49 y/o on Grindr prefers 18 y/o to 30 y/o ONLY

So what? Some young guys prefer daddies.

Why is it so hard for people to accept aging? - Flawed human nature

Can he be helped or is it too late? - He doesn't want your help. It's his own miserable deluded life to live. Why do you care? .

As he gets fewer and fewer hits, he will expand his criteria or give up.

When I was in my early twenties i actually preferred his age . Let people enjoy their lives OP and mind your own business.

OP.... I suspect that if that guy is halfway decent looking he pulls them in on the regular.

Not the hottest guys on Grindr, but all the young guys who are just not-good looking-enough to get lots of offers from guys their own age.

And if he lives in an area where there are lots of college students and had his own place....

^^Lots of closet cases too who figure there is no way he is going to known anyone they know or that they will ever run into him IRL:

Is he in decent shape and at least okay looking? He might have to fish a while longer, but he'll catch plenty of ass.

Otherwise, well good luck sailor.

49 can still be sexy.

When I was younger, I preferred older guys because they generally knew what they were doing and took their time making the experience a lot more fun vs younger guys who just fumbled around or came as quickly as possible.

I can understand if he's a top but if he's a bottom.... that's some unresolved highschool fantasy shit

Maybe he's just stinking rich.

[quote] When I was younger, I preferred older guys because they generally knew what they were doing and took their time making the experience a lot more fun vs younger guys who just fumbled around or came as quickly as possible.

Agree, it’s no fun when the guy, blows his load and jizzes all over you, in the first 90 seconds.

So??

Sprinkle in some more commas there, r12.

You may question why those are his interests. You shouldn’t question that it is possible.

Odds are he has a nicer home and more disposable income than guys in that age bracket, so he may well be a good catch to those seeking a sugar daddy.

I would doubt he would have to pay unless he is unattractive.

When I was eighteen, I fucked around with a guy who was fifteen years older, and had the best sexual experiences of my life. We're still friends. In fact, he's single now, and I need to pay him a visit.

A closed mouth don’t get fed, OP.

R18 will you bring your friend a gift to honor his 80th birthday?

OP, I suggest you get out more. The best thing that happened to me as I passed 50 is my hair turned silver. I prefer guys my own age but if you think there aren't young guys out there looking for older daddy-types, you're mistaken.

Straight men do this all the time. They don't want women over 30.

So what else is new....

Very funny, R10.

OP here. R22, that was I thought was interesting. The cutoff age @30. As if men just fall apart at 31 lol. He is here in NY,. There tons of good-looking men over the magical age of 30.

R5, R6 good points.

R21, that wasn’t my point. However, do you only want guys between 18 and 30?

I would also add that 49 is the preferred Grindr age of guys from 50 to around 65.

If he's a top, he'll get all the ass he wants.

Yeh, I bet that "49" year old is at least 57.

OP is fat and an idiot. Probably a tranny.

Almost all my ex fuck buds who are now 58-65 and are still on cruise eps are now 49-53.

R23, I haven't been on the apps for a long time, but I think mine still say 32.

Oh well.

I’m 49 and I also prefer to date guys who are late teens-early 20s. You see, everyone tells me I don’t look a day over 21, and this has led to awkward dates with men of my own age where I’ve been carded when we order wine at a restaurant, or thrown out of a bar because the bouncer/bartender is convinced I’m using a fake ID. It’s just easier to hang out with people who look the same age as I do.

I post on DL about being 49 and looking young. Which means I'm actually 63.

It seems that R30 was written in jest, R31

To each his own, I supposed. When I was 18-20, I was mostly attracted to guys my own age but did on occasion lust after an older guy (30s - early 40s) if he checked my boxes. Throughout my life I've always gravitated to guys my own age (now, 55). I can't imagine dating someone who didn't share my sense of history or frame of reference, regardless of how firm his body might be. And to be perfectly honest, there is still something that feels shady about generation-gap romances. Seems more transactional than anything.

But, if we're going on a bitchfest about Grindr it would be this... the number of guys who claim to be 50s and look 70. WTF. I think I look my age, but compared to those cryptkeepers I look like a post-grad student. Now and then I see a guy my age who looks my age too, but almost invariably he's partnered and/or looking for children. Grindr is more like watching a fishbowl than an actual hookup/dating site.

