Datalounge Guys Over 40- Do You Still Seek Out Sex?

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57yo here. Yes. I employ hookers. Convenient. No drama.

Ditto

Good for you, OP. Seldom, but occasionally I do. Upper 40s here.

R2, R3- Do you use rentmen.com or some other site or source?

online sites incl rentmen and brothels

I think some people may be buying into the idea that 30s is old and they internalize this and become depressed. I’ve had my best sex in my 30s and 40s.

sleepyboy also

I'm a millennial that hasn't had sex since the pandemic started... I do have a fuck buddy that I blow once in a while though

R9- That counts as sex.

I'm 43. Not really. I like men from 45-60. They aren't interested in me. At all. They want younger. These are the same men who would do anything to fuck me about 8 years ago. Alas.

But I get it. It's the way of life. So I just gave up.

Thankfully, I have tons of hot as fuck sexual experiences to fondly recall should I need to do so!

Of course, Op. I’ve never had any problem on apps. Give them a try

R12- I've never used Grindr or Scruff or any other apps for sex. I used to use Craigslist. I go to a bathhouse occasionally.

Yes I think it’s an important aspect of life. I take a viagra every Friday 🙃

R14- I know this is datalounge and there's a lot of sarcasm here but are you being sarcastic or serious?

I’m a 50 year old bottom. Do the math. My shelf life has expired.

R13, I use Adam4Adam and Asspig and get lots of cock. Haven’t been to the bathhouse much but love that too. Aren’t you at least getting sex at the bathhouse?

In my 20’s and 30’s, I’d have sex every day—hooks ups galore. In my 40’s I not longer feel I need it daily so maybe 1-2 X per week. During the first two years of the pandemic I didn’t have sex at all—and yet I survived.

I’m only starting up again, finding my FB’s after two dry years. It’s fun but once a week is fine. I jerk off a few times a week though

This hole is not going to fuck itself.

Nope.

No. I have a completely unopened bottle of PrEP sitting in my dresser. I haven’t had sex in about a year and a half or two years. Nobody is texting, messaging, or calling. At least nobody I want to hear from. I get the occasional gross come-on on Scruff, but largely my woofs and messages go ignored. Probably gonna delete my account and purge my phone book of numbers I don’t expect to hear from again.

R17- I am able to get sex at the bathhouse but not with the HOTTEST guys there- I'm not complaining. At my age I am happy there are still guys interesting in having sex with me.

44. Not in many many years.

My typing SUCKS. I meant to say interested not interesting.

I don't get the obsession with everyone seeking out sex like animals in heat. I am in my late 30s and have had anal once, and maybe oral sex like 12 times ever? It is just much more simple to jerk off and be done with it when the need arises. I do not think I missed out on much besides maybe some STDs. Don't get me wrong I am a hornball but it is easy to keep in check with masturbation. I guess a lot of us just can't resist our carnal desires... like a bitch in heat.

Prior to Covid I flew to Cairo or Delhi for sex. After a week there my hole was usually worn out and I was ready for a break. Overseas sex is my only hope at age 67.

I’m 60, chubby, fem, balding. I still get enough because I’m an all takers status irrelevant strict bottom. I turn down NOBODY. Hookups twice a week. I’m ok with 99 percent of fetishes. I need loads up my cunt and will do all I can do get them.

I haven’t sought sex in over a decade which used to concern me, but the upside is that my life has been drama free, and I can read about monkey pox without any personal concern.

[Quote] I am able to get sex at the bathhouse but not with the HOTTEST guys there

Who cares about the hottest guys? The hottest sex I’ve had have rarely been with traditionally hot guys.

Enjoy the sex you have and find beauty in everyone.

I gave it up when I turned 45.

I mean when I was 45. Not because of a particular birthday.

Just turned 60 ...but I look younger!

I started to lose my drive 6 years ago but it's back and stronger than ever.

I think about screwing twinks in their late 30s and being dominated by marine studs in their mid-40s. Seldom anything in between.

At the end of the day, though, all I really want is intimacy. It's too bad prostitution isn't legal. I'd pay a few times a month just to be hold by a guy provided he could convince me he cares for an hour.

That'd be my fix and then I'd get back to my life until I started climbing the walls again.

We all have needs and most of them go unmet.

COVID reminded me that life is short; who gives a shit if someone else would judge me for going 'commercial' with my love life.

Life is short. You gotta grab whatever happiness you can because it's here and then, as Joss Whedon once wrote....'GONE'

[quote] I'm 43. Not really. I like men from 45-60. They aren't interested in me. At all. They want younger. These are the same men who would do anything to fuck me about 8 years ago.

