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Alicia Silverstone: "I still share a bed with my 11 year old son"

Alicia Silverstone is elaborating on her unique parenting practices.

In an interview for The Ellen Fisher Podcast, the Clueless alum, 45, shared that she and her son Bear, 11, still sleep in the same bed together. She also opened up about the “elimination communication” technique she used when Bear was a baby in an effort to potty train him early.

“Bear and I still sleep together,” Silverstone said. “I’ll be in trouble for saying that and I don’t really care.”

The actor went on to describe motherhood as the “most unbelievable experience in this world,” explaining that when Bear was first born, she wanted to “savor every moment of his life.”

“I wanted to have more [babies], but then my relationship got messed up and it was not a great time to bring one in,” she said. “I didn’t want to have one right away because I was so in love with my Bear. I wanted to squeeze every little moment out of him so it wasn’t until he was 3 that I was ready to make another baby — and then I didn’t have a partner, so that’s why I don’t have four babies.”

Silverstone shares Bear with ex-husband, musician Christopher Jarecki. The two officially divorced in 2018 but continue to co-parent their little one together.'

The Crush star, who’s spoken publicly about the benefits of being a vegan and raising her son vegan, also touched on using the “elimination communication” method, pointing out that Bear "never went poop in a diaper again after 8 months."

As written about by Yahoo Life in January, elimination communication, or EC, as described by an American Academy of Pediatrics journal article, is a potty-training method "using the infant's natural timing and cues to recognize when they need to defecate or urinate." By identifying these cues, caregivers can “coordinate elimination in the toilet rather than in a diaper."

Silverstone, who started practicing EC with Bear at 6 months old, said she found immediate results by immediately placing baby Bear on the toilet when she was done feeding him and after he would wake up from a nap.

“Babies wake up a lot and babies eat a lot, so if you just practice putting them to the bathroom after that, that will knock out half your diaper usage,” the actor added of the practices that worked best for her.

Picking up a baby's unique cues for when they need to go potty, she added, is a fun part of the process.

“There was a period of time where I was watching him naked and watching the cues,” she said of Bear. “The cues part for me was really fun because I thought that he was flirting with me because he would do this little smile. That’s when he had to pee.”

Despite whatever criticism people have of Silverstone’s parenting — from veganism to bathing with Bear in the tub or allowing his hair to grow long — the actor said “every choice I make is either built on instinct or deep research.”

“Nurturing this little monkey and having him, you know, I just wanted to do what was healthiest for him at every turn,” she said.

The actor has been unapologetic about the important lessons she wishes to instill in her son. Last year, Silverstone spoke to Yahoo Life about how she encourages Bear to be "whoever he is in his heart and soul."

"I know that innately it is my job to be his teacher, but I think we mostly teach by example," she said at the time. "I’m not running around shouting and getting angry and telling him what to do; that’s not how he is. I see children who get very angry and throw tantrums a lot, and you look at the parents and it’s not much different. They have to look inside themselves to see how they’ve got there.

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by Anonymousreply 109July 24, 2022 4:14 AM

"He sees his momma not necessarily doing what the masses are doing and really questioning things, really thinking about things and looking at things through a magnifying glass, and trying to create peace for everyone," she added. "His dad lives very differently, so he gets to have the whole picture. He can pick and choose and be who he wants to be. I love the idea of not imprinting on him. If you stay out of the way, they’ll teach you. They’re so magical. If you give them the space to be their whole selves, they’re so confident in who they are. They’ll teach us who they are and what they need."

by Anonymousreply 1July 21, 2022 1:20 AM

Oh, yeah.

Sounds perfectly normal Lol.

by Anonymousreply 2July 21, 2022 1:20 AM

Why do people make these kinda statements? She's asking for trouble.

by Anonymousreply 3July 21, 2022 1:22 AM

Poor kid is going to be traumatized for life.

He is going to have major mommy issues.

