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Do you ever find that straight people

Have a harder time accepting or believing that a masculine man is gay?

A friend was telling me this and I agree. He's in his early thirties, handsome and in a very straight working environment. He's had men and fraus allude that maybe he just hasn't met the right girl yet? Meanwhile they accept his swishy coworker as gay with no questions asked.

Have you ever experienced this?

by Anonymousreply 24January 24, 2023 9:11 PM

Are you from Mars, dear?

by Anonymousreply 1January 24, 2023 4:29 AM

OP is Gay German Guy isn't it.

by Anonymousreply 2January 24, 2023 4:31 AM

Duh. Fraus only want Richard Simmons types to be gay

by Anonymousreply 3January 24, 2023 4:35 AM

str8 women in particular.

by Anonymousreply 4January 24, 2023 5:18 AM

in the case of the frau, what I find is even if the guy they've always known as masculine, even treated like a potential rapist.. yet once they find out he's gay, they treat him as if he's a camp gay and without fail exclaim they always knew he was gay... this is more true in female dominated fields and if they're on equal footing or he's in a lower position.

by Anonymousreply 5January 24, 2023 5:22 AM

Unsophisticated and/or dumb straight people might not believe that a masculine man is gay.

Unsophisticated and dumb people also think that a man who is married to a woman can't be gay.

by Anonymousreply 6January 24, 2023 5:24 AM

I also find that most fraus are incapable of believing that gay men and str8 men can be friends.

by Anonymousreply 7January 24, 2023 5:26 AM

You’re going to have to define masculine.

Cause a gay gym rat with muscles and scruff might look masculine until you turn on Britney Spears or RuPaul’s Drag Race.

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by Anonymousreply 9January 24, 2023 6:12 AM

Exactly, R8. Have this guy talk about some.boring straight man sport like football, and he'll have no clue. But ask him about figure skating! Girl!

by Anonymousreply 10January 24, 2023 6:42 AM

Why would any straight guy pretend to be gay , I’m dumbfounded that people think this happens outside of gay baiting marketing for celebs.

by Anonymousreply 11January 24, 2023 7:02 AM

I couldn’t give a flying fuck either way, OP. Why do you?

by Anonymousreply 12January 24, 2023 8:13 AM

This type of thread pops up every 10-15 days or so. It's someone who is absolutely obsessed with a "gay men are basically women trapped in men's bodies" fantasy. His threads always seem innocuous enough at first, but once a thread has gathered enough responses, he takes it to the next level, which usually revolves around the idea that every straight man is really gay, or that every gay is lusting after straight men because of their oozing masculinity.


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by Anonymousreply 14January 24, 2023 10:23 AM

r11 many women are attracted to moes... and str8 guys are ultimately are held to the whims of str8 women, be it boy bands or fanfiction.

albeit, when pegging became a trend women were into it as long as their male partners weren't.

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by Anonymousreply 19January 24, 2023 10:35 AM

To be fair, they're the same with lesbians, who can't be girly-girls. Tell one of them Taylor Swift is gay or bi and watch her corkscrew through the roof with indignation.

by Anonymousreply 20January 24, 2023 12:02 PM

Agree, R20.

And Taylor Swift is a big old dyke.

by Anonymousreply 21January 24, 2023 1:50 PM

Hetero women lose their shit when men aren't oogling over them. With flaming gay guys, it's not an issue. But if a gay guy happens to look and act masculine, they can't fathom not being the center of his attention.

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