Grindr reminds "queer bodies" to not body shame, y'all

I’m not a queer.

Must get rid of toxic in community

^^I love your cheesecake.

The comments on that thread are all over the place:

[quote]You can’t shame or guilt people into attraction, that’s called conversion therapy and it’s outlawed against homosexuals in the US.

Preach!

[quote]None of you are kind. You are mean, and never sorry for the hurt you lot cause. Grindr is a bully playground. And I am glad I deleted it ages ago. Go Gaslight someone else.

[quote]Hate the word queer, please at least reduce your use.

[quote]Shaming men for their penis size is very prevalent across Grindr. “Hung only.” I’ve been ghosted, blocked, and shamed in-person for my small penis.

(He's a top, of course)

[quote]Your app is resposible for half of my body dysmorphia. So stfu with these token statements. Y’all do nothing when a racist asshole body shames someone and take no action when I report their profile.

How DARE YOU! Y'ALL!!

Dumb fucks. If you can't get laid on Grindr it's likely because you have a severe personality disorder and should either accept celebicy or kill yourself.

Yeah there are guys who will fuck anything on Grindr, mostly blank profiles.

What they mean is "the hot guys I want to bang don't want to fuck me!"

They could easily get laid with the plethora of closeted weirdos.

What are "queer bodies"? Is it like a dead body that is queer?

Fugs and microdicks will "REPORT" the body shamers and they will all be banned. Of course the "body shamers" could easily be hotties who say NO thanks or just block. Grindr will collapse. The fats and fugglies won't have the hotties to salivate over. GOD FORBID the fatties, fugs and small dicked tops settle for each other and their attractiveness level.

I think it means people with a physical deformity.

No, it doesn't. I means a "5" contacts a "9". Gets nowhere. And "reports" body shaming. They trans do it too. If you say no thanks to a trans, your are "body shaming".

you are

That video should come with a trigger warning--yuck.

No one wants to have sex with someone they find unattractive. That's life.

[quote] Dumb fucks. If you can't get laid on Grindr it's likely because you have a severe personality disorder and should either accept celebicy

J’adore irony.

It’s not saying that anyone should be forced to have sex with someone he’s not attracted to. Just don’t tell someone the reason you don’t want to sleep with his is his gross body.

No need to act like a bully

I think it's a problem when everyone expects EVERYWHERE to be a "safe space". Life has hardships, you aren't going to be protected everywhere, deal with it.

R15, just stop vocalizing judgment. No need to put someone else down. Just say not interested (“We’ve not a match”) and move on

R16 People can do what they wish; obviously I'd prefer they are polite all the time, but I'd rather know what they think than not. Self esteem shouldn't be supplied by people externally, it comes from within.

That being said, if someone is just so offended by my profile that they need to message me out of the blue just to tell me how hideous I am, then yeah, that should be discouraged.

I am going to tell my mommieeeeee

[quote]I think it's a problem when everyone expects EVERYWHERE to be a "safe space". Life has hardships, you aren't going to be protected everywhere, deal with it.

It's ain't life, it's Gindr. It's a privately owned app and they can do what they want.

If you can't just ignore someone, block them, tell them "No Thanks" and instead would sit there and insult them for even contacting you, make fun of their looks or call them racial slurs then if you're investigated and found to have broken their rules -- that's on you.

Thanks Grindr for showing me the right way. And once you stop selling my personal information to third parties I may actually accept advice on ethical behavior from you.

Are there female trans on Grindr ?

What about the black guys who go off on you if you leave them on read and call you a racist for not immediately jumping in a car to come fuck them?

Did a bi woman or an FTM write this tweet? It sounds like it.

Grindr is immoral

R19 Grindr limits the number of blocks you have to like 10 if you don't have an overpriced paid account. You should tell the private owners that can do what they want that if they actually care about people's sanity on their app, they should make the number of blocks unlimited, not just for paid accounts most people won't get.

R23 Grindr has been heavily leaning into trans and nonbinary identities lately.

