Why Do Gays Like Twinks?

No idea. I like daddy types.

But one guess is that for some tops? Feeling (and actually being) bigger and more powerful than the man they fuck is a turn on.

Because fat, flabby, floppy, wrinkled skin is depressing.

I guess that makes sense, r1.

R2, you think anyone who doesn’t resemble an anorexic girl looks like that?

For the same reason straight men like younger women: We are programmed to be attracted to younger bed partners.

I adore twinks. I like them because they are thin, feminine and ethereal. I don't like masculine men at all.

Can a twink be preppy?

I don't, I like fully formed adult men 😛

[quote] For the same reason straight men like younger women: We are programmed to be attracted to younger bed partners.

That’s evolutionary, due to fertility and procreation.

Uh, Tom Holland's body is not underdeveloped.

Those two guys are not twinks OP. Well, I guess to a cryptkeeper like yourself, label them as you need.

That's not a gay thing, that's a man thing.

[quote] For the same reason straight men like younger women: We are programmed to be attracted to younger bed partners.

That doesn't make sense. If straight men are "programmed" by biology to be attracted to younger women, it would be because they are more likely to be fertile.

Men are not more fertile the younger they are.

[quote] Those two guys are not twinks OP.

Yeah, okay, Bryan Singer.

[quote]Men are not more fertile the younger they are.

Yes they are R13.

R13 is a moron. Men seek out fertile females. Men can procreate for the rest of their lives. Women cannot. The younger they are, the more fertile. Did you go to high school? Ever read a book? It’s evolution.

Shawn Mendes is another one. They have the body of children.

Best stools ever

A lot of people get off on the appearance of freshness and inexperience in a sexual object. They think the object will be easier to control, more biddable, and more suitable as a trophy.

For crying out loud, stop. Mendes does not have a the body of a child. And since when do "twinks" have crows feet like Tom's at age 26.

Because really young people are open to new experiences and have weak boundaries so you can get away with things with them that an older person wouldn’t put up with.

Little lord cigarette is turning 27 on the 27th. His twink days are gone.

R20 = Bryan Singer

Just because we can't procreate with men, doesn't mean that part in our brains that steers us to younger partners isn't driving our choices. Younger partner = more fertile. That comes first. Whether you're into men or women comes after that.

I myself prefer matures; but in addition to the reasons others have given, it could be that at least for some being with/being accepted by a twink gives the older person the flattering feeling that they too are young again.

I don't think it's weird. Some people like petite and soft or androgynous features. A twink doesn't have to juvenile, effeminate or anorexic looking. I don't think Holland or Chalamet are all that attractive and weird examples to use. I think Keanu Reeves, Johnny Depp, Matt Dillon, River Phoenix, Robert Sean Leonard, Brad Pitt, etc are probably better examples of what is attractive. Usually this terminology is relative to the person though.

R20 is right. Mendes has a youthful face and may still pass as a twink, but he obviously doesn't have the body of a child. Mendes is always showing off his muscular physique:

Helmut Berger, Alain Delon and Leonard Whiting were hugely popular twinks in the 1960s. You have James Dean, Ricky Nelson and Elvis Presley in the 1950s. I think that physical type has always been popular.

R10. Definitely not.

I'm not really into twinks either. I prefer older men, daddy types and rough types of men.

I do fuck guys who are more twinky sometimes though, and as R1 says, there is something hot about being the dominant one in those situations. It occasionally does it for me, so I guess I can see that for some guys that is something they prefer most of the time.

grrrr

That’s a twink body. Not a man. A boy who exercises. Gross.

Tell me you're a bottom without telling me you're a bottom.

Because there’s always a new fresh crop on the come up.

Both guys in op pic have dead eyes

Dead eyes on a twink is hot.

I find the He-Man bodybuilder physique kinda ugly. They look like they're made of Legos. I love muscles but more swimmer, runner or NBA player's physique. Naturally lean. Not anorexic and undeveloped though.

