Cal Me By Your Name Director Defends Lack Of Gay Sex

Not everything has to be porn you pervs.

Interesting comments and I certainly agree with his decision. Not so sure about his reevaluation of how Oliver betrayed Elio. I feel like his own failed relationship has tainted that opinion.

This shitting homophobic fantasist who makes movies for personal fetishistic reasons needs to shut up about his failure.

I'm fine with the lack of sex, although the book is so deeply sexy that I wish there was at least a stronger chemistry between the actors. I've always felt it was miscast, at least for Armie's part. He is beautiful but lacks sexiness and was too old besides. That being said, there seems to be a slight trend of creators or actors downplaying gay male sexuality in the name of "pure" relationships, as if sex diminishes the other aspects of a connection. No one project needs explicit gay sex, but the general lack of it is frustrating.

Dumb wop.

Lol I agree with R1.

People just wanted to see the real Armie and the real Timmy having sex, so they could whack off to it.

Truthfully, I think the kissing scenes were much hotter than them actually having sex.

anyone else?

the kissing scenes were just wonderful, spontaneous and open-mouthed, inhaling each other. I get hot just thinking about it.

Is this movie an institution of learning, or a teenaged brothel???

let it go, folks.

A 40 year old man kissing a 15 year old girly boy - EWW.

White people problems.

I'm sure he treated the gay sex in [italic]Call Me by Your Name[/italic] with the same modest, not-everything-needs-to-be-shown sensibility as he did the underage threesome, blindfolded gang fellatio, and violent S&M scenes in [italic]Melissa P.[/italic], the genital-baring and outdoor sex scenes in [italic]I Am Love[/italic], and the swimming pool sex in [italic]A Bigger Splash[/italic].

Oh wait...

Cut to the trees blowing in the wind. Been there done that.

The lack of a sex scenes between Elio and Oliver stood out in contrast to scenes between Elio and Marzia having sex. Guadanigno can show Elio eating out a topless woman, but very little of the Gay couple? I didn't expect to see anything gratuitous, but come on.

yeah that scene where Marzia wiped the jizz off her chest was really erotic.

So we had:

An Elio masturbation session witnessed in its ending by Oliver, the grabbing of Oliver's sex by Elio, the Elio-Oliver making out, Oliver's jizz on Elio's chest, the two blow jobs that Oliver performs on Elio, the peach drops reminiscent of Oliver's jizz, the peach full of cum licked by Oliver, the enamoured looks, Elio sitting awkwardly the morning after at the breakfast table, Oliver sitting awkwardly in the bus next to Elio after Elio topping him and all the emotional stuff...

versus a boner while making out with Marzia, a 3 seconds fuck ending in laughs, a cunnilingus(?) and kiss ending by a boner.

(did they use the 6 inches or the 7 inches dildo prop?)

I disagree. I thought there was tons of gay sex in it, like when Lil Nas X went to hell & gave Satan a lap dance.

[quote]An Elio masturbation session witnessed in its ending by Oliver, the grabbing of Oliver's sex by Elio, the Elio-Oliver making out, Oliver's jizz on Elio's chest, the two blow jobs that Oliver performs on Elio, the peach drops reminiscent of Oliver's jizz, the peach full of cum licked by Oliver, the enamoured looks, Elio sitting awkwardly the morning after at the breakfast table, Oliver sitting awkwardly in the bus next to Elio after Elio topping him and all the emotional stuff...

None of this is Gay sex.

Oh please!

It was a straight director and a straight cast making a gay movie, I knew there wouldn’t be any gay sex.

All the lesbian movies have crazy sex scenes.

I don’t buy the “oh it’s not about raunchy sex”. Please.

And in those types of relationships in real life, it’s ALL about raunchy sex, which is why I didn’t connect to the movie at all. I thought it was bullshit.

I believe "Hollywood" is still afraid of being sex positive and using (gay) sex as anything other than as a cause of problems and conflict. And then getting all high almighty by insisting that everything else is so much more interesting than the sex-stuff (which is why nobody cares about sex tapes of celebrities, am I right? LOL).

Meanwhile in lesbian movies like Benedetta there's a lot of sex. Why is lesbian sex so much more acceptable than gay sex?

[quote] Why is lesbian sex so much more acceptable than gay sex?

Because females don't have weapons as sex organs.

Large penises are very threatening to audiences, and therefore frowned upon.

Plus, they can penetrate your orifices, which also terrifies the viewer.

There's none of that with lesbian sex.

He’s full of shit.

Yeah, heterosexual films often have sex scenes, so why shouldn't there should be the equivalent number of sex scenes in gay films?

Three gay films come out at the same time. CMBYN and Moonlight - full of trembling coyness. God's Own Country, with a gay director - full nudity and shagging.

Luca Guadagnino is not a straight director. Unless I missed Cito Filomarino secretly being a woman all along. That's why this feels more like a betrayal; if Bertolucci had been the filmmaker I'd have understood the aversion to showing gay love scenes in an explicit way. (Though he at least has coaxed peen out of his male stars. And we'd also have seen lots of beautiful sun-drenched Italian countryside instead of washed-out scenes of some pudunk town.)

I watched this for the first time the other day on a flight.. I really enjoy it but I was confused by the casting. TC was meant to be 17? I think that was fine although he looked young. But how old with AH meant to be?! He looked about 35 which quite frankly just seemed a bit weird with a young looking 17 year old .. I didn’t get it.. but I did enjoy the story & I thought TC was outstanding.