It's one thing to have preferences (and we all do) but like OP, I think it's ridiculous when older men say they will ONLY fuck someone significantly younger.

If you won't fuck someone your age, why should I?

[quote] I can't imagine dating someone who didn't share my sense of history or frame of reference, regardless of how firm his body might be.

Not sure I'd call a Grindr hookup "dating." Or that anything vaguely resembling conversation ever occurs

R35 no but that does happen too. I know two men (one in his 60s, one in his 50s) shacked up with guys about to turn 30. No great beauties in either couple, and from what I can tell, no fortunes. No idea what they talk about.

Isn't that a Stevie Nicks song? On the Edge of FortyNine.

@35 - I've actually made two good friends, separate from each other, that started on Grindr. We weren't a romantic match but liked each other and over the years have developed great friendship. Grindr is what you make of it.

And what he likes is....your business how, exactly?

[quote] The cutoff age @30. As if men just fall apart at 31 lol.

31 is an Eldergay!

R3 He will not give up (he won’t have to honestly) he will just go for Rice or Chocolate.

I'm 42 and surprised by the # of 20 -30 year olds who want my fat hairy ass but then I remember when I was that age I wanted the same thing. I usually go for guys my age but being the degenerate whore that I am I'll take the young hot cock too.

As they say- get a life OP: it’s Grindr and why the fuck do you care what other people want? Are you some kind of a hookup Miss Manners?

R27, I’ m not a tranny and definitely not fat, dummy lol

SD is filled with the pervs looking for 18 year olds.

Nailed above. He has age issues and the first one is that he hasn’t been “49” for 11-14 years.

As long as all parties are of age and consent then who's fucking business is it?

He’s a delusional predator

I would have loved a daddy figure when I was 18-30 as mine had died when I was young.

Actually, I would have liked a guy my own age but dad dying kind of messed me up with relationships and men.

I still crave sex and companionship at my age but ...I'm too old; it's awful feeling this way.

R49, this guy and his ilk are no father figure/ role model … They are selfish predators

They might like the size of his wallet, though he likely wouldn't be on Grindr.

R50, I'm sure that's quite possible and is more often the case.

What I was looking for -- what I still crave -- really doesn't exist.

It doesn't exist. But I can't get out of my head what I want and what I feel.

I hired a rent guy once and said I never had anyone to take me to a ball game.

He surprised me and took me to a ball game and acted like a big brother.

I know you'll all think that's weird and crazy but Christ, did I have a good time.

True Story = I once knew a guy who was in his 40s and he only liked 18 year olds. Then one day the FBI raided his house at 6 a.m.

Great thread. 49 here. Muscular (started working out at 27 and never stopped), and I dare say I look a few years younger (no alcohol, no drugs, healthy eating). I was always into guys around my age. However in the past few years, as I’ve entered daddy territory, I’ve been constantly hit on by numerous young guys in their 20s. And yes they’re hot, and yes they’re happy to fuck my worn out hole, and no I don’t need to pay. I’ve now realised that many young guys crave a daddy.

3 months ago I met one of the hottest guys ever (beautiful face, rock hard muscles), who happens to be 24. Several fucks later we're now dating. Don’t think for a minute I haven’t thought of the age difference. In fact, I decided once to stop this because I wasn’t comfortable. In particular, I was afraid of being judged (by such cunts as some on this thread), but he won me over. We’ll see how long this lasts. In the meantime, I’m enjoying the ride bitches!

R54 = Is one of "those" gays. Every 20 year old "wants" him....LoL

[quote]I can't imagine dating someone who didn't share my sense of history or frame of reference, regardless of how firm his body might be. And to be perfectly honest, there is still something that feels shady about generation-gap romances. Seems more transactional than anything.

How fucking boring that would be for me. Maybe insist upon the same socio-economic background, college ranking and major, and occupation? Why not have the same hobbies and clothing sizes? With a difference in nationality, language, personality, occupation, family background, travel history, etc., an age gap is not the most obvious difference between so e people who manage to have very happy relationships without the bond of pop music or big budget films or the Clinton presidency.

