Why did Arpad Miklos kill himself ?

Because you touch yourself at night.

I think it was because his student visa had expired and had to leave the country.

R2 is this a joke ? what are you even talking about ?

Not sure, he was so hot.

R3 I think he was doing all kinds of courses so as to prolong his visa. At least that’s what I read at the time.

you don't kill yourself over an expired visa, he could have done porn in Canada, of the UK, it can't be the reason

He was so handsome. Really sad.

Didn't know this.

Poor guy.

He seemed nice.

I used to see him at the New York Sports Club on 14th street. He would shower with the curtain 1/2 way open to show off his "wares" - I imagine to entice escort clients. It was kind of sad.

He's better off dead. ⚰

R9 sad ? you got to see him up close naked in the showers and you thought it was sad ? was he very tall ? very good looking ? did you catch a whiff of his musky sweaty smell ?

Here's an interview with one of his friends

Because he touched a vagina in that one video. His dick never smelled right after that.

R12 was Randal Arpad's lover ?

I hate saying anything negative of the dead, especially since I've always thought he was one of the sexiest men to ever live. But rumor has it that he had recently become HIV positive. Also, it sounds trivial, but r2 is correct, that he had to keep taking courses in order to stay in the country or risk being deported. Plus I think he was getting depressed about getting into his (late?) 40s and still doing porn. His career never fully recovered after he did that straight scene - I remember a lot of people being extremely angry with him about that.

Probably all of those things together led to it. I certainly hope he's in a better place now. R.I.P.

Yeah, I thought it was about the backlash he got for having heterosex. Wasn't that the DL consensus? You people need to keep up.

R16 only on DL do people care that porn stars shoot all kind of scenes with all kind of people, the "backlash" resonated IRL even less than the pasta draining SCANDAL.

Of course, also from the bullshit rumors department, I heard some people saying that he knocked the actress up and she had to get an abortion, r16. How a porn actress who wasn't on birth control would have any idea about the father of her child was never explained.

Sorry r17, it may not have made the evening news, but in the world of gay porn fandom, it was a MAJOR story and Miklos got a ton of shit for it.

R19 that's so stupid, I like seeing a hot gayporn star fucking a woman, it's hot

I recall reading on DL that he was HIV positive, he was being deported to an extremely homophobic country (Hungary according to the video upthread) and perhaps I’m misremembering, but that they might not even allow persons with HIV into the country, though I’m not sure how they’d know if he was HIV positive.

No work, no visa, no country to accept his return, I assume he felt between a rock and a hard place with no alternatives.

Surprised he didn’t marry an American friend to keep him in the US.

[quote] he knocked the actress up and she had to get an abortion

unless he had to pay for that abortion, I see no reason to commit suicide here

It's never really is "just" one thing, but it is usually one thing / piece of straw that will break the camel's back.

So many issues came together, and he buckled under pressure.

R21, he could have gone to France, they accept all trash from all over the world

But don’t you have to return to your home country first? Or does that only apply if returning to the US and EU will let anybody from EU countries go anywhere?

He was doing porn and escorting while pushing 50. It really isn't any deeper than that.

"No work, no visa, no country to accept his return, I assume he felt between a rock and a hard place with no alternatives."

You can't be in porn without thinking about life after. You need to build a career beyond it. I guess he was just living in the moment and suddenly found himself without a ton options. Poor guy.

So you think the studying was for visa purposes only, and he had no legitimate aspirations to change careers.

Not being snarky, just wondering.

[quote] He was doing porn and escorting while pushing 50.

=every DLer 's dream (but looking 48)

he had a fantastic body and great feet

"accute depression"

Oh, dear!

R20, no it's not it's pathetic. Conversion therapy much? Stop posting that homophobic shit.

What was on Arpad's Ipod?

After his hot heterosexual scene, Arpad wanted to come out as STRAIGHT, but still do gay videos for money.

His gay audience rejected him, so he killed himself, unable to make a living and support his girlfriend.

Jobman is full of shit, he was on a student visa and has some career as laboratory worker in Hungary before coming to the US. He didn’t update his credentials/skill set the way he was supposed to with his student visa and was told he couldn’t stay in America because he couldn’t work with the credentials from Hungary.

Compound that with a HIV diagnosis, an escalating meth issue and abusing steroids, it became too much.

He was more of a bottom in his private life and would bottom for clients.

The Gays freaked out because Arpad always wore condoms in his homosex scenes, but in his intensely hot heterosexual scene with the girl, he fucked her bare.

You could tell he enjoyed eating her out and fucking her much more than anything he ever did with men.

A gay porn performer, who committed suicide? Now I've heard everything.

He was depressed.

Sadly I can’t watch his porn anymore

He had an unusual, but very hot, dick. It was long and kind of decreased in width as it went along.

He was one hot man, that's for damn sure.

A dead porn truck, who woulda thought?

