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Best friend's buddy taking out a loan to support her millionaire male boss, lol.

My best friend texted me yesterday, telling me this ridiculous story. Her friend, who is a regular white-collar worker from an unprivileged family (no financial support from parents), decided to take out a loan to financially support her millionaire boss who recently experienced a bit of investment loss. They are in finance industry and the boss is still at 7-figure net worth. The lady earns a decent salary; however, she has mortgage of her place and doesn't net off with much cash flow after monthly payment. The loan she is taking is worth 1/3 of the value of her home. She confessed that she had a crush on her boss. Lol. Is she crazy? What can we do to dissuade her since the writing on the wall is so clear?

by Anonymousreply 38June 24, 2022 4:47 AM

Slap her, and say “Snap out of it!”

by Anonymousreply 1June 22, 2022 12:53 AM

BTW, boss has no romantic interest in her but is OK with taking her money. She is not the best-looking girl on the world and is starving for love.

by Anonymousreply 2June 22, 2022 12:54 AM

[quote]Is she crazy?

Yes. Absofuckinglutely out of her mind.

by Anonymousreply 3June 22, 2022 12:57 AM

Does she (over)use 'lol' like you do, OP?

by Anonymousreply 4June 22, 2022 1:04 AM

This is one of those moments where you need to get your friend alone, in a safe space - on the sofa, at the kitchen table, someplace private and cozy - and ask to hold their hands and get quiet and look them in the eye calmly and honestly. They need to get that this is SERIOUS and to listen.

Tell them you care about their wellbeing and need them to hear you. Then take a beat, and say "do.....Not...do this. Do Not Do This."

Flat and direct without theatrics, like they're about to get into a car with a drink driver.

Remind them this person has more money than they do. Remind your friend that they alone will be left to repay this loan. Remind your friend that you - someone close to them - would not ask this of them or want them to go into debt helping you. And you're a friend. Why do this for this boss? Who would never offer this kind of help if they needed it...

Don't give what you don't have.

Be calm and clear and firm. Hopefully they get it.

by Anonymousreply 5June 22, 2022 1:10 AM

Sorry, I mean tell your BF to do that ^^^^

by Anonymousreply 6June 22, 2022 1:11 AM

R5 Thank you!

by Anonymousreply 7June 22, 2022 1:16 AM

This is nuts, and the boss sucks for agreeing to this. A kind of sneaky idea: Maybe your best friend could tell her that her boss could get in trouble if he takes the money (and he really could, depending on the industry and the company culture).

by Anonymousreply 8June 22, 2022 1:42 AM

Ask her if she can lend me the other 2/3.


by Anonymousreply 9June 22, 2022 1:47 AM

I am so disappointed in you all. No one did 0 out of 10 thingy to OP?

by Anonymousreply 10June 22, 2022 1:48 AM

If she views it as a romantic gesture she’ll probably do it no matter what anyone says.

by Anonymousreply 11June 22, 2022 1:49 AM

OP no one types "lol" anymore

by Anonymousreply 12June 22, 2022 1:50 AM

R10 What is it supposed to mean?

by Anonymousreply 13June 22, 2022 1:54 AM

Pray for R13.

by Anonymousreply 14June 22, 2022 2:10 AM

R14 Pray for your own heart please.

by Anonymousreply 15June 22, 2022 2:13 AM

If any of this is true, the friend is already fucking the boss. He probably has a gambling and/or drug problem because anyone with a seven figure income can ride out an investment wobble.

