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Bad Overnight Guest

I had a terrible overnight guest this Fourth of July weekend.

He stayed Sunday and Monday night. He is 6'2 and probably 400+ pounds. He has been a friend for a long time, but I worry about his health.

I keep my apartment 77-78. Within the first thirty minutes of being in my apartment, he made a comment. He then asked if we could turn it down to 75. I did.

At night, he was a little loud and I heard him getting up a lot. The next morning he said he didn't sleep well because I kept my apartment unbearably hot.

We went out for lunch. The portions were big and I asked for a to go box. I said the portions were way too big to finish. He rolled his eyes. He was thinking about getting ice cream. We then went for a walk through Hermann Park. He complained on the heat and the distance the entire time. For dinner, I through out several suggestions, and he didn't seem interested.

When we got back, he said he would give me $20 to put my air on 74 because it was so unbearable for him that he was dying.

Also he stunk.

by Anonymousreply 231February 15, 2023 1:20 AM

UnBeAraBLy hOt!!!!!!

by Anonymousreply 1July 5, 2022 5:39 PM

Punch and delete.

by Anonymousreply 2July 5, 2022 5:40 PM

"I through out"

Oh, dear!

by Anonymousreply 3July 5, 2022 5:41 PM

R1 I am comfortable and it is my apartment

R2 What?

R3 Typo. Sorry

by Anonymousreply 4July 5, 2022 5:42 PM

Um, you’re an awful host. You have to consider what your guest can and cannot do. Lower the air for three days!

by Anonymousreply 5July 5, 2022 5:42 PM

Punch and delete = dump his fat, sorry ass.

by Anonymousreply 6July 5, 2022 5:43 PM

Why the hell would you go to Hermann Park? The heat index was 113 yesterday. If he's from a non-swamp-like city, then of course he was hot. I'm not fat and I like the indoor temperature a lot lower than 77-78.

by Anonymousreply 7July 5, 2022 5:44 PM

You SUCK as a host. I agree. YOU INVITED your friend, presumably. Humur him a bit. Indulge him with cold air. How much pleasure does he get in life? Are you EVER generous?

by Anonymousreply 8July 5, 2022 5:45 PM

[quote]He complained on the heat

He should have complained "on" you, oh, dear. But you're too thickheaded to hear it.

by Anonymousreply 9July 5, 2022 5:45 PM

* humor

by Anonymousreply 10July 5, 2022 5:46 PM

You still fucked though didn’t ya?

by Anonymousreply 11July 5, 2022 5:47 PM

I think I know your horrible house guest.

by Anonymousreply 12July 5, 2022 5:47 PM

forget the prep, just fuck a fold.

by Anonymousreply 13July 5, 2022 5:48 PM

He invited himself. He is from North East Texas, too. Not that big of a climate change. We had plenty of water and Hermann Park has a lot of shade. No I am closeted and he is straight.

I did humor him and I dropped my air to 75.

by Anonymousreply 14July 5, 2022 5:49 PM

Keeping the heat in the apartment at the level he can endure is absolutely your duty as a host. He's clearly not in good health.

I would find the stinking unbearable tho. I don't know if I could have someone over again who stank.

by Anonymousreply 15July 5, 2022 5:51 PM

Never mind. I don't know your house guest.

by Anonymousreply 16July 5, 2022 5:51 PM

I'm sure at 400+ pounds he really was terribly overheated. But really, if your place wasn't comfortable for him he should have moved to a hotel. On the other hand, you could have been a more gracious host.

The way you describe the friendship it sounds like you both dislike one another, so why was he visiting you, anyway?

by Anonymousreply 17July 5, 2022 5:52 PM

Turn the fucking air down you cheap bastard.

by Anonymousreply 18July 5, 2022 5:52 PM

He never gave me the $20...

R17 I was gracious, but he pissed me off. And I really don't know.

by Anonymousreply 19July 5, 2022 5:54 PM

[quote]No I am closeted

You sound closeted. Stay there. We don't want you.

by Anonymousreply 20July 5, 2022 5:54 PM

77-78 does seem hot for the summer. If you're hosting guests, you should do what you can to make them comfortable. If you don't want to make them comfortable, then don't invite people over.

by Anonymousreply 21July 5, 2022 5:55 PM

who keeps their house at 78? i'm siding with the guest

by Anonymousreply 22July 5, 2022 5:56 PM

R21 He invited himself.

by Anonymousreply 23July 5, 2022 5:56 PM

Leave him be. Fat people are always happier among their own kind.

by Anonymousreply 24July 5, 2022 5:56 PM

A pox on both of you. He is a pathetic whiner and should be more proactive about his smell and you should have put more thought into your guest. 77-78 is warm for many people. And I’d never take an obese person on a long walk in hot weather unless I already knew he was open to such things.

by Anonymousreply 25July 5, 2022 5:56 PM

Dude, it's Houston and you keep it at 78? I'd die and I'm not fat. Also, too hot to stroll around the park unless it's late night with a breeze.

by Anonymousreply 26July 5, 2022 5:56 PM

Okay, I just Googled Hermann Park. How are you surviving 77-78 in Houston in freaking July?

by Anonymousreply 27July 5, 2022 5:57 PM

Next time suggest he stay in a hotel and take him to an all you can eat buffet instead. People have different priorities when traveling. I have friends visit and instead of wanting to world famous museums or popular tourist spots, they wanted to go to the outlets and shopping malls. Sounds like Jabba The Hutt.