I'm 57, say I'm 57 in my profile, and do not express any preferences other than good hygiene and honesty. I use two recent pictures of my face. No "tribes" or pronouns, and just a short intro that says that I am not looking for anything serious. I can count on one hand the times I made contact with the other guy first.

It seems that about 75% of the guys who message me are under 30, most in their early 20s. To be sure, a bunch are faceless profiles asking if I am "G€n;" I block them. I suppose that living in close proximity to two big universities influences the nearby guys.

I'm a big fat hairy guy and I get plenty of hot guys to come over and fuck me. Surprisingly a lot are repeat visitors. Everyone's got a fetish.

I hit the apps in my 40s and was surprised at all the interest from younger guys. I’m not complaining. I’ve hooked up with the kind of gorgeous college jocks that I never thought I’d have a chance with when I was their age.

I think there are plenty of younger guys who want daddies; they want to fuck daddies and/or be fucked by them.

Then, there are pervy (tho that's in the eye of the beholder) guys looking to perve on younger guys.

and there are younger guys who want to take advantage of lonely older men, who aren't perves, and rob them blind.

Life sucks.

I am 62, fat, baldish, joined Grindr two months ago and even pay for the unlimited membership.

No, I don't use shirtless pictures in my profile, just a few clothed ones. And I don't even state "not generous." So can't blame it on that.

On Grindr, I do not get too many taps or messages from under 30 guys, and just a sprinkking of "viewed you" from them.

Am I the eldergay exception on Grindr, who does NOT attract many 18 to 30 year olds, even low 40 year olds?

Oh, buy yes, I am grateful when it happens!

Hmmmm....

Or it's just that the few who do are always bragging, thus distorting the reality for most guys 50 plus, even if rich and/or attractive?

And those young guys wanting a daddy....is it usually a sugad daddy, or just a regular daddy in many cases?

@60, that last paragraph is spot on. And they brag about it on social media too. They are not shy about it.

R54 Good for you. These are honest questions: what do you talk about, how do you relate to each other, or is it just the sex?

R63, these are honest questions indeed. We talk about movies, tv series we’re watching, travels we’d like to do together, the gym, etc. Normal things really. But it’s very true we do not have the same cultural references and I do make an effort to try and understand his world. On the other hand I really enjoy his silliness and energy. How long will this last I don’t know, but it’s fun at the moment. And yes sex is great. He can come several times consecutively which I love.

And R55, go die in a grease fire. If you ever went to a gym, instead of hiding in your mother’s basement eating crisps all day, you’d realise there are tons of fit and attractive guys in their 40s and 50s who have no problem meeting younger guys.

There are many valid arguments against a significant age gap, but the one comment I always found absurd is the question of what the couple talk to each other about. People don’t usually get more interesting with age. In general, a boring 75-year-old was probably a boring 25-year-old, and an interesting 75-year-old was probably an interesting 25-year-old. I think many people can’t imagine what their conversations would be because all they ever discuss is the events of their daily lives or the popular culture that is targeted to them. In that case, yes, the 22-year-old will be talking about his latest clubbing experience , who’s gossiping about whom among his friends, and the latest pop song. The 52-year-old will be discussing his mortgage, the new ERP system at work, and which U2 albums he prefers.

Many of the now 18 year olds, in 30 years, will be looking for younger too.

Just because he has a younger Gen preference does not mean he is not accepting his aging.

Depends what he looks like - if he's a hot, built and hung top he will get plenty of interest. If he's ugly, out of shape and maggot-dicked he won't get anywhere.

"What do you talk about?" - what do you talk to your parents about? Your nieces and nephews, aunts and uncles?

(or do you not have much of a relationship with them either?)

R61 - I suspect much of that has to do with where you live.

If you are in suburbia or near a university, you likely have a lot of young guys who are either closeted or don't have a place of their own (living with parents/roommmates) and thus an older man with his own place becomes a lot more desirable.

Plus, as I'd mentioned earlier, if you are a closeted 24 year old, you can figure you are unlikely to run into a gay "49" year old at a party with your straight friends.

Finally, there's a reason so many Eldergays are 49 on the apps. Younger guys are notoriously bad at telling age, but in their heads "49" sounds within the range of acceptable whereas "62" sounds ancient. I bet if you even went for "59" you'd have more takers.