I heard that Americans began worshipping huge muscles after the HIV panic and skinny bodies on men that were en vogue in the 1950s to 1970s fell out of fashion and became associated with the illness. Women could remain skinny but men had to be bulky.

The principal reason that many gays like twinks has already been noted—males are programmed to seek younger, healthier partners because they’re more fertile. Even though procreation isn’t a factor in gay partnering, the in-built preference is still there.

A second reason has to do with power. I’m talking about the preference that tops often have for younger persons. I’m a top (preferably a fist top), in any kind of sex. I like to dominate and be in charge. Youthful, impressionable, malleable bottoms have always been my ideal, even when I was a teenager experiencing gay sex for the first time. It’s simply about power and youthful bottoms seem made to be dominated.

Males (tops) are also acculturated to be aggressive and even war-like. There is a need to subjugate and be the victor. Twinks (or any youths) are generally of lesser strength—both physically and emotionally. They seem made to be dominated. From tops, the language of sex more starkly reveals the dominant/submissive nature of sex. This is particularly true in fisting. I’m quite verbal during sex and words spoken make things crystal clear: from the mild (“I’m gonna stretch your pussy.”), to the more violent (“I’m gonna destroy/wreck your pussy.”).

Finally, there is the notion that gay sex is a dirty/ forbidden pleasure. There is the thrill of introducing a younger person to this world. Part of this pleasure, of course, is the irresistible pleasure of defiling something innocent. So we’re back to talking about power and dominance.

R13 this user makes sense because with being a gay men, some things are turned around but in the end they are still men:

I see most twinks date twinks though. Aren't most people attracted to what is similar to themselves?

The reason why older men are attracted to twinks:

Troll

This is why:

cuz they're young and dumb and full of cum?

[quote]Mendes is always showing off his muscular physique

now if he'd only present hole

I don't know, ask Richard Madden...

Most don’t. Only the outspoken weirdos on DL (see r38 and his pseudo-evolutionary biology drivel as an example) make it seem that way.

The easiest counterpoint to the evolutionary biology explanation being presented so far - most gay men aren’t attracted to twink looks for the same reason they ARE attracted to muscles, masculinity, etc.

I’m not really sure most of you have thought this through.

Also, I am a top. since there seems to be a perception that only bottoms are saying this (really, what circles do you weirdos run in… almost every other top I know is similarly not into twink types. At all.)

People are conflating youthfulness with being or looking like a twink. They aren’t the same thing.

^ on that point, of the two in OP’s pic, I don’t think the one on the left looks like a twink (despite being youthful).

At times, I like twinks. At times, I like daddies. I only like twink tops, though.

Because men have sexual urges to be fathers, so they love that father/son relationship.

^ men have sexual urges. That doesn’t necessarily mean they urge to be a father with an ensuing parent-child relationship.

This debate has always brought out DL’s sharpest claws. I’m not totally sure what makes a twink — I know one when I see one — but I do want to add that it’s quite a twisted perspective to think an adult man like Shawn Mendes has a “child’s body.”

I think it may have to do with that's what boys look like at puberty, which is when lots of our sexual desires get imprinted.

What is this obsession with youth and beauty that transcends culture, gender, and sexual orientation, and which dates back to the dawn of recorded history?

If I feel like topping, I'll want a Twink. If I feel like bottoming, then I want a beefy daddy. I like the juxtaposition of different body types and ages.

R47 just positing something: Maybe both you and R38 are correct?

I don't think R38 is a weirdo at all. I think he's being honest and his claim actually does make sense. I know a couple tops who feel similar to him. Hell, I was with one for seven years.

I also know tops (more, frankly) who are in your camp. They like muscles and men, not necessarily twinks and youth.

What turns us on is a spectrum, I believe. Why it turns us on is utterly fascinating. Even if it's mostly anecdotal.

Let's keep the conversation going instead of derailing it with judgement.