by Anonymousreply 28July 5, 2022 5:57 PM

Why did you agree Op ? You could have simply said "That time frame doesnt work for me" and went about your merry way. Has he always been so heavy? or did you meet him when he was lighter and "fell in love" ? Years later you are still hoping he will fuck you,am I right ? Otherwise,what could you possibly have in commo9n with a 400lb redneck ? Uh Hu,we see you Gurl !

by Anonymousreply 29July 5, 2022 5:59 PM

78 is 🥵. The worst are people who keep their downstairs thermostat at a certain temp and then are shocked the upstairs is hotter.

by Anonymousreply 30July 5, 2022 6:00 PM

I don't believe that anyone can invite themselves anywhere. It sounds like you're a pushover and a fussbudget and cheap and melting in that hot ass house.

by Anonymousreply 31July 5, 2022 6:01 PM

Is he a Bubba?

by Anonymousreply 32July 5, 2022 6:02 PM

I keep it on 77. I have a small apartment with black roller shades that keep my place cool and insular.

by Anonymousreply 33July 5, 2022 6:02 PM

what kind of loser faggot hangs out with a 400 pound stinky fatty?

by Anonymousreply 34July 5, 2022 6:06 PM

You shoulda opened a fire hydrant for him!

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by Anonymousreply 35July 5, 2022 6:06 PM

Your guest had a horrible host. You failed at every turn. Your responsibility was to help him feel happy and comfortable for two days.

by Anonymousreply 36July 5, 2022 6:06 PM

[quote]. . . black roller shades that keep my place cool . . .

Oh.

by Anonymousreply 37July 5, 2022 6:07 PM

Was he already a great big fat person when you met?

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by Anonymousreply 38July 5, 2022 6:07 PM

Maybe if you had turned up the AC your guest wouldn't have been sweating so much -and wouldn't stink?

by Anonymousreply 39July 5, 2022 6:10 PM

I'm also on a really tight budget. I can't afford to keep my AC super low. Every penny counts right now.

by Anonymousreply 40July 5, 2022 6:17 PM

Then you're in no position to entertain guests.

by Anonymousreply 41July 5, 2022 6:20 PM

At that temperature, the stay must have been hell.

by Anonymousreply 42July 5, 2022 6:21 PM

ewww, you hang with fat people?!!!!

by Anonymousreply 43July 5, 2022 6:23 PM

You could have AT LEAST turned it to 71 at night so your guest could sleep comfortably. I think $20 was quite generous of him to offer you for such a small sacrifice. I bet he has a message board where he's spilling some tea about his shitty, cheap host.

by Anonymousreply 44July 5, 2022 6:24 PM

OP, can we start a Gofundme for you to help you pay your light bill? You must be in misery at that temperature.

by Anonymousreply 45July 5, 2022 6:28 PM

[quote] He invited himself

No, he didn’t…that’s not possible unless you enable it. You brought it all on yourself.

by Anonymousreply 46July 5, 2022 6:30 PM

He was coming to Houston to stay with family and asked if he could stay a few days

by Anonymousreply 47July 5, 2022 6:50 PM

You could have said no.

by Anonymousreply 48July 5, 2022 6:51 PM

Clearly you should have smothered him OP.

by Anonymousreply 49July 5, 2022 6:52 PM

This thread may not be turning out as OP had hoped.

by Anonymousreply 50July 5, 2022 7:03 PM

This is a very grim story. OP is old, closeted, and too poor to pay for proper utilities. The fried is obese, stinks, perhaps poor as well, unwelcome at his families' homes, and has a closeted friend who is cheap about the friendship and hosting. It's really too much for me.

OP - do you have something you could sell? Madame Alexander dolls? Your hetero man hobbies that help cover in your life of masquerade? Guns? Stamps? Vintage girlie mags?

by Anonymousreply 51July 5, 2022 7:03 PM

OP for future reference use I'm doing some home renovations and can't have guests right now excuse. Or you could use my sick mother is staying with me.

by Anonymousreply 52July 5, 2022 7:05 PM

[quote] He was coming to Houston to stay with family and asked if he could stay a few days

Well, you ensured he won't make that mistake again, didn't you?

by Anonymousreply 53July 5, 2022 7:08 PM

I'm still in shock that you'd go to the park in July in Houston. He must have thought you were crazy to choose such an outing.

by Anonymousreply 54July 5, 2022 7:12 PM

Your guest doesn't sound like the best, but you're a shitty host. A summer air conditioning temperature of 77-78F is hot for a lot of people, not just your fat guest. How much money do you think you would be out to turn the temperature lower to accommodate the guest whom you invited for two nights? Turn the temperature down and wear an extra shirt if you have to.

by Anonymousreply 55July 5, 2022 7:18 PM

77-78 is crazy hot at night.

by Anonymousreply 56July 5, 2022 7:19 PM

Taking this big and already overheated man to a long walk in the park in July is not just rude, it's cruel. And OF COURSE he stank after that, you absolute ninny!

