Socially unacceptable reasons you've rejected guys

I rejected a guy once that I met online and chatted with for awhile. He lived in another state so we agreed to Skype one day.

He was shirtless when I talked to him, and as we chatted he kept putting his arms behind his head while he talked. I noticed that he had what looked like papier-mâché on his underarm and after a bit I said "it looks like you've got some gunk on your arm".

He told me "oh, those are just skin tags" and then I realized to my horror some of them were at least 3/4 of an inch long. I was immediately grossed out. I talked with him a bit longer but totally blew him off afterwards when he sent me messages. Not ghosting, just not being able to talk.

Another guy I Skyped with (also met him online, he lived in another state, same basic story) had one of those bamboo back scratchers that they give you when you have a hospital stay. He kept using it to scratch his back while we chatted, which was gross. Like, did he have a rash? Was he just super itchy? What the hell was going on back there?

I didn't ghost him either, but just dialed back our chats a lot until he stopped messaging.

I found out a guy I was dating took loads up his ass at a bareback orgy. I was furious with him. I got tested several times over the next few months and thank god I was fine. I really dodged a bullet.

I went out once with a guy who expressed a lot of interest. He was okay but I wasn't really into him. During the date, he started talking about the guys he'd been with recently. Turned out they were, essentially, the same guys I'd been out with recently. Not that there was anything wrong with that but it felt a little strange.

After dinner, he suggested we head to my place to "sit by the fire." I suggested that, instead, we go to JRs (we were in DC).

A couple of months later, we ran into each other at JRs. He was about to go on a date, but was unsure about whether he was really interested in the guy. He asked my friend and me what should he do if the date didn't work out. Not thinking, I just gave him the natural answer, "bring him here!"

After he left, my friend pointed out what I had done, and I felt really shitty. The guy wasn't a jerk, he just didn't interest me, and the entire scenario just seemed like I had slapped him in the face.

R3 was he one of those "UNDETECTABLE = UNTRANSMISSIBLE! NO STIGMA!" guys? Like, I get that it may be the case on average, but you never know if someone's been talking their meds regularly or not.

I was in Toronto for a conference and had lunch with a guy I had never met irl but I had had cam sex with for years. He was just as good looking in person as on cam—if a little stiff/dull—and I found myself losing interest…But I was still going to hookup with him. However, during lunch he developed a pool of spittle in the corner of his mouth that I became preoccupied with, thinking “just wipe it with a napkin.” But he didn’t and I was grossed out and we never chatted again after lunch.

R4 Oops! Also isn't it a rule not to talk about ex-boyfriends or romantic entanglements on the first few dates, along with politics and religion? He kinda set himself up for that one.

Lousy cocksucker.

R6 that would disturb me as well. I've rejected guys after we ate at a restaurant and they spit when they talked, or if they talked with their mouths full. Never sit with lighting behind you it highlights the flecks.

One guy who thought Billie Holiday was a man. Another who said Britney Spears was his favorite singer.

I've rejected guys on dating apps who have either photos of themselves in womens' clothing - even just one - or specified "they/them" pronouns, or claimed to be nonbinary. It just screams "narcissist" to me.

I've rejected guys with painted nails (I know this is a trend but I don't like it).

I've rejected guys with too many obvious tattoos, or with any face tattoos.

I've rejected guys who, after a date or three, told me their "housemates" they'd mentioned previously were actually their parent(s).

I've rejected guys who I found out (usually after we had gone on a first date) were unemployed.

Ftm.

R3, that's a completely socially acceptable reason to dump someone.

R14 it's totally not socially acceptable anymore if he's on HIV meds - the trend is "undetectable = untransmissible" and everyone is expected to pretend they don't really have HIV.

If they're on PrEP, it's probably more socially acceptable to reject them if they were engaging in blatantly unsafe behavior.

R10, you were completely within your rights on both counts.

R9 Your story reminds me of a guy I went to dinner with at a Greek restaurant. I knew he didn’t know a lot of what was on the menu, but instead of asking me, he fronted. When he ordered Calamari, I mentioned that it was whole Calamari not fried Calamari — I mean, if you like fried Calamari, you’re probably not going to like whole Calamari. He was offended and got irritated with me and said “I know!” When his dish came, he obviously had not known and I thought he was going to puke! But I will say he forced himself to eat 3/4 of it. Suffice it to say, we were not a love connection.