[quote]What is this obsession with youth and beauty

maybe that growing old and dilapidated and watching your body fall apart and having nobody who wants to fuck you isn't so great?

Tom Holland and Chalamet may both be short, but Holland has some muscle on him.

I find twinks unappealing and limited.

Bully for you, R61.

Not looking 'roided out =/= "underdeveloped and girlie," OP.

R61 = Barbara Thorndyke

Pano T thinks they are evil and despises them, despite admitting that he once was one.

Fat pp looks good in between tight young buns…mmm

I didn’t mean to imply r38 is a weirdo simply for the fact that he’s a top that’s into Twinky bottoms. Rather because of the ridiculous paradigm of sex / tops / bottoms that he seems to imply is a universal truth.

“Males (tops) are also acculturated to be aggressive and even war-like. There is a need to subjugate and be the victor.”

“Twinks (or any youths) are generally of lesser strength—both physically and emotionally. They seem made to be dominated.”

“From tops, the language of sex more starkly reveals the dominant/submissive nature of sex.”

“ (“I’m gonna stretch your pussy.”), to the more violent (“I’m gonna destroy/wreck your pussy.”).”

I’m muscular, a top, and masculine, and can exert dominance in the right / appropriate moment but I don’t assume others are like me. (And that said, the above almost reads like parody lol)

R58, r67 My position on male assertiveness is derived from anthropology, specifically the work of Konrad Lorenz and Robert Ardrey. I believe in the view that humans are basically on a continuum with “lesser” animals. I have a minor in anthropology so I’m fully aware of the controversy surrounding this belief. Ardrey’s book, The Territorial Imperative, came out only around 15 years before I was in college. It caused, and still causes, a heated discussion in sociology, ethology, anthropology, and many other fields. Now, that controversy has spread to DL!

I do not accept that humanity is qualitatively different from any other species. We are all driven by the same basic impulses—to breed and persist as a species. Many people are able to overcome these basic needs and expand their life choices. I, sadly, am not. My sexual behavior has been driven by my most basic instincts. Overall, it’s not been good for my life.

Maybe what has not been good for your life is your patronizing attitude.

r69 wins the thread.

I've always been interested in older guys. Younger ones that turn me on are nerdy.

Is OP 12? What kind of question is this?

Some salient points for OP to learn from:

-Youthful beauty is almost universally celebrated, particularly among men of all sexual orientations.

-Conversely, many gay men aren't attracted to twinks at all.

-Calling homosexual attraction "regressive" is itself regressive, and offensive on Datalounge.

R69 🔥 🧂 ☕️

I dated a younger guy only once: I was 30 and he was 25. Yeah, he was hot. I also dated a guy who was 30 when I was 22; he was VERY handsome, but his libido was a little lacking. I'm usually attracted to guys around my age. My bf for the last couple of decades is one year younger than I am. And he's hornier, but that's OK. When I put out, I take him to heaven.

Twinks should be WORSHIPPED and SERVICED!!!

R69 for the win lol

R68, you just type “bad in bed”.

They look like young girls. Pass.

What R57 said. Twink = tight hole + whatever dick = you top the twink; daddy = whatever hole big dick = he fucks you

There is one that works in the produce department of my grocery store that I just want to pick up and pump a load into.

[quote]That’s evolutionary, due to fertility and procreation.

[quote]That doesn't make sense. If straight men are "programmed" by biology to be attracted to younger women, it would be because they are more likely to be fertile.

Straight men and Gay men are the same species. We are still programmed to respond to the same things when it comes to sex for 200,000 years. The focus of our desire is different, but it is for the same reasons.

Besides Gay men have been procreating with women for just as long. The idea of there actually being something called gay is extremely new on the historical spectrum of humanity. Men have always had sex with other men and it was not labeled as gay, it was just sex. Julius Ceaser had sex with men and women, as most Roman men did at the time. And I am sure this is common in other cultures around the world. These same men still had sex and procreated with women. That was just a given. The idea of exclusively being with men is something of the last 200/300 years.