And the fact that you felt the need to come here and shit on him for asking the bare minimum of you as a host, and make fun of his body, makes me very glad that I'm not your friend. Probably he won't be for much longer too. Poor guy. He's probably not welcome at many places and you made him feel unwelcome at one more. Great job 👏

by Anonymousreply 57July 5, 2022 7:26 PM

Are Americans aware that perhaps billions of people around the world can sleep at night in household temperatures of 75-85? 85 is quite noticeable but 75 at night in Cairo, and across North African inner cities, is baseline. It gets cooler outside the city in the desert and in very early morning hours.

I mean if I lived in Texas I would keep it cool too but there are entire cultures that don't need to be 68F 24h 7.

by Anonymousreply 58July 5, 2022 7:31 PM

Yeah well who gives a shit about them,R58 ? They also live in dirt floored shacks. Life sucks bad enough,I'll be dammed if I'll sweat doing it.

by Anonymousreply 59July 5, 2022 7:35 PM

I wouldn’t be able to sleep unless it was 72 at night time.

by Anonymousreply 60July 5, 2022 7:38 PM

Ok a walk in the Houston summer heat was a bad idea but the complaints about 77 - 78f being too hot is confounding. As previous poster noted, not every indoor space needs to be air conditioned to artic levels.

by Anonymousreply 61July 5, 2022 7:39 PM

77-78? Are you a sociopath?

by Anonymousreply 62July 5, 2022 7:40 PM

R58 I get what you're saying, but in a high humidity state? A/C is supposed to relieve the awful humidity from the air. 78 degrees is "cooler" than the outside temp, sure, but when you can still feel that humidity in the air, it's stuffy and uncomfortable.

by Anonymousreply 63July 5, 2022 7:43 PM

Sounds hot. 67° is ideal in the summer

by Anonymousreply 64July 5, 2022 7:43 PM

yes R63 - humidity, that's why I said in Texas I would run the airconditioner. Dry heat, open windows, and fans are quite doable at 75-85

by Anonymousreply 65July 5, 2022 7:44 PM

My ac is set at 72 and I still have to have a ceiling fan. Can't sleep without one.

by Anonymousreply 66July 5, 2022 7:45 PM

Weight makes a huge difference when it comes to temp.

My partner took off 20 lbs last year. Suddenly, he understand why I’m always cold on our house. So if you’re taking an extra 200 lbs, I can only imagine.

by Anonymousreply 67July 5, 2022 7:46 PM

How much do YOU weigh OP?

A svelte 325?

by Anonymousreply 68July 5, 2022 7:47 PM

Did you keep the lock on your refrigerator those days, OP? Measure out 4 servings of toilet paper and hide the rest?

by Anonymousreply 69July 5, 2022 7:50 PM

This thread raises a long-burning question: To make a room cooler, do you turn the air conditioning UP or DOWN?

I suspect this may go the way of “What is the correct way to hang a roll of toilet paper”, but let’s find out!

by Anonymousreply 70July 5, 2022 7:54 PM

Oh My God! 78 degrees? If I were him I would have laid down on you and smothered you in your sleep!

My dad is old and has poor circulation and is constantly and keeps his house between 72 and 74 and my sister and I both agree it’s stifling. I keep my place below 70.

78 is just cruel.

And then you made a 400 lb man hike?

WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU?!

by Anonymousreply 71July 5, 2022 7:54 PM

[quote] We then went for a walk through Hermann Park.

He was able to walk easily at his size?

by Anonymousreply 72July 5, 2022 7:59 PM

78° is insanity, miserable. You OP are indeed a terrible host.

by Anonymousreply 73July 5, 2022 8:02 PM

You took a 400 lb person out to walk in Houston summer heat?

Why are you friends with this person?

by Anonymousreply 74July 5, 2022 8:04 PM

Obviously this is an elaborate scenario.

by Anonymousreply 75July 5, 2022 8:06 PM

78 Degrees is efficient and a cost-saving measure especially during these times. If you have the temp lower than 78 you might as well be a MAGAT who is a climate change denier!

by Anonymousreply 76July 5, 2022 8:08 PM

OP- I prefer HELLMANN'S park.

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by Anonymousreply 77July 5, 2022 8:08 PM

Poor OP gets ass whooped because he had an uninvited House Guest...DL is full of Vicious Cunts..lol.

by Anonymousreply 78July 5, 2022 8:12 PM

Ooo OP has gotten his panties in a bunch !

by Anonymousreply 79July 5, 2022 8:12 PM

He wasn't a guest. You AirBnB'd your spare hallway to a homeless person for extra Whopper money.

by Anonymousreply 80July 5, 2022 8:12 PM

OP likes to make up stories

by Anonymousreply 81July 5, 2022 8:14 PM

I grew up in a house that kept it warmer in the summer and cooler in the winter to save money.

by Anonymousreply 82July 5, 2022 8:19 PM

Your poor guest already has a pretty thick layer of insulation all around him called fat. Of course he’s going to be uncomfortable! You should’ve turned the air to whatever he wished. It’s only for two days. And also keep in mind he’s carrying around extra weight of another person at all times. It’s exhausting & really hard to walk with that kind of extra weight on your body. You really should be more empathetic and have asked him what can you do to make him feel more comfortable. That’s what a real friend & host does.

by Anonymousreply 83July 5, 2022 8:22 PM

The fact that he offered to pay you to turn down the AC shows just how uncomfortable he was. You're an asshole OP.

by Anonymousreply 84July 5, 2022 8:26 PM

R84 You don't think this is a true story, do you?

by Anonymousreply 85July 5, 2022 8:28 PM

At least he didn't complain about the food in OP's house that weekend.

by Anonymousreply 86July 5, 2022 8:31 PM

R86 He wouldn't let me cook. He wanted to go out every meal. I really can't afford it, so it was annoying.

by Anonymousreply 87July 5, 2022 8:33 PM

OP, you sound like us. We have the a/c set at 77 ands 92 outside right now. We think the temp of 72 is BS. Walking into the house from a wet 92 degrees down to 72 is freezing.