Hottest porn star ever, for me.

Sad to hear he went through so many pain—enough to kill himself

How and where did he off himself?

"Why did Arpad Miklos kill himself?"

His suicide note never said.

Friends said he had been depressed for some time, but wasn't going about "crying all the time".

After 9/11/01 there was a ramp up of deportations across the board, including visa overstays and others who may have come to USA legally at one point, but either now were out of status or deemed trying to circumvent immigration laws by remaining in USA when they shouldn't.

Thus it may have been possible Arapad Miklos didn't see a future for himself in USA. DOMA was overturned 13 June 2013, several months after Mr. Miklos committed suicide. Had he lived am more than usually sure someone would have offered marriage which would have allowed him to remain on a spouse visa.

Dror Barak ( aka Roman Ragazzi) committed suicide about one year before Arpad Miklos.

Tragic...

R43 pills and alcohol. He was found in his bathtub

R28

Following pretty much spells things out.

Whatever student or employment visa Arpad Miklos came to USA upon originally does not last forever. At some point original would have expired and need to be renewed for him or anyone else in similar situation to be in USA lawfully.

People do come here on student visas then either drop or flunk out of whatever program they were in; long as they can get into another approved educational program before initial visa expires there aren't problems. It's same with employment, people come here to work for "X" company, but before visa ends they are terminated for whatever reason. If their visa is still valid can find another employer, and that should be end of things.

Good number of student visa holders don't leave USA either upon graduating from program, and or otherwise leaving. If they cannot get student visa renewed or whatever they just remain in USA as basically illegal aliens, though in their case term "visa overstay" is used.

Employers normally won't touch someone without a valid visa, but popular route is simply to find an American citizen to marry, then file for an adjustment of status via marriage.

Other worry people like Arapad Miklos had was post 9/11/01 changes in immigration laws imposed serious consequences for visa overstays. Depending upon how long they had been out of status or other factors such persons could face being barred from entering USA for three, ten years or permanently.

This meant essentially such persons could not do what most had done previously, go in and out of USA as they pleased.

Many were gobsmacked when leaving USA has their passport stamped "No Reentry for "X" years". This or being taken off a plane bound for USA because when passenger manifest was sent to US customs and immigration their name was flagged.

the amount of times I jerked off to his videos...he should have been a millionaire

He was a whore. It ain’t a great life.

Just idly wondering, in r44's link there is a Hungarian speaker who posted a lot and called him "Ferko" (Frankie I guess). I thought his name was Peter Kozma. Does anybody know if that was his real name? And yes, I realize this isn't relevant to anything, I was just curious.

I also agree with what some other posters had said. Surely if he was afraid of deportation, he could have found someone to marry him. His face, body and cock were certainly the stuff my dreams were made of. By 2013 gay marriage was legal in NY.

Suicide is a fucked up thing. And according to r45's link, "Roman Ragazzi" had a loving boyfriend. Sometimes no matter how happy somebody might seem on the outside, I guess you never what's going on inside.

Who knows? That may have fed into the depression Milos was feeling.

Guy was nearing 50 likely looking at doing porn and or escorting for rest of his life, well long as he remained in USA. His Social Security payments (if any) likely would have been small. NYC is an expensive place to live and unless he was socking away money for retirement what sort of like would AM have in his 60's or 70's?

"By 2013 gay marriage was legal in NY."

Yes, but until DOMA was done in by SCOTUS federal benefits weren't available to SSM couples, and that included immigration.

Sure, there would have been likely no small number of men willing to marry AM, but flip it around; it would mean for next ten or so years until finally granted US citizenship AM would be on hook to his husband.

" "Roman Ragazzi" was a sad tortured soul. Apparently he was sexually abused/molested as a child/teen by a family member (uncle?). Then came the whole nasty outing of him which cost his job.

Now that you mention it r53, the story about him being molested sounds familiar. What a damned shame. On the other hand, if you're afraid of being outed at work, doing porn undisguised probably isn't the greatest career move.

I would've let him play Anne Frank and hide from the immigration folks in my attic. He could've paid me with nature's credit card.

It was the New York Post that outed Dror Barak. He was a then current employee of Israeli consulate in New York (IIRC) at the time.

He would have been 55 this year.

If he was depressed about being a porn star, he didn’t live to see OnlyFans. He would have just been a DILF.

Didn't Adam Faust also kill himself right around the same time as Roman and Arpad? What was that abput?

R56, JOBMAN, get your bitch ass off of Datalounge! Can somebody put a hit on this troll already

Adam Faust died of a heart attack after years of being addicted to meth. He was visiting his parents and his father found him dead. Based on what I've read, though, he wasn't using at the time.

Physically he was my dream man.

So much so that I'd forgive the fact he was a porn star.

If memory serves me correctly it was reported as being due to depression.

