When do you consider somebody a lost cause?

Eventually you have to walk away for your own self preservation. You'll know when it's time.

When the rest of your family won't face up to the problem.

He won't change until he hits rock bottom - hey, that phrase can go with the other thread too!

Does the nephew have nude pics?

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My cousin—she’s highly educated but can’t hold a job. She’s truly a complete ditz.

I tried to give advice when we were younger but she just could never follow through. I have up

My pussy always acts up at night. I like to smack it around, see? Make it feel reeeeeal good.

R5 But what about the baby?

OP, I see so many red flags in your description I’m amazed your nephew hasn’t been gored by a bull.

At this point I would consider the 25 year old nephew a bad risk, not a lost cause.

Step back from anything to do with him and wait to see if he straightens up and matures. Not everyone chooses to do that but some people just get to it very late. Detach and watch.

The worst EST brother ever!

I mean nephew!

Someone is a "lost cause" when other people's attempts to change or influence them have no chance of succeeding or when they're simply a cause not worth fighting for anymore.

The nephew was a lost cause a long time ago, OP.

You don’t force change unless you’re a prison

You must want to change,

R4 No, but he is rather good looking. Like a young Vlado Kalember.

I have a suggestion, but you're about nineteen years too late.

It's possible, but unlikely he will ever change. I have had personal experience with these types. Save yourself.

I can't believe the number of people who are on drugs these days, both street drugs and prescription. It seems to be much higher than in the past.

He’s only 25. Plenty of time to clean up his act. But the motivation needs to come from within himself. Nothing you or anybody else can do.

-When you can't believe a word they say

-When they can't keep track of their own lies and when you question them, they can't remember what they said, but are the first to get super defensive and make it YOUR ISSUE.

-Are proud of their dysfunctional behavior and/or diagnosed (or supposed) psych disorders. "I know I'm so OCD. I need time to process. My meds are bugging me, this weight gain! I think I'll stop."

-They never ask about you, or if they do they are only bringing said topic up because they can parallel a (bigger) story of their own.

25 is way too young to write someone off.

I myself was a raging drunk from 18 to my early 30's. I settled down.

That said, I would not give my past self any money unless I was on the verge of homelessness. You can show you care/support without enabling.

A drug addict with $100,000 saved at age 25?

[quote]A drug addict with $100,000 saved at age 25?

[quote]He was working as a cruise ship mechanic but got fired because he failed a drug test (he's a recreational cocaine and canabis user)

Working on a ship means basically no expenses, pot is cheap, and it depends on how much money he puts up his nose, but I could see it. Being a mechanic is not a skill many have (ship/car/plane, etc.)

Or he's been involved in something criminal like drug smuggling or dealing.

I fucked your nephew, OP. Say what you will, when he wants it he really wants it.

But you know that already, donchya, Unk?

Yeh my little brother. I kept trying until I was about 30 (he's 4 yrs younger) then gave up. I don't have a clue what he's doing now, but I know he has 2 kids way out in Wyoming.

I take it he turned your offer down for porn.

Put this boy on suicide watch. Stat!

I'd be concerned about where that $100k came from. How can you earn that on a cruise ship? Drug dealers don't like when money goes missing.

The 100k is fantastic, although I had it at 25 from an inheritance and just blew it in about two years.

But I bet they were a fun two years.