I don’t tend to gravitate toward twinks, though I don’t discriminate either. Some of them are hot, but in general, I don’t find myself overtly attracted to them. Timmie, for example, can occasionally look hot, when he’s not overdoing his androgynous shtick. I do tend to like lanky men with dark hair and dark eyes. Timmie also has a pert, square little ass that I find hot on a man.

That said, I am mostly a bottom, and when I see guys like Timmie, my impulse is to fuck them rather than get fucked by them. I am a big guy (6’2”, 190 pounds), and I tend to be more attracted to men who are a bit sturdier in build (even if they’re shorter than me).

Twinks are almost as disturbing as the grown men that are into them.

"I think it may have to do with that's what boys look like at puberty..."

There's something about this statement which I find intriguing...

I can't quite put my finger in it...uhh...up it....I mean...ON it!!

No one questioning why gay men are into twinks would ever question a straight man into jailbait. Straight men are notorious for fetishizing young women and teenaged girls. The stereotype of older men chasing women half their age is so ingrained that no one questions it, but a subsection of gay men into slim hairless young men equals "pEdOpHiLiA!!" It's pure homophobia and nothing more.

Because they are pretty and young? Btw, there are prettier twinks than those in the OP. I'm attracted to twinks but don't find Tom hot at all. Timothee is ok, but not as drop dead gorgeous as everyone claims.

De gustibus non est disputandum.

I think men look their best in their mid 20s to early 40s.

[quote]De gustibus non est disputandum.

Semper ubi sub ubi, bitch.

Some straight men like skinny women. Others like busty or plus sized women. Then there's skin colors, hair colors and other things they fixate on like feet, butts, etc. A lot of men have fetishes that play a role in what they find hot. And those get fixed at an early age. People who are into twinks likely were always into then even when young. People can shift what they're into if they enter new environments and get exposed to different people or get bored with what was their type. Overall, attraction is a deeply personal thing.

I'm most attracted to men in their 30s and early-mid 40s. I'm more likely to stray above that age range than below it. This has been true since I was in my early 30s.

[quote]Semper ubi sub ubi, bitch.

Numquam ubi sub ubi, scortillum.

Older men are so great. Have their shit together, generally have hairy chests (mmmm) and really appreciate your youth. I had a great time with older men in my 20s/30s.

Now I’ve hit 40 I’ve suddenly noticed the young guys coming after me, but personally, I want that 50 year old dick.

Ars gratia artis.

E pluribus unum.

Veni, vidi, cito discessi.

Gosh, OP, I really didn't think it was possible to restate a question that's been asked 987,389,947,133,906,837 times in a fresh and exciting way!

Why do so many women like twinky guys these days? For the record, I don't think Tom Holland is a twink, and Timothee is more of a nerdy wimp than a twink.

Semper fidelis.

I'd totally be into R68. Thank god for men like him.

(Sadly, I'm no longer a twink. So no chance for me.)

Check out this cute blond twink's recent coming out video he posted on-line.

R101 He looks a little too much like Kyle Rittenhouse for my taste...

Because they are the chosen sex symbols. They won the genetic lottery in terms of metabolism and body shape.

They might be underdeveloped, but they are boyish, not girlie.

[quote]But one guess is that for some tops? Feeling (and actually being) bigger and more powerful than the man they fuck is a turn on.

Ok, but they could easily find much more fragile and smaller women.

R38 is why they hate us

[quote] Because they are the chosen sex symbols. They won the genetic lottery in terms of metabolism and body shape.

Only in the eyes of the people who fetishize that particular body type.

I’m not explicitly attracted to twinks; twinks just fall under the umbrella of guys I’m attracted to. Twinks, twunks, muscular guys… honestly, any guy who appears between 20 and 60 with a flat[ish] stomach and a not feminine/round face gets me going. I’m sure I’m not alone in this.

I’m with you, R108.

