What do you love about men?
I saw on askreddit earlier today a thread: "what do men hate about men?" There were fair points made in there I suppose, but it seemed so hostile and negative. I thought I'd create a thread here for the opposite side. What do we men love about men? Of course there will be sex and bodies, which is totally cool to mention, but also other things that you like. For me:
- Because of emotional repression sometimes, I find the way men comfort other men to be really sweet. Nervous, but earnest and wanting to help. And often the comforting gets you out of your bad head space and focused on good things. Nothing like having a beer with a mate and venting before moving on to happier topics.
- No one can quite nerd out with you over something you both love like a bro.
- You go through something deep with another guy and you are solid mates for life.
- And yeah, I fucking LOVE their bums.
You?
by Anonymous | reply 152 | February 27, 2023 5:35 AM
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We Men are far easier to fuck around with, I love the fact that sexual hookups are so easy and uncomplicated. We meet, we fuck, we move on with the rest of our day. No complications.
by Anonymous | reply 1 | February 24, 2022 7:54 AM
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[quote]We Men are far easier to fuck around with, I love the fact that sexual hookups are so easy and uncomplicated. We meet, we fuck, we move on with the rest of our day. No complications.
We GAY Men are far easier to fuck around with, I love the fact that sexual hookups are so easy and uncomplicated. We meet, we fuck, we move on with the rest of our day. No complications.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | February 24, 2022 7:56 AM
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Men are easy to fuck at the gym, in parks, on campus, always a secret hideaway to fuck around. I love it so much, grateful to be a man here, and I love Men. ;-P
by Anonymous | reply 3 | February 24, 2022 7:56 AM
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The ease of fucking is fantastic, I agree. And compared to straight men, even a supposedly "less attractive" gay man (cause we're all attractive to someone) gets plenty of sex. Unlike my straight mates, I've never worried about where sex was next going to come from. You want it, you go looking for it. And yeah, we're generally on the same wavelength, with no hard feelings. Not all the time, obviously, but a majority of times. We don't judge because we want sex.
I'm so grateful to be a man who loves men too, R3.
by Anonymous | reply 6 | February 24, 2022 8:01 AM
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Readily available cocks everywhere you go, there they are.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | February 24, 2022 8:02 AM
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One eyed trouser snakes that spit joy juice in your face.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | February 24, 2022 8:03 AM
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Men get over things much quicker. We can have a bust up and not too long later it's all done and dusted. It's literally just like it doesn't matter anymore.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | February 24, 2022 8:03 AM
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Cute zippers, lots and lots of cute zippers.
by Anonymous | reply 10 | February 24, 2022 8:04 AM
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Bountiful bulges down there.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | February 24, 2022 8:05 AM
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Unbridled sex, and more sex.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | February 24, 2022 8:05 AM
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I love going out drinking and becoming best buds with a stranger wherever you are. It's just cute and fun when some straight guy announces your his new best friend and you have random talks about anything and everything. I end up talking about sport, something I know NOTHING about, and it always tickles me.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | February 24, 2022 8:06 AM
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[quote]We GAY Men are far easier to fuck around with
No. Straight men, too. That's...literally just a male feature. If it weren't for women being more cautious and/or picky, they'd be just as hypersexed as gay men. Women stand to gain a bigger burden from straight sex, ergo, the prudence.
But no, if straight women were, in general, as easy to have sex with as gay men, it'd be the same. If anything, straight men are suppressing themselves. As they should.
by Anonymous | reply 14 | February 24, 2022 8:26 AM
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That is something I really regret R9, that was not the case for my partner and me, Our skirmishes were right out of "Whatever happened to Baby Jane."
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 15 | February 24, 2022 8:26 AM
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[quote] I end up talking about sport, something I know NOTHING about
Rather you than me
by Anonymous | reply 16 | February 24, 2022 8:27 AM
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[quote]Men get over things much quicker.