French restaurant. Baseball cap. Kept it on. There was more, but I'll just leave it at that.

R7 - as I recall, it was a real turn-off; it was like he was bragging, and the whole time I'm thinking "Been there, done that." I wasn't that into the guy from the get-go, At least, I'm guessing, on his next date, I wasn't part of the conversation. I still felt crappy about the whole JRs thing, though.

I remember once when I was very young I had a couple dates with a guy who was just a few years older than I but bald as a cue ball, and it skeeved me out. Now I couldn't care less, but then it was a dealbreaker.

I was very immature for my age, probably because my whole teenage development was retarded by having been gay/closeted/afraid/depressed.

R19 - I'm struggling to find a clever way to say you're not the only one.

[quote] I've rejected guys who, after a date or three, told me their "housemates" they'd mentioned previously were actually their parent(s).

Hilarious.

R19 I hooked up with a guy. It was years ago, pre-Internet. He picked me up in a bar on a weeknight. I went to his place and he blew me and I came. Then he was standing there like “my turn.” I really looked at him. He was OK but his cock turned me off: on the small side yet it was so hard it was vertical. Too many pubes. I made up an excuse and left.

I dated a guy briefly who had the full package. Very handsome, muscular, big dick. He was an anaesthetist in a private clinic, and owned a really fancy flat in central Paris. The catch? He didn’t kiss very well.(there was no tongue action). I rejected him for that. Fast forward a couple of years, and I run into him in a club in London, where I’d moved. He still had it all, and this time, he kissed super well! I tried desperately to rekindle as I’d realise my mistake, but for him, that ship had sailed. Yeah, I was a fool to let him go in the first place.

Back hair. I know some guys find it hot but "shudder*.

You were a stupid selfish whore, R23. Are you any smarter now?

Lol, I hope so R25. That was stupid indeed, and 15 years later, I sometimes still think about him!

I rejected a guy who confessed to me on the first date that he had lost a LOT of weight (like 150 pounds) recently. I didn't think anything of it until we started making out and when I put my hand on his torso, everything moved underneath! I never saw him shirtless. I went on a few more dates with him but I couldn't stop thinking about my hand shifting his skin around like his body had a giant foreskin.

I tried to let him down easy. Went on one final date with him, after semi-ghosting him. He seemed really passive aggressive the entire dare even though I thought we were otherwise having a fun time. Kept making little comments that I ignored.

Gave him the "let's just be friends" speech, and he responded with "I have enough friends." We never saw each other again.

I try never to ghost people I've been out with in person, but damn it is tempting, because the feeling of righteousness for not ghosting someone doesn't always outweigh the awkwardness and guilt of dumping them in person.

Threads like this are so hilarious. Years ago, I decided to dump this guy named David who was crazy about me. Why? Because his living room was painted lavender. He was hot, and had a bigger dick than mine. It was a perfect penis, really. And he was quite good-looking.

I ran into him a year or two later and brought him home with me. Revenge sex was absolutely wonderful. He tried to fuck the shit out of me. Or so it seemed. But I had moved on to another guy. But oh, that cock.

I hope life was kinder than I was, David.

I was making out with a guy,really enjoying myself ,and his top plate slipped.I had no idea he was wearing dentures. It freaked me out .

R23 “He was an anaesthetist in a private clinic, and owned a really fancy flat in central Paris.” He probably supplies the Propofol to all the White Parties.

Painted nails and non-binary bullshit is a non-starter -- hard to imagine it would even get to a rejection.

I met a very cute guy in a cute suit with a handkerchief in the pocket at a party. He also wore glasses and was just adorable. We flirted at a party then decided to meet up. We had a nice dinner. Then we went to his apartment. And I assumed by the way he was dressed that it would be a snappy place. It was a tiny dump of a studio apartment and I have nothing against studio apartments. Then he took off his glasses and looked less appealing. Then he got naked and he was fatter than I imagined. Not that I have a thing against fat guys. But with no clothes and glasses, he was simply not the same guy. So we fooled around very briefly and then I asked for a ride home. I haven't seen him since. It was 10 years ago.

I went out with a nice and cute guy who was going to Wharton at UPenn. OK bottom of the Ivies but I'm not a snob. Well eventually I found out he did analingus. !!!! And he said he even liked uncircumcised dicks and barebacking and tasting semen. !!!!!! He said he was on that pill for dirty disease-riddled whores, which doesn't prevent ANYTHING of course, and especially if you're dealing with filthy uncut penises on SLUTS. Well, I NEVER IN ALL MY LIFE!!!!!!!!