And we cook at home. Not going out that much to restaurants. We go to enough parties with our friends.

by Anonymousreply 88July 5, 2022 8:39 PM

Fascinating, R88

by Anonymousreply 89July 5, 2022 8:42 PM

OP, I weigh 145 lbs and I keep my AC at 74, which is comfortable for me. Your guest wasn't out of line to ask for even this degree of "climate comfort."

by Anonymousreply 90July 5, 2022 8:43 PM

r85, no. I suspect this was ripped from an AITA thread.

by Anonymousreply 91July 5, 2022 8:43 PM

OP 78? R88 72? Does the internal temperature match your age? 68, 69 in this home.

by Anonymousreply 92July 5, 2022 8:43 PM

[quote]He wouldn't let me cook. He wanted to go out every meal.

I bet he has tried your cooking before. And if a 400 lb person hates your food, you need to take a good look at yourself, honey.

by Anonymousreply 93July 5, 2022 8:45 PM

Old people always keep their homes too damn hot. I remember my grandma in San Angelo as always having an uncomfortably warm house and bitching about it being too cold.

by Anonymousreply 94July 5, 2022 8:50 PM

R88, I'm 80 and my boy toy is 68. We both exercise outside for at least an hour everyday and sweat like pigs.

My weight is 175 and 6'2" high

by Anonymousreply 95July 5, 2022 8:51 PM

A 68 yo boy toy lol lol! I love you, R95, stay fresh, man ❤

by Anonymousreply 96July 5, 2022 8:53 PM

Yeh man

by Anonymousreply 97July 5, 2022 8:56 PM

I'm in my twenties. I run everyday and drink a lot of water.

by Anonymousreply 98July 5, 2022 9:00 PM

Gee, aren't you just saintly, OP!

by Anonymousreply 99July 5, 2022 9:04 PM

OP, you have to understand that when you have guests, it's important to make them comfortable; otherwise, don't invite guests. You didn't anticipate that he would want it cooler? Or that his schedule may impose upon yours?

by Anonymousreply 100July 5, 2022 9:06 PM

R100 It made up this entire story

by Anonymousreply 101July 5, 2022 9:12 PM

I did not make up this story.

by Anonymousreply 102July 5, 2022 9:19 PM

[quote]No I am closeted

You’re many things — petty, shallow, vindictive — but closeted isn’t one of them.

by Anonymousreply 103July 5, 2022 9:23 PM

You hate fatties. We get it, OP.

by Anonymousreply 104July 5, 2022 9:24 PM

I'm loving this thread. You scolds are hilarious!

by Anonymousreply 105July 5, 2022 9:27 PM

You wanted some way to feel superior to someone - anyone - after your already-low self esteem has taken a nosedive., OP. So you created an elaborate scenario, and now you've found yourself trying to dig out of the stupidity of it all.

Here's the thing. You're probably a decent person. Your cats like you, so that's enough. Don't stress over being an EST on an anonymous message board. You'll feel better soon!

by Anonymousreply 106July 5, 2022 9:31 PM

To use ‘woke speak’ OP, you sure do like to throw around micro aggressions, at macro house guests.

by Anonymousreply 107July 5, 2022 9:54 PM

We are not Africans, r58!

by Anonymousreply 108July 6, 2022 12:33 AM

It just dawned on me that the guest offered $20 for the thermostat switch because OP had harped to him about his electricity bills. It seems quite possible that OP didn't complain about his financial situation just to us - I bet $20 he guilt-tripped his guest about money the entire time.

by Anonymousreply 109July 6, 2022 12:49 AM

Yeah, the more I read/think about it, the more l think OP is the only asshole in this scenario.

by Anonymousreply 110July 6, 2022 12:56 AM

I'm 185 lbs and our AC was broken at work today and it was 78 degres and it was unbearable. Have you been outdoors when it's 78? That's not cool. Fuck is the matter wichu?

by Anonymousreply 111July 6, 2022 1:01 AM

Business and life carried on throughout hot summers in cities from New York to Rio for 100 years without air-conditioning. They had fans, blinds, linen and seersucker.

by Anonymousreply 112July 6, 2022 1:05 AM

Hilarious but also tragic. While the planet is slowly dying under human activity and pollution, Americans are up in arms when suggested to stop being such drama queens and that they don’t need the fucking AC everywhere set at sub-zero temperatures. Guess what, billions of people, including in rich countries, do not need the aircon at night. For many people in the world, 78 (or 25C) at night is perfectly acceptable and bearable. Ffs

by Anonymousreply 113July 6, 2022 1:24 AM

R112 Everything wasn't paved over, there were dirt roads, more trees and fields, there were no cars, buses, or planes, there was an ozone layer. Besides, houses were built with big windows and wide verandas, has plenty of shade trees, and buildings used awnings.

by Anonymousreply 114July 6, 2022 1:25 AM

And, r113, there are still billions of people in the world who don't have smart phones. So let's take away yours, 'cause, you know, Ffs. Asshole

by Anonymousreply 115July 6, 2022 1:31 AM

Obese people are always hot because it's like wearing over 100 pounds of fat, they are super insulated.

by Anonymousreply 116July 6, 2022 1:33 AM

there were dirt roads, more trees and fields -- in the middle of Washington DC, New Orleans, Havana and Rio?

by Anonymousreply 117July 6, 2022 1:39 AM

Is OP Umpy?

by Anonymousreply 118July 6, 2022 1:40 AM

[quote[ "I keep my apartment 77-78."

