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Cary Fukunaga is ACCUSED again!

Sexual harassment! Sexual assault! Inappropriate touching!

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by Anonymousreply 144July 10, 2024 1:27 PM

never heard of him, but I wouldn't kick him out of bed for leaving crumbs

by Anonymousreply 1May 31, 2022 5:36 PM

bullshit - he's hot af and any actress would be desperate to fuck him

by Anonymousreply 2May 31, 2022 5:38 PM

Gary Oldman's hairdo in Dracula realness

by Anonymousreply 3May 31, 2022 5:41 PM

What his lawyer says in that article is spot on, about there being nothing deserving of an article here - this stuff really crosses the line for me. Dude didn't assault anybody

by Anonymousreply 4May 31, 2022 5:46 PM

Give any straight man some power and they'll do the same. Hell, that's why they want power in the first place!

And that's the difference between gay men and straight men. Gay men can't delude themselves into thinking that if they ever get rich or powerful enough, all men will be attracted to them. But straight men can and do convince themselves that if they rise high enough, all women will become their toys.

by Anonymousreply 5May 31, 2022 5:46 PM

As fug as the day is long

by Anonymousreply 6May 31, 2022 5:47 PM

He wants to fuck young pussy. String him up! This is such an absurd "case."

by Anonymousreply 7May 31, 2022 6:15 PM

I find him vey hot so there is a chance this clouds my perspective. That said, this article seems unnecessary. He didn’t do anything criminal. That ugly Vinberg woman seems super unhinged. The twins were clearly looking for something transactional as well. And I f I have to hear about “gaslighting” one more time I think I will scream. Such bullshit.

by Anonymousreply 8May 31, 2022 6:30 PM

R5 you tell 'em

---Kevin Spacey and Bryan Singer

by Anonymousreply 9May 31, 2022 7:00 PM

This guy has HORRIBLE taste in women.

He sounds like a creepy asshole.

He didn’t abuse these girls, but he did befriend them specifically for the power imbalances involved.

Why else would any guy hit on any of these women, especially women who aren’t particularly attractive, but are REALLY young? For power. That’s it.

He could date almost anyone he chooses to date. He can hire the most stunning escorts out there. He can date women his own age or a bit younger who are gorgeous, accomplished, and who have their own money. But instead, he goes for girls that look like they’ve ordinarily plain college students, who have yet to accomplish much because they’re really young. And he’s lazy AF, because he uses his sets to meet them.

He sounds like a fucking idiot who needs to grow up and put away his tattoo poke and stick.

A successful woman with her shit together would not put up with that skateboard tattoo nonsense and would probably dump him on the spot if he suggested something so ludicrous.

He is tight. He has zero game.

I’m wondering if he has penis problems, because a good looking man with a robust career has no problem finding an accomplished, beautiful girlfriend in Hollywood.

And I’m not trying to shade these girls because of their looks. Not everyone is gonna look like a supermodel, but c’mon! These girls look like they’re still in high school.

What a fucking idiot. He kinda deserves the embarrassment this article brings.

by Anonymousreply 10May 31, 2022 7:54 PM

OPEN HUNT OF HERDS OF YOUNG WOMEN BY ALPHA MALE STUD!!!

by Anonymousreply 11May 31, 2022 7:59 PM

*right, not tight! Lol.

by Anonymousreply 12May 31, 2022 7:59 PM

The accusations are that he abused his power to date women he worked with. In an industry known for the casting couch, with a history of women being coerced into sex just to get jobs, that's a problem.

I know that even the people like r8 who call the women ugly and unhinged understand this concept. They're just angry that a man has been accused.

by Anonymousreply 13May 31, 2022 7:59 PM

He's not hot. He looks like an unsuccessful 1980s soap stud, with a little peach fuzz moustache because he can't grow a real one.

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by Anonymousreply 14May 31, 2022 8:01 PM

Never heard of him but he looks like Johnny Depp's brother.

by Anonymousreply 15May 31, 2022 8:02 PM

[quote] bullshit - he's hot af and any actress would be desperate to fuck him

He is hot af to gay male shut-ins who are 55 but claim to look 35.

He is NOT attractive to18 year old girls.

by Anonymousreply 16May 31, 2022 8:16 PM

Fuku-nono!

by Anonymousreply 17May 31, 2022 8:27 PM

r16 are you an 18 year old girl, and if not shut the fuck up, and if so get the fuck off our website

by Anonymousreply 18May 31, 2022 8:28 PM

He’s hot as fuck!

by Anonymousreply 19May 31, 2022 11:15 PM

[quote] Give any straight man some power and they'll do the same. Hell, that's why they want power in the first place!

