DLers: How Would You Have Reacted If You Were Sitting Behind Tems At The Oscars Last Night

"Cuntressa, doff the toilet paper."

Those poor folks. Maybe there were screens in the auditorium. Gorgeous dress, though

Privileged, not thinking of anyone else but herself

Silly "notice me" outfit on a selfish, entitled person.

"Please see that the hoi polloi behind me keep me fluffed."

If I was seated right behind her I would have pushed it down and held it there.

Reach up and snatch that tulle right off of her head.

Miss, I politely cautioned you several times that your headdress was obscuring my view."

If you look at the red carpet photos, it was a beautiful gown, IMO, with or without the head piece.

It did seem kind of rude to wear something like that in a theater setting.

My queen: You're living. You're taking up space. You're present.

NOW MOVE THAT SHIT OFF YOUR HEAD SO I CAN SEE.

I’d ask if she was acting in the Spiderman franchise because her headdress looks like the gauzy ball from whence baby spiders emerge.

I would ask to be moved, I would not be quiet about it, and if I was moved to a lesser seat I would pitch a fit.

A click of the bic...

I wouldn't have reacted in any way if I was attending, simply because I feel like that was the reason she wore such an imposing eyesore to the event--to instigate "the establishment". I hope her juvenile attempt at making a statement just ended up making her feel like a jerk. No way I would have given her the attention she was fishing for, positive or negative.

What a fucking cunt!

I would have kicked her fucking head off.

LOOK. The other people behind her should recognize that sometimes fashion requires sacrifice, theirs.

I'd have retrieved my nail scissors and then would have made edits to the offending headpiece and ruffle.

"Madam, your headdress is an obstruction. We've relocated your seat to the East Parking Garage."

If I were really bold, and I’m sure I wouldn’t be, I would have stood up and refused to sit down until she removed her headdress.

Everyone should have stood up behind her and the people behind them and the ones behind them and so on.

SHAME that bitch for being so deliberately rude. Stand and embarrass the shit out of her until she gets up and moves to the side or back of the room.

I would be polite, "bich get that fucking off, or I'll slap you untill you pass out."

Why wasn't she seated in the last row?

Who is it? A drag queen?

A person who does this doesn't really give a fuck what others think, or she wouldn't have worn it.

There is no [Italic]Hand claps! Finga snapz![/Italic] as it were that would "own" a narcissist like this, other than cancelation.

I'd have ripped her a new asshole, and I'd have done this VERY LOUDLY.

I am a person of color, I have earned the right to block your view.

With fire.

Relax. It was just a seat-filler.

"Move it along, toots."

Beautiful dress but the poufy part should have been detachable so when seated it wasn’t obstructing someone else’s view.

She was rude and oblivious to wear this seated. Honestly just a sign of the times. And Hollywood is narcissism on steroids

How do you know, R29?

The Crisis Team was not prepared for this.

She’s a singer called Tems apparently. No, me neither. Rude cow.

I would have spent the entire show filling it with salted nuts, used Klennex, and chewing gum.

I thought they solved this back in the silent days.

Is it me or are American black people now the most racist and self- privileged demographic in American society? Because I’m beginning to think they are.

She meant it as a punishment for white privilege of the audience behind her.

It would use that hat as a catch-all for my jizz

She isnt American, she is Nigerian^ We have lots of Nigerian families in our community and theyre uniformly nice, well-educated, well-off etc. This is just more dumb Hollywood “look at me” narcissism.

CUNT! OFF WITH HER HEADdress!!

(I do like the look, though)

R14, I doubt she's capable of thinking of herself as a jerk. Glad her crappy song didn't win, though the one from RRR wasn't even a real song.

omg

pretty gown, though not appropriate when you are at a sit down performance.

pretty gown, though not appropriate when you are at a sit down performance.

I hope the people behind her get a refund on their tickets.

You like me! You really really like me!!

R37 it's you

"If I remove your head the tuna net will come off with it, cunt."

[quote] pretty gown, though not appropriate when you are at a sit down performance.

If you're the bride, and it's your first church wedding.

It is possible that she did not forsee the rake of the seats with the dress causing such a problem, and it's also possible that she apologized to the people behind her.

Yeah, I don't think so, r51.

R51 sure😉

I feel bad for this lady trying to peek through. Her neck must be sore today.

Yeah, I don't think she did, either, R52. I think she's just a selfish cunt.

Even Erykah Badu wouldn't have pulled this crap!

