Does my voice sound gay?

I don't think any of the options encompasses my take on it: English of indeterminate sexuality.

I agree with R1. Perhaps potentially gay, but not definitively gay, mainly because the Englishness precludes a conclusive determination.

Need to work on dropping your pitch.

OP, I am highly sensitive to sound, and I can tell a lot about you just from that small clip - but I won't. Thoughtful sensitivity, intelligence, agreeable manner. Yours is a wonderful sounding voice which anyone would be privileged to hear every day. It does not denote that distinctive "Yaas, Queen!" indisputable gay identifier, but it also would not elict some huge surprise to find that it belonged to a gay male. Whatever the case, your voice is sincerely and genuinely your own - I can hear it in your voice!

I had to use the fire extinguisher on my speakers because of all the flames, OP.

GAY!

I can tell by your voice that you are a bottom. What do you think?

Sounded to me, like a well mannered, well spoken Englishman. No blatant sexuality noted. And I lived for 5 years with my English Husbear in West London. Had a pretty wide, diverse circle of people & friends.. Still have many UK friends of both sexes.

OP just sounds like a typical Brit to me.

Not particularly gay, but also not quite Jason Statham or Mark Strong.

Gayer than a picnic basket

Actually, Op, I kid, you have a very pleasant voice 🙂

You do have a moderately gay accent.

Your voice seems to indicate that you're a nice person.

You sound FABULOUS MIss OP!

You’re the reason we keep running out of things OP. You’re THIRSTY AF and your black hole sucks the energy and light out of humanity.

R15- Leave him alone. He sounds like a very sweet bottom.

English English + upspeak in the middle = probably gay.

Just a Britosh accent. To Americans, that itself can seem gay.

Aww thanks <3. Quite mxied responses actually. I think I guess it's also taken out of context. You can't see my mannerisms etc. I used to hate how I sounded, though.

What is with the British Invasion on this site?

R20- It's 1964 all over again!

Ungaro Frock level unlocked.

Delightfully so, if I may say.

R22 what does that mean?!

[quote]What is with the British Invasion on this site?

It's a website. On the world wide web. I've been posting here for 15 years.

Here's an Ungaro frock, r23.

Gays will also sometimes describe something (or someone) "gay as a picnic basket" or "gay as Christmas." I find those even harder to comprehend than "gay as an Ungaro frock."

R25 Oh right. I'm not sure the straps work well on that and on the maxi too. But hey ho. I get the idea! Picnic baskets does indeed sound very English.

OP, you sound gayer at R19. Not a criticism, you have a lovely choice.

R23 - YEARS ago, on another site (IHSG), "gay as an Ungaro frock" was commonly said of certain men who were either clearly gay (if closeted) or desperately desired to be gay by certain hussies.

OP, you sound like a very nice young man when you speak. I used to "butch up" my voice but then decided to speak with my natural voice and not care what people thought. As a result, I remember being more confident and authentic. Felt refreshing as I made the switch.

R29 aww that's really sweet. I wouldn't know how to sound butcher I don't think.

R30 You don't have to try to sound butcher. Just be yourself. That's the signal insatiable bottoms like you use to attract tops.

Gay and insecure, but most British accents sound gay so don't worry about it. You are gay right?

You sound sexy and masculine OP. Also, there is no such thing as "gay" voice as a lot of you homophobic and heteronormative losers keep pedalling! It's called an effeminate or feminine voice, which even straight and bi men can have, FFS! Calling it "gay" voice is rendering "gay" or homosexuality to a defect, which it fucking isn't! It's no different to the scum who call AIDS the "gay man's disease". Stop the homophobic and unintelligent bullshit! Most of you should know better, than to keep perpetuating the homophobic bullshit that was invented by straight people to devalue and denigrate gay men as "lesser".

^ Effective argument. Sustained.

Your voice sounds very British, gentle with a distinct lilt and with feminine qualities.

This is not a bad thing. It's a lovely voice. You sound comfortable in your own skin.

Please don't work on trying to "butch" up your voice. People who do that wind up with truly weird, stifled, suppressed voices.

You sound exactly (and I mean EXACTLY) like Nicolas Fairford. Is that you, Nicolas?

You sound like a pleasant asexual person.

OP’s message at R19 was so sweet. But I still want to slap him for think American gays sound like Adam Rippon!