Hilarious how fat, slovenly DLers are fighting for the right to put down other people’s bodies

R26, that will be their downfall. Gay men are attracted to men, preferably masculine men.

R25 They limit the blocks because of all the gay men who block trans/non-binary accounts automatically. They hate that.

People are nasty on a hookup app where you filter through a grid of pictures, and choose someone based on looks? That’s weird!

If you don’t want your (queer) body judged, find an hookup app with no pictures.

[quote]Are there female trans on Grindr ?

There was a FTM in the video but same sex attraction isn't body shaming.

R30, sure everyone is judging but do people have to be mean and so vocal about why they didn’t choose someone?

If you don’t like fatties, that’s fine—but do you have to proclaim that to the world?

If I were on Grindr, would I be able to write "ACTUAL men ONLY! NO Gender Appropriators!", or would that get me in trouble?

Fuck my surgeon-made pussy, you bigoted cis fags!

What?! No! I don’t want to be fucked by a Transman. I only want cis male cock.

It’s always funny how the trans folk and black guys etc who scream about white cis guys who won’t fuck them, never seem to want to fuck other trans or black guys. Then if you call them out they’d blame their tastes on the system, so everything is ALWAYS cis white males fault who are so evil, but also who they desperately want to fuck.

Exactly r35

R35

You're really on a tear lately trying to lump black guys and trans together for some reason. Most black men I know strongly prefer black men, and some are as actively exclusionary as any white jock bro type. And they certainly aren't into the cis/trans bullshit. Get off woke Twitter.

Why does a video that features half-naked men soaping up their bodies pretend to preach about the dangers of objectifying the male body?

Is it supposed to be ironic, or are the Chinese people who run Grindr just that dumb?

R33 They would ban you

Grindr is a pit, but the people in that Twitter thread (and some of the respondents here) are clearly too sensitive and delicate for the app. It's for hookups, not affirmation or validation

R29 no, they limit them because they charge for the privilege of being able to block more accounts. They always have, even before trans and nonbinaries swarmed the service for gay men.

Grindr is basically the DL of dating apps.

You have r27 accusing all DLers (except himself, of course) of being fat and slovenly, altho I guess he thinks he's somehow defending Grindr by doing the opposite of what they are asking? He doesn't seem that bright.

Agree with r40. It's not surprising though because the current trend is still to pretend to respect everyone's differences and that no one is ugly or fat or slovenly and homosexuals can somehow make themselves be attracted to vaginas if they just weren't so bigoted, unless they are "cis white men", in which case are fair game for all contradictions.

[quote] If you don’t like fatties, that’s fine—but do you have to proclaim that to the world?

Yes! And what’s wrong with that?

The same way if I wasn’t interested in exceptionally tall people, or short people, or any other preference. So you message me and you’re 4’2” and I have to wade through the conversation of “why don’t you like short people?” “I don’t know, I just don’t. They don’t make my dick hard.” “Oh, I’m sure I can change that,” ad nauseam?

I just ignore people I'm not interested in. I've definitely multi-messaged guys I was into, but I don't get upset if they ignore or block me. I've rarely been "attacked" on Grindr.

The thing that always gets me: my profile says I'm a bottom (shocking, I know, a bottom on DL). I'll get repeated messages from other bottoms. I don't get bitchy at them but...can you read???

I just got messages from "UseMyAss4Now"

Reading is FUNDAMENTAL. I've been a horny ho plenty of times, but I've never begged another bottom to fuck me.

Just the name alone "Grindr" is triggering--a dating app referring to human beings as "meat" is lideral violince to vegans!

[Quote] So you message me and you’re 4’2” and I have to wade through the conversation of “why don’t you like short people?”

Why don’t you just ignore him and say “Not a match.” Everyone gets it immediately and you don’t have to explain anything

Do you have any idea how many people hit me up on Grindr? (I’m lying)

You think I have time to wade through those who do not fit my narrow criteria to dismiss each and every one? Why, that takes time away from my cruising! (I’ve got all the time in the world, been on for 8 hours and got one message and one tap.)

