My mom is dying and I am home to be here with her

take the "dose" in the fridge for yourself.

Just sending love and light to you, OP.

nothing tastes as good as skinny feels

Can I have her stuff?

OP, this manner of death is supposedly very peaceful; don't know how much of her faculties your mom has but she's likely comfortable.

Sending you much love and aloha, OP.

OP, I've been with both parents when they passed. As difficult as it is, being with them was a great comfort to me as I grieved. Sorry you have to go through this.

We love you OP. Congrats to Mom on transitioning back to spirit.

You will never regret the time you are spending with her, and will treasure those moments forever. Your being there with her brings her a sense of peace, comfort, and joy. This is where you are intended to be, and where your Mom wants you to be.

"Snap out of it!"

Hugs to you, OP.

R7 is so right. As hard as it feels, there is nobody your mom would rather have there. Be strong for her and it will bring you peace. Hug her, hold her hand and remember those things. I'm sorry.

Talk to her. Sing or play songs that she liked. Hold her hand. You're very lucky to be given this chance even though you are distraught now. When you look back on this time, you'll be glad you were there.

I am sending you a big hug, OP.

Know that you are doing the right thing, that your mother will truly appreciate you being there, and that you will look back on this time with a certain pride and even fondness.

Your mother knows she is loved by the one she has always loved the very most, even before you were born. I can't think of a better way for her to go out, and for you to find closure.

You are a good person.

Sorry to hear it. Must be difficult.

Tell her you love her.

Crying as a write this, but I sat and sang, "You are my sunshine" to my mom because she sang it to me. Show her your love.

qvc.

No words. Just be glad you're able to be there for her. Make sure she's aware (to whatever extent she can be aware) that you are there. Say whatever you need to say.

Wishing nothing but peace for your mom. And for you as you both make this difficult, but unavoidable transition.

Stopping eating/drinking is a sign that she is near the end, OP. As hard as it is--and it's torture--stay with her as much as you can thru this. She knows you're there and knows you are helping you thru the transition. You will be so grateful you were there after she dies.

Hold her hand and tell her nice things or sing to her at the end. Hearing is the last sense to go. She'll know you are with her and it will make it easier for her to let go.

I sang Edelweiss to my dad as he was dying. It was our special song. He died just as I finished singing it.

So glad you are able to experience this with her. A blessing for both of you. Be well.

Play some songs if you have any of her favorite music, or just play some mellow stuff. It's hard, this journey, so whatever you need to be kind to yourselves.

It sucks while it's happening but the fact that you're able to say goodbye will be something meaningful for you.

PS: Don't be surprised if she takes a moment you leave the room to actually....well, leave the planet. This is a common thing where dying people hold on while loved ones are around, but when they leave the room, even for a moment, they slip away. Know she stayed as long as she could.

I’m so very sorry, OP. I can only imagine what you’re going through. It sounds like she is at peace. I’m sure it feels like an inhale you can’t let out right now. I hope you’re not there totally alone all the time. Is there someone you can call and talk to during this? I know you must not want to miss a second second while she’s still alive but having someone to reach out to at some point could help you greatly. Again, I’m truly, truly sorry. So many people have to go through this. On the plus side, she isn’t having a tragic passing or is stuck on machines.

Why impatience? You mean for her to die and so you can go back to living your life without being bothered with your mom? I hope not.

Peace and love to you and your mom. See if there is any seemingly insignificant thing you can do that will make her remaining time seem normal and a little bit better. Is there a TV show she likes? What is her favorite album? Is there a newspaper or magazine she always reads, or does she have a favorite author? Put on her show, play her music, and read aloud to her. Also- this is important - eat something while you're with her, it will be your last meal together whether or not she can still eat, and you need to keep up your strength.

BTDT, OP. Remember, hearing is the last sense to go. Even when she appears nonresponsive, she can hear you. So talk about things you know would make her happy. Tell her the stories about her childhood that she told you. Tell her stories about fun things the two of you did while you were a kid. She'll remember her oldest memories most easily.

And tell her that everything is fine, she can slip away and join her parents, husband, siblings - anyone who passed before her - whenever she's ready. She probably senses them gathered around welcoming her. My mom's hospice nurse told me it's so common for the dying to greet and talk to their predeceased family members. She also told me it's very common for the dying to wait until they are alone to die. She said it's like they want or need that alone time to finally pass over. So don't feel bad if you aren't there when she passes. Most likely that was her decision.

Go work with Alec Baldwin, OP. He will take care of you.