As far as I remember, he killed himself because he was in his mid-40s and didn't have anything to his name, had definitely broken up with his long term boyfriend (who was meant to be the love of his life) and was having financial problems due to the fact that he had to compete with increasing numbers of younger men in the escorting business, not to mention that his straight-for-pay scene did have a negative impact on his image and he wasn't getting much porn work when he needed it the most.

I remember that I read an interview in which he mentioned that most of his family members had already died, so I imagine that he also felt that he didn't have anyone to whom he could turn during difficult times, and that exacerbated his depression and anxiety over his situation. It's pretty sad, if you think about it.

[quote] no it's not it's pathetic. Conversion therapy much? Stop posting that homophobic shit.

You're obviously severely mentally ill, and deeply unhappy, nevertheless I will be kind and answer your post : 1) it IS hot, it gives them that het glow that we all love. 2) people do whatever they like, within the boundaries of consensual adult behaviour, pron isn't activism, it's entertainment 3) nothing wrong with conversion therapy, if people want to try that, why not ?. 4) I'm sorry you hate yourself so much

Arpad Miklos had tons of friends, maybe he felt was "alone" in this world, but that wasn't case far as one can see.

As for money Miklos gave away quite a bit of his earnings to various causes. Going forward though yes can see at age 45 looking down that barrel of time....

[...]

It's too simplistic to claim he killed himself because he might have been deported and as he was in middle age he didn't have many prospects.

A good immigration lawyer could have fixed much of that.

The underlying disease was depression. All the rest just made it worse.

He was depressed about not being able to cum out as heterosexual, which he realized he truly was.

One of his close friends confirmed it back then.

R69, but he apparently has a long term boyfriend. He could easily have come out as straight if he wanted.

OMG.

Most people working in porn have issues. How is it difficult to see that?

R71, exactly.

The suicide (or at least early death) rate seems awfully high in that industry.

[quote]nothing wrong with conversion therapy, if people want to try that, why not ?

I love this place.

[quote] nothing wrong with conversion therapy, if people want to try that, why not ?

Let me guess, conversion therapy is just fine but trans isn't real...

Gay male porn stars are as messed up as transgenders. 🤷‍♂️

There is a common thread that links all of these deaths, but it's not drug use, nor is it HIV, nor is it immigration status, nor is it just merely the fact that they're porn models, but it is related to all of these seemingly arbitrary coincidences. Every one of these deaths is linked to and by one porn maker who carelessly (literally) used and discarded each of these men. The sad thing is that there are so many wrecked lives linked to this man; these deaths barely scratch the surface He's no longer in the business, thankfully, having been driven out of the industry, but is still alive. He should be a ward of the state, but it would be impossible to prove that this former porn "mogul" (in his own mind) is at the center of this sad series of deaths and personal destruction, so his only accounting is that his name is mud and he lives in shame never to be mentioned in connection with porn again.

Grifting, dumb porn whore killed itself… and the world lost nothing of value.

[quote] Every one of these deaths is linked to and by one porn maker who carelessly (literally) used and discarded each of these men.

Name names!!

And what did he do exactly that caused these models to off themselves?

It's weird that he chose Arpad Miklos as his stage name when his real name was Peter Kozma.

Did he specifically want a more exotic stage name?

Omg

R67, could you at least try being subtle in your W&W-and-refresh-athon? Yes, I'm sure that I am a lying motherfucker who deserves to die but you're very transparent.

[quote]It's weird that he chose Arpad Miklos as his stage name when his real name was Peter Kozma.

I think "Arpad" was more familiar since it was the name of a character on "Head of the Class." And "Miklos" is also a well-known name (see: composer Miklos Rozsa). Both make him sound more Hungarian to American audiences.

What I find interesting is that his real surname is almost the same as Traci Lords' birth surname (Kuzma.) Is there something about that name that leads to a porn career? Is it the ancestral family business?

[quote] It's weird that he chose Arpad Miklos as his stage name when his real name was Peter Kozma.

What's weird about it? Maybe he didn't want people back home easily finding out he was doing gay porn. Only a fool becomes a gay pornstar using his real name.

What was on Arpad's iPad?

So amiable.

[quote] "Gay" men who fuck women deserve to die.

wow. I find that really disturbing. I find this age of accusation and the need to condemn irrational. I find the level of hatred that people express about views that differ from theirs, and the violence of language towards others, disturbing.

Arpad knew how to destroy a twink's hole

Rumors said Arpad suffered from deep depression before he committed suicide.

Even Jake Cruise says that Arpad Miklos was not gay.

On his old website, Arpad said that when he was in his home country, he only fucked girls. It wasn't until he came to the USA that he became "gay," i.e. Gay For Pay.

He was a heterosexual man.

Topping Colby Keller

That was Arvid, r82.

R60 both fakegay POS.