Don’t get involved.

by Anonymousreply 16June 22, 2022 3:17 AM

Is the boss Simon Leviev?

by Anonymousreply 17June 22, 2022 4:01 AM

This is the time of shit working class Republicans do for Trump.

by Anonymousreply 18June 22, 2022 4:19 AM

In addition to the excellent heart-to-heart mentioned above, I'll bet there is a. no contract (i.e. wobbly terms and not worth the "paper they're printed on"), b. boss could be in trouble not only for loan but for exposing a financial sector company to this type of risk.

by Anonymousreply 19June 22, 2022 4:21 AM

She's thinking with her pussy. She's going to have to learn one way or another.

by Anonymousreply 20June 22, 2022 4:22 AM

Is he the Tinder Swindler?

by Anonymousreply 21June 22, 2022 4:23 AM


by Anonymousreply 22June 22, 2022 4:39 AM

Her stupidity, her fault

by Anonymousreply 23June 22, 2022 9:02 AM

Poor lady.

by Anonymousreply 24June 22, 2022 6:37 PM

She sounds like one of those stupid love scam dummies, who send money to their rich "boyfriend" who is stuck overseas, and whose money is all tied up but she will get repaid as soon as loverboys millions are freed from the red tape. They get conned that the guy will get his finances sorted out soon and she will get repaid, but it never happens. He will string her along for weeks/months but the problem never gets resolved.

by Anonymousreply 25June 22, 2022 6:43 PM

R25 Your guess was spot on. She was once an online love scam victim who was defrauded by her internet sweetheart. She continued to send him money post realizing he was a fraud.

by Anonymousreply 26June 23, 2022 5:18 AM

And what's more hilarious was she once hired a private detective to spy on her then boyfriend. The guy had almost no interest in her. He was wooed by her with so many extreme ways that he eventually gave in. It was also believed that he was more interested in her property than herself. At the time, he was very cold to her and was two-timing. She ended up getting defrauded by the detective scam.

by Anonymousreply 27June 23, 2022 5:35 AM

She was defrauded of $1,000 in total. First time, the fake detective claimed the money transfer didn't go through. And he disappeared right after she made a second transaction.

by Anonymousreply 28June 23, 2022 5:43 AM

Your friend is most likely a lost cause - she sounds like she is too far gone for help. She may agree with you if you do talk with her, but she'll most likely cave when/if her boss sweet talks her again.

I've seen this countless times on Dr. Phil - he has catfish victims on all the time with men and women who get involved with scammers and end up emptying their bank accounts because of "love". These dimwits are so starved for love that they lose all reasoning and sanity. It's crazy to see Phil give these fools fact after fact to show that they're being scammed but 75% of them go right back to sending money because it makes them feel needed and wanted and have something to occupy their lives.

by Anonymousreply 29June 23, 2022 8:45 PM

OP you are bored to make up such stupid shit

by Anonymousreply 30June 23, 2022 8:52 PM

Youtube has a channel called "Catfished" that does investigations for possible catfish victims. This group takes info, then digs for info to see if the person has a true love match or is getting taken advantage of by a scammer. Lastly, the folks at "Catfished" go back to the person who came to them and gives them the good/bad news.

Tell your friend to watch a few of the videos for research and/or try to contact this group and figure out if her boss is using her for her cash.

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by Anonymousreply 31June 23, 2022 9:05 PM

Thank you R30.

by Anonymousreply 32June 24, 2022 12:26 AM

R32 and R10 are stupid and narrow minded.

by Anonymousreply 33June 24, 2022 12:45 AM

Next Up: Nextdoor neighbor’s maid’s ex-husband plans to marry a transgender discalced nun.

by Anonymousreply 34June 24, 2022 12:56 AM

[Quote] She continued to send him money post realizing he was a fraud.

It's very hard to feel sorry for people like this.

I wouldn't waste my breath on her. She will never, ever listen. For people like this, their hero complex supercedes reality, their wellbeing, etc.

by Anonymousreply 35June 24, 2022 1:16 AM

R29 Her boss didn't ask her to do so. She offered to help him out and he accepted.

by Anonymousreply 36June 24, 2022 1:45 AM

R29 And the boss didn't show any love interest to her neither did he sweettalked her into doing so. He has taken absolutely zero efforts to get what she offered to him.

by Anonymousreply 37June 24, 2022 3:36 AM

OP = Nobody knows who that is.....

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