Also, I love the way the Brits say “day-tuh” while we say “da” (as in “dad”) “tuh.”

[quote] You don't have to try to sound butcher.

Similarly, you don’t have to sound like a butcher.

R36 aww no I didn't know who Nicolas was until recently. I don't think I sound that like him to be honest.

I am American and say ‘day-tuh’ lounge.

OP I like your voice.

R41 thank you <3. I'm going to respond later about the whole bottom thing. I am intrigued how a voice can indicate bottom status. But maybe it's like gay bottom face etc.

R35- Like Liberace in this video that I started a thread about the other day.

R43 are you saying Liberace had a butch voice?

R44- No- he was TRYING to attempt a butch voice and failed and it just wasn't him- the authentic Liberace

R45 ah ok. I think Eddie Redmayne is always trying to sound butch.

I like your voice, but you need to lose your "um's". That makes you sound indecisive and weak. Some will read that as gay.

Present hole and then we'll tell you

OMG,I’msoexcited! Miss Rula Lenska posts on the DataLounge!

[quote]Need to work on dropping your pitch.

And your balls.

It sounds gay because you asked me. Straight men don't think gay, IMHO.

You sound like a lovely creature.

You have a great voice OP!

I am American and think you just sound English. I also agree you have a great voice! You should do voice work!

OP is a troll- this is a homophobic post- don’t respond.

R50. Lol. Do I sound high-pitched? I never thought șo.

R49. Who is that?

r47

R58. As I say I find that doc a bit unhelpful as it only deals with American voices.

Hard to tell OP. . Record yourself saying “What a fabulous window treatment!” and share.

You sound perfectly fine, OP.

I answered you, OP

You sound English but not necessarily gay.

R63- I think he sounds GAY but not necessarily English.

r59 Except it does describe some of the problems that have been adapted internationally by flamers... with valley speak. like the excessive use of um, oh, so, like... and discussing the issues of cadence.

Comparatively, we would look at uk gay pop culture.. I'd suggest media between the 70s and 90s, where we have more exaggerated represention...

problem, of course, is the uk has many, many, many english dialects, accents and instead we're usually limited to soho faggotry. . . with a spritz of American influences

or the entertainment and media focuses more on class distinction.. usually the lowest of low and often with a bit of a northern ireland flavor that leans on the harsh and brassy... to which the northern irish accent tends to sound like trying to speak with a cock in your mouth... as so many vowels get shortened in words vs where in gay speak they're extended and sound a little retarded.

then with subcults like trackies, it reminds me more of the stereotype of french (blame the west asians) with harsher starting consonants.. to which like hor d'oeuvres is her durr vs the others that seem to prefer whore to dropping the h.

^ well, we could also blame the influences of senegalese rappers, too.

There are techniques you can learn to sound very straight.

I have taken full advantage of them. No one clocks me for being gay until I stick my dick in their ass.

Does anyone remember that thread that linked a vocal website where you could record something and it would change the sound of your voice? Some of the DL recordings were really funny. I think I did one about Charlize Theron that was funny.

R68 Yes! Someone did selections from the album "Julie Andrews: The Racist Years"

There was also a recording pretending to be Mrs. Patrick Campbell that sounded like it was done by Maggie Smith talking about "sizemeat and low hangers"

Ah, OP, you sound like you're from my neck of the woods. Are you from the SE? I'm in Surrey!

My voice is similar, but with added femme. There's absolutely no mistaking me for straight.

R67 lol. I do think voices aren't learned. I've never really grown up with gays so I can't have picked it up from them.

R71 let's hear! I grew up in the home counties and I went to independent school.

Stay in your own lane, bitch!

R74 what do you mean!?

Not gay, just English

There's English and there's English. Actually the Essex accent does sound gay.

You still haven't told us about your bottoming experience. Have you tried DP?

DP is quite advanced!

You sound rather sweet OP. I don't know if it's because I already know you're gay that influences my perception of your voice sounding gay or not, but I do think you sound a lil gay - but really, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that and you shouldn't worry at all about how you sound.

OP you should hook up with UKGuy from R80 since you are both from the UK. He claimed he has a very big dick. Perfect for you.