Girlies, R38/Dickie Greenleaf wants to convince us all that he is not a common fairy, but an alpha uber masculine dominator. Poor thing was called fag at school too many times.

I'm with you too R108. Hell, a bit of a pot-belly doesn't even bother me - being unhealthy/unhygienic is what I find off putting.

And interesting you mention the round face. A friend and I were talking about this recently - we both like a HUGE variety of guys, but it's round features that we both agreed are the constant in what we don't like. I guess this is along the lines of the "womanly hips" discussions that happen here too.

Exactly, R111! I don’t mind a little pudge (I have some myself and have never been able to fully get rid of it), I just don’t want a big gut. It’s the round face that’s the deal-breaker. The other day I blocked a Grindr guy who would have been a VERY convenient hookup based solely on a pic of his round face in which he sort of looked like my aunt…

Tom Holland is anything but girly and under-developed. Hes' hot, cute, smooth, beautiful, smart, talented and he gives me an instant boner.

Timothy Chalamet? Does nothing for me.

There are different KINDS Of twinks. I prefer the twunk type of twink.

And besides, hairy asses are gross. If you're not naturally smooth, then shave, wax, or laser that shit.

Haha, I totally get you, R112! That'd be a big no for me too.

Not me. I like men. Not boys, MEN.

Plot twist: round-faced Grindr guy is even closer than I thought… he apparently lives in my building- had an awkward elevator ride with him tonight. Whoops 😬

Oh dear, R112! I assume he recognised you too? Must've been awkward!

Twin Twinks, double the pleasure, double the fun!

R117, yep, as soon as I walked on the elevator, he took out his phone and turned away from me lol

All of these fucking," I like real men" posts are from insecure gays. Why else would you go to a thread about twinks and declare your preference for more mature men? Hoping to get approval from others? Trying to reassure yourself? Trying to get noticed?

I honestly have no idea why twinks are so enduringly popular, I have never been attracted to twinks even when I was one - but I'm glad some people are, I wouldn't have got laid when I was a twink if they weren't!

It comes down to two things - worship of youth and the eroticism of a power imbalance.

THIS IS A very interesting complex subject with many reasons and truths..

Personally, I'm into huge muscle and I must admit I do find it "odd" for lack of a better word, when you/I see a handsome huge muscle guy with a half his size twink. It's gets my simpleton thinking of "why would someone like that want to be with and turned on by the opposite? You/I would think he would be turned on by big muscle since he obviously is turned on by having big muscles and worked so hard to look that way!"?

Is it a big muscle guy likes the twink's body because it's feminine like but also because he just happens to have a dick too which he craves? Is it power control testosterone fueled?... And what of the twink? is he turned on by being dominated both sexually and otherwise in the relationship? Does the twink get a power trip knowing that someone like him, has a big muscle guy as a lover?....

Even more interesting is when a big muscle guy is a bottom to a twink in a relationship....Does the big muscle guy just have "submissive" tendencies in his personality, no matter how he looks physically and visually? Where did this submissive need and sexual craving come from? Is it him being tired of being in control physically in his life, and he longs for sexually to be with and to be with one physically lesser than him because it's a kinky turn on and a relief not to be in control 24/7?...

They are the hottest things. Too bad they don’t find me attractive.

[quote] If you're not naturally smooth, then shave, wax, or laser that shit.

Disgusting. If I’m even watching a porn scene and the bottom has an obviously waxed/lasered crack and hole, I’ll turn it off and find something else.

Hair is natural, hair is manly, hair keeps the musk, hair is HOT.

R125 musk is gross. Go fuck someone in a forest or fuck someone after they had their Metamucil poop.

I'm with R125.

I like naturally smooth guys too, but taking away all hair leaves some guys looking way too young to me. I personally find it off putting.

And you can still be very clean with body hair. I've been with many guys in my time, and can't recall one that was unhygienic. Gay guys are usually pretty great with cleanliness.