Sending all the love and peace to you and your Mom, OP. As others have said, this is the hardest thing but you are doing the right thing. Tell her all the things you need to say, tell her you will be ok and she doesn’t need to worry about you.

Take care of yourself too and remember we, your pointless brethren, are always here (unless it’s bloody primetime!).

When my Semitic mother died, I told her I loved her then she farted in my face. Then FLATLINE.

I agree with those that say that if you have a friend or partner to let out your feelings to, then do it. It's what friends are for. Also make sure that you self-care during this time. Don't neglect yourself.

How sentient is your mother? Can she talk? Talk to her. Get those stories that will go with her. Also, what you are doing is important to you as a family. It is the right thing. Many people don't have that - your mother does.

At a certain point she will probably be sleeping/unconscious most of the time. So take this window to share with her - words, songs, whatever. Sending love and light your way.

I love you Op, I’m thinking about you.

My mother died in May OP. What I learned was I needed to surrender and accept that this was the end.

My mom was ready to pass and I had to quickly learn that I wasn't in control of the situation.

I have a good therapist and even better friends. My only brother was awful so that made it harder.

She was at Mass General and had the best care available. Everything that could have been done was done.

You must love her enough to let her go. There will be regrets, but we're only human and that's O.K.

if she is not suffering think abut how lucky you are that you don't have to watch her suffer and that you get to be there with her at the end. No one wants to be alone at the end so she is lucky to have you.

If she can speak, record her voice.

My guru says it is the voices of those we lose that fade fastest, to our later regret.

I worked in a nursing home while I was attending college. Whenever a patient on our unit was in their final stages, we had an agreement that if a family member or friend was unable to be there, we would make sure that one of us would be in the room with them so they would not die alone. Reading your post, OP, brought back many memories, and I was happy to be able to do this. It also reminds me of sitting with my dear sweet mother. Almost 5 years, and I still miss her. Be happy you can do this.

❤ Love to you, OP

Words of wisdom? Stop making up stupid threads in your desperate need for attention (based on your other posts)

Sending love and a big hug to you OP. I’m sorry you are going through this and I wish you and your mom peace ❤️

You area a good son and a good man. Make her smile and comfortable. Remind her of all the family and friends that she will soon see again. Tell her she was a good mother and person and the world is a better place because of her. Hold her hand. Keep telling her everything is going to be beautiful and she will be so happy and no longer in pain. Peace to you. We're here. Keep us posted.

OP I am so sorry for this sad point lll time you are going through . I agree with those who say you will be glad you were there for hour mother at this point . Maybhappy memories sustain you in the difficult days ahead

I am so so sorry OP I just went through this with my dad. He went into hospice last Thursday and just passed away a couple days ago (he died on Sunday 8/7). It's hard, but hospice was amazing with my father and he died peacefully. I hope the same is true for your family.

I'm wiping tears away as I type. I went through this with both of my parents, OP. It's been twenty years since my mom died just three weeks after her 60th birthday. Lots of great advice and wisdom here for you. Just follow your gut and do whatever you think is right. Don't second-guess your choices or decisions.

Hang in there, and take care of yourself, too!

Love to you, r41

"I'm wiping tears away as I type."

R42 Why so fake? You are 100% not wiping away tears.

You are a doing an act of grace. So sorry. She is proud of you.

Fuck you, R44. Reading through all the posts brought back a lot of memories. Some of us have emotions and cry. Clearly your alien masters didn't brief you properly.

All good wishes, OP. See it through so you're proud, because loving another is one of the things you really should be proud of. xo.

OP, I have a book I think you’d really like…

Hugs, love and thoughts of peace to you and your family. I know where you are and was there July 2020 for dad and January 2021 for mom. Peace.

I suspect that several posters are wiping away genuine tears as they post their thoughts, and remember those particular moments when they lost their precious Moms.

I was ....... Twice

👽 You're a mean one, R44.

Just being with your mother at this time means the world to her.

As Jewish people say, you are a Mensch.

As others say, you are doing God's work.

As I say, you're a good man, OP.

Sit with her, hold her hand, and talk to her. Tell her how much you love her. Keep talking. Hearing is the last thing to go.

R50 "I suspect that several posters are wiping away genuine tears"

No, I'm just not fake and spouting platitudes. I'd bet $1000.00 you are not "wiping away tears," dear.

Start writing a book.

#thoughtsandprayers

Sorry OP. It's horrendous what you're going thru. Mom died from stomach cancer and it was frightening seeing her deteriorating in front of my eyes. Love and keep the faith OP

"Let me make this story about me"

"You are a doing an act of grace. So sorry. She is proud of you."