[Quote] wow. I find that really disturbing. I find this age of accusation and the need to condemn irrational. I find the level of hatred that people express about views that differ from theirs, and the violence of language towards others, disturbing.

The same guy also wishes death to trans children on DL

Sadly his porn is obsolete because it’s condomed sex

If he was straight, why didn’t he just do straight porn?

[Quote] Rumors said Arpad suffered from deep depression before he committed suicide.

Thanks, CAPT Obvious

"If he was straight, why didn’t he just do straight porn?"

Gay porn and escorting pays better....

"Even Jake Cruise says that Arpad Miklos was not gay.

On his old website, Arpad said that when he was in his home country, he only fucked girls. It wasn't until he came to the USA that he became "gay," i.e. Gay For Pay."

I'll buy that!

Very few of eastern European men in gay porn or even doing escorting are actually 100% homosexual. Most are in fact straight, and this includes good part of current and past stable of actors on sites like Bel Ami.

Fernando Nielsen who seemingly loved all sorts of gay sex on screen apparently has long since married (to a woman) and had children.

Same can be said of all those Russian guys on OF and Instagram; they know where the money is, and it's the gay market.

He was a heterosexual man."

"What's weird about it? Maybe he didn't want people back home easily finding out he was doing gay porn. Only a fool becomes a gay pornstar using his real name."

Back in day Bel Ami and other eastern European gay porn producers would tell actors that content wouldn't be shown in their native country. Well that didn't last long as rise of technology allowed anyone even in remote villages internet access. IIRC there was one Bel Ami actor who was a fireman or something who was outed for his gay porn work, and it didn't go well for him at all.

He had a string of boyfriends and his social circle was almost entirely gay.

He may have had heterosexual experiences, but the evidence overwhelmingly shows that he was gay.

Some loon on this thread seems fanatical in her delusion that he was "a heterosexual man."

"It's too simplistic to claim he killed himself because he might have been deported and as he was in middle age he didn't have many prospects.

A good immigration lawyer could have fixed much of that."

Miklos immigration status may not have been a huge contributor to his mental state, but it likely did play some role IMHO. There was nothing a "good immigration lawyer" could do for Arpad Miklos if immigration had him in their crosshairs over his continued student visa status.

Again as noted above post 9/11/01 US immigration began to tighten things up in regards to visa overstays and or those abusing system in aid of setting up permanent residence.

Only ways out for those with visas like Arpad Miklos would be adjustment of status via someone sponsoring him for employment, or marriage.

Arpad Miklos was in USA for two or more decades on whatever visas. How fucking long was he supposed to be a "student"? You cannot pull that one on US immigration forever.

Like Anthony Gallo, I preferred his earlier movies.

I can't say I ever think much about a performer beyond their hard cock and ability to make me cum, but he was in a Kristen Bjorn movie where he was wearing a suit, tie and hat and his face, and approaches a solider. His look, his face, his expressions....he would have been a very easy man to fall in love with.

"He had a string of boyfriends and his social circle was almost entirely gay."

Well once you've got both feet firmly planted on that slippery slope...

Hahaha!

Life got hard and his dick wouldn't? 😪

[quote] wearing a suit, tie and hat and his face,

should be *and his overcoat

(because, uh, everyone wears their face)

No mention here yet of Wilfried Knight? He committed suicide, too.

I still jerk off to a scene he did with Arpad.

Jake cruise didn’t say that he said he tried the straight fit pay scenario but it didn’t work because of the backlash.

Arpad said his first experiences were with women but he didn’t really connect with women and started cruising and calling gay hookup lines in his native Hungary.

Some of you are so full of shit.

Did he apply for Einstein Visa like me?

Yeah, like Jake Cruise is someone people should automatically believe. 99.9% of anything that comes out of a gay porn star's mouth when claiming he's either bi or G4P is a lie. A LIE!

I just want Zack Randall to live forever.

Should never have touched pussy, he would be alive today. Why did he do the straight porn if gay porn pays better?

R110

At some point either gay or straight porn actors often lose their edge so to speak. They've been around long enough and aren't "fresh" or "new" as once were, so they don't get sort of work as previously. This usually leads to them busting down ranks of productions that normally wouldn't have been up their street.

Gay porn actors doing trannie, female and whatever else they can get comes to mind.

Much like prostitution gay porn actors (maybe porn in general) have a shelf life. Best money and buzz comes when someone is new. After a decade or more while some may have a loyal fan base, there is always a fresh new crop of actors arriving weekly.

Lord knows Austin Wolf has hit any and almost everything to keep his career going.

[quote] After a decade or more

A decade? 99% of gay pornstars are washed up hasbeens after 2 years. They may keep on working but their days of getting star billing and being on the DVD covers are over. And the days of what they called gay porn big money have been over for many years. Those $750 blowjob scenes or $1000 fuck scenes from 10 years ago are now $100 and $200 tops. And those were the top guys getting that kind of money back in the day. Only for a tiny few was gay porn ever a full time career.