I don't have a VERY big dick R81, just a big dick

OP, you sound gayer with every clip! Having said that you're talking about bottoming in the last clip, so it's hard to separate that from being gay. Anyway, I love your voice - it's bringing out my mostly latent inner top.

You sound freaking adorable, OP.

R83 I think I'm just feeling more relaxed :).

Would you say I'm high-pitched?

Not very high-pitched to me, OP/R85. Just very refined and gentle.

Thank you R84

But you have a VERY nice voice, UKGuy.

UKGUy it's very deep.

This is like one of those weird personal ads from the nineties, when people wrote things printed out in little boxes.

What do you mean R90?

As a fellow Brit I’d say you sound more posh than gay. There is a softer inflection I’d notice though which would would probably tip me off. It’s not a deep, masculine voice, but it’s a very pleasant voice and you sound like a nice guy.

The pauses were the tip-off for me.

Upload a snippet of you saying “do you want my hard cock in your pussy?” Then we will be able to tell.

Gay Brit, 2 strikes.

To be fair, most Brits sound kind of gay the more proper they try to speak. But you sound naturally gay on top of gay Brit.

Americans incorrectly see manners and being very refined in men as a gay trait. Because straight men are rude sloppy pigs. Ergo, Brits who come across as proper start off with this assumption. I have even heard straight American woman say that British men all sound gay.

But like I said, I can detect a little bit of gayness even if the Brit thing was removed.

[quote]It’s not a deep, masculine voice, but it’s a very pleasant voice and you sound like a nice guy.

Nice guys are gay -Merika rednecks.

R89 that's what HE said

R94 this is for you

R95 I'm not sure I'm TRYING to sound posh or whatever. I just talk like that. I don't think Nicolas Fairford is really posh.

Probably from Liverpool..

I like that you're game for a laugh R98 - even though I personally find the current trend of referring to a bottom's hole as a 'pussy' to be a dick-wilter!

You do sound pretty posh to me - though sometimes people think I sound posh and I don't really hear it myself - I just enunciate properly and don't talk like a Cockney/chav.

R101 oh yes I try not to take myself too seriously <3. Well you sound very different to me even though you sound very British. You have a deep voice. Masculine.

Just sound "English"?!

Which "English"?

Scouse?

Geordie?

Mancusian?

Brummie?

Yorkshire ploughman?

Devon or Sussex dunes country?

Cockney?

Cornwall?

What you mean, of course, is Oxbridge Queen's English.

Anything less fey than most of those listed above would be hard to find.

"Hear a Cornishman or worse, hear an Irishman converse . . ."

R103 is fey the same as sounding gay? Or are we just talking effeminate?

Oh, er, I forgot a few other seriously hetero "English" speakers, Brian Cox, Ray Winstone ( we should discuss him sometime, he's the alpha and omega of working-class butch), and, then, of course . . .

RICHARD FUCKING BURTON.

Yes, nothing more fey than sounding "English".

R105

R104 You'll have to ask OP. I suspect that for many, it's a distinction without a difference.

R103

I want to hear more voices from the Datalounge!

Whenever I've heard someone say 'fey' it's been a eupemism for effeminate. Like fairy, etc. I was just called a poof at school.

What does "<3" mean?

It means a heart. If you turn your head sideways ot looks like a heart.

R82 How big is it exactly? Since our little Timothy is a total bottom, I doubt he will accept anything less than 7.5 inches.

8x6 R112, Timothy hasn't been DP'ed but I'm sure he would cope.

You sound English and cute, OP.

What do you think my body type is, DL?

R115 Do you want UKGuy's 8x6 dick? You are probably 5'7 and have never worked out before.

R116 I don't build muscle, no.

There’s not much received English spoken I read. Is OP speaking that or does he sound like chav? Either way, a bottom of course. That’s a given.

R118 lol I'm not a chav!

Gay. But a cute gay bottom.

I, too, am English. And it is rather infuriating when Americans just ASSUME I am gay because of my accent.

R121 Lol!!! You sound so funny. You see I'd describe that as queeny.

R114 and very gay.

R106- I'm not sure about his voice but Eddie Redmayne has EXTREMELY gay lips 👄

I'm wondering now whether when we say 'gay voice' what we really mean is 'bottom voice'?

R82 (UK Guy) is that YOUR voice?

If it is, you sound like a TOTAL top.