OP is a Boa Constrictor.

by Anonymousreply 119July 6, 2022 1:41 AM

R113 in the rich countries without AC 78 would be unbearably hot at night, they would all open their windows, and they would wake up in the morning covered in webs and bites.

by Anonymousreply 120July 6, 2022 1:43 AM

OP is a troll

by Anonymousreply 121July 6, 2022 1:44 AM

R117 Well, when do you mean? 1900? Yes. Most roads were dirt. Why would there be paved roads when there were no cars? 1920, all over the US there were still dirt roads. Cities weren't as big. Have you seen greater LA before WWII? San Fernando Valley was farms. Now it's urban. Much more oppressively hot.

by Anonymousreply 122July 6, 2022 1:45 AM

Your guest went out to eat because you lied about having nothing in the house due to a new diet you are trying.

by Anonymousreply 123July 6, 2022 1:47 AM

I understand your point about heat islands. However your ignorant about city infrastructure. Cities have had paved roads for centuries.

by Anonymousreply 124July 6, 2022 1:48 AM

You’re both losers

by Anonymousreply 125July 6, 2022 1:51 AM

In the mid 19th century, Havana experimented with paving their streets with wooden blocks. It worked pretty well and some survive.

by Anonymousreply 126July 6, 2022 1:51 AM

In the 19th century and early 20th the world was going through the so-called Little Ice Age. Look it up. Temperatures were much, much lower, especially in the Northern hemisphere.

by Anonymousreply 127July 6, 2022 1:54 AM

I just lowered my A/C to 66 after reading this thread.

by Anonymousreply 128July 6, 2022 1:54 AM

Oh yeh I used to walk 2 miles uphill in the snow.

Or somethin like that

by Anonymousreply 129July 6, 2022 2:00 AM

R127 Yes.

R124 Here's a dirt road in Chicago in the 1900s - Woodward Avenue - that was paved in 1909 because cars were replacing horse-drawn carriages.

"In 1909, a mile-long stretch of Woodward became the first mile of American road paved with concrete. By 1916, the road was paved for 27 miles, all the way to Pontiac, Michigan."

At least in the US there were still many unpaved roads in the early part of the century, and why are we just talking about urban areas? Most of the country was unpaved. Yes, there were some paved areas in the world but even those materials were as hot as blacktop, and cities were smaller. PLus as I saids there were no oil and gas burning vehicles adding to the heat of the cities.

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by Anonymousreply 130July 6, 2022 2:06 AM

* Sorry - Detroit, not Chicago.

by Anonymousreply 131July 6, 2022 2:06 AM

What does Oprah always say... when you know better, you do better. We now have AC so that we don't have to burn up in the summer. If you want to live like your great great granny and burn your cunt off during sweltering summers, then gurl you do you. The rest of us will be comfortable in the ac.

by Anonymousreply 132July 6, 2022 2:07 AM

OP sounds fey as hell.

by Anonymousreply 133July 6, 2022 2:10 AM

When I was growing up you always heard about old people with no AC dying in their apartments of heat-related causes during heat waves. Guess they forgot to wear linen and seersucker.

by Anonymousreply 134July 6, 2022 2:18 AM

EST

3/10

by Anonymousreply 135July 6, 2022 2:22 AM

Sharing accommodations / hosting / traveling together can really strain friendships.

Yes, an overweight person will feel hotter than an average-weight person. Walking in the park on a hot summer day was probably a no-cost activity, but it sounds miserable.

Wanting to eat at home for every meal, unless your friend really likes your cooking, sounds depressing. Friend probably wanted to go out so that he could get enough to eat. I'm not overweight, but I do have friends whose cooking leaves me wanting more, elsewhere.

That said, friend sounds kind of inflexible as well.

by Anonymousreply 136July 6, 2022 2:33 AM

Guests, like fish, begin to smell after the first day.

by Anonymousreply 137July 6, 2022 2:57 AM

You didn't let him shower too, OP, didn't you? Because you're on a budget with the water too, aren't you?

by Anonymousreply 138July 6, 2022 2:59 AM

[quote] [R17] I was gracious, but he pissed me off.

You don;t sound "gracious" at all. To be honest, you sound like a grudge-bearing cunt.

Look at all the up-votes people who have criticized your behavior on this thread have received. Is this not telling you you're clearly an asshole?

by Anonymousreply 139July 6, 2022 3:03 AM

[quote] [R88], I'm 80 and my boy toy is 68.