When I was on a date and he told me he was 22!!!! I let out a gasp

many or most of these reasons are all acceptable to not date someone

I've rejected one guy who said he loved Anne Murray and another into Enya.

Super gay voice is an immediate rejection.

Had a dinner date with a guy I’d flirted with online. He was a ski instructor, tall, very handsome, big hands, big smile, nice guy. Even if we didn’t hit it off as friends we were clearly going to have sex, and he was the type who wanted to get to know me first. I was into it!

We got to know each other. He’d grown up in upstate NY (where we were) and I asked him if he used to visit NYC growing up. His answer: “Oh no I hate New York City! I hate everything it represents. I hate going there it’s loud and smells and the people are rude. A disgusting place!”

At one point we started talking about movies and I mentioned I was a horror movie buff. His response: “No I hate horror movies. I hate seeing people get stabbed, who would watch something like that?”

Then we talked about college. I told him my major had been art. He kept trying to spell out a word of something he associated with the art world, saying “Avent,” “Abunt.” I realized he was trying to remember the words “avant garde.” His response: “Yeah usually when I see that what it means BULLSHIT!”

Every time he said one of these things he cracked a huge grin and took a sip of his drink like he was being totally charming. I kept countering, “Do you prefer the country to the city? Do you like romantic comedy films? Is art not really your thing?” He would shrug his shoulders and say, “I dunno. I don’t like any of those things. I guess I’m a boring guy.”

You got that right.

Afterwards he took me to his place and ate my ass like a wild animal and fucked my brains out in multiple positions. I had to hold into to things in his apartment for support the whole night. I came like four times. At one point he had to clasp his big hand over my mouth because I was literally screaming.

R38 You bottom Whore!

I once ghosted a guy after a one night stand because he had no toilet tissue in his house.

R38 Total Bottom whore!!!

I went on a date with a guy who told me he could tell if someone had AIDS. He said blue lips were a dead giveaway. I was 30 and he was 45. I went through the motions of dinner and movie, and then walked away from him.

He smoked pot out of a metal bowl and drank Sutter Home wine. NOKD.

Another one spent the night, and as he was getting ready the next morning put on "some light makeup" in addition to several pieces of chunky jewelry and an infinity scarf. I love bottoms but it was too much for me.

It wasn't THE reason, but one of the reasons I ended things with a guy is because he had a law degree and refused to take the bar exam. I would've understood if he had pursued a career outside the legal profession, but he was a paralegal (and hated it).

Guy from a doublelist ad who blatantly lied about his penis size. Ad said about 5 inches, which was acceptable to me, but it turned out to be 1 inch tops. Is that considered socially unacceptable?

I just got a message on Grindr from a hot guy. His profile though lectures me "abusing the pronouns field = stupid & transphobic".

That'll be a no from me then.

I suppose I'm lucky it wasn't literal violence

So what R42? Maybe he has talent and can put that to good use. R42=Screaming MARY!

R46, sounds like he was smart enough to avoid a Republican clown like you!

R33 I've rejected guys before that seem a little TOO obsessed with eating ass. It makes me think of all the ass they've eaten before me and grosses me out. Who knows what is living in their mouth?

R40 I think that happened in a Sex and the City episode 😳

R46 I hate shit like that - yes let's scold people through our profiles, that makes a great first impression!

You should have hooked up with him and then told him that trans women aren't REALLY women and seen how freaked out he got, just for the lulz.

R52, you're the one who is scolding trans people. Guys who date you should tell you that Trump lost the election to see how freaked out you get!

R53 I would be happy, because it means they're sane and not cultists?

I met a very good looking guy in a loud club. It was impossible to talk, so we agreed to meet for dinner a few nights later. In he came, looking gorgeous. All he could talk about was Gloria Estefan. There is no cure for stupid.

That's when you shut them up with kissing and other things 🤠

R54, Trumpsters like you aren't sane.

R57 Whatever you say 🙄

R50 - right you are! I'm gay but having sex with homosexuals is just filthy, dangerous and disease spreading. I COULDN'T POSSIBLY see anything exciting about the anal region. That is for POO. And the penis is revolting enough. No thanks! Boner killer! Thank god for hydrogen peroxide and double condoms. When I had sex with my last paramour in 1983 we followed the strict protocol so of course I'm still clean and alive.