And you wonder how men get so fucked up by their mothers.

by Anonymousreply 4July 21, 2022 1:25 AM

Get back to me when she slips him the tongue.

by Anonymousreply 5July 21, 2022 1:30 AM

Enmeshment, covert incest. There's ICD codes for what she thinks is best for her little monkey.

by Anonymousreply 6July 21, 2022 1:31 AM

Emotional incest.

by Anonymousreply 7July 21, 2022 1:34 AM

At least he's not Bearina.

by Anonymousreply 8July 21, 2022 1:35 AM

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by Anonymousreply 9July 21, 2022 1:35 AM

“It’s so cute when he wakes up with his morning erection pressing into my back.” Silverstone said.

by Anonymousreply 10July 21, 2022 1:36 AM

R9 Occasionally if he's scared of monsters or whatever it would be fine, but once he approaches puberty I think that should be a no-go.

by Anonymousreply 11July 21, 2022 1:37 AM

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by Anonymousreply 12July 21, 2022 1:39 AM

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by Anonymousreply 13July 21, 2022 1:42 AM

He will have to start using a rubber by then for sure.

by Anonymousreply 14July 21, 2022 1:42 AM

Alicia is a hippy dippy goofball. California must have the patent on them. Leave her be. I will always love her for Clueless!

by Anonymousreply 15July 21, 2022 1:45 AM

Why do we need two threads on this?

by Anonymousreply 16July 21, 2022 1:45 AM

[quote] there is nothing wrong or weird about the fact that an 11 year old boy still sleeps in the same bed as his mother.

R9 = Norman Bates.

by Anonymousreply 17July 21, 2022 1:46 AM

[quote] There is nothing wrong with that. He is still a boy.

In seven years, he'll legally be an adult.

You're insane.

This is WRONG.

by Anonymousreply 18July 21, 2022 1:47 AM

I got the impression that Alecia’s father fucked her up. He seemed obsessed with her . She’s not well

by Anonymousreply 19July 21, 2022 1:49 AM

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by Anonymousreply 20July 21, 2022 1:51 AM

It's wrong and confusing to a growing child of either gender and he'll resent what she did when he's old enough to grasp the situation.

by Anonymousreply 21July 21, 2022 1:51 AM

She’s objectifying him and using him as narcissistic supply .

by Anonymousreply 22July 21, 2022 1:52 AM

Been there, had that done.

by Anonymousreply 23July 21, 2022 1:53 AM

Raised with such instinctive superiority, shitting into a toilet by 8 months old and yet he'll still turn out to be a drug fucked moocher by the times he's 18.

by Anonymousreply 24July 21, 2022 1:53 AM

She’s also a vegan for political reasons . Pretty insufferable

by Anonymousreply 25July 21, 2022 1:55 AM

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by Anonymousreply 26July 21, 2022 1:56 AM

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by Anonymousreply 27July 21, 2022 1:58 AM

She looks great. Blondes usually age like shit.

by Anonymousreply 28July 21, 2022 2:00 AM

He'll probably end up hating her.

by Anonymousreply 29July 21, 2022 2:05 AM

"Who's baby are you, Batgirl! Batgirl!"

by Anonymousreply 30July 21, 2022 2:45 AM

What's the trouble? He'll be fine.

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by Anonymousreply 31July 21, 2022 2:48 AM

AS IF!

by Anonymousreply 32July 21, 2022 3:05 AM

Imagine a single father boasting he still slept and cuddled with his 11-year-old daughter.

by Anonymousreply 33July 21, 2022 3:09 AM

We'd love to cast them on an upcoming season of "I Love A Mama's Boy."

by Anonymousreply 34July 21, 2022 3:10 AM

I read an article years ago about how she would chew his food and put it in his mouth, when the baby was learning to eat solid food. I was so grossed out over that. She’s nuts.

I have two sons who were sleeping in their beds by the age of 3. Of course, there were times we slept in the same bed, because of bad thunderstorms, or illness, or nightmares. But by the age of nine or ten, they had stopped asking.

I can’t imagine what she’ll be like when he starts to date, move away from home, grow up. She’ll be a nightmare, and he’ll end up hating her.

by Anonymousreply 35July 21, 2022 3:42 AM

Fucking gross. She’s also an anti-vax Earth Mama. Thanks for the measles outbreak, fruitcake.

I hope she set aside some of her acting $$$ for her kid’s inevitable therapy bills.

by Anonymousreply 36July 21, 2022 6:34 AM

Saggy titted tofu mama.

by Anonymousreply 37July 21, 2022 7:07 AM

[quote]Picking up a baby's unique cues for when they need to go potty, she added, is a fun part of the process.

I think we have different ideas about what constitutes "fun."

by Anonymousreply 38July 21, 2022 7:13 AM

Alicia, look at what happened to Ricky.

by Anonymousreply 39July 21, 2022 7:35 AM

I grew up in poverty and had to share the bed/bedroom with various family members throughout my childhood. I'm not saying it's affected me but it's not a good situation: it's criminal that she's actually choosing this despite having the resources to avoid it.

by Anonymousreply 40July 21, 2022 7:46 AM

She may mean well but the comment about her watching the toddler's naked body and him flirting with her is really gross.