Bullshit.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | February 24, 2022 8:28 AM
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[quote]I love going out drinking and becoming best buds with a stranger wherever you are.
Americans become "best buds" very quickly, don't they? It means NOTHING.
by Anonymous | reply 18 | February 24, 2022 8:29 AM
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No r18. I hate people. Don't talk to me in public. Ever.
by Anonymous | reply 19 | February 24, 2022 8:56 AM
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Unlike women, one mood, all the time.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | February 24, 2022 8:59 AM
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R18, I'm not American.
R16, it's amusing because I just talk shit and it doesn't matter. It's funny to me.
I love men. They're wonderful.
by Anonymous | reply 21 | February 24, 2022 9:23 AM
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[quote]No [R18]. I hate people. Don't talk to me in public. Ever.
Alright, that's a deal!
by Anonymous | reply 22 | February 24, 2022 10:46 AM
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The older I get the more I appreciate the chill of male friendships. For the most part (there are always some exceptions) men just wanna have fun and chill, women tend to bring the drama and gossip.
by Anonymous | reply 24 | February 24, 2022 11:09 AM
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Straight couples seem to have so few interests or hobbies in common; just their sex lives, home, and family. They struggle to understand each other. Gay men have everything in common including their sexuality.
by Anonymous | reply 26 | February 24, 2022 11:23 AM
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The same thing I hate about us.
We're natural predators.
by Anonymous | reply 27 | February 24, 2022 12:09 PM
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Men are more adventurous and fun to be around
by Anonymous | reply 28 | February 24, 2022 12:10 PM
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[quote]We Men are far easier to fuck around with, I love the fact that sexual hookups are so easy and uncomplicated. We meet, we fuck, we move on with the rest of our day. No complications.
Funny, that's what I hate about men.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | February 24, 2022 12:19 PM
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Not all men can be loved, and not all men behave alike.
by Anonymous | reply 31 | February 24, 2022 12:20 PM
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[quote]Straight couples seem to have so few interests or hobbies in common; just their sex lives, home, and family. They struggle to understand each other.
It's lovely you're so positive about the gay - but this is ridiculous, you have a very slanted view. That "struggle" is what keeps them fascinated with each other.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | February 24, 2022 2:50 PM
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Secondary sexual characteristics like facial and body hair, the ridges and bumps of muscles, and sheer size of the human male body.
by Anonymous | reply 33 | February 24, 2022 3:11 PM
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If you talk about anything remotely emotional, they suddenly became your confidant and friend. I think it’s because straight men rarely talk about their emotions and troubles with each other
by Anonymous | reply 35 | February 24, 2022 3:33 PM
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[quote] I think it’s because straight men rarely talk about their emotions and troubles with each other
I think you're right. When they lose their woman they feel incredibly alone and lost. That's why they tend to replace them so quickly - even after a death of a partner.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | February 24, 2022 4:13 PM
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Men make me feel all tingly inside :)
by Anonymous | reply 38 | February 24, 2022 4:16 PM
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R37 they replace them so quickly because they have a greater number of attractive and stable partners to choose from. Gay men and women have fewer choices for replacements.
I would say the fact that they don't stress as much and are much more easygoing.
by Anonymous | reply 39 | February 24, 2022 4:27 PM
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I love how stupid most of them are. It's so easy to look infinitely better in comparison.
by Anonymous | reply 40 | February 24, 2022 5:14 PM
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Where are all these men who love chatting up male strangers and bonding over emotions? I swear some of you life 24/7 in a fantasy world.
Also, being fixated on sex isn't anything special, about men or anyone else. It's the very epitome of basic. Especially for men.
by Anonymous | reply 41 | February 24, 2022 5:16 PM
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They’re like gods, they’re like children, they’re strong and all things.
by Anonymous | reply 42 | February 24, 2022 5:26 PM
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I love how looking at a group of straight men reassures me that science is correct in the theory that humans evolved from apes.
by Anonymous | reply 43 | February 24, 2022 5:27 PM
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[R37] they replace them so quickly because they have a greater number of attractive and stable partners to choose from. Gay men and women have fewer choices for replacements.
