Do you overestimate or underestimate your looks?

I imagine everyone overestimates their looks. I have never met anyone who underestimates.

I used to be hot but now I'm just old.

[quote]I have never met anyone who underestimates.

I have. Many straight men have no idea how sexy they are because they assume the same things make a man hot as make a woman hot.

I get hit on all the time by straight women, I don’t know how to take that.

It means you are a hot metrosexual, to them anyway. Enjoy the flattery, no matter what form.

I was never hot, but I got plenty of action.

I overestimated my looks. I rarely got the men I wanted. So I just stopped. Why go out with people who don't interest you? I wasn't just interested in sex I wanted affection too so I never did the toilet stall bathhouse thing.

I don't think its my looks exactly, but some combination of looks, presence, and style makes me very attractive to people. I get the royal treatment wherever I go. It wasn't always like this, so I know the difference.

[quote] It wasn't always like this, so I know the difference.

When and how did it change for you?

I think I do both. I read somewhere that you’re basically gonna find people that are about the same level of attractiveness as you most attractive.

I have a certain type (think Hopper form Stranger Things). But then guys that hit on me are crazy, stupid hot and a lot of times I’ll just flat out say “look, you’re out of my league. You can find a way hotter guy than me”. Plus, I can objectively recognize how hot they are, but they’re still not my type.

And then there are things that I know aren’t conventionally attractive like my big nose. But I love my nose. It makes me feel manly and masculine. Nobody has ever complimented me on my nose.

Then there’s my hair. I went prematurely gray. I’m almost white haired now. And my hair is really, really thick and I get told that by barbers all the time. I have the thickest hair to ever come out of a head. So I get compliments on my hair and the color (just because gray is still semi-fashionable and young people are bleaching and coloring their hair gray.). But I absolutely hate it. I’d say it’s my worst feature that I get the most compliments on. But I hate that it’s almost white at my age, I hate that it’s so thick it’s unruly and sticks up and out.

I’ve talked to stylist about coloring it. I don’t m want all over color that looks like shoe polish, so we’re gong to try low lights with a shadow root. My hair is short so my upkeep is going to be a bitch and costly. But I’d rather do that than plastic surgery.

If you're unhappy about your looks now, wait 20 years and look back at old photos. You'll be amazed how attractive you actually were and kick yourself for not taking advantage of it then.

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R10- Do a shadow root and a brazilian blowout treatment for manageability.

Yes R8 what happened or what did you do to cause the transformation?

apparently, the human brain sees you as 4 times more attractive than you actually are.

I tend to underestimate. Now that I lost weight, I’m fuckable, but I still have the fat boy mindset.

But but but i like fucking fat boys!

How do I know?

Agree with r11. I'm in my 40s and have always been insecure about my looks. I look back at photos of me in my 20s now and say damn. My grandmother used to say I looked like Tom Cruise and she was right. I wasted my prime slut years not being confident enough in myself.

I make it up with My deepthroating skills

R1 I underestimate my looks. I think it’s a combination of having a mother who never complimented her children and also me being realistic. I think I’m average. I know I have a reasonably good body (weight was never an issue and I’m proportioned well). Facially, I dislike my nose but the totality is pleasant enough. I dress well and am often complimented for my style. But I have no illusions at all that I’m some Mr. Universe. I’m decent enough and it’s a fine place to be.

I overestimate because I was hot and turned heads in my youth but now I'm fat and getting old.

Hard to overestimate my looks when I've been called ugly my whole life.

I don't get it. Do people call ugly people ugly to their face? In my experience, r23 ugliness is not physical but in the personhood. Don't worry about it. If you're a good guy, you are attractive.

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I can still attract men in my 60s but still critical of my looks. I'm always working on keeping myself healthy, sanitary and well-dressed. That should be enough.

R24 I was reading a reddit thread a few days ago that involved a 6th grade teacher who was told she looked like a "fat ugly penguin". Yikes. She laughed it off. Kids say the quiet part out loud.

I probably overestimate them a little. When I was young I'd say I was an 8 of 10. BUT I was a really good dancer and that got me a lot of guys who were 9s.

I never thought of myself as particularly handsome. One day I was on vacation riding the monorail at Disneyworld. There was an English family with a little boy who was asking all these questions the parents could not answer so I told them everything he wanted to know. He looked at me strangely and goes "you are a handsome man!" I smiled and laughed. He made my year.

It’s true that children will tell you unbidden if you’re ugly or attractive.