He may be a toy, but at 68, he's no one's idea of a boy any longer.

by Anonymousreply 140July 6, 2022 3:06 AM

What an Enormously Sad Traveler.

by Anonymousreply 141July 6, 2022 3:06 AM

well, good news for the fatty, he probably lost at least twenty pounds in water weight from SWEATING all night at OPs hovel!

by Anonymousreply 142July 6, 2022 3:14 AM

Is R58 aware of the fact that the majority of Americans come from places in Europe where those temperatures would be seen as hot? The average yearly high temperature for Scotland is only 68 F, for example.

by Anonymousreply 143July 6, 2022 3:28 AM

People in the UK die when it hits 82.

by Anonymousreply 144July 6, 2022 3:47 AM

A whole home dehumidifier can work wonders. I've been in homes where people keep the thermostat at 78 in summer, but the humidity is no more than 30% and it was completely comfortable. When I build my house, it will certainly have one.

by Anonymousreply 145July 6, 2022 4:07 AM

I couldn't bear your hot indoor temps, OP. I need my a/c at 72, sometimes I can tolerate 73 if not too muggy out, and I am not a fatty.

by Anonymousreply 146July 6, 2022 4:13 AM

78 degrees in a dry or temperate climate is much different than the humidity of a sub-tropical climate like Houston which is unbearable.

People like R113 don't get it.

by Anonymousreply 147July 6, 2022 4:25 AM

Maybe he had spiritual dryness?

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by Anonymousreply 148July 6, 2022 4:30 AM

And people like R147 should stop thinking that only their little corner of America has subtropical climate. I live in South East Asia. How’s that for year-round subtropical climate? At night I never use the AC but use the fan setting instead. The temperature hits 27C (that’s 80F for you, as you probably don’t know how to convert), and is perfectly bearable. Many people I speak to, Western expats, do the same. Only Americans need arctic AC at night.

by Anonymousreply 149July 6, 2022 5:35 AM

I feel sorry for your guest. Were you trying to broil him? And charging him to turn the thermostat down? What is wrong with you? He was only there two days. Poor guy. No wonder he smelled. He was probably afraid to use your hot water to shower. Bad overnight host.

by Anonymousreply 150July 6, 2022 6:42 AM

Oh, and the death march you tried to force on him.

by Anonymousreply 151July 6, 2022 6:57 AM

Houseguests have been sent to remind us that houseguests are terrible.

by Anonymousreply 152July 6, 2022 7:13 AM

He wanted ice cream because he was hot. Houston was 100 degrees on Monday,

by Anonymousreply 153July 6, 2022 7:19 AM

R113/R149, persuasion and charm are clearly born gifts of yours.

by Anonymousreply 154July 6, 2022 7:25 AM

Wow, there are people in the middle of the Sahara and in Southeast Asia who are acclimated to high overnight temperatures. What the fuck does that logically have to do with this guest in Houston and the temperature/humidity he's comfortable at?

by Anonymousreply 155July 6, 2022 7:33 AM

This thread is hilarious. OP posted his complaint expecting people to support him. Instead he's getting a new one opened from every side 😂😂

by Anonymousreply 156July 6, 2022 8:29 AM

Finally and old school DL threat!

To all of you newer Dlers, threads like this used to be commonplace. So much fun.

Oh, you're a dick OP. Turn down the air.

by Anonymousreply 157July 6, 2022 8:53 AM

Yes, if it were necessary, Americans could sleep at that temperature. I grew up with parents who didn’t believe in spending money on air conditioning. I always found the summer heat intolerable and had difficulty in sleeping even though I knew nothing else. Nobody wants to travel to have that experience.

If the host has a moral objection to air conditioning he should make that clear before the guest arrives because most people don’t want to waste the time and money to travel to experience that discomfort.

by Anonymousreply 158July 6, 2022 9:01 AM

wtf that is hot. I've lived on the SE desert portion of the US, along with the NE summers with 100% humidity.

My parents live in Hawaii so always have 100% humidity. If you have a choice to dial it down with AC, 78 seems like a souunaa. Bullshit.

by Anonymousreply 159July 6, 2022 10:16 AM

“…and then the burly guys from the zoo came to take him back to the hippo enclosure. The end.”

—OP

by Anonymousreply 160July 6, 2022 10:21 AM

R155, deserts get cold at night. Houston is not a desert. It is near the Gulf of Mexico and the humidity is oppressive. Nighttime temperatures typically don’t fall below 75 - 80 degrees during the summer and the humidity is unrelenting virtually year-round. The city would be uninhabitable without air conditioning.

by Anonymousreply 161July 6, 2022 10:22 AM

R154, I had to give you a WW, you made me chuckle!

by Anonymousreply 162July 6, 2022 10:58 AM

You sound horribly cheap. Get a second job or move to a less expensive area if you can't afford air conditioning.

by Anonymousreply 163July 6, 2022 11:15 AM

[quote] Um, you’re an awful host. You have to consider what your guest can and cannot do. Lower the air for three days!

Not just that, but "room temperate" is not 77-78. It's defined as 68-72. You sound like my octogenarian parents who get cold if the room is lower than 80 degrees and for God's sake don't turn on a fan! Just how old are you, OP?

by Anonymousreply 164July 6, 2022 11:55 AM

Am I the only one who kept hoping the guest murdered the OP at some point during the visit?

by Anonymousreply 165July 6, 2022 11:56 AM

Who is the Bad Overnight Guest? By Robert Kolker for The New York Times

by Anonymousreply 166July 6, 2022 12:00 PM

77-78 setting for AC is pretty standard for cost savings. People who have it lower are MAGAT Trumpers who don’t believe in climate change.

by Anonymousreply 167July 6, 2022 12:08 PM

Don't be a moron R149. Of course I realize there are other humid areas of the world. It's great if you can go without a/c but I don't wish to.