Pathetic. Very sad.

I’m 52. Monogamous with 46 yo bf. We have amazing and rewarding sex. About 3x per week.

I take Finasteride for a benignly enlarged prostate condition the last several years. Has lowered by sexual libido quite a bit. I don't care or miss it. Nowadays I don't see out sex, but I sure do enjoy focusing on other equally healthy areas of my life more, ever since.

I'm 48. I don't really seek out anything and I haven't followed through with anyone since a scary Grindr encounter a few years ago. I'm open to it if someone wants to talk to me in a bar, but I mostly go to straight sports bars. So, no. I'm satified with my Next Door Studios videos and vintage Corbin Fisher.

R26- You're going overseas to Cairo and Delhi from where?

Yes, I could do it once or twice a day. Go to a bathhouse once a week or so, plus have FWB's. I'm late 50's, quite fit which I think makes a difference. I'm basically a side (do oral etc) but ocassionally top on request

LAX connected nicely to both Cairo and Delhi prior to Covid. Now it is a bit of a challenge to find an affordable ticket but I am flying to Delhi soon.

R39- I always like Indian guys - yum.

R38- Do you drive a V8 or drink a V8?

R36- I never liked bringing strangers back to my place or going to their place. Why not try a bathhouse- if there's one in your area. Much safer- no one knows where you live or anything else about you- if you don't want them too.

R33- Who's pathetic this 43 year old guy or the fact that these mature guys aren't into him anymore?

"FREE ENTRY AND LOCKER FOR 18-24 YEAR OLDS EVERY DAY"

[quote]"FREE ENTRY AND LOCKER FOR 18-24 YEAR OLDS EVERY DAY"

I've never been to a bathhouse. Always seemed a little tacky and sleazy for my taste, but are there any 18-24 years old going to bathhouses? Or is that just to lure them in?

[Quote] Always seemed a little tacky and sleazy for my taste, but are there any 18-24 years old going to bathhouses? Or is that just to lure them in?

The sleazyness is the point.

Yes, I’ve seen a number of college students at the baths, but less as the years go on. They’ve mainly turned to apps, but every now and again there will be some young guys.

[quote] Or is that just to lure them in?

No, Rose. The free entry and locker offer is actually to keep them away.

I don’t see much of a future for baths after the current gay elders die.

With apps and the emphasis on gay marriage, young guys, en masse, don’t need a safe place to have sex

[quote]No, Rose.

🤣😂😉I've never gotten a "No, Rose" before. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You've made my morning.

[Quote] I've never gotten a "No, Rose" before.

Seriously?

R43, I'd like to know too!

For the record, I don't think I'm pathetic at all. I am still in great shape, take care of myself, have a great career, fantastic friends, etc.

I'm just middle-aged and the men that I once easily hooked up with aren't interested in me anymore.

Again, not sure why that would make me pathetic. I think it'd be more pathetic if I continued pursuing those men, got surgery to make me feel younger, brag about looking ten years younger (I don't) on online forums, etc. As I see it, I can't make myself be attracted to a man who isn't my type, why should I get all bent out of shape if other men can no longer make themselves attracted to me?

The earth will still spin.

Seek it out?

I am 44 and it finds me.

Yes. The male brothel I go to kept going right through the pandemic with a few adjustments like you had to make an appointment. It's walk-in again now.

And all of you crying about no young men in baths must live in the US. In the rest of the world they are very popular.

76, two weeks ago

"Silverdaddies R Us"

[quote] [R33]- Who's pathetic this 43 year old guy or the fact that these mature guys aren't into him anymore?

The 43-year-old guy is not pathetic. The 45-60-y-o men are pathetic to reject the 43-y-o guy.

Where is Mr. Go Asian?

R55- Good for you.

R27- I assume you're kidding but on datalounge who knows.

R27 is the Shit Brickhouse Troll.

Disappointingly, he didn't mention his puny cocklet this time.

Where the hellnis there a male brothel in the US? Other than maybe Nevada.

R60- Oh, for some reason I wish he were being serious.

[quote]Do You Still Seek Out Sex?

Talk to the hand.

R63- I've masturbated to a lot of fun things on the internet over the years but sometimes I like actual sex and it's not just the sex but like my friend says- a bit of intimacy.

My bf just bred me by the pool. Hot day, hawt sex.

Yes, we're both over 40.

Daddy's Home!

and daddy needs to go on a diet- PRONTO

Hey datalounge people- would you pay to have sex with this guy?

R65- and apparently affluent if you have your own swimming pool unless it's one of those tiny plastic ones that Kmart sells

I seek it and have it at 68- sheesh

I'll let you know after I turn 40.