99% of the gay male fashion photographers have either raped or molested their clients. Let’s not go there.

by Anonymousreply 20May 31, 2022 11:16 PM

Ruh roh! I ask hur for 69 bu' she gimme fwied wice and chickwen.

by Anonymousreply 21May 31, 2022 11:23 PM

What are these women complaining about??!

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by Anonymousreply 22May 31, 2022 11:27 PM

Dude has a problem, obviously. Used his power as A-list director and producer to get it on with younger women on his sets. Icky, not criminal.

Not sure what will happen to him or what should happen to him. Why can't these younger women learn how to navigate these situations better, not trust so easily and know not to hop into bed or a relationship with these types of men? You don't date or get with your much-older boss, not during a project and probably not afterward either. These women had, and continue to have, agency and choice.

I don't like Fukunaga's games but the continued infantilization of young women is equally disturbing imo.

by Anonymousreply 23May 31, 2022 11:29 PM

I'm so sick of this bullshit. In a gay blog, no less. As. If.

Men will do what males do. They are built to spread their seed and procreate, and they will pursue as many young, fertile women as they can. And if they have power and looks, as he does, they will use that to carry their mission. It's nature and it's fucking inevitable. They can't help it if they try.

For fuck's sake.

by Anonymousreply 24May 31, 2022 11:29 PM

@22....a lack of sizemeat?

by Anonymousreply 25May 31, 2022 11:30 PM

Persons of Japanese descent can be Merci-less.

They have a mechanistic attitude to other human beings. Removing their body parts is acceptable.

by Anonymousreply 26May 31, 2022 11:38 PM

How did Michelle Williams pull hot guys like Fukunaga and Heath Ledger?

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by Anonymousreply 27May 31, 2022 11:46 PM

Tell me about it, R20!

by Anonymousreply 28May 31, 2022 11:46 PM

This man needs a little mascara on his upper lids.

by Anonymousreply 29May 31, 2022 11:52 PM

Michelle Williams is actually incredibly lovely in person - this is super "Mary!" of me to say but she has luminous, creamy skin and I was super surprised when I saw her in person because she doesn't read as a great beauty on-screen really. But she was gorgeous

by Anonymousreply 30June 1, 2022 1:37 AM

R30 Why did this 'incredibly lovely person' allow herself to be vaginally-penetrated by this creepy creature.

by Anonymousreply 31June 1, 2022 1:40 AM

R31 = frau

by Anonymousreply 32June 1, 2022 2:12 AM

Fukunaga did nothing wrong, this country is made up of Puritans now. There's even a quote in the article that says the girls weren't forced into doing anything they didn't want to do, they weren't raped, they weren't threatened or forced to sign NDAs. They just "felt icky." Shut the fuck up, cunt! You knew what you were doing!

How the was this even published? People want him fired for consensually fucking legal aged women? It feels a lot like the Aziz Ansari hitjob, where the woman called him a rapist because he made her "feel icky."

by Anonymousreply 33June 1, 2022 2:15 AM

R13, since you're so wise, were they "date dates"?

by Anonymousreply 34June 1, 2022 3:20 AM

[quote] How did Michelle Williams pull hot guys like Fukunaga and Heath Ledger?

Because she doesn’t care if he wears shorts and flip flops.

by Anonymousreply 35June 1, 2022 3:46 AM

Were the women asking for it?

by Anonymousreply 36June 1, 2022 4:07 AM

Everyone keeps saying "he’s hot he can have any actress". He does not want "any actress " he wants inexperienced young and fresh. No used up Hollywood women. He likes girls. Small dick energy

by Anonymousreply 37June 1, 2022 4:07 AM

This reminds me of the bitch who had a one-night stand with some Pakistani comedian who never called her back and she attacked him like he'd raped her when she was more than willing but got pissed off she was dumped. Enough of this fucking MeToo shit.

by Anonymousreply 38June 1, 2022 4:35 AM

"Why can't these younger women learn how to navigate these situations better, not trust so easily and know not to hop into bed or a relationship with these types of men?"

Uh, because they're YOUNG? Too young to know their rights, or what's appropriate workplace behavior, or even what they might be able to get out of offering a top film director some young pussy.

He probably wanted them precisely because they were too gormless to know how to "navigate these situations" or play the games straight men and women play, or too young to know how to say "no" to an authority figure.

by Anonymousreply 39June 1, 2022 5:54 AM

Clearly he's done and NTTK was a failure, so this is how he'll be shivved by the industry. It is pretty lame as far as accusations go- "old director manipulates young dumb women! Why, I never!"