Excuse me, pardon me, Miss.. Your designer headpiece is depriving my view of tonight’s Oscar presentation. Remove it or lose it. I will get physical.

People are so thoughtful and considerate of others these days.

I would have lit that bitch's headpiece on fire.

I suppose this is to be expected when, if you belong to a certain group, everything you say or do - no matter how selfish, self-absorbed or oblivious - is greeted with cries of "YAAASSS", "QUEEN!!!" and "Black Girl Magic!!!" .

It is gross and it bodes ill that things like this go unpunished

The epitome of willful ignorance.

The designer must be so embarrassed and the stylist will probably never get work in Hollywood again.

However, this was probably her one shot to get attention. She was nominated for a writing credit on a song that was nominates. Most people probably never heard of her before but now they do because of the dress and not her song.

When do think was the last time this cunt stopped for a stop sign?

It would be a good place to ditch my used chewing gum.

Cigarette lighter…

I'd say " Miss, would you please remove the Charmin off of your head, so I can see the damned stage?!" Although I did like what she wore, it was just rude to wear something like that, like she's the only person in the audience.

She knew EXACTLY what she was doing. She wanted to make a scene and the statement, I'M HERE BITCHES, and she did. Bitch is right. The most intriguing thing for me was the always smug, never nice or even the tiniest inkling of being pleasant, look on her face. Bitch to the core, inside and outside.

@r37, "Is it me or are American black people now the most racist and self- privileged demographic in American "

Honey, selfishness is universal... So is your racism 😒

The ushers should have politely asked her to adjust her outfit, remove the obstructive layers or get the fuck out. But since they didn't, Let's cancel.

And you know why they didn't, R69. Privilege. And it certainly wasn't white privilege.

[quote]Honey, selfishness is universal... So is your racism 😒

At least you admit that racism can go in both directions, R68. We're making progress!

She explains why she chose this dress in this article:

[Quote]"Two years ago, I would've said no to this dress," Tems laughs. "But it's my first Oscars — I am going to go all out. I really wanted to make the most of the day. The dress is also my way of celebrating my work and the people around me, celebrating my country, and celebrating the people that are rooting for me. This dress says 'Yes, yes, I am here!'"

If anyone deserved to be bitch-slapped, it's this bitch.

I would have sat on the floor in the aisle, and demanded they bring me a folding chair if they made me move.

The different takes on this are fascinating. She’s either rude, selfish, obnoxious and narcissistic OR making a bold statement about white privilege and taking up space and it’s the most amazing political statement of our times.

Even I think she should have moved to the back row.

Where’s Will Smith when you need him?

There's also the DL middle way, R74, of offering a moderate criticism of her actions while saying how much you LOVE the dress.

[quote] OR making a bold statement about white privilege and taking up space and it’s the most amazing political statement of our times.

Not on this thread, R74.

Again, R77, not on this thread.

Lol, R76!

R79, see R9, R31 and R44/R45

I wonder if she took it off once she lost in her category?

More Black on Asian violence, what a surprise

The gown is gorgeous but yeah, she should have been considerate of those behind her. Or should have sat at the last row.

It also takes up half the headspace of the guy seated to her right

That would have been just my luck.

Imagine how exciting it would be to go to The Oscars! 🤗

And then get stuck behind that. 😞

Honestly, I would have asked if it could be altered somehow, if she could take it down, so I could see. Not sure if it's a separate piece. She HAD to know how obtrusive it was. Like duh. Great dress for the red carpet; not for the show.

What a total cunt.

If I was sitting behind her I would whip out a Sharpie and write "IMA CUNT" on the back of her headdress.

People are praising her for her dress. She put everyone in their place and they’ll survive and be alright.

"The headpiece of Tems' dress blockin everyone seated directly behind her is giving Black woman on a Sunday and I am SO here IT," Dr. Nicki Washington tweeted. "Sis said y'all will be aight."

Author Bolu Babalola offered another perspective.

"Actually it is an ironic symbol, she is taking up space as a Black woman, whilst the white not only represents a femininity BW have traditionally not had access to but also how whiteness has obscured and obstructed paths of progress, in this essay," she tweeted.

""Actually it is an ironic symbol, she is taking up space as a Black woman, whilst the white not only represents a femininity BW have traditionally not had access to but also how whiteness has obscured and obstructed paths of progress, in this essay," she tweeted."

Oh, Lord. It's not that deep. It's a big dress and the wearer didn't care if it blocked anyone. It's not representative of anything. I don't think she's evil for it, but she is very inconsiderate in this instance.