[quote]and you don’t have to explain anything

But that’s just the point. If I’m not into you, I don’t have to explain why, whatever my reason is, and those who you ignore are complaining that’s “body shaming.” It’s ridiculous.

R49 are they talking about people who ignore (like sane people) or the assholes who reply in nasty ways? (happened to me a few times, but it's whatever)

So there was a thread earlier this evening on this female transman and the transman's male husband having a baby in LA. Responses were garden-variety DL: people see with their eyes and say so without feeling compelled to affirm. I was most of the way thru the thread when an error message popped up and I was directed to a "thread not found" page. Guess I was reading the thread mid-nuke. Just the lack of consistency and the absence of any explicitly-defined lines is bewildering here. Such a strangely-modded site.

If you contact me and I'm not attracted to you, I will block you. If I am out of blocks I will say I'm not interested. If you persist I report you. But, I will never tell you why I'm not interested. Because then you become the victim.

Interestingly, I just did a search for one of the dads' rather unique first names. One of the search results' (11/4/21) titles is about a trans man and a pregnancy test. That's the only remnant of that thread, it too has been removed.

The couple has a brand kit pdf on google drive, it still shows up in my browser history. Brief press blurb, lists a target demographic (18-44, global audience). Lists brand partners, numerous social media accounts for the two individuals, their businesses, and the family. Don't know if DL comments are crossing some unspoken general line or if this couple is consecrated and untouchable somehow.

The subject of FTMs is a sensitive one around here, R51.

There were at least three threads created about the person on the cover of the current issue of New York Magazine. All were nuked.

Because those people are litigious and even if not litigious are vicious OCD bullies.

R54 Can't imagine why, heterosexual sex being passed off as gay sex and str8 women claiming to be gay men isn't seen by gay men as homophobic.

Talking about transpeople is transphobic !

Not talking about transpeople is transphobic. Everything must always be 100% centred around them, or we are all horrible bigots.

R55 I don't think it's that, it's because M feels sorry for them and doesn't want them attacked directly. I also think there is a second moderator on the site who deletes stuff with a lot more heavy hand than M, and I think she is a woman or at least much younger than M.

I think the rules are if a thread focuses too much on one person who isn't a public figure and seems to be more doxxing, it's bad. The NYM cover threads being nuked I don't know, but the person clearly has an extreme mental illness (that was exploited by NYM for clicks) so maybe M doesn't want to contribute to it.

Of course why more of the royals threads (some are) aren't nuked from orbit, I don't know. Maybe it's because they are public figures.

NO Fats!

R69 literal violence! I'm trembling with exhaustion. Reported!!

I usually ignore people Im not interested in but occasionally they freak out that I haven't responded. I continue to ignore and/or block them. I imagine those are the people who ultimately receive rude replies as they just can't accept that someone isn't interested. Im a hubby fuck so certainly not everyone's cup of tea and yet I've rarely encountered anyone shaming it being abusive toward me on any app really. Maybe imthe exception idk but I feel like a lot of people bring it on themselves.

[quote] Im a hubby fuck

Say what now?

It’s pretty easy to just ignore the people you’re not interested in on Grindr. Just don’t respond back not matter how many times they write. You don’t owe everyone a response, even when they try to push your buttons with “Youre an asshole!”

They give up after a while

What I don’t get is why people don’t read the profiles? Most of them are unambiguous as far as what they are looking for.

They spell it right out for you.

Because you have to include everyone r65. Every-fucking-one must feel validated.

I always write I'm a masculine guy looking for the same. I never got a woke response, then again I don't use Grindr, so what do I know?

So where do you write it?

On a bathroom stall?

I meant I use other apps that aren't cringe like Grindr. I use Bicupid, Scruff and Tinder, like most normal people.

We're all winners! Trophies all around. Who wants a blue ribbon for fatness?

I'm 65 but identify as 45 cause that's how I look and I demand that my identity be affirmed.

