Wrong decisions? I address this to the young brethren, so perhaps, in 30 years, they may not have to be asking this question. Gen Z, you are in a very different world than that of your elders. Your elders (late gen x, boomers, and beyond) fucked up when they gave their generosity, love, and support to the wrong people. Or tried to be like them, and even one of them. They also fucked up when they allowed themselves to be conditioned by media and entertainment, lending veracity to myths and ideals, such as true love and “happily ever after,” only to have it backfire in their faces many, many times.
But the gay men, and this is addressed to gay men, who came out, and identified as gay to everyone around them, and most of all, to themselves. They redefined courage. In addition, they possessed a work ethic, worked two and three jobs, and got the hell out of their houses by 18. They saw education as learning and broadening and self-improvement, not memorizing answers, regurgitating them on an exam, and being allowed repeated attempts until they got the grade of their choice. They didn’t peddle their asses on Instagram and Only Fans so they could earn top dollar for a couple of hours of “work” and spend the rest of their time in the gym or with their heads in a bag of glue. 30 and 40 come around a lot sooner than expected. Rest assured that what worked for you at 21 will not work for you at 45.
Gen z, you have overwhelmingly supportive parents that many of us did not. Yet your parents are over-indulgent and not remotely challenging. The latter does not come with trophies for every effort and coddling for every bumble. They’re showing a fail-safe in their home and money, and not teaching you the value of learning, becoming, inventing, discovering, earning, saving, and creating a future for yourselves in an honorable, ethical manner. The tragedy I see is that so many of you guys lack the intestinal fortitude to identify your true wants and needs, establish goals, plans, and acknowledge that milestones are only achieved in increments, not in a pile of cash that falls in your lap. Hear that, money mules with the ski size backpacks in the gym.
The immediacy of technology, not available to your elders, has inculcated the notion that results are one click away. They are not. You have to work. Parents who didn’t understand this notion have nothing but their own ignorance and limited scope of the world to pass onto their progeny, and the generation loss continues.
Wrong decisions? They cannot be prevented, but they can be minimized. Quash the belief that life is easy. It isn’t. It’s going to take every last bit of guts, blood, and nerve to make it in the world we’re living in today. And the drug taking, drug dealing, and whoring isn’t going to get you there any faster. Be less vain. Be healthier. Open your mind. Learn. Be curious. Ask questions. Develop instincts. Don’t be duped by looks or status. Few of the hotties are going to be giving, generous, life partners. They’ll be your first road to hell. See through the masks. Demand more of yourself. And treat others, Goddamn it, the way you yourself would want to be treated.
It's a very short journey. When you’re 50, if you make it, you’ll want to look back and say there was very little you’d change, and that what you achieved was on merit, without having to deceive, decimate, or destroy anyone else to get it.