I'm not sure how much I agree with this - I think it depends if you live in a city with multo gays.
by Anonymous | reply 44 | February 24, 2022 6:25 PM
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^ sorry forgot to "quote"
[quote][[R37]] they replace them so quickly because they have a greater number of attractive and stable partners to choose from. Gay men and women have fewer choices for replacements.
I'm not sure how much I agree with this - I think it depends if you live in a city with multo gays.
by Anonymous | reply 45 | February 24, 2022 6:26 PM
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They’re strong, they’re gentle, they’re sweet they’re mean and brooding they’re like gods and like children
by Anonymous | reply 46 | February 24, 2022 6:35 PM
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^ I like the cute ones :)
by Anonymous | reply 47 | February 24, 2022 7:34 PM
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I like the hair everywhere.
by Anonymous | reply 48 | February 24, 2022 9:15 PM
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[quote]Where are all these men who love chatting up male strangers and bonding over emotions? I swear some of you life 24/7 in a fantasy world.
You need to leave the house more, mate. Just because you've not experienced something doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
by Anonymous | reply 49 | February 24, 2022 9:24 PM
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It’s not hard to get them to drop their pants. Can you say easy ?
by Anonymous | reply 50 | February 24, 2022 9:35 PM
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"—Men are easy"
Just another thing to love about them
by Anonymous | reply 51 | February 24, 2022 9:40 PM
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Idk why gays think sluttiness and whoriness are admirable qualities in a man.
by Anonymous | reply 52 | February 24, 2022 9:41 PM
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^ Because you're not a Gay man, probably
by Anonymous | reply 53 | February 24, 2022 9:43 PM
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I do like that no matter where I go in the world, I will find slutty men
by Anonymous | reply 54 | February 25, 2022 1:39 AM
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Men are more straightforward and easier to please. Most men don't expect much besides being respected and just listened to. Men can take bluntness well and are not offended by minor things. Also men don't expect you to text and call them all the time for everything. Thus communication is far more easier and less stressful.
by Anonymous | reply 55 | February 25, 2022 1:57 AM
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For the most part, their voices. The older I get, the more screechy women sound. Generally, talking to one woman is okay. More than two, they start screaming. Drives me nuts.
[quote]That "struggle" is what keeps them fascinated with each other.
No. After a while it's just repetitive and exhausting.
by Anonymous | reply 56 | February 25, 2022 2:11 AM
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The way they smell, their strength.
by Anonymous | reply 57 | February 25, 2022 2:27 AM
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Men tend to put up with shit and do what needs to be done without whining. More willing to sacrifice themselves. I also like that they are do-ers...If a woman feels a certain way she will express it in a million words....a man is more likely to express it in action, be it in a painting or a building....though that can sometimes turn dark and that's why men tend to be more violent. But it is what it is.
Also, facial hair. In a million different shapes and forms. from 5 o clock shadow to heavy beard and everything in between. And chest hair. And slim hips. This straight frau says sign me up on all of that.
by Anonymous | reply 58 | February 25, 2022 2:29 AM
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Men are more stable than women. 💯 for sure.
by Anonymous | reply 59 | February 25, 2022 3:02 AM
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Wait, we can post emoji now? 😳😜
DL will never be the same.
by Anonymous | reply 60 | February 25, 2022 3:02 AM
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I find men to be bigger whiners than women, particularly at work
by Anonymous | reply 62 | February 25, 2022 3:23 AM
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^ Only to get women to do stuff for them and they fall for it every time
by Anonymous | reply 63 | February 25, 2022 3:34 AM
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Whatever the reason, they are the bigger complainers and the negativity can get tiresome. Having said that, I find them much more relaxed and easygoing as well, it's a dichotomy. For straight men anyway, can't say it's really true of gay men.
by Anonymous | reply 64 | February 25, 2022 3:40 AM
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^ I'm really hungry, I wish you'd go make me a sandwich
by Anonymous | reply 65 | February 25, 2022 3:42 AM
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R65 can't get laid and lacking in masculinity so posts on a gossip board. It's always the feminine ones who hate women.
by Anonymous | reply 66 | February 25, 2022 3:51 AM
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^ Thanks, great sandwich...