Probably one of the best summing up of things regarding Arpad Miklos have read so far.

It does give lie to fact AM was having financial worries. Earning $125k per year isn't to bad for an "illegal" alien in NYC.

As some may already know, and opinion piece points out few porn actors survive by that alone. Escorting usually goes hand in hand as a side hustle for majority of porn actors then and now.

See? I was right about you gays all along!

Goodness, has it really been nearly 10 years since he died? Wow.

Time flies when you're having fun...

Or,

Life is what happens when your busy doing other things...

I miss Roman Ragazzi more

Arpad was a friend of mine - I was never a client. He was intensely private and didn't share a lot of things about his life.

A few things - R51 - his real name was Ferenc Peter Kozma. His nicknames were either Feri or Ferko. I think Kristen Bjorn advised him to not use "Feri" since it sounded like "fairy". In Hungary, like China, family name comes first. So on his official documents his name would have been printed Kozma Ferenc Peter. He chose to be called Peter in the U.S. He was Ferenc, Feri or Ferko in Hungary. He had a living brother who came to the U.S. after his death.

R76 and R78 is referring to the former porn actor, producer and "manager" Collin O'Neal aka Shawn Loftis. He was Arpad's partner in the early aughts and brought him into the U.S. around 2003. Arpad wrote me that he came to the U.S. to be with Loftis but that Loftis is an asshole. They broke up and Arpad had nothing good to say about him and neither did others in the adult film industry. I wouldn't be surprised if Loftis also induced or manipulated Arpad into working as an escort.

Loftis also brought Roman Ragazzi/Dror Barak into gay porn in his "World of Men" series. He is a toxic individual. He strikes out at people after they reject him and was likely the source for the NY Post article about Ragazzi/Barak being an employee at the Israeli consulate. It was a supremely unnecessary and harmful article since Barak was just basically an administrative assistant. Losing his job also meant that Barak also had immigration problems concerning his work visa.

Within a year of his taking his own life, his long time partner (who he had met at a Dance at the Piers) had broken up with Arpad/Peter. They remained friends but the longtime partner (a very sweet person) moved on to another relationship with someone not in the porn business and eventually married that man. That added to Arpad's depression. Arpad messaged the former partner on the evening of his suicide early in the morning and the partner didn't respond since it was the middle of the night. The next morning the former partner read the message and was disturbed. He asked a neighbor/friend to check on Arpad who lived in the East Village. When there was no response, the former partner still had Arpad's apartment keys and he came into the city and opened the door with the neighbor/friend. They found Arpad deceased surrounded by liquor bottles and pill bottles. BTW: Arpad was not an alcoholic or drug user. Clearly he was stockpiling painkillers in order to take his own life. It probably had been planned for a while. He not only had back problems but also leg/knee issues that required surgery and also got him prescriptions for opioids.

His body was cremated and the former partner spread his ashes in a state park in the mountains where they had hiked together.

He was a kind and gentle soul who treated people well. He was a gay man. He is still loved and is missed.

Thanks for sharing the story with the rest of us, R118. As we can see, people are quite complex and God knows why they make the decisions they make. All I can say is that I am glad that he had devoted friends like you.

I think he probably killed himself because he was unhappy.

99% of the stuff here is funny, bitchy or nasty, and that's why we're here, but every so often somebody posts something really good and/or insightful. Thank you for posting that, r118. God I wish somebody had been there to give him a big hug that day. It's lame to think that would have changed anything, but you never know.

And as far as the destructive porn mogul, I was sure it was CCLR or ML, even though I think they are both still in the business. I remember a story about O'neal/Loftis getting canned from being a teacher over porn, so I guess karma still works in some ways. Hopefully he's a better person now (lol).

There have been many reports that Arpad was a meth head. R118 is covering up Arpad's drug addiction and heterosexuality.

Not to hijack the thread further, but as incredibly sexy as Roman Ragazzi was, I always remember him having problems cumming in his videos. Either he didn't cum at all, or all of a sudden it would cut from his face to him stroking his cock with white stuff (which could easily have been lotion) already on it.

I wonder if the childhood abuse had anything to do with that.

Oh, and kindly fuck off r122. Thanks!

R122, WTF is your damage?

I believe R122.

Two of his scenes always do it for me - a Jake Cruise scene where Arpad is lying on a table and has his body worshipped from head to toe by Jake (feet sucking, legs-up ass eating, dick sucking, j/o etc.), and another where Arpad and another guy are in a room performing auto fellatio on two separate beds. Arpad ends up splooging all over his own face and then walks over to the mirror and licks his reflection as some of the cum on his tongue drips down the mirror.

This scene always does it for me!

Notice how much Arpad can't get enough of tongue-kissing the girl, while in his "gay" scenes, he rarely kisses the other men.