R45 good god, listen to yourself. Seriously read what you just wrote.

R52 is a LIAR.

👮 HE'S JUST TRYING TO GET YOUR CREDIT/ DEBIT CARD NUMBER.

R58 One day, you will grow up.

My mom died in December so I feel your pain. Just don't be too hard on yourself, you are doing the best you can in the moment. And remember, your relationship with your mother is life long. Your relationship is not just one period of time, but the entire experience. Just that you are there with her is beautiful.

"May we please make this conversation about me?"

R60

You're a mean one, Mr Grinch - Is it beause your dick is half an inch? - You're tore up from the floor up - You're hateful to the core - You're a whore, R44!

" See it through so you're proud, because loving another is one of the things you really should be proud of. xo." R47 You are not ok, really - tell your therapist about this post.

Trolls must have mental health issues. I lose any respect for people who can't show empathy where it's due.

R64 Same with fake people "omg I'm crying"

OP, I know someone currently going through the same thing. I wish it was easy. I really wish you weren't going through this. I'm so sorry for you.

OP, I don't know you, and it's highly likely you are making up this story, but I want to make it about me, because I am very lonely and sad. " So - thoughts and prayers, I am crying, my heart is broken, dear god, help us all." I'm not really, but I'm so sad and lonely, I wish everything could be about me."

I've been there OP. Sending comfort and hugs. It's part of life, you will get through it. I had to authorize taking my mother off life support , they had her on drip med that kept her alive temporarily by boosting her blood pressure, but it was only a matter of time. She was religious so I managed to get a priest in to give her her last rights. After they stopped the drip she was gone within 30 minutes. Be with her, talk to her, hold her hand. She most likely will know you're with her even if she's not awake.

What r27 said. I was told the same thing by nurses when my father was dying. It makes sense to me, because I’d wait to be alone, not having a bunch of sad people watching me!

It is a very difficult thing you’re doing, but it’s also an honor. She brought you into the world.

Hugs, OP. I can’t comment without getting weepy, but I understand the emotions. I hope your mom is comfortable, and that you feel comfort in knowing that.

OP I went through the exact same thing with my father and when it happens, you'll be ready (as will she). Don't leave her side, stand guard and know that you're doing the right thing by her. When she's gone, allow yourself the opportunity to mourn and grieve. That's the best advice I can give you. I bid you peace in this very precious time.

OP if may make this story about me, please. Your mom, blah, blah, blah, but more importantly MY mom...

My mother died alone. My daddy basically abandoned her twenty years ago. She was morbidly obese and had the diabetes. My daddy was MSM - not closeted - and preferred huntin and fishin to takin care of her. She lived in a separate room in the ranch until he kicked her out in '98. Then it was hospice care till she passed in 2008 from complications from the diabetes. They'd amputated both her legs and her right hand by then. She couldn't stop the eatin. She done at herself to death.

I know there’s nothing I can say to make this time easier, OP, but I’m so sorry for you’re going through this.

This one really hurts

R71 "I bid you peace in this very precious time."

#thoughtsandprayers

Who gets her stuff?

She is home. She has 24 hour care; she has been bed bound and incontinent for two years. She has dementia, but is with it enough at times to still make me laugh with her dry wit.

I have been playing lots of show tunes, classical, and big band stuff. Also some hymns. I found her old poetry textbook from college and read all the poems that she had marked up to her. I rub her feet and brush her hair and scratch her head.

A couple of times a day, I get a smile or a few whispered words. Otherwise, she is silent. She hasn't opened her eyes for a few days.

How old is your mother? Is she dying young or is it at somewhat of an appropriate age to pass on??

[quote] I am cycling through so many emotions--sadness, fear, impatience, anger, helplessness, hopelessness.

Yeah, why are you feeling impatient? You want her to die more quickly?

Think only of what's happening in the moment. Bring love and comfort into the room with you. Try to find some minor joy in all your remaining moments with her. Even if that's just holding hands or listening to music together in silence. Every moment you spend thinking about the future is robbing you both of time together while you have it. There will be plenty of time to deal with the awful aftermath.

Not sure if you're religious OP but - let go and let God.

Feed her some pineapple, tell her what a whore she was for sleeping with your husband, and wrap the IV cord around her neck like it was an accident. You don’t need six year old sluts ruining your………

Sorry, meant to post this on another thread.