I found the perfect guy, I thought "this is the one". Then (being an ass fanatic), I saw his butt. I'm told it is called "the dreaded half-ass" and that's what it was. Half of it completely flat and then a butt on what would normally just have been the lower half. I didn't want to put my face in that. He was an only child and his parents were dead and he had lots of money - I could have been mercenary, but no.

r27 I lol'd at this one: "like his body had a giant foreskin."

I went on a hookup ap meet with a formerly obese man. He warned me. He also truthfully said he had a huge xxl cock. The date was pleasant, he kept his clothes on, whipped it out, and I greedily worshipped it. I could feel his squishy body but I'm kinky so it didn't ruin the dick worship.

I met up with a guy who was a former Marine (he used his pic from it in his profile). As soon as he opened his mouth, a fucking purse fell out. This was during DADT times, I don't know how in the hell he got in.

Another guy had the worst case of back acne I've ever seen in my life, I almost threw up. He was totally covered in it. I'm about to throw up just typing this.

Hitting on me, he kept telling me he had a ginormous dick.

I’m 5’5”. Oh, and he had mild cp. walked like he was drunk

I have never ghosted anyone in my life. If I no longer want to date or see a person I tell them and the context usually varies (sometimes I interested in being friends at probably on occasion no.

One guy I met up with had hairs sticking out from his nostrils. He was nice but I just couldn’t see him again

I've had my share but I have always given them feedback or said we weren't a match.

Guys, please don't ghost - we are an adult so give feedback. You would want the same so set the tone.

R58 is the Republican who pretends to be a "black gay man" on the internet

Dems don't bitch and moan about someone listing their pronouns, only conservatives get worked up over that

Not true, r68. Refusing to fall in with the pronoun crowd does not a Republican make. I don't play along either, but I have never voted Republican in my life. And I vote.

And I am not r58.

Only Republicans sneer at "the pronoun crowd"

These are the same people who thought gay marriage would magically cause straight marriage to end.

R70 so young and naive. There must be something freeing about being able to see the world in black and white, with no grays.

R68 excuse me, I have never and would never pretend to be a "black gay man on the internet". Perhaps we actual gay people all look alike to you.

You're tiresome.

R67 not everyone can handle feedback or honesty. I don't like ghosting people and rarely do it, but being up front about what turns you off about someone is just asking for trouble, even if they ask.

Also, what is a turnoff to you may be a turnon to someone else, you never know!

R71, must be elderly, like his fellow Trump voters.

He sneers at other minorities who aren't hurting anyone while accusing others of black and white thinking. So funny!

R63 I dated a bodybuilder once and apparently the steroids can give you really bad backne! I'll never forget getting his shirt off and running my fingers over his back, only to feel a LOT of bumps, to the point where it was actually nauseating. So I feel you!

R62 see, my squishy guy didn't have a big cock, that might have balanced it out more.

R74 blocking you now. Toodles!

Blocking you now. One less bigoted Republican!

Dirty trashed filled car

Driving too fast and recklessly

Pushy or aggressive personality

Stingy, cheap

Negative

Dwelling on grievances

Often it's not a matter of rejection but never getting close enough to reject. Sometimes all it takes is a glance.

I once was on a first date with this guy and we went to a romantic Italian restaurant. We got appetizers, and he finished all of them. He then ordered a HUGE bowl of pasta and ate it all like he was starving, and then burped repeatedly. He was also rude to the waiter. He ordered dessert, ate that too, and then complained about how full he was

After that we went to a movie. The theater was half full, and we sat down in a decent zone. Some people came in and started to sit down in front of us on the next row, and then suddenly he started saying "No no no no no no no!" half-loudly. The people moved down a row, not sure if they heard him or not. I asked him what was up and he said "Oh, I didn't want them to sit there, because I wanted to put my feet up!"

He pulled his shoes off and put his socked feet up between the chairs in front of him! Then he talked throughout the movie, making comments, saying "Oh no!" loudly, etc.

There was more but I have forgotten some. After that date he asked me in the parking lot if he'd see me again and I said, "no, I don't think we're a match" and just left it at that.

I met a guy after graduating from college. He was good looking and sweet but I didn’t want to get serious because I knew I would be moving on. I wonder what happened to him.

penis too large

These threads always remind me of Boys In The Band.