R167 you already said that and you're wrong again.

by Anonymousreply 168July 6, 2022 1:39 PM

[quote]The temperature hits 27C (that’s 80F for you, as you probably don’t know how to convert)

My god, why so bitchy?

by Anonymousreply 169July 6, 2022 3:24 PM

Mrs. Seinfeld. I'm BEGGING you. Turn the air condition on!

by Anonymousreply 170July 6, 2022 3:25 PM

I keep my thermostats on 66 and hand "guests" a sweater.

And I don't allow fat people in my houses because they stress the systems.

ALL the systems.

by Anonymousreply 171July 6, 2022 3:29 PM

If for some reason you want to continue this friendship, then next time he plans on coming to visit, send him to a motel or hotel. It's worth it. You'll both be happier. And honestly, tell him how you feel. Tell him you feel bad because things were so unpleasant between you, and you are genuinely concened about his health. But in the future you think it will be better for both of you if he stays at a motel.

by Anonymousreply 172July 6, 2022 3:34 PM

R171 what would you do when a relative or good friend shows up with his or her PLUS ONE and its an obese person?

by Anonymousreply 173July 6, 2022 3:35 PM

R149 don’t act like you convert Celsius to Fahrenheit without checking a website.

(X°C × 9/5) + 32 = Y°F

by Anonymousreply 174July 6, 2022 10:19 PM

[quote] 77-78 setting for AC is pretty standard for cost savings. People who have it lower are MAGAT Trumpers who don’t believe in climate change.

Which really means R167 can't afford to run the AC.

by Anonymousreply 175July 6, 2022 11:44 PM

If you go to stay at someone’s house and you feel unsafe, uncomfortable, or unhappy, you leave or stay at a hotel.

by Anonymousreply 176July 6, 2022 11:52 PM

r175, i haven't eaten an animal in 30 plus years and you are not shaming me into anything environmental.

by Anonymousreply 177July 7, 2022 12:51 AM

opps! r167.

by Anonymousreply 178July 7, 2022 12:52 AM

You cheap ass OP, 75-78 is way too warm

by Anonymousreply 179July 7, 2022 2:50 AM

78 is basically 80, there's very little difference.

by Anonymousreply 180July 7, 2022 4:11 AM

I live in Chicago and I'm good at 77 or 78.

by Anonymousreply 181July 7, 2022 4:14 AM

Op, just because you are cold blooded doesn't mean that your unsuspecting guests are.

by Anonymousreply 182July 7, 2022 4:17 AM

Where's Greg? Isn't he our residing "Dear Abbie"? Let him chime in.

by Anonymousreply 183July 7, 2022 4:18 AM

Personally I like to keep the AC at the "supermarket dairy section" setting.

Seriously, though, if it's hot out and you come inside after any exertion, you can't cool off when it's in the high 70s inside.

by Anonymousreply 184July 7, 2022 4:23 AM

Good host/esses don't kill their guests.

by Anonymousreply 185July 7, 2022 4:52 AM

Thee's no way I can sleep or just watch TV when it gets to 75. I can tolerate 70-73 just fine, but after that it gets problematic. At bedtime my AC is down in the 60's, 66-67.

by Anonymousreply 186July 7, 2022 1:30 PM

In the winter, if my thermostat was set at 78 I would be roasting and would have the windows open. There is no way that 78 is comfortable indoors in any season.

by Anonymousreply 187July 7, 2022 4:54 PM

My winter thermostat is set at 68. Period. At night I just shut it off. I need cold rooms for sleep.

by Anonymousreply 188July 7, 2022 5:04 PM

A. He’s fat as fuck B. He’s right, you keep your house way too hot C. You are a cunt

by Anonymousreply 189July 7, 2022 5:19 PM

[quote]I had a terrible overnight guest this Fourth of July weekend.

yada, yada, yada...

You're a chubby chaser and he wouldn't fuck you.

by Anonymousreply 190July 7, 2022 5:23 PM

Another situation that could have been resolved with your friend, Frozen Grapes TM.

by Anonymousreply 191July 7, 2022 6:43 PM

R183 = Gr*g

Ugh.

by Anonymousreply 192July 7, 2022 7:02 PM

OP when you let a 400 lb. farm animal come stay with you, you must make adjustments to your living arrangements. Why didn't you just bring in a slop trough so he could feed at his leizure? And you could have taken him to the local car wash and let them run him through to deal with the odor.

by Anonymousreply 193July 7, 2022 7:06 PM

So he has no idea that you are gay? He is that dense and can't do the math? What a weird situation.