I respect the litigiousness of today's young ladies. They can't fathom an older man using them for sex, but they lawyer up immediately when he doesn't call back.

by Anonymousreply 40June 1, 2022 7:39 PM

[quote]Uh, because they're YOUNG? Too young to know their rights, or what's appropriate workplace behavior, or even what they might be able to get out of offering a top film director some young pussy....He probably wanted them precisely because they were too gormless to know how to "navigate these situations" or play the games straight men and women play, or too young to know how to say "no" to an authority figure.

Well how YOUNG were they? Over 18, over 20? They weren't 14, 15 years old (which would be criminal behavior)...they were in every sense grown women. Younger grown women, but grown-up all the same and working on film sets as competent adults. BS that they don't know or can't recognize "appropriate workplace behavior", or couldn't 'say no' to an authority figure.

He's still in the wrong here no question. But again, the continued infantilization of young working/dating women is not helping these situations. You don't feel comfortable with someone, say no. Get out of an uncomfortable relationship. Walk away, ghost him/her. Don't date or sleep with your boss or manager, unless you're prepared to deal with potential unpleasant fallout (those thing never end well). Simple rules of life.

by Anonymousreply 41June 1, 2022 8:56 PM

The ones here claiming that he went after "young women", implying he's some sort of pedophile (about which there is absolutely NO EVIDENCE) are older fraus who are quick to accuse any men who couldn't care less about them of being perverts.

by Anonymousreply 42June 1, 2022 9:07 PM

Cary is creepy.

by Anonymousreply 43June 1, 2022 9:08 PM

R43 is dumb.

by Anonymousreply 44June 1, 2022 9:53 PM

Him telling the young actress he never dated girls like her when he was her age is straight from the PUA playbook.

I hate his directing style, so it makes me laugh that he is a typical low-self-esteem California Asian.

by Anonymousreply 45June 1, 2022 11:20 PM

r38 Aziz Ansari was born in America. His parents are from India. But I'm sure that's all the same to you.

by Anonymousreply 46June 1, 2022 11:31 PM

[quote]Get out of an uncomfortable relationship. Walk away, ghost him/her.

And once again, people like you ignore the fact that people in these situations feel they have to say yes or risk their jobs. But of course, you're the type who bangs on about how women have the agency to say no, but never talk about the men having the agency to not act like sleazebags in the first place.

by Anonymousreply 47June 1, 2022 11:31 PM

[quote] But I'm sure that's all the same to you.

R46 We didn't have to escape from a land whose culture is built on eternal internecine hatred.

by Anonymousreply 48June 1, 2022 11:46 PM

[quote] And once again, people like you ignore the fact that people in these situations feel they have to say yes or risk their jobs.

Get another job! BofA is hiring. Never mind, I forgot, you want to be in pictures...

by Anonymousreply 49June 2, 2022 2:08 AM

[quote] Everyone keeps saying "he’s hot he can have any actress". He does not want "any actress " he wants inexperienced young and fresh. No used up Hollywood women. He likes girls. Small dick energy

Change the gender and you just described gay men.

by Anonymousreply 50June 2, 2022 4:01 AM

[quote] Him telling the young actress he never dated girls like her when he was her age is straight from the PUA playbook.

PUA?

by Anonymousreply 51June 2, 2022 4:01 AM

Women want freedom … and a daddy figure to come rescue them.

by Anonymousreply 52June 2, 2022 4:03 AM

[quote]PUA

I'm not the post-er but that stands for "pick-up artist".

by Anonymousreply 53June 2, 2022 4:12 AM

Who are actresses? In the UK, they are women who trained in acting school. In the US, they're a bunch of girls who got told in high school they were beautiful and should go to Hollywood! There must be 10,000 attractive, untalented "actresses" for every role going in Hollywood. They're the ones jumping on the casting couch to try to get a job. They always have been. Such bullshit.

by Anonymousreply 54June 2, 2022 5:22 AM

I never slept with Harvey.

by Anonymousreply 55June 2, 2022 5:35 AM

Kevin spacey never assaulted anyone either unless you count flirting assault yet he was sent down the memory hole.

Straight male privilege strikes again

by Anonymousreply 56June 2, 2022 5:36 AM

He's a pest and a creep.

by Anonymousreply 57June 2, 2022 6:49 AM

Don’t shit where you eat, Cary.

It’s pathetic for an old ass man to hit on 19- and 20- and 21- year old employees.

Go to the club like a normal person.

by Anonymousreply 58June 2, 2022 7:00 AM

R54 Apart from Carey Mulligan, Kate Winslet, Helena Bonham Carter, Sheridan Smith, Samantha Morton…

by Anonymousreply 59June 2, 2022 7:02 AM

R49 has no clue he's part of the problem!