Works every time ;-)
by Anonymous | reply 67 | February 25, 2022 3:58 AM
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You're welcome ^ Now go get laid and act like a man.
by Anonymous | reply 68 | February 25, 2022 4:01 AM
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^ The kid crapped his pants again, better go clean him up
Women's work is never done, huh?
by Anonymous | reply 69 | February 25, 2022 4:10 AM
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That was a pretty lame comeback. Go to bed and focus on being bitchier, it makes you so masculine.
by Anonymous | reply 70 | February 25, 2022 4:14 AM
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^ You can beg all you want, but I'm still not going to fuck you
by Anonymous | reply 71 | February 25, 2022 4:16 AM
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That's okay, I fuck cocks attached to real men, not femboys like yourself.
by Anonymous | reply 72 | February 25, 2022 4:19 AM
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^ Looks like I've got a stalker ^
by Anonymous | reply 73 | February 25, 2022 4:21 AM
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Me too, but I guess it's better than the porn stars you usually stalk on Instagram (psst... they won't fuck you)
by Anonymous | reply 74 | February 25, 2022 4:26 AM
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I love men’s bearded cat faces
by Anonymous | reply 76 | February 25, 2022 4:53 AM
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[quote] Unlike women, one mood, all the time.
Disagree with this. Men can be damn moody and passive-aggressive as well.
by Anonymous | reply 77 | February 25, 2022 4:56 AM
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^ They hide it better, though. Then again, I don't know if "better" is the correct term for emotional repression and not just dealing with your bullshit.
There's a reason the male suicide rate is higher and it's not pretty. Choosing not to share your emotions is not the same thing is not actually experiencing them or "getting over" it. And, frankly, I think that stereotype does more harm to men than good. Because they start believing they're somehow not supposed to feel anything or make it known that they are.
Sorry to get in here with the heavy shit, but I keep seeing the same thing repeated in here regarding "emotional control" that may actually be repression. And that's not healthy. At all.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 78 | February 25, 2022 8:01 AM
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I love sittin' with my best mate "shootin' the breeze"
by Anonymous | reply 80 | February 25, 2022 8:15 AM
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Passive aggressive is a sign of having a feeling of no control. Hence why it's common in the workplace or in conservative environments where there's strict status quo. I do think women are more passive aggressive but as a response to a sexist society that forbids female assertiveness. That's why I do think men are easier to communicate with because they fortunately aren't as restricted by that expectation and you can get assertive back and not offend them.
by Anonymous | reply 81 | February 25, 2022 9:16 AM
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I like masculinity—not the toxic, overcompensating kind common with straight guys, but that calm, strong, steady, in control air of self-assuredness. The sexiest guys are those who aren’t boastful and conceited but have a cool, calm aura of confidence and power.
by Anonymous | reply 82 | February 25, 2022 9:23 AM
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R81, serious question, how does society forbid female assertiveness? I’d say the media and education system encourages it
by Anonymous | reply 83 | February 25, 2022 9:46 AM
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"There's a reason the male suicide rate is higher"
Yeah, because they married a Frau Karen
by Anonymous | reply 84 | February 25, 2022 10:28 AM
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^ Dude...shut the hell up.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 85 | February 25, 2022 10:50 AM
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^ Know who never commits suicide? Frau Karens. Too busy making everyone else's life miserable to turn on themselves
by Anonymous | reply 86 | February 25, 2022 11:33 AM
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[quote]Men are more stable than women. 💯 for sure.