No one wants to fuck the tubbos, deal with it grindr.

The multiple accounts morbidly obese trans women of color insist on creating to get around being rejected crowd out most of the people I'm actually interested in. I wish craigslist personals would come back.

Why not change apps? I never run into trans people on other apps if at all.

[quote] Who wants a blue ribbon for fatness?

Is it edible?

R74 other apps like Scruff?

Scruff has very few transwomen on it, and not very many trans men, either. I don't think they get a lot of traction or success on that app as they do on Grindr, for whatever reason.

How is it not super hypocritical for Grindr to forbid selecting people based on race, but allows all these 'No men!!" or "Women only" profiles????

PS it's an app for MEN!!!! If "transwomen are women" WTF are they doing on a MALE sex app??

^^ because only guys with fetishes will fuck them.

Because they know they aren't really women.

If the trans women stopped to think about it, they would realize that even though they're getting sex from random fetishists, they're still on a gay sex app and gay men are sexually attracted to other men, not women. It's like affirming they are frauds every time they meet someone.

They say that the estrogen supplement reduces IQ though.

gay men spaces have long been invaded before the latest trans craze...

feminists tried taking over the bath houses in the 90s

then sjws tried policing gay men on every attraction from ethnicity to dick to fat and elderly, never mind the problem with all the chem queens and law enforcement hunting down anyone that said they barebacked.. there was even a movement of non-trans str8 girls that believed they were only attracted to gay men and deserved to be fucked or else you were a misogynist.. which started the mainstream sell of cis white gays are evil while also trashing all the downlow brothas.

but mostly it was the sjw crowd targeting gay men for their "toxic" masculinity

and yes, the latest trans fad is all the same crap as that. the gate keepers get pushed aside when the mainstream turns it into a pop culture fad and then the crazy people take over... happens to lesbians with the girls who are only gay when in college or drunk, all the metrosexuals who wish they were queer so they could get chicks... and all the sociopolitical bullshit that happens in the community itself..

anyone remember the g@ys or g0ys. it was a cult of the male equivalent of homophobic political lesbians that briefly popped up in the mid 2000s before being pushed into the under current again, mostly because the dude that started the movement back was discovered to have a castration fetish.

but the problem with grindr is like the what befell gay.com - remember what a shitshow that became when foreign investors got involved.. the merge of politics, media, and dealing with international (but largely conservative) sensibilities on homosexuality.. funding homophobic terror overseas by our hookups through their services.

can't win for losing.

and as the gay ghetto became decentralized, we haven't been able to date like str8 people do... despite all the 'progressive' actions to allegedly make it safer for kids to come out earlier but wo still end up experiencing the same shit we do because we're a tiny fucking population despite all the political campaigns.

but I digress. personal sites are always shit. I prefered the piss stained alleyways of craiglist to any place I had to sign up for membership because that's just asking for trouble with the politics

whether it's actual politics, being harassed by eldergays, being harassed by twinks, by people you're just not attracted to that setup campaigns that personal sites just can't block

worse if you had any kinks, the sheer amount of crazy people that wanted me to kill them when I just enjoyed a little slap and tickle.

or the sjws that setup tumblr pages targeting anyone that met the random offense of the day... which could have been as little as calling yourself a top

We should all report Grindr profiles that say “no men”

r82 if gay men targeted the trannies and crossdressers, then the rad fems would come after us for our misogyny. funny how that works, they want us to hate trannies to protect their scenes but they don't really want to protect our interests at all because were 'toxic'

the whole concept toxic masculinity is throwback to aids/hiv and primarily slated against male homosexuals rather than heterosexuals to present us as castrated males, lesser than.

personally, I don't want to see trannies or crossdressers or lobbyists or feminists when I'm trolling for dick and hole but this is where we fall on the "progressive" stack

like consider the fraus trying to police gay pride - even down to the folsom street faire because they want to be as hip as madge and walk through the black and blue with their kids in tow then criticize the disgusting toxic culture while screaming why won't anyone think of the children.

it's same ol' same ol'.

we jusst need to get back to cruising.

maybe this hatred of transwomen will send the gay male scene back underground. we had much better parties and clandestine hookups when we were more collectively hated.