Yes, by all means, tell victims of sexual harassment to find another job, and give up their career plans and go through the hell of job-hunting, instead of seeking redress. He'd never dream of firing the actual harassedr or just making him stop, or of putting employee protection policies in place at the company on question! No, R49 thinks that employees should take abuse or leave, but never fight for their rights...

by Anonymousreply 60June 2, 2022 12:18 PM

NY Mag!

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by Anonymousreply 61June 2, 2022 10:42 PM

[quote] Women want freedom … and a daddy figure to come rescue them.—Camille Paglia

Oh shut up you elderly stretched-out tranny.

by Anonymousreply 62June 2, 2022 11:13 PM

I think he's gorgeous. I don't care if he has "zero game."

by Anonymousreply 63June 2, 2022 11:18 PM

The man is not Harvey Weinstein. There is a difference in behaviors though Millenials and Gen Z think everything is the same, literal murder or rape.

by Anonymousreply 64June 2, 2022 11:58 PM

[quote] continued infantilization of young women is equally disturbing.

I'm all for men unlearning toxic, manipulating behavior, but then the women have to do the same. They've been conditioned to be emotionally manipulative. I can understand an uproar against power indifferences and/or someone grooming a young girl, but when we're talking about women in their 20s....and guys like Aziz A and Jake G.....it's sad that these grown women suddenly crumble and become helpless in the face of a situation not going exactly how they wanted.

by Anonymousreply 65June 3, 2022 12:15 AM

In agree that while his behavior is creepy, he has so far been accused of nothing illegal. These young women are just parroting everydayfeminism / reddit themes: "Oh, he's gaslighting me... of, he was grooming me... etc, etc."

When you're an adult, you have to take responsibility for your choices. These women want to infantilize themselves and pretend they're victims because they had sex with someone powerful who later didn't want them.

I'm just sick of the #MeToo movement. It's grown completely put of control.

by Anonymousreply 66June 3, 2022 12:38 AM

The problem isn't how the women handle Fukunaga's bad behavior, R65, the problem is Fukunaga's bad behavior.

by Anonymousreply 67June 3, 2022 12:56 AM

The problem is your simplistic black & white thinking, r67.

by Anonymousreply 68June 3, 2022 12:57 AM

[quote]When you're an adult, you have to take responsibility for your choices

But just the women, right? When it comes to men, it's also the women who have to take responsibility for the man's actions too.

by Anonymousreply 69June 3, 2022 2:26 AM

R63 his sick is small has to be. And he’s clearly weak in bed if he like 18yo-21yo girls

by Anonymousreply 70June 3, 2022 3:56 AM

Dick*

by Anonymousreply 71June 3, 2022 3:56 AM

It doesn't matter if the behavior is illegal or not, or what the age of the women is. The point is that this guy is a pest at work, and abuses his power to manipulate and use co-workers. All that these young women and the male screenwriter are doing is alerting others in the industry and fans what this guy is actually about. To not fall for his charm act and see him for what he is. Instead of a whispering campaign, it's now out in the open. That's life. If you don't want to be seen as a sexually harassing pest, then don't behave like one. We've been coddling people like this forever, and the good will extended to these assholes has run dry.

by Anonymousreply 72June 3, 2022 4:30 AM

[quote] though Millenials and Gen Z think everything is the same

Oh, dear.

by Anonymousreply 73June 3, 2022 8:43 AM

Y’all are older than I thought

by Anonymousreply 74June 3, 2022 8:51 AM

Ok is it bad that I don't really care about the accusations one way or the other....but I just want him gone because he's a shitty director?

He's the worst kind- a pseudo intellectual, a hipster.....who really believes he brings something to the table. But there are no real ideas in his work. At least not any of his own. He doesn't have a take, a perspective. It's ultimately banal.... with the the occasional derivative pyrotechnic set piece. Yawn.

NTTD was a total snoozefest. I couldn't get through Maniac because it was *so* derivative of Kaufman, Gondry etc.

I hate how he's 1000% NOT an auteur but is totally hyped like he is. I feel like if he wasn't handsome and a POC who the industry could parade in front of the public to direct a tentpole film here and there......he wouldn't have a career. At all. Good riddance I say.

by Anonymousreply 75June 3, 2022 10:02 AM

Cary can Fukunaga me any time he wants.

by Anonymousreply 76June 5, 2022 9:07 PM

I want to swallow his babies.

by Anonymousreply 77June 5, 2022 10:02 PM

Cary fucked some immature teens.