Yes, exponentially higher murder and violence rates in men proves that.
by Anonymous | reply 87 | February 25, 2022 11:53 AM
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Men are very decisive about murder, women need to think about it and then talk it over with friends while they cradle their mugs. Then they can never decide how, Should I shoot him, run him over with the car or just poison him?
Then there's the "what do I wear to a murder" indecisiveness, so they call all their friends to find out what THEY wear to a murder
by Anonymous | reply 88 | February 25, 2022 11:59 AM
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The worst characteristic of a man is better than the best characteristic of a woman.
by Anonymous | reply 89 | February 25, 2022 12:03 PM
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I agree, R89. Rape and murder is much better than anything women can muster.
by Anonymous | reply 91 | February 25, 2022 12:18 PM
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I love the smell of a man
by Anonymous | reply 92 | February 25, 2022 12:21 PM
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r86 You're not even gay, man. You're a bitter, mentally straight, incel who can't get laid and thinks he can run up on a site and start talking shit about females since it's a space for gay men. You do this shit in every thread. I swear your silly ass is more obsessed with females then straight dudes.
You are not slick, sir. No normal gay men hates on women as much as you do. Go back to your MRA/MGTOW boards to cry about why you can't get any matches on Tinder, being stuck in the friendzone, while simultaneously trying to figure out your budding sexual attraction to the aging bitch who should've swallowed you aka yo mama.
Good day, sir. :)
by Anonymous | reply 94 | February 25, 2022 12:28 PM
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^ *mentally ill straight incel
by Anonymous | reply 95 | February 25, 2022 12:28 PM
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Most men do not hold grudges forever (gay, bi or straight) unlike women who hold grudges, are quiet and insidious about it..
As the saying goes, put a 100 men who are strangers with each other in a room and within a hour, they will find alot of things to agree on, talk about and be friendly about. Put 100 women in a room with each other who are strangers and within a hour they will find a way to hate and judge and so on with each other..
by Anonymous | reply 96 | February 25, 2022 12:34 PM
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[quote]Most men do not hold grudges forever
For some reason, that feature gets uninstalled when they upgrade to running countries and shit.
by Anonymous | reply 97 | February 25, 2022 12:37 PM
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R97.. true, but i'm talking about the everyday average man....
by Anonymous | reply 98 | February 25, 2022 12:45 PM
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It's quite easy for men not to hold grudges because they don't bond emotionally.
by Anonymous | reply 99 | February 25, 2022 12:49 PM
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@r94, Looks like Frau Karen got her feels hurt. Better go cry victim to all your Facebook friends
by Anonymous | reply 100 | February 25, 2022 12:51 PM
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@r94, "You're a bitter, mentally straight, incel "
Bet I suck better cock than you do
by Anonymous | reply 101 | February 25, 2022 1:13 PM
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^ And THAT'S what I love about men ^
by Anonymous | reply 102 | February 25, 2022 1:20 PM
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^ Do straight guys find these babes hot?
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 104 | February 25, 2022 1:29 PM
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Look, it really comes down to this. You all know it.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 105 | February 25, 2022 1:39 PM
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It's quite amusing to see the incel in this thread get shot down with facts and statistics everytime
by Anonymous | reply 106 | February 25, 2022 4:47 PM
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@r105, Do you have anything in a larger size?
by Anonymous | reply 107 | February 25, 2022 4:50 PM
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"It's quite amusing to see the incel in this thread get shot down with facts and statistics everytime "
Do tell us, Karen, what "facts" and "statistics" are involved to an emotional question like, "What do you love about men?"