Well, this is just shocking! I have never, ever seen such a thing before!

GASP! GASP, I tell you!

In my mid 50's, I became single. My prospects for finding another bf were grim. My salt & pepper hair had turned more salt and I was 20lbs overweight. I joined a neighborhood gym, thinking I might meet guys there. Nope, didn't happen. But over time I lost the extra weight and got in better shape overall. Even bought a bike. The weight loss caused me to update my wardrobe and my barber pointed out the graying hair would look better short. Over time I went from being invisible when I went into a bar to getting occasional second looks from some guys, including much younger guys. For the last 3 years I've enjoyed the company of a 30-something guy. Probably one of the smartest people I know but with some daddy issues, which he acknowledges. We enjoy each other's company, the sex is great, and despite the almost 20+ year difference in our ages we never run out of things to talk about. I've learned a lot from him (he's in the science field) and hopefully vice versa. I don't know all his cultural references (he loses me whenever he talks about music) and he doesn't know all of mine ("Sorry, who's Cary Grant?").

I've always been into older guys so the fact that I'm with someone so much younger is kind of mind-boggling. My friends have been cautiously skeptical. (He makes more money than I do, so it's not that.) The relationship is not mutually exclusive and I expect it will run its course eventually. As someone who was likely a bit judgmental about older/younger matchups until recently, I totally get why some people look down on what they perceive to be one party perhaps taking advantage of the other. But that's not always the case.

@r70, good point about “49” being acceptable and 62 being ancient lol.

I’m in my 50s and regularly hookup with guys half my age

[quote] who's fucking business is it?

Oh, DEAR!

R54 I wish you luck, but I don't think relationships with people in their mid to early 20s work if you're more than 5 years older (and there's not some financial exchange going on). I know this just from being on both sides. In my 20s I dated older men, and now that I'm older I've dated those in their 20s.

There's just too many life changes in your 20s that make relationships untenable. People generally change a lot between 20 and 30, versus 30 and 40, and 40 and 50, etc. since people tend to stabilize as they get older.

But no hate on my part for enjoying what you got.

Don't you rich old perves have young wards?

R76, I don’t disagree with you, and this is why I’m not expecting too much of this relationship. I’m enjoying it as long as it lasts. He’s hot, he’s fun, sex is great, and there is no monetary exchange going on. I’ve decided to stop asking myself too many questions and take things as they go.

Immature and boring queen that csn only fool kiddies.

There was a thread some time ago where the discussion was around how people had become judgmental about age gaps in relationships. This really proved the point.

Op, brlueve me, more than a few of those "18-30 year olds" are lying about their age too.

@81. Particularly, the 18 y/o

However, I didn’t say the 49 y/o was lying about his age. Others made that point.

Depends on what the guy looks like and how much money he has - or at least what lifestyle he can offer.

For purely hookups, as most Grindr connections are, it all depends on what he looks like and what he is seeking. If he's looking for someone drop dead gorgeous and isn't himself attractive, good luck with that.

[quote] How fucking boring that would be for me. Maybe insist upon the same socio-economic background, college ranking and major, and occupation? Why not have the same hobbies and clothing sizes? With a difference in nationality, language, personality, occupation, family background, travel history, etc., an age gap is not the most obvious difference between so e people who manage to have very happy relationships without the bond of pop music or big budget films or the Clinton presidency.

Care to try that again, this time in English? I would respond but I can't make sense of your ill-conceived word salad.

[quote] "What do you talk about?" - what do you talk to your parents about? Your nieces and nephews, aunts and uncles? (or do you not have much of a relationship with them either?)

Not sure about you dearie, but I'm not dating my parents or any other relatives. Stupid analogy.

[quote] There was a thread some time ago where the discussion was around how people had become judgmental about age gaps in relationships. This really proved the point.

DAMN RIGHT!

Seriously, r86,if they’re over the age of content what’s the issue ?

The hottest guys are over 40. They've been around the track a few times and know how to pace themselves.

[quote] if they’re over the age of content what’s the issue ?

I don’t think I’ll ever reach the age of content.

*sigh*