All mothers are angels and their daughters whores. Glad you had a saintly mother and she had a wonderful, son like I do

OP, this would be the time to tell Mama what a shit she was calling you 'my little fag' as you were growing up. She can't run away so get it all out. A bottle of tequila will help you articulate your thoughts.

Lean in close to ensure she hears/sees/smells you.

Bless.

R84...You are clearly damaged.

See if you can get your mother to sign a special codicil in your favor of you OP, her best little boy who’s been devoted even to the end.

OP, I went through this.

Sort of. It was during the early days of COVID so I wasn't able to be there at the end.

I had the option of flying 3K miles across the country, renting a car, driving to the hospice, being put in a hazmatt (sp?) suit and gone into the room.

She could have died while I was en route. I could not have stayed with friends or family b/c of COVID and if I left the room while suited up, well, that's it. You have to leave and you don't come back.

I still dream about her about three times a week; she's somewhere -- at a doctor's appointment, in her dining hall at assisted living and I have to get her to safety. And then I wake up and I realize she's gone.

I wish I had more to share with you. Be grateful you can be there at the end. Tell her anything you want to even if you think she can't hear you. You never know.

Later...surround yourself with people who love you. And don't go out and have grief sex b/c there's not only COVID but also Monkey Pox.

Just know that people you love may leave this planet, but they will never leave you. They live on in your memories. Blessings to you.

I have been there and it is tough. Be careful of other family relationships as the stress and grief is high and bad words or actions at this time may never be later repaired. Be patrient with others and watch your own behavior. Be careful of the martyr syndrome or the "I know what is best for Mom" attitude. You don't. At this point, it doesn't matter and she desrves peace and the peace of mind that her family is intact. It will take a long tine to get over the experience and, dpeending on your age, you may never do so. If you cann, enjoy the time you havre left witt your mom, if you can, like watching an old movie. I still have happy memories of the last time I heard my mom laugh while doing so. She was dying but could still laugh.

I needed this first thing in the morning??? It immediately brought back memories of watching my beloved grandmother and my father die. It hurts beyond belief to watch them pass,but it will indeed be a comfort to you after to know you were there. We all should be so lucky to have someone there we know loves us. Just remember as horrible as it all is now,it will pass and you will feel better eventually. Maybe not for a while,but it will ease off. Big hug to you Op,and to quote Ghost,"the love never dies". I love my grandma as much today as i did 15 years ago when she passed. But damn if I havent been crying reading this thread!

Hospice is there to help YOU get through this as much as to help your Mom have a peaceful transition. Lean on them with your questions and concerns. They are among the nicest, most noble people I've ever dealt with. They made the situation so much more bearable.

There is a 'Hospice Nurse Julie' on TikTok who is truly wonderful and very informative and comforting.

I feel your pain OP. There's really nothing I or anyone can say that can make the pain go away. It's just something most of us have to endure. But know that it will be over soon and your mother will be in a better place. Be happy you are able to be there with her as she makes her transition to the next phase of her being.

Been through this twice. ❤️ Sending compassion your way.

I dont know...i think i would rather be alone at the end, not with people that iwas leaving behind . I think it would make it harder to let go.

OP, I groan and cringe at someone posting here about a personal problem, the anonymity of the site and the stated "pointless butchery" being tips that this ain't the place to share sufferin. People need not bother themselves and us here about matters of pain and sorrow, because they'll get what they don't want.

When my mother was dying I didn't post about it here, but when she died I posted about my relief and resignation in the face of what life inevitably is, I made a joke.

Accept as much of what's happening as you can, get your rest and nutrition as much as is possible, and do the work of letting people know what's going on. THOSE people in your life are the ones to deal with, not us. And ask yourself why you're posting here now about it. If you have no one better, you have double our sympathy.

But, OP, while saying that, you do need to ask her immediately if you can have her stuff and make sure you have a full SOFT pillow handy if things drag out. Key Point: Be gentle but firm, and NO BRUISES and watch the nose.

I wish someone had given me that advice when I could have used it.

You are right to be with her every minute. That is all she wants. The fact that you are truly with her, 100%, will make you feel much better later on.

R96, will you marry me?

OP, our culture doesn’t do well with death and we need to change that. This is the circle of life, it is a sacred time to watch her life complete the full circle, it truly is holy, and it is a gift to us. If we didn’t know the agony of loss, of longing, of sweet memories, we would never truly experience things like gratitude, contentment, joy or compassion. This experience is going to grow you spiritually.

Then what happens is you will (eventually) meet someone going through the same thing, and you will get to share all your learnings and wisdom with them, and you will tell them someday it will be their turn to do the same. It’s how we pay it forward and build a better tomorrow.