Better yet, just go to the "Karens-R-Us" forum and whine about it
by Anonymous | reply 108 | February 25, 2022 4:54 PM
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I enjoy not having to worry that they'll burst into tears over really trivial things.
by Anonymous | reply 109 | February 25, 2022 4:55 PM
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R108 well, cunt moron, if you read the thread you'd see an example like the incel claiming men kill themselves because they're with Karens then a link to the high suicide rate of gay men. You know, statistics like that....But I know how emotional men get when their stupidity is revealed
by Anonymous | reply 110 | February 25, 2022 5:07 PM
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If you've worked in retail, food service or in restaurants, you will see female customers are far more rude, demanding and ready to take offense. Try working in a Starbucks with a soccer event or dance competition and see all the rude Karens come in with their spoiled litter. We now have filmed evidence of this behavior. Male customers are more easily pleased and just focus on getting what they want and getting out rather than overanalyzing every little detail, demanding emotional validation and finding something to complain about. Just my experience
by Anonymous | reply 111 | February 25, 2022 5:15 PM
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@r110, Stop stalking me, no matter how many times you beg me I'm not going to fuck you
Security!
by Anonymous | reply 112 | February 25, 2022 5:18 PM
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Toxic femininity is definitely real. If you grew up in a family with a lot of women or hanged out in all female circles you can see the negative qualities too just as masculinity can be toxic. Mean Girls and Heathers were about toxic femininity.
The most well-adjusted people are the ones who strike a healthy balance of androgyny. Healthy masculinity is being brave, strong-willed, open to new ideas and readiness to act and achieve goals. Healthy femininity is nurturing, cooperative, empathetic and self-sacrificing. A well-rounded people has traits of both.
by Anonymous | reply 113 | February 25, 2022 5:25 PM
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Is that what passes for wit in the trailer park where you live? Get a life, and stop engaging with people you don't agree with if that's the best response you can muster
by Anonymous | reply 114 | February 25, 2022 5:26 PM
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^R112... seriously you have to be a straight man with such a lack of wit as that
by Anonymous | reply 115 | February 25, 2022 5:28 PM
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^ You just can't get over me can you?
by Anonymous | reply 116 | February 25, 2022 5:30 PM
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I can't, no. I've ever encountered someone so idiotic on DL. Are you 15 years old?
by Anonymous | reply 117 | February 25, 2022 5:35 PM
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^ Your stalking went from annoying to creepy real fast
by Anonymous | reply 118 | February 25, 2022 5:39 PM
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Sweetie you engaged me first, the stalker is you. Again, facts aren't your strong suit but still...
by Anonymous | reply 119 | February 25, 2022 5:42 PM
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I see my own father get completely pussywhipped by my mother. She controls nearly everything about him— I decided at a young age that this is something I do not want. The sexual pervasiveness of the gay community has given us all a bad name. Sure, we can’t knock anyone up, but please people, have some platonic thoughts in your lives.
by Anonymous | reply 120 | February 25, 2022 5:42 PM
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[quote]Men tend to put up with shit and do what needs to be done without whining.
LOLOLOL!
by Anonymous | reply 121 | February 26, 2022 1:27 AM
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[quote]Men tend to put up with shit and do what needs to be done without whining.
LMAO!
by Anonymous | reply 122 | February 26, 2022 1:28 AM
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I like the confidence men have. Granted society has supported that confidence building for thousands of years.
by Anonymous | reply 123 | February 26, 2022 4:54 PM
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OP here. I'm sorry to come back to this thread and see fighting, and I just want to be clear, I would never make a thread bashing women. I love them. Both sides of my family were led by matriarchs who instilled in me a great love for women. I just wanted to make a thread about the beauty of men, because I am hearing more and more statements made about how horrible we are, and I thought we could be more positive.
[quote]Healthy masculinity is being brave, strong-willed, open to new ideas and readiness to act and achieve goals. Healthy femininity is nurturing, cooperative, empathetic and self-sacrificing. A well-rounded people has traits of both.
I love the way you put this.
[quote]I like masculinity—not the toxic, overcompensating kind common with straight guys, but that calm, strong, steady, in control air of self-assuredness. The sexiest guys are those who aren’t boastful and conceited but have a cool, calm aura of confidence and power.
