Boston

tragic my ass

Tragic, compared to what OP? The past? The present in other cities? Does gay life their have a promise of a glorious rebirth for the future?

Sadly, D) All of the Above.

I’ve lived there since 2002, the beginning of the sunset. Missed The Safari Club but was still able to visit the Eagle and be amused on occasion.

tragic my ass

Put ya cahk in my crappa! Fuck yeah that’s wicked haht!!

I haven't been in Boston since 1974

Get your ass out of Southie you faggot!

Boston is a great city.

[quote] There’s been a lot of talk lately about how tragic the gay scene is.

Yes, the Upper-Midwest is abuzz with nothing else. What a weird, unqualified statement.

Yes that did come out of left field, R8.

[quote]Boston. There’s been a lot of talk lately about how tragic the gay scene is.

It must be the boys from Providence again, just trying to stir up shit.

I've been to the Ramrod, but I've never been to me.

Idk.. I’ve read a lot of posts lately on Reddit etc that say the gay scene in Boston is terrible. I don’t know anything about it. I’ve never been to Boston. I can’t imagine it would be that bad. There are a ton of universities.

I mean, most of the gay bars have closed, it’s true. There are 6 or 7 left? But there are all sorts of nightly events, meetups, book clubs, drag brunches, professional groups, and a pretty awesome LGBTQ film festival (which is going on right now).

It’s not a get-fisted-in-the-backroom kind of town these days, but that’s how some of us like it. I’m 40, partnered, and too old for this shit anyway (as are my friends).

Also, Boston’s adult population skews young, and is more likely to be identify as “queer” and live most of their social life online. This can be counterproductive for the average DLers very 20th century idea of a “gay scene.”

Any kind of nightlife scene has long become tragic in Boston.

R13 Im 33 sounds like my kind of city. Id love to move to a walkable city & ditch my car. I cant afford NY. Friends have said Providence is cool as well. Im ok with cold weather. I live in Ann Arbor.

Is Boston really walkable, though?

R16 Idk it seems that way in pictures.

It’s still a big city…the likelihood that you’re going to have a walkable commute, for example, is low. But the neighborhoods are dense and compact and walking is often a nice way to get around.

It's more than a feeling.

Provincetown is the gayest city in the US and it's a short ferry ride from downtown Boston. Why would Boston need anything else?

[quote] drag brunches

So very encouraging

I'm under the impression Boston has a lot of high earning gay men. So they may just have a smaller network and dating pool.

Yes, R22, it does and unsurprisingly in such a wealthy city and state. OTOH, it used to be different: cruising in Boston, whether in the Fens or along the Charles or in the Pilgrim Theater, knew no class or wealth distinctions. If you were horny, low-income or high, you got off.

R13: Is right. I don't know if the kids are all right, but you're accurate in that their social lives, to the extent they have any, are now largely conducted online. Their sex lives? Do they have them anymore? Not like we did, one consequence of which is that a lot of my generation - who socialized in bars to meet people to fuck among other things - is now dead.

I'm surprised people think gay bars should be flourishing. How and why? The young - straight or gay - don't drink like their elders did. Alcohol consumption in the US is 25% less than it was a decade ago. People work in different ways, too, and you're less likely to meet people through a job if you're working at home. The cost of a night out has increased exponentially, meaning more people can't afford to splash out on partying - beers used to be a buck - so it's cheaper to drink at home or someone else's place. Or to smoke legal weed.

Times change, people do, too. In the 70's and 80's, relatively few gay men went to the gym and lots of guys went to the bars to socialize. HIV changed that - for some it was seen as a way to stem the tide, thinking "If I'm in better shape, I won't get it." Now you're probably more likely to connect with someone out of the gym that a bar. People have new ways to meet and don't socialize the way they used to.