If they can’t handle a 45 yr old dick with no commitment then they should fuck dudes their own age.

by Anonymousreply 78June 5, 2022 10:12 PM

Plus those girls kept coming back for more Cary Fukunaga.

by Anonymousreply 79June 5, 2022 10:13 PM

[quote] I feel like if he wasn't handsome

He's not really handsome. But for some reason, our society is obsessed with mixed race people and claiming they're all gorgeous.

by Anonymousreply 80June 5, 2022 10:23 PM

He is gorgeous and the women weren't teenagers. They were in their 20s and on the make.

by Anonymousreply 81June 6, 2022 12:44 AM

Creepy. Men who can’t just be adult and say "Hey you’re beautiful, I’d like to get to know you" as opposed to "I have no game, I’m so lonely. have sex with me"

by Anonymousreply 82June 6, 2022 2:12 AM

Sme of you bitches are jealous! You wish that passable-looking middle-aged guys would sexually harass you but no luck, so you lash out at those who are being perved on by their boss.

by Anonymousreply 83June 6, 2022 3:41 AM

These are just a bunch of whiny babies. Why everyone is forced to take them seriously now is beyond me.

by Anonymousreply 84June 6, 2022 4:00 AM

It’s hard for me not to have irritation for these self-righteous and humorless Gen Z accusers…but he does sound borderline kinky and he is definitely using his position and power to creep.

by Anonymousreply 85June 6, 2022 4:44 AM

[quote] It doesn't matter if the behavior is illegal or not, or what the age of the women is.

Well, of course it absolutely fucking does. What a stupid thing to say.

If the behavior is illegal and the women are underage, then he committed a crime. if not (which seems to be the case), then he didn't.

You can't put someone in jail just for being creepy.

by Anonymousreply 86June 6, 2022 4:51 AM

This turns yet again on the idea of cancel culture. People want to try him in the court of social media public opinion since he's done nothing illegal. These women were of legal age and they absolutely could have said no to him.

by Anonymousreply 87June 6, 2022 5:10 AM

Bet Cary isn’t even a good fuck.

by Anonymousreply 88June 6, 2022 9:19 AM

He is handsome and stop this BS 😍

by Anonymousreply 89June 6, 2022 9:25 AM

Well r86/r87 are really going for the dumbest argument imaginable: as long as it's legal, you can't criticise it. What utter stupidity. No, maybe being a creep isn't illegal in itself. It's still shitty behaviour. And people can still absolutely call you out on it and think you're a shitty person for doing it.

by Anonymousreply 90June 6, 2022 12:41 PM

What a nothing-burger of a story. Which isn’t to say he shouldn’t be criticized or whatever, but reporting this shit as if Fukunaga is Harvey Weinstein seems even more inappropriate than what he’s been accused of.

by Anonymousreply 91June 6, 2022 3:57 PM

See? If he was Gay, none of this would happen. He could've had me on the crafts table between scenes.

by Anonymousreply 92June 6, 2022 4:07 PM

That'd have to be a strong table

by Anonymousreply 93June 6, 2022 5:56 PM

[quote]You can't put someone in jail just for being creepy.

No shit, Rose. I didn't write that he should be arrested. Maybe try reading the rest of my comment before you respond? Here is the rest of my comment that you skipped over:

[quote]The point is that this guy is a pest at work, and abuses his power to manipulate and use co-workers. All that these young women and the male screenwriter are doing is alerting others in the industry and fans what this guy is actually about. To not fall for his charm act and see him for what he is. Instead of a whispering campaign, it's now out in the open. That's life. If you don't want to be seen as a sexually harassing pest, then don't behave like one. We've been coddling people like this forever, and the good will extended to these assholes has run dry.

He only has himself to blame and deserves the fall-out.

by Anonymousreply 94June 11, 2022 10:54 AM

If that immigrant can be forgiven for raping a ten year old child,, justified by his culture, won't that work as well for a Japanese guy and the geisha-tentacle culture ?

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by Anonymousreply 95June 11, 2022 11:42 AM

Leave him alone! Stoppit! He's too pretty to be a bad person! You're just jealous!

by Anonymousreply 96June 11, 2022 12:02 PM

I don’t mean to be blaming the victims or anything, but are we raising generations of girls who don’t know how to stand up for themselves, fight back and get help? Not to mention they used to be very good at sharing information between each other and protecting the group about never being alone with certain guys. There’s a reason they go to the bathroom in pairs, and never being completely alone with anyone is a start to keep things from happening.

by Anonymousreply 97June 11, 2022 12:12 PM

R97 that workd for stranger danger, but not too effective in a work environment

by Anonymousreply 98June 11, 2022 1:26 PM

AGAIN, R97, the problem is not how the girls handled Fukanaga's inappropriate behavior, the problem is the inappropriate behavior.

by Anonymousreply 99June 11, 2022 1:59 PM

100!