He just fucks them, most likely thinking about women in order to stay hard.

[quote] he seemed so cool and easygoing,

Clearly he was not.

[quote] No mention here yet of Wilfried Knight? He committed suicide, too.

Wilfried's case was so sad. He was a genuinely nice person, and could not be together with his husband before Obergefell, and when his husband killed himself while they were in Canada and he was faced with having to go back to his natvie France (where his family did not accept his sexuality), he killed himself afterwards.

The rumor is that the husband's suicide note urged Wilfried to join him in death.

Wilfried and his husband liked to go to gay clubs in Portland, so you could regularly see him there and go up and talk to him. He was always friendly--he wasn't there to be picked up, or to find a client, or to hobnob only with the A gays--he just liked being around other gay men.

I think the "Arpad is a straight" troll is the same one who says that Carl Nassib is pretending to be straight. He has a thing for calling gay men straight.

Thanks for reminding us about O'Neill, R118. That wasn't who I'm referring to at R76, but O'Neill was caught up with the self-anointed mogul which led to his downfall... not necessarily a bad thing when one bad person destroys another bad person, but it is a tragedy when the bit players (like Arpad and Roman, to name just two) get caught up and pay the price. And that's the thing: there are so many bad people involved in porn and specifically gay porn, where it seems you have to be a bad person to achieve any success but ironically that success ends up destroying everyone involved. I mean, Chi Chi leaves a string of dead boys beginning with Joey Stefano; Lucas, a Russian whore, has spent years trying to convince everyone he's not a Russian whore,leaving a trail of wreckage; and then there's the whole do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do crowd that wrecked gay porn (resulting in, paradoxically, the industry being dominated by the very people they tried to wreck, at least until OnlyFans came along and democratized porn star wreckage).

Pretending to be gay.

It seems to be the way many porn stars go.

^^ Most go straight, yes.

Collin O'Neill was not an attractive man. He had the squarest head this side of Minnie Driver.

[quote]I think the "Arpad is a straight" troll is the same one who says that Carl Nassib is pretending to be straight. He has a thing for calling gay men straight.

Cheryl is back!

Collin O'Neal (not O'Neill) was the teacher in Florida who got busted for appearing in gay porn.

Shawn (Colin) squeezed every bit of juice he could out of that story. He was a substitute teacher not full time staff and I think he may have discussed his career with a student or students. They tried to revoke a credential where he couldn’t teach anywhere else in Florida but there was not grounds to do that, but realistically there was zero chance he would be able to go to another district and he didn’t really want to.

"it can't be the reason "

R6 How the hell would you know? Did you read the suicide note? Were you his friend? no.

R118, if he was a gay man he wouldn't have been fucking that woman. Did he tell you why he did it?

Yes, r118, DO explain that.

[Quote] I think he probably killed himself because he was unhappy.

Sherlock Holmes has arrived

Straight men fuck men on camera for money so why wouldn’t a gay man fuck a women—maybe to extend his career to a new genre

I have an Arpad Miklos Beach towel from American Apparel/Butt Magazine. I was never able to bring myself to use it after he committed suicide. He was so hot.

R118 here. R144 I have the same beach towel and I also never use it. Arpad said that he had a better shot from the Butt Magazine layout that they could have used but they used a bad photo. BTW: Arpad was very self-critical and also self-denigrating about his looks. I think he was the type to get even hotter as he aged (like Sean Connery) but we will never find out.

As for R140 and r141, the trolls have arrived and I should not engage. That one scene for Jake Cruise with the porn actress was one scene. Look at Arpad's list of credits on IAFD - 137 and they may have missed a few in a nearly 20 year career from 1995 to 2013. There are 136 or more scenes with men, there is ONE scene with a woman. Arpad was very uncomfortable discussing that scene. The female model was taken with Arpad, loved his dick and how he used it and reached out to him to hook up again. Arpad did not do so. Then he began to be attacked online and on his personal phone and email accounts by psychotic obsessed misogynistic trolls. It got so bad that Arpad had to make a public statement and these boils on the butt of humanity even went to almost every online chat board that covered his death to say things like "He was dead to me when he fucked that fish". You need to move on. No one else cares any more.

The fact is that Arpad was a dick for hire: as a prostitute and porn actor he had to have sex with people he was seriously not attracted to all the time. You have to get into a head space to be able to do that, especially as the active penetrating partner. He had the ability to do that and it worked for a while. You can see him really working inside his head from his facial expression in that straight sex video. It must have gotten harder over time and tired.

Arpad outside of escorting was known to use sex apps like Manhunt, Grindr and Scruff to find partners - they were always male. Usually hairy cub types and he loved beards and red hair. Seth Fornea would have been the perfect bottom for him. He was no stranger to heterosexual sex having had girlfriends in Hungary and maybe even a fiancée. There was a close female friend in Hungary who he directed to be informed of his death in his suicide note. She may have been that former fiancée.