You are doing a great thing by being there. Give yourself breaks if you need them, and when you have a chance, I recommend journaling about it. Write down what’s happening and how it makes you feel. Share with a trusted friend when you’re able, that person needs to be an awesome listener.

I am sending encouragement and hope your way, peace OP. You’re a good egg.

It's so rare for a child to outlive a parent, isn't it?

I missed being there for my mom's actual passing. I was supposed to travel to see her the following week.

She died in the middle of the night in a hospital, because the dumb hospital moved her out of a 24 hour ICU to a ward where they'd check on her every two hours.

She'd been suffering and her death was a mercy. We'd said what needed to be said, and other than the dumb hospital, I am at peace with her passing. I just wish she'd been able to be here to see a few beautiful things that happened after her death. But we have no control over any of that.

This morning I was reading next to her. At one point, I looked over at her and she was giggling. Then, she opened her eyes for the first time in a week and looked up at the ceiling with a big smile on her face.

I just sat there watching her--she was clearly having some sort of experience that I didn't want to interrupt.

After a minute or two I said softly, "are you hearing something nice, mom?" She smiled and closed her eyes.

The nurse came and mom perked up a bit and answered a couple of questions with her eyes closed. She's been out cold for the rest of the day today.

I feel really lucky that I was there for that moment, to hear her chuckle and see that beatific smile.

^ this. Those are the moments that matter. You can carry it in your pocket and take it out whenever you like.

We are spirit beings housed inside the body. All is mind and consciousness. Again, the spirit/soul is consciousness. When the physical body dies, it is the consciousness of the person which passes on. This is the truth.

Enjoy this special time.

[quote] mom perked up a bit and answered a couple of questions

But will she have the last word, OP?

Will she?

OP, I am sending you good thoughts. I have been there. Read these short pamphlets by Barbara Karnes. They were given to me by the hospice nurses when my mother was coming to the end of her life. They're enormously helpful and have helped millions around the world.

What kind of music does she like? Play it for her. Hearing is the last of the senses to go.

When I was a hospice nurse in San Diego, I worked in the home of a female patient whose husband told me she loved the movie of “The Sound of Music” so much, she used to watch it over and over. So, during the 3 days I was there, I played the DVD of it for her. I ended up playing it over 9 times, and instructed the night shift to do the same. It was what she loved.

There are so many ways of helping others be comfortable, way beyond just medication. Lavender bed baths and aroma therapy are wonderful. Whisper “I love you,” over and over. Love is the greatest balm.

When this process is over, you will have no regrets.

Op, that's the same way my mother died. I would take damp cloths and caress her face, she responded to that. Being there, talking to her, and gently touching aids in a gentle exit.

❤ To the great majority of posters on this thread, I am sending you my biggest and best hugs, and hoping you find your peace in knowing that you were there.

And, to the handful of heartless bitches who never seem to know when to keep their big mouths shut, I'm sending you a giant swift kick in the ass with my steel-toed sandals.

Can we have her stuff?

I have too much to say but I won't write it all now. I just saw this thread and I hope you are well. So sorry you are going through this.

Mom hasn't eaten for 8 days and hasn't had more than a sip or two of water per day in all that time. She hasn't had any water in the last 3 days.

Here's a hug, OP.

((((((HUG))))))

It's good that you are there for her.

Sing "Just a Spoonful of Sugar" and force some pills down her STAT!

A gentle “move it along, toots!” is in order.

Does she like fudge? Fudge will fatten 'er up!

(((Hugs))) OP

First Olivia, then Anne...and now your mom! OMG...

Be strong

I'll just say my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time, OP. I wish I could say something that would give you peace, and I'm truly sorry I can't, but just cherish the moments you have left with your mother. I know you have a ton of emotions but sometimes that can distract you from what's important. It's okay to feel whatever you're feeling, but don't let that take you out of the last moments you have with her. In the long run you'll come to cherish those memories.

Thoughts and hugs and blessings for you, OP.

Tell her you love her. She knows, but it's always nice to hear.

Maybe he doesn't love her, he just wants her stuff!

mom died peacefully a few hours ago.

thanks for the kindness.

My condolences, OP. Your mom was fortunate to have such a loving son. ❤️

Best wishes to you OP. Get some rest and know you were a great son and comfort to her. May she rest in peace.

My sincere condolences. It was good that you were there for her. Many don't get that opportunity.