I’m 61 and my interest in sex almost completely vanished a few years ago, roughly coinciding with the onset of the pandemic. A blessing in disguise, I guess. When I was active, my age was a benefit in my niche sexual sphere. I still occasionally hear from some talented twinks looking for a helping hand, but that’s really gotten to be too much trouble.

I had a husband for 14 years and we only broke up because of my promiscuity. He tragically died less than three years after we parted. I’m now finding I think of him almost every day. I didn’t properly appreciate what I had and foolishly gave up.

I’m now living with my straight brother; we’ve always been very close. He divorced more than ten years ago and his ex-wife and two sons live on the other side of the country. So we’ve got each other and seem to be recreating our boyhood. We even recently adopted a homeless cat, replicating our childhood pet. I haven’t been so content in years. When I was younger, I thought sex was one of the most important things in the world. I’m so glad that I’ve found it isn’t.

Goddamn, some of you all are more squeamish about sex than the nuns who taught in my high school.

54 and happy to have lost the drive. Really morning but a waste of time in retrospect. I had tons of sex and was probably sex obsessed in my 20s and 30s. Now I’m grateful to to have the constant distraction /urge and be able to enjoy life’s simple pleasures. Sex is great at 20. Now I just have no desire to make the effort or deal with the complications,

R35 - At least you have a full head of hair.

As you probably know, Finasteride in combination with Minoxidil is the only FDA approved treatments for male pattern baldness. And for most men, their reduced libido begins to recover after a few months. Personally, I always had strong libido and Finasteride did not negatively affect it. I've been doing this treatment for fifteen years and it's still working. I’m now in my early 60’s with a full head of hair. Because of age my libido has slowed down somewhat, but it’s still there and I have an active sex life. And here it comes, you bitches were waiting for it, the classic DL cliche… honestly, no one can believe I’m in my 60’s, truly.

R73- About three years ago I had sex with a guy who told me he was 60. I really found it hard to believe. He was quite youthful looking and seeming.

Not everyone here on datalounge is full of shit about their bragging about how everyone thinks they're much younger than their actual age- though many are of course full of shit about that.

R66 I actually HAVE paid to have sex with that guy.

R66, that guy is HOT! 🔥

If I could go to a bathhouse, I probably would, but I’ve worked in HIV prevention for so long, all the outreach workers that make pit stops passing out condoms and doing rapid testing know me by name. I’d have to fly to another city.

I’m also now wondering why the fuck I haven’t gone to bathhouses in every damn city I’ve visited in the last 20 years. Probably because most of my travel has been work related and with my luck I wouldn’t run into an outreach worker, I’d run into a professional colleague who had the same idea.

R41 I drive a V8 - I actually have two of them. Commodore with a 350 cubic in LS1 V8, with a few minor mods, and an old Cadillac with the 500 cubic in V8, thats been tweaked a bit more, I've done a few spectacular burnouts in that. Would love to have a TransAm (ideally as per the one in "Smokey and the Bandit") or Camaro, or a 70's El Camino with the big block V8 in it

R54 yeah get a reasonable number of young guys at the bathouses here, although it does tend to skew a little older overall. And fatter unfortunately. Some days its not worth the bother. Other days it can be a veritable garden of delights, you just dont know

R66 that guy does absolutely nothing for me, dont think I'd do him even for free. Skinny smooth guys are more my thing, any age, especially if they're a bit fem. Or a lot

I'm 67 and have enough sex that I feel I'm not incel - but only occasionally is it good sex.

Tell us more R75, whet our appetites.

I'm 59 and I am having more sex now than ever. Just for a laugh, I jumped on Grindr and Scruff a few years ago and have been amazed at the number of hot guys (younger AND older) who want this daddy to fuck their brains out. I have been "collected" by a few of them for regular hookups but have been finding a bunch of opportunities when I haven't even been looking - cruised at the supermarket, bank,gas station (yes, got to recreate a Falcon film scene is a rest room at a rest stop). This relativly recent turn of events strikes me as so strange as I was NEVER given a glance in my 20s, 30s and 40s. N-E-V-E-R! No shit! Not sure if its my confidence in aging - "it is what it is" - or if the younger generation is more free about lifting thier legs for againg cock, but I'm not complaining. I went to a bathhouse last month for the first time since the 1980s, and got involved in a group scene with a bunch of dads plowing a furry footballer in a sling. Try something new everyday ... Sorta want this stage of my life to last for a bit - I'm having some fun.