by Anonymousreply 100June 11, 2022 2:11 PM

If he keeps carrying on like this he may get MonkeyPox.

by Anonymousreply 101June 11, 2022 3:46 PM

Who are these supposed poor, defenseless waifs he's been fucking and dumping?

by Anonymousreply 102June 11, 2022 3:50 PM

R102 Employees.

by Anonymousreply 103June 11, 2022 4:55 PM

what employees? he employs pre-teen girls, does he? give me a break, this is like the story of the woman who went berserk on some comedian's ass because he never called her back after their one-night stand. Fukunaga is gorgeous and an A list director - every fucking actress in Hollywood wants to land him.

by Anonymousreply 104June 11, 2022 5:00 PM

If "every" fucking actress in Hollywood wants to land gorgeous Cary than why does he have to resort to grooming plain looking girls?

by Anonymousreply 105June 11, 2022 5:32 PM

[quote]I don’t mean to be blaming the victims or anything, but are we raising generations of girls who don’t know how to stand up for themselves, fight back and get help? Not to mention they used to be very good at sharing information between each other and protecting the group about never being alone with certain guys. There’s a reason they go to the bathroom in pairs, and never being completely alone with anyone is a start to keep things from happening.

Some of you are stuck in the 80's, my God.

The man is being called out for using and abusing people, of course he's going to eventually be exposed. He had relationships with very young women who lacked the experience to know he was emotionally abusive, and now that they are older and wiser, they are using social media to expose him. Why should they stay quiet when they don't have to? People are done with this shit. Nobody is protecting his abusive ass. People can protect their reputation by acting responsibly and with integrity, maybe Cary should try that from now on?

by Anonymousreply 106June 11, 2022 7:00 PM

r106: you quote r97 but state they are asking young women to "stay quiet", when they did no such thing. Young women, such as those in this case, who feel used or manipulated by older, more powerful males should shout their stories to the skies. As is their right.

The question is, why weren't they shouting from the earliest moment they knew the manipulation began? Nearly all of them admitted they felt skeeved out, early on. LOUD, and tell it to their abuser/user's face while they're at it, while they kick him out the door.

The point here is minor disagreement with the concept of "very young women who lacked experience to know". Over-18, over-21 is not categorized for some as "very young". They are adults. And some of them admitted that they well knew they were mutually engaging in an inappropriate, or at the least weird, interaction w/Fukunaga.

Of course he's the primary problem here, if he behaved better we wouldn't be talking about him. But to spare themselves pain or upset, there's nothing inappropriate with asking young women to be stronger in these situations, to take better care of whom they end up in romantic settings with and better control of how things unroll in them. We are all captains of our own ships, despite efforts to somehow disenfranchise groups of people from this reality.

by Anonymousreply 107June 11, 2022 7:31 PM

[quote]The question is, why weren't they shouting from the earliest moment they knew the manipulation began? Nearly all of them admitted they felt skeeved out, early on. LOUD, and tell it to their abuser/user's face while they're at it, while they kick him out the door.

I read the comments from the young women and read/listened to their posts and stories on Instagram. What Rachelle Vinberg shared is that she didn't know enough about herself or relationships to know how she was being manipulated and groomed. Even when things seemed strange and uncomfortable, she explained them away. It was with distance and therapy that she began to realize how she was harmed by Cary Fukunaga. She is a more mature young woman now, and can speak with clarity about what occurred in her relationship with him.

Typically, the rational part of our brains develop by age 25, sometimes a little earlier, sometimes a little later. It's typical of young adults under 25 to not make good decisions or they lack good critical thinking skills. If you are an adult man of Cary Fukunaga's age, and you mistreat a person under 25, you should expect that, sooner or later, the young person you mistreated will mature and they may react negatively, and some won't be forgiving. In these cases, the older adult bears almost all of the responsibility.

[quote]there's nothing inappropriate with asking young women to be stronger in these situations, to take better care of whom they end up in romantic settings with and better control of how things unroll in them.

People tend to over correct younger people, especially women, about what they should or shouldn't do to protect themselves. I get it, it's easier to scold and lecture the victim than to call out the perpetrator. Maybe we feel we have more success lecturing the victim than taking on the abuser? But it's good to remember that many victims stay quiet because they feel ashamed about not protecting themselves better or leaving a bad situation or simply for not defending themselves. This is what abusers want, it keeps them from ever facing the consequences of their actions.