Also you are creepy for not setting it to whatever temperature he wanted. It's not like they would have to fire up another nuclear reactor for you at the power company.

by Anonymousreply 194July 7, 2022 7:10 PM

I think OP did exactly the right thing with the AC. Maybe the beast of burden will think twice about inviting himself for another visit.

by Anonymousreply 195July 7, 2022 7:49 PM

It was an intervention. He was trying to sweat the weight off his guest.

by Anonymousreply 196July 8, 2022 1:02 AM

This is DL now? You fuckers. Making up stories about huge whales. As if a 400 pound whale could fit in most apartments or beds. And like they could walk either. 0/1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000.

by Anonymousreply 197July 8, 2022 1:06 AM

0/10

I'm sorry, but I wouldn't be friends with a fattie who smells.

by Anonymousreply 198July 8, 2022 1:10 AM

He smelled because his so called friend was trying to sweat the truth out of him.

by Anonymousreply 199July 8, 2022 1:17 AM

For many people, obesity is just depression coming out another hole. Or into another hole. I feel badly for extremely obese people. Who would want the misery that goes with it?

by Anonymousreply 200July 8, 2022 1:20 AM

OP, you are a bit of a cunt.

I would have turned down the temperature without asking you.

I hope he farted in every room of your house.

by Anonymousreply 201July 8, 2022 1:24 AM

I hope he put raw chicken in your air vents, Op. Just keep turning up the heat.

by Anonymousreply 202July 8, 2022 1:38 AM

[quote] We are not Africans

??

by Anonymousreply 203July 8, 2022 1:43 AM

OP sounds like the kind of guy who uses a teabag twice.

by Anonymousreply 204July 8, 2022 2:03 AM

I keep my place at a comfy 70 - 72. I think he may have had a terrible host.

by Anonymousreply 205July 8, 2022 2:09 AM

R204 he also steals salt and pepper shakers and condiments from restaurants!

by Anonymousreply 206July 8, 2022 2:56 AM

R171 Who are you, one of the Golden Girls?

by Anonymousreply 207July 8, 2022 5:38 AM

I get you, OP, but I feel bad for your ginormous friend. 🙁

by Anonymousreply 208July 10, 2022 7:17 PM

When guest come to Op's, they are offered extra blankets. Fridge is unplugged. Doors are all key locked. Keeps keys in his sweaty underpants.

by Anonymousreply 209July 11, 2022 1:00 AM

Op, spray bottles cost $1.16 at Whalefart. Next time, hit him with some powdered detergent and then spray him down with water. Kills three w/one stone. He'll smell clean. You'll cool off your guest, and it's cheap, you skin flint. If you push him into the tub, you could even get some clothes washed. Win, win.

by Anonymousreply 210July 11, 2022 1:09 AM

wetter bottle, drain cleaner, sudafed, batteries, go all walter white , r21.

by Anonymousreply 211July 11, 2022 1:11 AM

I don't think a super-sized 400 pounder fits in the tub.

by Anonymousreply 212July 11, 2022 1:12 AM

Op likes to chew crushed ice in front of his miserable guests.

by Anonymousreply 213July 11, 2022 1:27 AM

Op locks the door then offers guest leftover, warm chianti and fava humus. Pops in a Jody Foster movie. You know the one.

by Anonymousreply 214July 11, 2022 2:00 AM

OP, cradling his mug.

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by Anonymousreply 215July 11, 2022 3:30 AM

Everything at Op's is coin operated and on a timer.

"Can I bring anything, Op? Yes, quarters".

by Anonymousreply 216July 11, 2022 7:57 AM

I came back to this thread as I’ve been thinking about it the past few days. I just can’t get over how cruel and oblivious the OP is. That poor guest was suffering and so desperate he offered the OP money to turn down the thermostat.

by Anonymousreply 217August 16, 2022 10:32 AM

I couldn't bear five minutes in your oven, OP. My thermostat is set right now at 66.

Easier to put on more if one is chilly.

by Anonymousreply 218August 16, 2022 10:48 AM

you idiot you're killing the planet

by Anonymousreply 219August 16, 2022 11:10 AM

I'm surprised OP had a bed for a 400 pound person available. No fatty with 400 lbs could sleep in any of my beds. I would be afraid he would break them.

by Anonymousreply 220August 16, 2022 12:21 PM

You ought to have made arrangements for him to stay at the Astrodome. He is likely underprivileged anyway, so this, this could have worked very well for him.

by Anonymousreply 221August 17, 2022 4:39 AM

OP, your overnight guest had a bad host. That's the problem.

by Anonymousreply 222August 17, 2022 4:41 AM

OP you lying ass fkin cunt troll. Who do you pay to bump this thread.

by Anonymousreply 223August 17, 2022 4:51 AM

Op hates obese people. Surprised he didn't hobble his guest so he could torture him some more.

by Anonymousreply 224August 19, 2022 3:02 AM

So desperate for a man he could keep, he tried to bake one.

by Anonymousreply 225August 19, 2022 4:36 AM

R219 Don't you work in an air conditioned building or shop in an air conditioned supermarket, or use the air conditioner in your car?

by Anonymousreply 226August 20, 2022 1:13 PM

I keep my AC on at 76 to 78 degrees. I use fans, too. It's comfortable for me.

by Anonymousreply 227August 20, 2022 1:39 PM

Bad overnight guest. One who teases sex and then leaves halfway through.

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by Anonymousreply 228August 20, 2022 2:04 PM

I’m begging you…

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by Anonymousreply 229August 20, 2022 2:13 PM

So are you still friends, OP?

by Anonymousreply 230February 15, 2023 1:00 AM

OP charges each guest 50 cents to use the toilet

by Anonymousreply 231February 15, 2023 1:20 AM
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