Agreed ^. Turning basic rudeness into some sort of academic debate on race and gender is narcissistic in and of itself

And were there only white people behind her? If so, did she know ahead of time when she planned her outfit. "Sis said y'all will be aight," OMFG. No, they weren't. If "sis" was taking up space, is it right that she took up the space of three people behind her as well and the two to either side of her?

No, Thems is just taking up space that is so often denied Black women. For you to deny her even that is being an oppressor and it’s not cute.

[quote] There's also the DL middle way, [R74], of offering a moderate criticism of her actions while saying how much you LOVE the dress.

Guilty. I really do love the dress. She looked gorgeous in it. I am feeling kind of neutral on her decision to go for the attention grabbing statement dress—I’m not usually a fan of that—but whatever. She was happy to be there and having her moment. It’s just unfortunate she was blocking people’s view. The designer should have thought of that and come up with a solution so people would be talking about the beauty of the look rather than it blocking people!

She need to be shamed or will end up with celebrity wannabes showing in stilts for attention.

She justifies saying it's her first Oscar, I'm sure it was the first Oscar too for many of the people on the 2 rows she was blocking.

the gown is gorgeous. Though, this is not appropriate for a sit down performance.

Not to worry, she will never be back. And she will be removed from all A list parties. She has been canceled. This court is now adjourned.

let's just hope she did not understand why this gown was not appropriate for siting in the audience in that theater. It is gorgeous gown and she looks great in it. It was not an appropriate gown for this event.

So symbolic of the Oscars and Hollywood entertainment industry. Selfish, self absorbed, hypocritical, me me me. As long as the dress was “amazing, incredible” it doesn’t matter who is inconvenienced or hurt.

SMH

The people defending her don't actually think she was right

But they are clever enough to know that taking that stance will get them a whole lot of attention on social media

Cats in the Hats!

I would give $500 to the person in the seat in front of her to wear a traffic cone on their head.

jada to her scientologist slaves: get me this dress and put me in front of Chris Rock.

I would have been livid, turned into a Karen (not hard for me to do) and had someone remove her or had her take it down.

Inconsiderate and only thought about herself.

I want to see someone wear this next year, just a big stupid box over their head. Clearly it’s permitted.

"Come on! Everyone sing along... Reach out and snatch this bitch's wig make this view accessible if you dig!"

Now imagine if you had to sit behind me!

I would have tested just how flammable the material was...

I’m going to guess anyone behind her was a seat filler and therefore has no rights as a human . If it was anyone important it would have been “handled”.

[quote]The dress is also my way of celebrating my work and the people around me

But not celebrating people behind you, that’s for sure.

Who does she think she is? Uppity nigger bitch!

Trying to get the thread deleted, R112?

[quote] I hope the people behind her get a refund on their tickets.

They should also be compensated with free tickets (in a prime seating area) for next year's event just for not causing a big stink.

I would have pulled its weave out.

I don't think people buy tickets to the Oscars, R114. Not those seats, anyway.

If ever someone needed to be slapped at the Oscars...

I still carry a book of matches with me just in case a young gentleman needs a light.

I wouldn't want to be seated behind this other diva either.

I'm noticing a pattern.

Regaining civility on the stage but losing it in the audience. Kinda like getting into a fight in the church parking lot after the sermon.

"Tems"? Is she a doll? Pez Candy flavour? Acronym for a nasty vaginal infection? What?

She fucked over the Asian lady behind her. Ruining others special night was intrinsic.What a cunt. She beamed knowing someone else went without and their night was ruined. . Hope she’s never seen again. Fuck face supreme.

These ridiculous fucking cunts should be excluded from the Academy for 10 years.

Billy Porter's just pissed he didn't come up with the idea first.

Now I know what to wear to the coronation!

R119 - Stunning ode to African women?! Fuck, Marge Simpson's had that same hairdo for 30 years!

I guess I'm racist, but I thought the black Marge Simpson lady was the same as the one with the big white dress.

When someone tells you they are an asshole, believe them.

"Miss, have you seen my pet spider? She is so naughty and she was here just a minute ago!"

I'd be on my phone the whole time anyway

Where did Cher sit when she wore this to the Oscars? And whose views did she ruin?

Every time there was applause I would wait for silence and go very loudly "Did something happen??"

“Keep yo’ white dress out my FUCKING WAY!”

Bitch would not still be wearing that gazebo veil by the start of the show.

I would’ve been, “EXCUSE ME - YOU SEEM TO BE CONFUSED. THIS IS NOT YOUR WEDDING DAY.”