Anyway, psychotic troll - that video was one brief blip in a long stream of homosexual encounters. And by the way, many women love gay porn and gay men and were thrilled to see that scene and also many gay men love straight men and fantasize about them and were thrilled to see their gay hero explore his straight side. It was a gig and he was a professional. It meant nothing to him. It seems to mean too much to you.

Get a life and please don't bother to respond. You didn't know him and you never will.

You CLEARLY didn't know him at all, making up lies on the DL.

[quote] No mention here yet of Wilfried Knight? He committed suicide, too.

Yes, Knight followed Miklos, just a month or two afterward.

R130, maybe he's also the one in the Steve Grand threads saying how Steve is straight and is married to a woman.

There seems to be this strange push around here lately cheering on the fetish of gay guys fucking pussy. I've come to the conclusion that Jobman34 is the owner of, or at least a fan of, those weird Twitter "Gay To Straight" accounts.

Has he ever bottomed ?

[quote]He was a substitute teacher not full time staff

So?

r149 Not on camera.

Shawn Loftis teaches in Florida schools.

Looks like a nasty bit of work.

Doesn't pay his rent...

He was the typical homophobic bisexual porn whore. Condom for men and no condom for women, burn in hell bitch.

The only performer that I miss is Roman Ragazzi who killed himself as well, It's sad because he was actually gay and hot, RIP.

Pictures from Arpad's memorial at G Lounge. All kinds of colleagues were there - you see Jesse Jackman and Dirk Caber are pictured. There were many others - Rafael Alencar, Vito Gallo and many others paid their respects.

No he doesn’t r152. The article is a decade old. He got his certification back as it was unlawful to try and revoke it, it made him eligible to be in the substitute teacher pool, but hiring him was at the discretion of the school districts.

He didn't kill himself. The ghost of Bobby Kennedy murdered him. Trust me.

R153, if he hates republicans he can't be all bad.

Considering that is in Arizona, it's probably the wrong Shawn Loftis, r154.

It's funny when you watch that straight video,r145, the girl is clearly REALLY into it. That's probably another reason people were pissed off at the guy - there were other gay guys who did those SG4GE videos, but it was clearly a joke, like Steven Daigle. Unfortunately Arpad's porn professionalism worked against him there. He played the straight role so well, I think for some dumbasses it implied gays could fuck women just fine, assuming they put their mind to it. Also the gay condom/straight no condom was a huge thing.

Does anybody know if Arpad bottomed in his private life? I remember some escort clients saying he would, possibly for more money. But I wonder if in his real life he was top, bottom or versatile.

R161 Just correcting you, Steven Daigle was always bisexual IRL even before of this scene, in a webcam site he said he was bisexual.

Whores always lie, darling.

R118, he didn't have to take the gig, he could have turned it down. The fact that he lived as gay then did this movie, proves the man was inauthentic. And why would I as a gay man give a fuck about some woman getting off on this. It's appalling to me you think that gives him a pass. What the fuck is a straight side? You mean the fact he wished he were straight? That he was fakegay? Everything in your explanation is a diss of gay as misogynistic. It's also laced with homophobia. I'm not a misogynist because I want see a gay hero fucking MEN and not women. And you are really just confirming him as a homophobic bisexual. Reread what you posted.

R145, it only takes one video to show conversion and make a mockery of gay sexuality. It only takes one video to suggest that gay men choose to be gay and can unchoose it at will. You can't escape the undertone of conversion therapy. And pandering to women is just pathetic. His death was karmic justice for the giant shit he took on gay men.

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R74 Neither are real, they both serve the same homophobic purpose. Dumbass.

[Quote] he didn't have to take the gig, he could have turned it down.

He was pushing 50. He wasn’t turning down ANY gigs

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Good lord, some of you people are toxic. He has sex with one woman and you act like he's Hitler. Do you have purity tests for everything in your life?

R169, it's not toxic to expect a gay man to be gay. Take your homophobia elsewhere.

But, it IS toxic to get all assholey because a lot of men have sex with men AND women.

R171, I think that the negative response comes from the vociferous proclamations of homosexuality that many of these men make, as well as the claiming a gay identity, only to then turn around and not only show that they are bisexual, but accuse anyone who doesn't enjoy it or want to participate in it of being "narrow minded", "prejudiced" and "no better than homophobes who hate gay people" because, according to them, gay people have the obligation to accept everything and anything without question.

Now, if you support someone and help them to both reach and maintain fame (well, as famous as gay porn models can be), I suppose that it must be unpleasant to hear someone say that their homosexuality is a choice, that dating/having sex with women is part of normal homosexual behaviour and anyone who disagrees with it is a bigot... All the while, making disparaging comments about gay people, which does often happen.