As is this.

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by Anonymousreply 41July 21, 2022 12:23 PM

She’s sick and needs help

by Anonymousreply 42July 21, 2022 2:05 PM

There were serious rumors that she is gay and can’t deal with it .

by Anonymousreply 43July 21, 2022 2:05 PM

My younger brother slept in my (single) mom’s bed until he was around 12. He had a bad habit of not being able to sleep alone—he’d sometimes sleep on my floor as well. He grew out of it, but to this day he has trouble sleeping if his girlfriend is out of town or away, and he hates being by himself. I am the oldest in my family and never had trouble being alone—I was very independent and to this day enjoy my alone time.

I didn’t find this story all that strange initially, but she really lost me when she said she thought her son was “flirting” with her when he had to go pee. No matter what she meant by that, “flirting” is an extremely bizarre word to use when it comes to your child.

by Anonymousreply 44July 21, 2022 2:18 PM

Why does everything she does have to be so weird and so extreme. Is there a term for this type of compulsive behavior? Just attention seeking. First she wasn’t just a vegetarian she became a vegan and spouted it to anyone and everyone like she was the second coming of River Phoenix. Then the stuff with chewing the food for her child and now this…

by Anonymousreply 45July 21, 2022 3:10 PM

Bump

by Anonymousreply 46July 21, 2022 4:23 PM

Does anyone remember being 11? I do. The last thing I would have wanted was to share a bed with my mother.

by Anonymousreply 47July 21, 2022 4:26 PM

This kid is probably bullied like crazy.

by Anonymousreply 48July 21, 2022 4:27 PM

She’s starting to give me Susan Cabot vibes.

by Anonymousreply 49July 21, 2022 4:28 PM

Worked for us!

by Anonymousreply 50July 21, 2022 4:30 PM

This boy is going to be a teenager soon, so he's going to start defying her and push her away. Once boys go through puberty, they want to get away from their parents and are disgusted and embarrassed by their mothers who try to show affection. It's perfectly normal as they want to hang out with friends and date. Little kids are affectionate and romanticize their parents. But once they become teens, they turn away and want to be their own person. Parents who deny this and try to prolong the early childhood dependency are creepy and give me incest vibes.

by Anonymousreply 51July 21, 2022 4:35 PM

Imagine procreating with this person and realizing what a total nut job is raising your kid.

by Anonymousreply 52July 21, 2022 4:45 PM

the way I see it, she's deliberately raising a "life companion," someone (who at 11 years old) has absolutely no independence and must be dependent on her for everything. I wouldn't be surprised if this kid has 0-1 friends and is homeschooled.

It sounds absolutely weird.

by Anonymousreply 53July 21, 2022 4:54 PM

Is there a father?

by Anonymousreply 54July 21, 2022 5:07 PM

I get the vibe that she is doing this stuff out of love, but it IS weird. She probably would have been fine if she’d had five kids. If you have five kids, you can’t obsess about all of them.

by Anonymousreply 55July 21, 2022 5:07 PM

Don't care..at least she ain't breastfeeding him @11..that would be weird

by Anonymousreply 56July 21, 2022 5:10 PM

This just reeks of wanting control over him. Let's get real, Alicia like many celebrities is a narcissist to a degree. She was in that rich Hollywood bubble for a very long time. I don't think she's purposely malicious but she's very self-absorbed and sounds insecure to put this all out there. Love is just as much about discipline, forcing your child to do things they don't want to do and making them strong and independent to be able to take care of themselves. Parents that smother and overprotect raise weak-willed children who can't handle adversity.

by Anonymousreply 57July 21, 2022 5:49 PM

Some mothers just go too far

by Anonymousreply 58July 21, 2022 5:52 PM

She says the father is the opposite of her, so the kid gets to experience both types of parenting. He'll eventually do a runner like Rocco (Madonna's son) did. He'll reject her entirely and go to live with his dad full time. Tick tock. She has about 3-4 more years before he bolts.

by Anonymousreply 59July 21, 2022 6:41 PM

When I told you to call me Mommie Dearest.... I wanted you to mean it.

by Anonymousreply 60July 22, 2022 12:21 AM

Needless to say, Silverstone is divorced.

by Anonymousreply 61July 22, 2022 12:22 AM

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by Anonymousreply 62July 22, 2022 12:29 AM

[quote]You lot making a big deal out of her 11 year old BOY sharing a bed to sleep in with his mother, have more problems than her.