I would’ve bent that thing in half and been like, “That’s better.”

She thought The Oscars was The Obscures

Here, let me crumple that for you. There you go. Perfect.

Riffraff took over the Oscars years ago.

I would have worn it better.

Tems spent today trying to take off the dress and is now hopelessly entangled in it.

R132, Cher was a presenter the year she wore that enormous headdress (she presented the award for Best Supporting Actor). She might not have been seated in the auditorium. That was her revenge outfit for not getting a nomination for MASK and I think she saved the big reveal for her entrance on stage.

What a fucking asshole!

The polite thing to do is the partially obstructed view.

Yes r37. Yes, they are. They always were.

Oh how glorious it would have been if someone had set it on fire ! THAT would have been some great tv ! Her all hopping around shrieking and some queen standing there saying " Bitch,I told you I was going to !"

It's feathered, not ratted.

Keep your veil OUT OF MY FUCKING MOUTH!

Stupid bitch, she should have been told to get up and go sit at the back of the auditorium. If she refused, those around her would have been justified smothering her with her own stupid toilet roll headdress.

Tems the breaks.

I've been invited once before to the Oscars (a friend was a nomiating editor), and if I ever get invited again I'll go and carry a tiny bottle of ink for just such an occasion.

"OOPS!"

If she were white, she would be dragged so hard for this.

What is your basis for arguing that, R151?

Selfish cunt

R152 If a White woman had worn that monstrosity and blocked the view of some Black folk you'd never hear the end of it. But what we hear is, "she was making her presence as a Black woman known to a white environment". You better believe these bitches' behavior comes from a sense of entitlement and privilege.

Bitch is at the fuckin' Oscars with a nominated song. She is entitled and privileged.

No she isn't. None of the other nominees pulled this childish stunt, including the winners. This bitch didn't even win for her shit song (though to be fair, all the nominated songs were shit).

Ah, so id da whi menz fot dat she a dumb seffish beech.

She should have been moved to the far end of the row, where the auditorium is angled so that she wouldn't have obstructed anyone.

I'm curious what she thinks of having done this. Did she feel bad at all? Did she really not notice? Was she thinking this was a good way for her to advance her career? Did she know everything going on and really enjoyed the attention over it?

Narcissism is fascinating.

She has a bright future as a manikin in a wedding store window.

She apparently doesn't give a fuck. See r154's reply. She needs to be called out, but won't be.

Well she got what she wanted. Everybody is talking about it. Well done and here's to your 15 minutes of fame.

14 minutes and 59 seconds of which she is not deserving.

[quote] But what we hear is, "she was making her presence as a Black woman known to a white environment".

You heard that from two--count 'em - two people on Twitter. Both of whom are trolls who say shit like that because they know it will get them noticed.

Not because they believe it.

R163, in R71, she is directly quoted as saying:

[quote]"Two years ago, I would've said no to this dress," Tems laughs. "But it's my first Oscars — I am going to go all out. I really wanted to make the most of the day. The dress is also my way of celebrating my work and the people around me, celebrating my country, and celebrating the people that are rooting for me. This dress says 'Yes, yes, I am here!'"

[quote]"If I see a limitation, I cure it. Any limitation that I find in myself or things that are hindering progress, I reject that. My normal state of being is without limitations. Who I am is without limitations. Limitation is a foreign thing to me," she says confidently. "I'm going to go and go and go and go and go and go and go and reach and reach and reach and reach till I literally cannot anymore—which is till I die. Like till the grave!" she laughs.

[quote]"All of this, to me, is an open door. Not just for me, but for everybody who is from where I'm from. If I can do it, they can do it," she continues. "I'm happy that I got to fight, and I want to let people know that they should fight for every single thing that they believe in. It's not easy, but once you have a plan, once you know who you are and you know where you're going, every single thing sorts itself out."

I think it's safe to say that she feels very entitled, and the Twitter trolls are simply amping it up a small amount.

Leave Tins alone, she was just celebrating her Oscar loss.

[quote] people ... should fight for every single thing that they believe in

I believe we should have had a view of the stage.

If you tactfully speak out, racist!

[quote]I think it's safe to say that she feels very entitled

That’s what you got out of that? Honestly, she just sounds like your typical think positive, never give up, fight for your dreams type of person. The optimism of youth and all that.

I love how pretty she is

In her Twitter post, she says "Oops. :)"

Does that means she knows she blocked views and doesn't care?

[quote]A click of the bic...

With a can of Aqua Net

R133 wins

I'd shit on that thing!

