship during my 40s, but still got cruised a bit… Since the pandemic, nothing to report.

R51- Have you gone from being a Whore to just a plain run of the mill everyday

FAT WHORE?

R30- I’m in Glasgow, Scotland. I went for an after work drink and this young guy was all over me like a rash. It wasn’t even a sugar daddy situation. I think he is genuinely attracted to older men. I had to let him down gently, and he looked very disappointed. The gay scene in Glasgow is small, so we are bound to meet again.

[quote]It wasn’t even a sugar daddy situation. I think he is genuinely attracted to older men.

THIS! I only get hit on by guys in their 20s and while I'm not looking to be anyone's sugar daddy, I don't like hookups, so il always tell them "let's get dinner or a drink first" and they almost always come back with "can't you just come over and cuddle me?" And then I'll say, "C'mon, I'll buy you a drink" or offer to treat them to dinner. No deal. They just want to fuck. I'm not particularly interested in going out with a 20-something in public anyway for fear that I'll develop a reputation as an old pervy guy or worse (get mistaken for their dad!) but I also don't want to go to someone's apartment and have sex on a futon and THEN find out they're a psycho. I'd rather do that over drinks where I can make a quick getaway.

I can't even lure them out of their apartments with offers of drinks and dinners. They just wanna get railed by a sliver daddy.

I'm sure for some 50 year old guys that sounds like an ideal problem. But I don't even want to have sex with a guy in his 20s!

I dated a 52 year old last summer before he moved away. It was everything I ever wanted. He was hot, we could have real conversations, he'd paid off his student loans. He was the perfect man.

R54- He wasn’t all THAT perfect- he moved away.

If he was such a great guy he would have stayed.