I have a crush on UKGuy's voice. It's not the accent, as I'm British, too, it's the low timbre. 😍

I like your voice OP, but it screams total bottom. You have upspeak (which is very feminine), you mumble (which shows a lack of confidence, but is really endearing), and it’s obvious you’re smiling as you speak (which isn’t very serious = not very masculine).

I picture you to be a cute (but not intimidatingly hot), fun, put-together guy and I’d definitely be your friend (with benefits).

R128

I want to be the meat in a UKGuy-OP sandwich.

Are you a size queen Timothy?

Yes R126 that is me, I am not a TOTAL top but I can wreck a hole, or whatever the expression is these days - I would tend to say I am top/vers but 95-5% split.

R130 what do you sound like?

R131 no I'm not. My fiance is quite thick but not overly long. I've never been a size queen.

I wouldn’t suggest changing your voice at all, OP. The slight mumbling and occasional upspeak is really cute and will not diminish your authority when you do public speaking. You will probably naturally outgrow those as you age. If I heard you give a presentation, I’d want to collaborate with you :).

OP,, your voice sounds:

!. Incredibly cute and sexy,

2. British,

3. Maybe a little gay...in that order. I would ask you out in a flash, based on that recording.

R133 How often does your fiance breed you?

R136 depends if he's away working, but if he's working locally, then most days. Usually in the evening before I start cooking.

R137 I do all my cooking in the bedroom.

[quote]if he's working locally, then most days.

The lucky bastard!

R139 well I'm lucky, too. Judging by DL standards, it seems getting a pounding isn't as regular an occurance for some as they'd like.

Gayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyu!!!!

R141 but none of the yasssss queeeen stuff.

You sound like the gay vicar on Corrie.

Are you sure you're not a stereotypically gay CoE vicar?

R143 he sounds very northern!

Well, the gay vicar on Corrie is supposed to playing a northerner. ^

R145 haha yes but I am not northern.

Here ya go, UKGuy @ R132.

R130

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A bit gay, like mine I suppose. And really quite posh.

Not Scottish, R148, but maybe others can work it out!

R130 You sound like you are vers which is different from Timothy's total bottom voice.

R147 sounds like he has a slight Irish brogue. I also like the raspy undercurrent. Very sexy.

R147 you have a very sexy accent indeed, I wouldn't say it's a particularly 'gay' voice either.

I'm not sure how I could confuse Scottish with Irish, but hey ho.

^ Thank you for the various compliments. I've always hated my voice to be quite honest; I think that that's common for gay men as some of us are very invested, when young, in going undetected. And, yes, I am Irish!

I have a crush on UKGuy's voice too, R127 (and also on OP). Two very different types, but both very pleasant.

It's been nice being able to hear people's voices here. Like getting a message on your answering machine. Something closer to real, human interaction. Weird, but nice.

Absolutely R157

Well, thank you for that. I didn't have a great day and this thread definitely improved it. I won't use it because English is not my first language and speaking is very difficult for me (and I have a terrible voice), but it's a very good idea.

R158- You sound like and remind me of that gay character on that show on Netflix Heartstopper- Charlie Spring

I heard that after her first words OP's parents changed her name from Mary to MARY!!!

R161 I've always loved the name Mary.

Ironically, my extremely conservative and homophobic Catholic father wanted to give me the middle name "Mary", which was not an uncommon to thing to do here in Ireland at one point.

Oh wow, yes, R147and it's been appropriated in other languages too to denote an effeminate male.

I wish he had done it, R164! I would write it in all caps with an exclamation mark, e.g. John MARY! Murphy.

Aww that's lovely. And then maybe you could be an Aunt Mary. Everyone needs an Aunt Mary in their lives.

[quote]I've always loved the name Mary.

You and J. Edgar Hoover

OP sounds like the YouTube personality Jammidodger, a prominent bi trans activist.

I imagine OP looks like Ollie Rogers in Ten Percent. Sounds a bit like him, too!

Hello…Bonjour…. Yes Simon Doonan, dear you sound gay, as one should. Kisses to Jonathan Adler. Have him throw me a pot. Loves you to pieces.

Just a little. Like a soft accent. You have a nice voice.