In any case, these young women acknowledge they made mistakes, but also place the blame squarely on the shoulders of the man who harmed them, as they should. They are using their voice to educate others about how you can be groomed and manipulated as an adult. Why is this a bad thing? I thank them for speaking out and educating people on emotional abuse and how to spot an abusive person or situation, whether in the workplace or in your personal life. And that victims are not alone and do have support.

by Anonymousreply 108June 11, 2022 9:19 PM

Look we learned long ago it isn't about sex, it's about power. Most of the time when these women come forward, they're rather plain looking, not raving beauties. Look at that woman who sued Prince Andrew. It's a lot easier to groom and flatter a plain Jane than it is a raving beauty. Cary is a Director. Directors are always on a power trip. Many of them are contol freaks with personality disorders.

by Anonymousreply 109June 11, 2022 10:43 PM

Either adult women are adults and responsible for their behavior or they are poor, pathetic helpless lil' creatures, seduced and abandoned. Fuck them. They're out to make a buck.

by Anonymousreply 110June 11, 2022 10:47 PM

R108 is pushing this story on a site for gay men. You gotta wonder what the fuck is wrong with her.

by Anonymousreply 111June 11, 2022 10:50 PM

"fuck -u"

at least his intentions are in his surname.

by Anonymousreply 112June 11, 2022 10:53 PM

"The question is, why weren't they shouting from the earliest moment they knew the manipulation began?"

Ever tried shouting at your boss when he or she behaved inappropriately? How did it go?

Please tell us about the time you shouted at your boss when they were being a shit! Especially if your boss was a power in a small industry that's very hard to crack, an industry where everybody knows everybody, and everybody thought your boss was hot shit and wanted to do him little favors, like refusing to employ the peon who'd shouted at him.

by Anonymousreply 113June 12, 2022 12:10 AM

Please r113, this is getting ridiculous. Of course I wouldn't normally shout at my boss, certainly not on the job or at the office.

But if he's in my BEDROOM, messing with my mind or stability or generally screwing me over, I would damn well feel far more comfortable shouting at him. Or at the least, strongly telling him my thoughts and feelings about our personal/sexual relationship, in that setting.

If my boss was a "power in a small industry that's hard to crack", and I'm trying to build a career there, and I also feel the desire to sleep or have sex with him or her, should I act on that feeling or impulse, knowing what kind of high risk I was taking on my future? Should I not KNOW that things might not end well, that it could be a gamble I could lose out on? If I'm an adult of course, well out of high school.

Of course I would know. It's called choices.

by Anonymousreply 114June 12, 2022 12:18 AM

R114 These young women (and man, Nick Cuse), made the mistake of trusting this man when they shouldn't have, and are owning up to that mistake, learning from it, and warning others. How about we hold Cary Fukunaga to the same strict standard you hold for his accusers? He's a foolish, immature, abusive, 44 year old pathetic dumbass. He gets zero sympathy from me.

by Anonymousreply 115June 12, 2022 10:21 AM

Many women aren’t cut out to work outside the home. They don’t know how to work with men. They fall right back into that looking fit a daddy figure routine the minute they fuck up. Men and women didn’t work side by side for centuries. That is why you hear so many of these stories. They simply cannot work together.

by Anonymousreply 116June 12, 2022 12:58 PM

J’accuse!

by Anonymousreply 117June 12, 2022 1:20 PM

When you're pretty, jealous people tell lies about you. And if you reject someone who is not pretty themselves they can be so vicious. The pretty ones pay a price for their beauty.

by Anonymousreply 118June 12, 2022 3:34 PM

he tried to fuck the fat guy? lol

by Anonymousreply 119June 12, 2022 3:49 PM

{sigh} r115. I'm not holding the accusers to a stricter standard. I'm all over this thread stating my disgust at Fuck-up-naga and expressing zero sympathy for his self-created predicament. I support the accusers voicing their truth, for justice and for warning/deterrence sake (see r107).

I'm not going to apologize for stating I also want young women (and men) to be more aware, better socially trained and educated about the age-old risks of sleeping with their bosses and superiors, in any industry or setting. And the negative situations and personal harm that can result. To suss out predatory asses like Fukunaga early on, to avoid pain and grief and to perhaps (if enough negative feedback is received) cause assholes like him to re-evaluate their stupid game plan.

Harms abound everywhere, and I'm not going to stop warning my younger, less experienced loved ones of their presence and risk and how to manage them.

by Anonymousreply 120June 12, 2022 4:21 PM

ok...."victim..."

by Anonymousreply 121June 12, 2022 4:23 PM

Oh for fuck's sake, R114, R120, Ralloverthisfucking thread, it's not about the victims! There's no magic way for someone under pressure by a real asshole to handle the situation well, if you're offered a choice between fucking a creep or kissing your career goodbye, there are no good options and that's all there is to it! There's no magical female way to "handle" these guys, no way to get him to back off without being offended, and with the real creeps, no way to say "no" or try to impose boundaries without losing your fucking job and having to start over.