So sorry, OP. She was lucky to have you, and you’ll never regret the extra time you had together ❤️

Been thru it myself, OP. I understand.

As R127 said, it was good for you to be there. Though I'm sure it was tough.

Sorry OP. Now is the time to bring out your widow’s weeds caftans. Jet earrings are also called for.

Mom actually loved giant earrings and caftans so it would be appropriate. She was glamorous.

Hi OP, adding my condolences to the chorus. Losing a mom is truly one of the deepest losses, and I send you peace. It gets better, but it will feel like a nightmare in the first weeks, so take care of yourself.

Where you gonna go now OP?

Lost my dad this week- f’ing excruciating. It’s rough. X

Awe. God bless you, OP, and you too, R134, and anyone else suffering through such shit. 🤗

Sending your hugs and love, OP. As others have said, this is hard now, but when it's over you'll be grateful and proud that you did it.

OP = Attention Mourner.....No thank you.

Have you looked for him R134?

^ Thanks R138 Forgot i was on DL

OP, just reading this. I am so gratified for you and your mother that you were able to be with her as she died peacefully. Thank you for sharing with us this journey.

This loss is always a hard loss. It can leave you feeling untethered to the world. Be well.

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

I can be hard. My mother deteriorated in front of my eyes. She had Alzheimer's. Having her scream who the fuck are you at me, your not my son..it was painful but I had to tell myself she was not always there. There were moments of clarity but it was so terrible. I hate to say be glad for having time with a coherent mother, but I will. We all will die, getting to spend time with her before she passes is a blessing.

Thinking of you OP, and you did the right thing staying with her.

I lost my mom on Monday - she was alone in the house, fell, and a relative found her. All I can think about is her being scared or in pain, and no one there to comfort her.

Your mom was so lucky to have you close by to read to her, play her favorite music, and share one last smile.

God bless you, OP. You and your Mom are so lucky to have each other. I was by my Mom's side when she succumbed to cancer. My two brothers, my Dad and I stood around her as she took her last breath in the hospital. It was a very touch and emotional time, but I am so glad we were all there with her.

[quote] OP, I've been with both parents when they passed.

Very suspicious...

You are brave. Love asks so much of us, I’m amazed anyone can do it.

Thank you for trusting us enough to post.

OP. So sorry for your loss. I see my mom every Saturday and she is source of joy and happiness for me. I hope that you are getting support for yourself. It will do you a world of good to talk to a friend (or a counselor). It will make the pain hurt a little less. Big hugs from up north.

I will save this thread forever. Thank you OP and posters.

My cherished, kind, beautiful, generous, and very loved 95 yo Mom died on July 28. All of her children were there as she passed in her house in her bed as she wanted.

One grandchild was there, the one who resembled her the most physically and emotionally. Mom kept squeezing her hand until she could no longer.

It’s just horrid to lose a Mom. I miss her so.

Meanwhile, my 97.5 Dad just keeps ticking along in his self-payed (9k/mo) PHX nursing home. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2012 but due to his WW2 service and devotion to physical exercise, his body works but his mind completely left 5 years ago. Had there been a compassionate exit in AZ he would’ve chosen it. At least the upscale nursing home treats him with dignity.

It is so hard to lose a parent. I’ve had such a flood of memories of my sweet mommy who was always there with unconditional love.

I’m so sorry for your loss OP. Sending you love ❤️

R142: "I can be hard."

Ah, OP, I am glad to hear your mother was surrounded by so much love. I appreciate your update and hope your mourning is merciful. I'll pour a little out for her tonight.

Ah, R148, I thought you were OP, but I wish all of the sons of treasured and lost mothers the same.

OP/R148 I am sorry to post so late but I am glad your mom's passage was all the things it could be, for you and for her.

Lots of light and love.

Oops. I see OP is not R148 but nevertheless, all comments still apply.

OP and others, I hope you're doing well.

My mom's been gone for a while now, and my siblings and I are being asked to provide testimonials to an attorney as there was an issue with her care.

I expect nothing to come of it.

I'm mentioning this because my sibs have nothing to say. In contrast, I am likely going to cut open a vein. The disparity in our recounts will only serve to divide us further.

Thanks for making us all puke, repulsive cunt OP. Blech.

^ Don't allow that rancid cunt to bother you, OP. Laugh, bubs - laugh.

R155, I don't know what you're talking about. But I took care of my mom before she died. My siblings helped, but I was the main person, IMO. I hope that things level out for you and that you start to feel more at peace about how it all played out. Sounds like you have nothing to regret about how you treated your mom and that's what counts, IMO.