Perhaps, but one problem I (thankfully) don't have is being awakened by a sleeping 11-year-old's erection against my leg.

by Anonymousreply 63July 22, 2022 3:09 AM

r63 is right. Pretty sure at 11, Little Bear will be waking with some morning wood.

by Anonymousreply 64July 22, 2022 4:11 AM

“There was a period of time where I was watching him naked and watching the cues,” she said of Bear. “The cues part for me was really fun because I thought that he was flirting with me because he would do this little smile. That’s when he had to pee.”

What kind of white frau hell that when your toddler smile interpreted as "flirting" ?

by Anonymousreply 65July 22, 2022 6:29 AM

I truly believe that Alecia was molested as a child . Possibly her dad

by Anonymousreply 66July 22, 2022 2:30 PM

The comment about the father is a tell. She’s doing this to irk her ex, this has nothing to do with the child’s well-being. She’s an actress: “Me, me, me, me!”

Kids, even young kids, need privacy even if they don’t consciously realize it. She’s fucking this kid up.

by Anonymousreply 67July 22, 2022 3:59 PM

A handful of pebbles will really perk up your bedtime routine with Bear.

by Anonymousreply 68July 22, 2022 6:46 PM

Have a friend who did this. Kid is now in his 20s and has no identity separate from mommy.

by Anonymousreply 69July 22, 2022 6:49 PM

Her son is on the path to being one of those Mother's caretaker Dataloungers, rubbing lotions on dry skin, nodding to the growing litany of complaints and bitterness.

by Anonymousreply 70July 22, 2022 7:11 PM

That's an understatement....

by Anonymousreply 71July 22, 2022 7:34 PM

The real crime here is that there is an Eileen Fisher podcast.

How much is there to say about ugly kimonos for rich white ladies?

by Anonymousreply 72July 22, 2022 7:37 PM

I already had pubes when I was 11.

by Anonymousreply 73July 22, 2022 9:13 PM

It reminds me of Shia LaBeouf's creepy relationship with his mother. Such a well-adjusted adult, that Shia.

[quote]"If I could meet my mother and marry her, I would. I would be with my mother now, if she weren't my mother, as sick as that sounds."

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by Anonymousreply 74July 22, 2022 9:40 PM

[quote] I already had pubes when I was 11.

Don't worry.

Alicia will probably be pulling down Bear's pants and checking to see if he has sprouted pubic hair, on a regular basis.

Just like Terry Crews' mother did to him!

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by Anonymousreply 75July 22, 2022 9:42 PM

How did she get to be so crazy?

by Anonymousreply 76July 22, 2022 9:43 PM

I always liked her and felt she deserved a better career. She was wonderful and iconic in Clueless.

Instead we got that phony bitch Reese Witheredspoon.

by Anonymousreply 77July 22, 2022 9:47 PM

I loved her in clueless but she didn’t really impress after that. I think I read she turned down the Christina ricci role in the opposite of sex, that would have been a much better follow up to her clueless role than excess baggage and blast from the past.

by Anonymousreply 78July 22, 2022 9:49 PM

I like her too but it seems like she only appears in the news when she's discussing her weird parenting.

by Anonymousreply 79July 22, 2022 9:49 PM

She’s creepy and strange

by Anonymousreply 80July 22, 2022 11:56 PM

This is reminding me of the guy who felt compelled to share his son's journey of learning to masturbate. Be super creepy with your kid and then let the public know you're being creepy with your kid so she/he can be ridiculed, pitied, ostracized, etc.

by Anonymousreply 81July 23, 2022 12:58 AM

So much to unpack here. Also, she has either been molested or is actually the ditziest blonde ever who read a few books (all my methods are either ancient or well-studied, I didn't invent them - no I don't have the exact quote but it's pretty much that).

that kid is growing up with some heavy issues. can you imagine conversations when he is out of the house (if that ever happens)? "Yeah, my mom fed me already-been-chewed-food from her mouth as a baby; she also used to watch me "flirt" at her with a smile to potty train me."