Now, I understand that the response is a bit exaggerated but, then again, so are the claims made by these bisexual men, as well as their open disdain for "exclusive" homosexuals, don't you think?

If some straight woman were to get all upset that her husband had sex with another guy, once, and if she said "it's not toxic to expect a straight man to be straight," people like R170 would laugh at her and congratulate the gay guy who managed to land her husband.

I'm 100% gay, Kinsey 6, I have no desire whatsoever to have sex with a woman, but I'm not going to demand that every other gay man be exactly like me or else they can't be gay. It's a spectrum whether you like it or not.

[quote]their open disdain for "exclusive" homosexuals,

Their what? Where are you getting that from?

darkmingelord is PISSED!

Arpad Milquetoast

R173, if they are not like you, how are they gay? You're just pandering to bisexuals here. Part-time gays are BISEXUAL dumbass. Bisexuality is a spectrum not being gay. If they are still attracted to women or have that desire, THEY ARE NOT GAY.

R176 is unhinged. She must be getting ready to retire that old, ratty minge of hers. 🤷‍♂️🖕

The Magyars are a notoriously melancholy group

6 months before Arpad died I was on the 59th street platform waiting for the D when I saw this tall, well-built man about 20 feet away. The man's jeans clad ass was Beyond. Spectacular.

As the man turned, I saw it was Arpad and did a double take. He knew I recognized him and he gave me the sweetest smile. I was so sorry when I heard he died.

The furor over his scene with a woman was beyond insane. There was a younger guy who did a Chi Chi LaRue scene with a woman; his career was then all but finished. I cannot think of the guy's name but he was HOT ...and a US citizen. A few years ago he reappeared to get a Lifetime Achievement award and looked quite handsome. I don't recall his name!!

But back to Arpad. It was not that long after he died when Michael Lucas began filming only bareback scenes and started a "Daddy" series of films. I remember thinking Arpad, if he was HIV+, would have had a whole new market for his taken.

R.I.P. Arpad.

Being HIV+ and porn acting does not seem to be a huge deal as it was in past, or maybe have things muddled.

Alam Wernick is "positive" and that seemingly hasn't slowed him down.

R180, we now know U=U and have PrEp

DARKGEMINILORD you are my new favorite poster here.

Bi supremacists should follow Arpad path.

So whatabout guys like Dante Colle, and Aspen, they fuck anything that moves, and don't get as much shit as guys like Arpad, or Jaxton Wheeler, why the double standard ?

Jaxton Wheeler is a hot mess, and the straight porn community seems lukewarm.

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Jaxton is actually a lovely guy, I had very nice conversations with him on his OF, he's very sweet

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OK DARGEMINILORD. you have quite the reputation in here BTW, What exactly did you do ? do you drain pasta or something ?

DarkMINGElord is DL's biggest (and fattest) cunt.

Dark MINGE Lord is young and passionate.

If you want to split hairs, guys like Jaxton, Aspen, Dante Colle, Michael Del Ray, Donte Thick, and Pierce Paris have never claimed to be gay in the first place. (Aspen and Donte T. are, in fact, married to women.) They deserve a little more credit for honesty than ostensibly gay guys jumping on the cool-kids bandwagon.

Pierce Paris is a homophobic goon with an ugly spongey dick.

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R196, PREACH, it makes me sick when some gay men are the first to defend this bullshit done to our own people.

r197

Gay is just an adolescent phase on the way to Straight.

Fuck off Jobman, your death can't cone soon enough

There are bisexuals on onlyfans who films their gay partner having sex with women, I did regreted what I see, one of them got extremely uncomfortable, it's disgusting, they are as much our enemy as straight homophobic people.

#DROPTHEBT

R145 Gay males don't have straight side, anti-gay cunt.

A: Bisexuals are disgusting, we all know this

B: There is not a single person who chooses a life in porn who is not extraordinarily mentally disturbed. That they kill themselves so often is about as shocking as discovering that vodka makes you drunk.

Which performers, r201???

I wanna see!!!!!!!

There is a Helix performer called (a DL Fave) 'Seth Peterson', and he's interested in fuck pussy, He's another fake gay to the list, (another Arpad like.)

JOBMAN34 go for LPSG your place is not here, mentally retarded freak, blocked already.

I'll be glad when CGI porn becomes indistinguishable from the real thing.

Good grief, it's just porn. He was a porn ACTOR. People that choose porn as a career are just fulfilling fantasies for consumers. I don't understand the obsession with these actors personal lives.

No R207, these people proclaim their gay status on social media and then do an about face, it's another fuck you to gay people.

Seeing old school "gay" whores like Brent Corrigan, Mason Wyler and Colby Keller fucking pussy, words of whores mean absolutely nothing.

Arpad was clearly enjoying himself in his hetero humping.

The GAY life is what killed him.

Muriel, can we get a permanent ban on this bitch JOBMAN

He was a prostitute.