You do have a bit of London gay voice but I wouldn't change one thing about it, you speak really beautifully

To me it's indicative of poshness rather than anything connoting sexuality, OP. Yours is the kind of voice Michael Gove wanted to adopt back in his Aberdeen boyhood, and he got most of the way there,

Nicolas! How are you?

I don't know who half these references are to but I'll take it as a compliment!

You sound gay, & cute as a button.

I sound like a cross between Blanche DuBois & Gomer Pyle

Ask the aliens...

OP, you have variations in pitch and tempo when you speak, it's very pleasant. Just speak naturally, you sound great.

We have a game here called Gay or Valley Guy?

You sound like all English guys; gay.

.,.,

Posh is such an odd concept for Americans. We don't really have an equivalent to that. To us that kind of sound coming from a man sounds fake and pretentious. That's why it probably sounds gay to us because we associate men who are very refined to the point they have altered their accent as something only gay men seem to like doing.

I know many men with a similar accent who are straight. Which county do you hail from OP?

R183 I'm English

ykw op, you sounds like a certain hood rat seacow in brooklyn, who pretends to be a posh Englishman, to hide your nasty m-pox cunt, which was thoroughly penetrated by unwashed homeless men out of pure desparation

You just sound posh. But not in that American movie villain caricature kind of way.

You sound like Wesley Wyndam-Pryce from Buffy. And he was supposed to be kind of a "stuffy nerd" character.

Wow R185 that escalated fast.

OP, you don't sound gay just not very well-spoken -- too many uh, ums

You bitches are really slipping. Only 2 posters have recognised OP as DL’s favourite pass-around bottom, Nick Fairford, who has been known to be a regular on this site, creating threads about himself.

Lol R189 I am not Nick Fairford! My voice doesn't sound anything like his.

Have you ever been fisted Timothy?

R191 No I haven't. That sounds incredibly painful.

R185 Jeepers

R184 I know! Which county?

R193 Oh -- I grew up in Wiltshire but I live in Wales now.

I thought it was home counties! No, I think you'd pass for straight based on the voice. I live in London and plenty of straight guys sound like you.

If OP lived in LA they would assume he's probably gay. In London, straight without question.

I suppose it comes down to the fact it's just the voice and voices aren't detached from bodies and mannerisms etc.

Wait, The Murder, She Wrote troll is also British?! I had no idea there are so many of us. 😄

I wish my voice was detached from my mannerisms, R197. Alas, every part of me hisses gay.

R198 aww I feel you. Yes, when people meet me in person I cannot pass as straight. Maybe how I dress -- I'm twinky too -- and tend to have those stereotypical gay mannerisms. Unlearned, I have to say.

Americans have some "posh" accents too, it just they're more regional. You have the rich New England acccent , Valley speak from CA, high class southern. I'm sure there are others too.

R200- I don’t consider ANY Southern accent HIGH class.

I like the Southern accent.

OP, R196 is correct. You will get different responses depending on whether the listener is American or British. See R18, R95, and R182 for why.

I think you sound gay and English, you’re both gay and English so that makes sense. Why would any self respecting gay person want to sound straight? Guys this is self loathing 101, don’t be afraid of / turned off by what you are.

R204- I'm both gay and FAT.

Why would any self respecting FAT person want to look thin?

You sound very posh

I think you have a nice voice

OP, I love your voice!

Do you think your voice has changed much since you were younger apart from it breaking?

[quote]Valley speak from CA,

WHAT!!!! You have that completely backwards. Valley Girl speak is very low class. White girl low class, not ghetto or urban low class.

Southern accent is not the American version of Posh. It's mostly associated with older generations and traditions of slavery. So it can instantly send the message of being very ignorant or poorly educated or even racist. It's not an accent anyone outside the south would want to imitate.

Probably the only accent Americans have of a Posh version is a fictional character on TV. Thurston Howell the Third, from Gilligan's island. And that was a sitcom.

The South has produced many great American writers. You must not read r210. A refined Southern Gentleman typically has a lovely genteel manner of speech and accent.

You do sound posh OP, you make me want to trade mustards with you.

Question:. OP, have you ever had real chav dick? Would you? Also, Mryna McQueen. Thoughts?

R210- The Roosevelts were Upper class both The Hyde Park Roosevelts and the Oyster Bay Roosevelts.

Franklin Roosevelt spoke POSH

R213 no I haven't and I don't know who that person is you mention.