Not to mention the psychiatry bills that will add up when he is beyond his teens.

by Anonymousreply 82July 23, 2022 3:04 AM

Nuts.

by Anonymousreply 83July 23, 2022 4:06 AM

The podcast is Ellen Fisher, not Eileen Fisher. Although if Eileen Fisher had her own podcast it would be interesting.

by Anonymousreply 84July 23, 2022 4:23 AM

R82, I second molested

by Anonymousreply 85July 23, 2022 4:26 AM

Hey, no big deal. Mia Farrow did the same thing with Ronan, and he turned out...I've talked myself into thinking this is a terrible thing.

by Anonymousreply 86July 23, 2022 5:05 AM

No children should sleep with their parents ever. This is bizarre and this crazy bitch is a classic narcissist. My cousin was raised this way and he hasn't spoken to my aunt for over 12 years. Children like that become either completely incapable of dealing with the real world or in the case of my cousin, aggressive and confrontational due to the smothering of the parent. In both cases they feel worthless.

Good luck with that, crazy cunt. This is the classical example of a selfish narcissist that should never procreate.

by Anonymousreply 87July 23, 2022 5:49 AM

[quote] It reminds me of Shia LaBeouf's creepy relationship with his mother. Such a well-adjusted adult, that Shia.

Labeouf's father is a convicted sex offender and pedophile.

by Anonymousreply 88July 23, 2022 5:58 AM

I get co=sleeping until 2/3 - breastfeeding.

i see how parents even invite kids with nightmares, etc. throughout their childhood.

but not a normal thing for her with her 11 year old son. fucking eww and WTAF. how does she even do this?

Does she still feed him bird food (already been chewed food)? does she still breast feed him?

It's weird outside of the occasional "I'm scared" type dream. She is a fucking weirdo.

by Anonymousreply 89July 23, 2022 6:52 AM

Let me show you an Instagram post of her French kissing her toddler

by Anonymousreply 90July 23, 2022 2:02 PM

He may even be older than toddler

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by Anonymousreply 91July 23, 2022 2:06 PM

She’s always been very strange with her son. I’m sure she still bathes with him too. She revealed that tidbit a couple of years ago.

by Anonymousreply 92July 23, 2022 2:43 PM

R91, she is in love with her son romantically it seems

by Anonymousreply 93July 23, 2022 2:45 PM

That's a very unsettling reel in the post at R91. But what the hell is that artwork behind them? I thought it was a sofa.

by Anonymousreply 94July 23, 2022 2:46 PM

She's not a good person. What 11-year old wants their famous parent letting the world know that they share a bed?

by Anonymousreply 95July 23, 2022 2:47 PM

She knows it's not right, which is why she followed it up "I really don't care."

Why anyone would want to be a celebrity is beyond me. They're all freaks.

by Anonymousreply 96July 23, 2022 2:49 PM

I asked her why she still slept with her son and she farted in my face!

by Anonymousreply 97July 23, 2022 2:49 PM

She lives in the hills in Los Angeles. Her poor kid is probably Ridiculed constantly by peers

by Anonymousreply 98July 23, 2022 2:50 PM

Her only priority is getting attention. This topic is the only thing that brings her press coverage.

by Anonymousreply 99July 23, 2022 2:50 PM

She looks haggard .

by Anonymousreply 100July 23, 2022 2:50 PM

[quote]Her only priority is getting attention. This topic is the only thing that brings her press coverage.

She's a bit like Hilaria Baldwin who is constantly posting provocative pics of her kids. They know exactly what they are doing...it's sick

by Anonymousreply 101July 23, 2022 3:05 PM

Exactly, R101. It's the only thing they can do to get attention.

by Anonymousreply 102July 23, 2022 3:08 PM

Call me naive but going down a rabbit hole one day and seeing the horrific autopsy photos and cracked skull pictures, I immediately thought there was no way the parents could have intentionally done that. Ghastly.

by Anonymousreply 103July 24, 2022 3:05 AM

r103 - what?

by Anonymousreply 104July 24, 2022 3:08 AM

Wrong thread! Meant for Jonbenet thread!

by Anonymousreply 105July 24, 2022 3:13 AM

She has a bit of that Drew Barrymore thing going on with her mouth.

by Anonymousreply 106July 24, 2022 3:38 AM

She didn't grow up to be as attractive of an adult she was <25 years old, that's for sure.

by Anonymousreply 107July 24, 2022 3:42 AM

She’s still beautiful

by Anonymousreply 108July 24, 2022 4:03 AM

Agree to disagree. Something about her mouth. And her demeanor, as we've been discussing.

by Anonymousreply 109July 24, 2022 4:14 AM
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