On a side note, when I went to the bathhouse, I was heavily cruised by an ASSHOLE I went to high school with. I am VERY sure he had no idea who I was or that he was aware that he was following a man he completely fucked over as a friend back in the day. He kept watching me with puppy dog eyes as I hooked up with others and kept offering me his ass. I so badly want to just grab him, bend him over, pump and dump, pull him back by the scruff of his neck, bark at him to clean me off and when he had my dirty cock in his mouth, tell him who just seeded his hole. If I see him there again ... may just do that.

You barebacking R81?

(r82) generally, no. With two of the FBs I am.

It’s amusing that younger people stop fucking after 40.

r81 none of this ever happened, it reads like Playboy's column from back in the day - or was it Penthouse?

R85 I don't remember reading about gay bath house sex in either Playboy OR Penthouse!

R85, it was Penthouse.

Penthouse Forum IIRC

R78- Commodore- Are you in Australia?- that's an Aussie car

I miss the BIG American cars of the 1970's- I was a little kid but I remember them well- the styling and the comfort.

Sounds like you have some fun cars.

I stopped seeking sex in my mid twenties. I could never find it. Sucks when you are an ugly gay. I’ve made my peace.

When I went to the bathhouse a week ago Saturday I and I fucked this attractive Latino- I used a condom. When I first came out back in 1994 my friend had this to say about the gay world- They're ALL bottoms looking for a TOP.

R90- How old are you now?

R81- Good for you

I'm over 65 and I don't need to "seek out sex."

Sex comes to me. There are so many young guys who want and need a proper daddy/grand-daddy, and I don't mean for transactional encounters. If anything, I have to be careful to avoid too much dependency on their parts.

[quote] Probably because most of my travel has been work related and with my luck I wouldn’t run into an outreach worker, I’d run into a professional colleague who had the same idea.

So?

I used to be squeamish about being recognized but then understood that everyone is there for the same thing, even the outreach workers go in their spare time.

Plus, I don't see outreach workers any more at baths.

What, is he going tell everyone he saw you at the baths??

I'm pushing 40, and I don't go more than a week without sex and I don't think I have (apart from due to illness or something) for my whole adult life, except for after a bad breakup once that threw me off my game for a couple of months.

I don't think I have a particularly high sex drive and I can't imagine the next 10 or so years being any different. I don't know why any guys would just stop bothering to have sex. It's one of the best parts of life.

R97- That and food.

51, average looking, at best, and way too shy and socially awkward for the bathhouse scene, I doubt there are any in the entire tri-state area to go to anyway.

R61 There was a male brothel in Nevada attached to a female brothel as an afterthought. It didn't catch on so they closed it; the female whorehouse carries on. It is in a county which I believe is unique in the country by having a legal brothel.

R26 is going to be a super spreader of the next ...pox that pops up.

Nye County, Nevada. Otherwise the US is a male brothel desert.

“i’m not a hooker,” MARKUS says repeatedly. “i’m a surrogate lover.”

Prosti-Dude !

I’m 48 — fully embraced Daddy-hood in my earlier 40s. The apps have been good to me. Always nice to hook up with the type of curious college jock I was lusting for back in the day. They might not always be up for everything, but they’re usually up for most everything.

Lyon County

All I have to do is rollover in bed and grab the first cock I find other than my own.

Much easier setup.

That same cock has been in my bed for 26 years and it works on demand.

R106, gets a bit same-ole, same-ole don't it? Variety is the spice of life.

Yes, think about it when I see a looker, do It ..... just go to local rest area or gay beach. I am almost 88.

Sadly, those male brothels are for women

I am married and we have a great sex life, however if I were still single I have no doubt I would continue to seek out ass until my cock no longer works.

In my 70s and, yes, I still occasionally want sex and find it.

One of my favorite things to masturbate to on my computer are scenes from tv shoes and movies where men are forced to strip completely naked in front of dressed people.

[quote] tv shoes

You in danger gurl.

R113- my typing skills are weak

OP R114 - you still in danger.

I'm 57, and before this pandemic idiocy. For 35 years, I always had some outlet for sex, (Bathhouses, sex clubs, massuers, escorts). Now, I miss it.

R116- There's a bathhouse in Berkley- why not go there?

R81- They are not lifting their legs for aging cock- they are lifting their legs for MATURE cock.

R89, yes I'm down under - but New Zealand

I had not had sex for four month but two weeks ago Saturday I went to bathhouse and had some action. I also went back one week later and had more fun. None of the guys I had sex with would be considered Datalounge HOT 🥵 but I don’t care 🤷🏻.

[quote] I'm a millennial that hasn't had sex

Oh, dear.