Not only are you very verbose, you’re a fucking moron.

[quote] and as the gay ghetto became decentralized, we haven't been able to date like str8 people do... despite all the 'progressive' actions to allegedly make it safer for kids to come out earlier but wo still end up experiencing the same shit we do because we're a tiny fucking population despite all the political campaigns.

That's not true and it hasn't been for over a decade. You must be old and that's fine, but some of your points, not all, are ancient and outdated. My cousin is 22 and openly gay, he had many boyfriends already, none from gay ghettoes. The world today is something else. His straight friends hug each other, kiss each other and show affection. I have to ask him all the time who's what. This isn't 1971 anymore. Do keep up.

Learn to read R83. I said report profiles saying “no men”. Not the trannies.

R86 why read when you can type!

R85 It's not common for straight men to kiss each other and show affection and it's still challenging for many gay men to find partners if they don't leave in big cities. You live in a bubble. Erasing the challenges of gay life to justify the invasion of trans and 'queer' people into gay mens spaces is homophobic bullshit.

Go suck a tranny cock and fuck off

[quote] Nearly 40 Percent of U.S. Gen Zs, 30 Percent of Young Christians Identify as LGBTQ, Poll Shows

Cosplaying r90

You are gullible.

R91 it’s mostly young WOMEN for attention

Young women / girls are ridiculous and not be taken seriously

Their vagina and their female hormones are a blight on society and, especially, men

The polls show what Freud has said 100 years ago. Most people are bi and it's the highest number in the polls and they're not all women, stop projecting your stupid 1970s bias to the world today and read the data. Gen Alpha the little brothers of Gen Z will be mostly bi, mark my words, all the numbers suggest that.

Obviously r95 has a vagina and she’s is fingering her snatch while she writes her posts

R95 do you really think there’s that many bisexual young men?

You do realize that a HUGE majority of women, even women who support gay rights, won’t touch a bi guy, that alone puts a lot of male/male experimentation to a halt

R97 men don’t care what women think…men have always had sex with men and lie about to women.

Women’s mind are fragile and cannot deal with the reality about men, who only value women for their pussies.

Why argue when grandpas won't even read the data available? It's literally in the article.

R91 lmao That's almost entirely women/girls, you retard. Most of whom only date men. Bisexual men are a tiny minority. 90+ percent of gen Z males are straight exclusively. Get off lgbt social media. It's making you delusional.

BTW, I'm not old at all. I just have a brain.

R91 The Newsweek article you posted basically said the results were misleading and it was conducted by a Christian organization that's trying to cast LGBT identity as a trend, hence the inflated number. Your article notes that Gallup found only that 16 percent of 18-23-year-olds ID as LGBT. And, once again, most of that number is 'bi girls' who do nothing but fuck and date men.

Notice they didn't break it down by gender? ;) Because the LGBT number for men are incredibly low.

You're stupid!

These new LGBTQIA+ people are "queer" with blue hair and pronouns.

They are not GAY!

Why go on Grindr to get insulted when I can get dragged here on Datalounge. And at a much lower price!

So he said I dint hv 10 in and I reported that ******. Shit.

Imagine if DL had a "report unauthorized shaming" button. Literally 2/3 of all posts would disappear!

That's what stupid gay men get when they choose to use and support the homophobic app, "Grindr is the world's largest social networking app for gay, bi, [b]trans, and queer people[/b]" (= females and straights and freaks with whatever fake identities all under the queer umbrella).

Grindr is a fossilized dinosaur that is infested with mentally IIl women who call themselves “faggots” and truck drivers in a whore’s dress and ratty wigs

Sniffies will surpass Grindr this year. I’ve already been hit up by several attractive married guys who are on the down low. Sniffies is the Men For Men Craigslist Personal for this decade.