You said it! So true.
R80: [quote]I love sittin' with my best mate "shootin' the breeze" -- Beer in hand
There's NOTHING like this, is there? I developed male friendships a bit later, like late teens early 20s and I never realised what I was missing until then. My best straight mate, the one who will be my best man if I'm ever fortunate enough to get married, well, there's nothing like catching up with him for a beer and a 'putting all the problems of the world to rights' session. The first time he really hugged me goodbye when we left was so moving to me. And there's nothing sexual coming from me with him, it's pure brotherly love and it's amazing.
by Anonymous | reply 124 | February 27, 2022 2:08 AM
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Friendship and platonic intimacy between men can be a complicated and difficult thing to navigate. We are socialised to be competitive with each other, and not to show each other weakness. We are supposed to keep our friendships casual, and not to let our friends know that they mean a lot to us, for fear of seeming clingy, or gay, or too emotional. So given all of that, I love the fact that men, straight and gay, can still care very deeply about other men as friends, and can sometimes find a way to communicate that once they get past all the programming.
Also it's always quite fun how men communicate friendship. In the culture I grew up in it's mainly done by casually insulting each other, so when a guy started to do that to you you would actually be pleased, because it meant he likes you ;)
by Anonymous | reply 126 | February 27, 2022 8:16 AM
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It's a pity the presentation of men in the general culture these days is so often simplistic and one-dimensional. I teach some young guys in their early 20s who clearly have spent their whole lives being told that mediocre men living off their societal privilege rise to the top through stealing the credit from the much more deserving women they leave behind. The result is that they are very aware of gender inequalities but seem a bit at a loss as to how to live their own masculinity in a positive way.
There's no doubt that sexism is deeply embedded in society and that a patriarchal system of rigid gender roles, while it entails harm for both sexes, harms women much more. So I don't want what I'm saying here to seem like I am denying that fact. However, it's a pity that more isn't being done to showcase more examples of what an open and positive rather than toxic and unattainable masculinity looks like.
by Anonymous | reply 127 | February 27, 2022 11:28 AM
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I love their pretty lips.
by Anonymous | reply 128 | February 27, 2022 11:59 AM
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Boys aren't allowed to be boys. I do not like how masculinity is collectively demonized and now young men are shamed and silenced in classrooms. I think it's ridiculous even that there's a pressure to integrate all-male spaces despite women having their own. Boys need strong role models. And contrary to popular belief, men do open up emotionally but to other men not women. Because only men can grasp what other men feel.
Sexism and whatnot are social ills that were enforced through systems of control, not something that is innate in men. The people in power create the social norms and ideologies. So, I think it's especially stupid to shame a boy from a working class dysfunctional home for all of the misogyny in society. It's these rich boys who are getting away with the crimes of rape, stalking and murder not some poor trailer park kid.
The term toxic masculinity and mantras like #menaretrash are not helpful and solve none of the issues that are prevalent.
by Anonymous | reply 129 | February 27, 2022 2:11 PM
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So men are like dogs and women like cats?....
by Anonymous | reply 130 | February 27, 2022 2:35 PM
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There's a weird tone in the comments of that Reddit thread, almost like some of the guys are enjoying the self-flagellation. I mean they are describing real problems associated with (at least some) men, but are all too quick to generalise the point.
It's almost like in online discussions when some white guy pulls out the 'oh great, another white man with an opinion' line. I mean.... what? (and I have seen that done). Or, I think the female equivalent is 'I'm not like one of those feminists'.
by Anonymous | reply 131 | February 27, 2022 2:54 PM
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^ You mean the dude version of a "pick me" girl? Yeah, that'd be the "nice guy." You'll always know how nice they are because they won't fucking shut-up about it the second you encounter them.
by Anonymous | reply 132 | February 27, 2022 3:32 PM
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Obligatory subreddit mention:
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 133 | February 27, 2022 3:33 PM
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There isn't a male equivalent to the Pick Me because there doesn't need to be.
by Anonymous | reply 134 | February 27, 2022 3:37 PM
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When you touch their privates, they give to you the money.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 135 | February 27, 2022 3:40 PM
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Sex with men is given freely.
by Anonymous | reply 137 | February 28, 2022 10:56 AM
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[quote] The term toxic masculinity and mantras like #menaretrash are not helpful and solve none of the issues that are prevalent.