Tems speaks and outs herself as being selfish and full of bullshit:

“Two years ago, I would’ve said no to this dress,” she told Harpers Bazaar in an interview days before the Oscars that was published Monday. “But it’s my first Oscars — I am going to go all out. I really wanted to make the most of the day. The dress is also my way of celebrating my work and the people around me, celebrating my country, and celebrating the people that are rooting for me. This dress says, ‘Yes, yes, I am here!’”

And, of course, the racists had to defend her:

Some people celebrated the fact that a Black woman unapologetically took up space at a historically white ceremony that has long faced criticism for a lack of diversity in its nominees and winners. The Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences was slammed for shutting out several Black filmmakers and performers from recent films, such as “The Woman King” and “Till,” in its Oscars nominations this year.

“I applaud Tems for proudly and unapologetically taking up space and owning it, and I’m following her example,” journalist Carolyn Hinds tweeted.

Carol Hinds takes up space because she's obese.

Oh Brother, R164 I have an anthem for TEMS

[quote]Some people celebrated the fact that a Black woman unapologetically took up space at a historically white ceremony that has long faced criticism for a lack of diversity in its nominees and winners.

This is the kind of stupid shit that gets on my fucking nerves.

^ Get used to it cracker 💅💅💅

Bullshit like R175 captures why race relations are probably going to get worse instead of better for awhile. This foolishness has to exhaust itself.

Dr. King wouldn't have worn that dress.

R169 She’s pretty on the outside. Seems rancid under the skin however.

[quote]^ Get used to it cracker 💅💅💅

Racist.

That is one entitled bitch! Slap that fucking thing off her head.

R183, before someone takes it on himself to put me on Ignore and point out that I've been critical of Tems upthread, I should just say that I was joking at R179. In the best traditions of LSA, I even left out the comma before addressing the preceding poster as "cracker".

Sorry, r185!

Not to worry, dear, I just said I'd better deprive them of their satisfaction in crying , "R179 is a Russian troll stoking up resentment on both sides!"

It's exhausting that some of you make everything about politics or race. This is just a rude woman, the race is irrelevant, she was blocking the view in a gala, not standing in front of a tank.

[quote] not standing in front of a tank.

Please, leave me out of this.

Out to the bar "Have you got a scissors? Cork screw?' and tear that shit off.

i would take out the phone and watch the live stream

Poor dear. THIS is what she'll be remembered for -- being an entitled cunt -- and for nothing else.

Why didn't I wear that?

I would have screamed "TINA..........BRING ME THE AX!"

How entitled OC white lady of her.

Rude bitch needs to go to the back of the theater.

That dress probably gave a few people the ability to openly mock the ceremony without getting caught. I really doubt any celebrity actually wants to watch others win in their categories and getting sat behind that number was a bit of a gift to those shielded from view by it.

R188, literally NOBODY on this thread is making it about race. The Twitter warriors being quoted and linked to are doing that.

Do catch up, dear.

Tems is what, her pun on being a slag by the river Thames?

Bitch upstaged Angela Bassett.

@violadavis Oh yes!!! Tems!! I have nothing but the fondest memories of you at the Oscars. I'd never been in the presence of anyone prouder, blacker and more beautiful as you. Your heart was as big as your fascinator. You wore it. You took up so much sight line space. You were present and then some!

The real question is: what would Oprah have done?

Oprah would have given her a car, r202.

R143 Jesus F Christ, those Kennedy genes have emerged in the Royal family.

Manners and being considerate is white supremacy

I would have done the same thing they did to Lucy Westenra on Dracula.

R7 oh my god, can you imagine the brawl that would have ensued? Exciting to envision!

That's a lotta toilet paper.

There will be changes by the Academy next year in terms of appropriate and allowable costuming because of this bitch.

Has Whoopi commented? That girl is lucky she didn’t walk by Whoopi with that dress on because she might’ve thought that was toilet paper to use.

Where is Beverly Sutphin when you need her?

I would have borrowed a lighter and set it on fire.

I would have shrugged and thought “Tems the breaks!”

[quote]Is it me or are American black people now the most racist and self- privileged demographic in American society? Because I’m beginning to think they are.

This racist bullshit got 40 WWs, and the lady isn't even American. Fucking hell, people.

Oh well, if Mediapolis wants to make its money by catering to stupid, racist assholes, let them. They're all well into their 50s so they can retire with pride, knowing they spent decades at this point making it very, very easy for anyone to "prove" that white gays are terrible people, by simply linking to pretty much any thread on DL.