The victims can't make the situation better, because the abuser has deliberately created a situation where there is no "better" for the victim, no good options, no way out, just godawful options whatever they do. And that's why it's so important to get these assholes fired or jailed, because there is literally no other way to stop them from ruining people's lives.

by Anonymousreply 122June 12, 2022 4:32 PM

Who is the nutjob ranting and raving about Fukunaga? He's an insanely talented director and can do whatever the fukunaga he wants. He's also gorgeous.

by Anonymousreply 123June 12, 2022 6:59 PM

[quote]Harms abound everywhere, and I'm not going to stop warning my younger, less experienced loved ones of their presence and risk and how to manage them.

I'm the type of person who tells the abuser to fuck off, not the abused to toughen up. There's plenty of people like you around to do the latter.

by Anonymousreply 124June 13, 2022 1:16 AM

Read the Rolling Stone article: Cary is creepy.

by Anonymousreply 125June 27, 2022 8:19 PM

I’d creep all over his junk with my mouth, r125

by Anonymousreply 126June 27, 2022 11:18 PM

Creepy is old, ugly, fat. Harvey Weinstein. Cary Fukunaga cannot be creepy.

by Anonymousreply 127June 27, 2022 11:24 PM

On the Attractiveness/Perverted Grid, Cary falls under “Off-Putting” rather than “Creepy.”

by Anonymousreply 128June 28, 2022 9:14 AM

Just saw Cary Fukunaga in the West Village.

He looked like a bloated hot mess.

by Anonymousreply 129February 5, 2023 6:49 PM

Tell us more, R129!

by Anonymousreply 130February 9, 2023 12:23 AM

[quote]Look we learned long ago it isn't about sex, it's about power.

No, it’s about sex.

by Anonymousreply 131February 9, 2023 12:29 AM

These straight guys need to start fucking gay men. Gay men don’t whine and complain.

by Anonymousreply 132February 9, 2023 12:30 AM

R130

He was near the basketball courts near W, 4th talking on the phone, making no eye contact with anyone.

Cary looked like his True Detective time, bloated hot mess.

by Anonymousreply 133February 9, 2023 12:31 AM

Damn, he's hot. who is he with these days? is he married? gf?

by Anonymousreply 134February 9, 2023 12:34 AM

Thanks R133

by Anonymousreply 135February 10, 2023 12:07 PM

R23, stfu! Some young women may not be able to navigate situations with an older man, BECAUSE they're young, you asshole.

by Anonymousreply 136February 10, 2023 1:21 PM

He's probably the reason why Alexandra Daddario was walking around braless/pantyless as well as not wearing a merkn in True Detective.

by Anonymousreply 137February 17, 2023 8:32 PM

About True Detective: He's probably the reason why Alexandra Daddario was walking around without a bra and panties under her top and shorts take after take as well as no merkin for her nude scene.

by Anonymousreply 138February 17, 2023 8:43 PM

Cary’s ex- latina girlfriend married her art euro trash boyfriend.

What’s Fukunaga been up to?

by Anonymousreply 139July 10, 2024 8:54 AM

He briefly dated Margaret Qualley, daughter of Andi MacDowell.

by Anonymousreply 140July 10, 2024 9:26 AM

Look R120, all of us here are gay, beautiful and not fat so we don’t have to worry about our minds or anything else being fucked by Cary Fukaga. (Whom I agree isn’t much more than a commercials director.)

You seem to be wasting a lot of breath here trying to earn your self-righteous, protector of the young and stupid bonafides. Not sure why.

I just think it’s funny that these days, everyone thinks sex should just be beautiful and satisfying like a dream… lol

Sometimes sex is regrettable. That’s part of the experience, the chance you take. And there is power with sex on both sides of the equation. It’s just odd that people think something so primal has changed. Women use the prospect of sex for power all the time and it’s usually when things don’t go their way that it becomes a problem. The only way to learn is to take full responsibility for your own behaviour. The time to call out your boss is when they make a sexual advance on you - that’s an abuse of power - not after you’ve gone to a hotel room with them, etc. That just sounds like somebody trying to benefit from somebody’s interest in them. There’s a big difference. In the second scenario, they’re both players.

by Anonymousreply 141July 10, 2024 10:26 AM

Who is Cary fucking these days?

by Anonymousreply 142July 10, 2024 10:32 AM

Probably nobody, R142. Nobody wants to be seen with him.

by Anonymousreply 143July 10, 2024 12:12 PM

[quote]Whom I agree isn’t much more than a commercials director.

It's "who" in this instance, r141.

by Anonymousreply 144July 10, 2024 1:27 PM
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