Toxic masculinity is the problem.
by Anonymous | reply 138 | February 28, 2022 1:11 PM
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R138 what would you consider postive masculinity....and please don't start posting just examples of men becoming more feminine.
by Anonymous | reply 139 | February 28, 2022 1:47 PM
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[quote] Men get over things much quicker.
I don't know....men function sooner after a breakup or trauma but based on our uptick in mass shooters they seem NOT to get over shit so well or so quickly. Not in a healthy way, anyway.
by Anonymous | reply 140 | February 28, 2022 1:51 PM
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R139 I'm not 138 but the ability to stay calm under pressure. I've seen the most intelligent and capable women who CANNOT handle stress whereas many men can.
by Anonymous | reply 141 | February 28, 2022 7:09 PM
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r141 I don't think this applies to pilots. They're built different.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 142 | February 28, 2022 7:14 PM
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Captain Sully Hudson River landing
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 143 | February 28, 2022 7:14 PM
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The fact that both of them were communicating with Air Traffic Control that 1 or both of their engines were out and they're basically crashing like they were ordering coffee let me know that I definitely went into the correct occupation. I don't like flying as it is. But to be actively crashing? Yeah. No. Lol.
by Anonymous | reply 144 | February 28, 2022 7:19 PM
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And the ATC gentleman for the Hudson River Landing testimony admitting that he was terrified and distraught, but none of that is evident in the actual recording. He just did his job, found alternate runways for the pilot, and continued guiding other planes. None of that fear was evident in his voice from the transmissions. So, again, men, generally are much better at hiding their emotions and going into "autopilot" when it matters most (i.e. a crisis).
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 145 | February 28, 2022 7:35 PM
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Mass shooters suffer from severe mental illnesses. Yes the testosterone makes them more likely to act in extremes but it's a mental health issue more than just a male issue.
by Anonymous | reply 146 | February 28, 2022 10:14 PM
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[quote] For the most part, their voices. The older I get, the more screechy women sound.
It’s funny you say this; I’ve been noticing this lately myself, though I assumed it wasn’t really women’s voices so much as getting older had caused my ears to be less forgiving of certain frequencies.
The calmness in a crisis is an interesting one. I am, generally, quite an anxious person, though I hide it. But when something seriously bad happens I go really preternaturally calm and my mind clears and I can immediately go into fixing the problem. It’s kinda weird but very handy. I’ll only get frustrated then if someone is dithering about it and not just doing what needs to be done to fix it.
by Anonymous | reply 148 | February 27, 2023 3:38 AM
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Don't know - I don't have any alternative.
by Anonymous | reply 149 | February 27, 2023 3:44 AM
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It sounds stupid and redundant to even write, but, in terms of relationships, I really appreciate having the shared experience of both being men. In heterosexual relationships, there is a natural chasm between both parties in regard to gender. Even though all men have their differences, there is more innate common ground, which I think can make relationships a bit simpler.
by Anonymous | reply 150 | February 27, 2023 3:57 AM
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I know what you mean, R150. Hearing straight couples talk sometimes it’s so obvious they cannot understand each other the same way we are able to. I appreciate that too.
by Anonymous | reply 151 | February 27, 2023 5:30 AM
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Speaking as a gay male, I enjoy having sex with men but almost all my close friends are women.
I can’t think of particular attributes that would make me seek them out other than for sex. Though I get along with them fine in general.
by Anonymous | reply 152 | February 27, 2023 5:35 AM
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