R38 is a whore!

Since this thread has become more about why we rejected guys instead of ghosting them - the guy who brought up his many sexual preferences during dinner at a BBQ restaurant. We hadn't even gotten our entrees yet, I don't need to know how you like to get fucked. It was loud and obvious enough that the server could hear. He was in his mid-50s and was surprised when I said that I didn't want a second date.

R84 that's the point of the thread! 😎

Also, I've noticed that people with the most specific fetishes want you to know all the gory details about their preferences, as soon as possible I always think there has to be more, though. Like how some people will test you with something and see how you react before they give the BIG REVEAL of what they REALLY want.

I've had guys ask me to shit in their mouths, guys that want to see me on the toilet, guys that want me to be unclean because they get off on strong scents, guys that want my worn underwear, etc. Oh, and farts. They really want to hear me fart. I've declined all of the above, and the people with them.

I've gotten so used to them I almost don't think there's anyone out there who is into normal vanilla sex anymore (my preference). Maybe it's because of the amount of porn available.

Poo Shoes, is that you???

As another poster alluded to upthread, I'm surprised how many gay men live with their parents or a parent usually the mom. It is way too common and a bit depressing. I have had more than one random hookup where the guy quietly meets me at the front door, motions me to come in, and tells me to keep it quiet. They then tell me when we get to their bedroom that we have to keep quiet because their parents are sleeping down the hall. What the fuck?!

We have to have silent, tense, awkward sex now because your mom might wake up and ask what we're doing in here? Nobody's got time for that. I understand some people fall on hard times and go through shit, I've had my own, but some people seem to be in this state forever and show no signs of trying to get out.

I semi-dated a guy years ago (it was weird now that I look back on it) who lived with his mom. He was in his 30s, I was in my 20's and about 10 years apart. He told me his father had recently passed away, and he didn't want her living alone. When we would hang out and have conversations he would throw in small details here and there of how his mom made the best dinner the other night, or he was on his last pair of clean clothes because his mom didn't do the laundry yet.

One day, he tells me had a big surprise and to meet him for dinner. At the restaurant, he drives up in a new BMW he just bought and how he was so proud of it. I didn't really think much of it at the time, but all started to add up over time, but it eventually started clicking how he was just an asshole who was using his mom to save money and be very materialistic. I eventually broke it up, but he tried to turn it around and act like he was breaking up with me calling me immature since I was the younger one. Keep in my mind, at the time I was living on my own and supporting myself. I didn't have mommy to clean my room and make me dinner.

Some people just really lack self-awareness.

I had a date with a guy once and when we were saying goodbye, he laughed about something and I noticed he had teeth missing in the back. And the ones that were still there seemed heavily welded-together with dark fillings.

No second date.

Horrifying stories. I accept no human flaws when I date. Who would? I'd rather spend time with my beautiful cat, who is perfect company and my lovely Madame Alexander dolls. Oh sure, I have many many suitors, but I just tell them my dance card if full.

[Quote] but I didn’t want to get serious because I knew I would be moving on.

Sometimes the timing just doesn't work out. I can think of at least three instances when I and hookups decided to leave it at that because one of us was moving. It's rather poignant.

Mine have sometimes revolves around occupation. I’ve never been able to date a guy who is a hairdresser or makeup artist. Self loathing homophobia on my part I suppose.

When I was in college I went on a couple dates with a very handsome guy that I met at a bar who had graduated a few years before me. He worked at a K Mart in a managernent training position. As a first generation college student, I thought his job was a step backwards to the world I was trying to escape. Asshole thinking I realize.

Too old when younger. Now too young.

I see guys on Grindr and think "Hmm, he's kind of cute." But then his bio says "FTM trans" and I say "Oh, never mind."

I had a great fuck body who lived with his mom. He said his mom would go to sleep at 9 pm and take her hearing aids out. Once she did we could be as loud as we wanted.

He even had a sling in his bedroom. He’d fuck the hell out of me while we groaned loudly…but only after 9 pm!

[quote]I had a great fuck body

Actually, with most fuck buddies, "fuck body" is probably the better way to say it.

"He said his mom would go to sleep at 9 pm and take her hearing aids out."

Oh I wasn't asleep, honey- and I'm not a bit deaf.

I once rejected a guy who didn't have ny clue who The Ramones were.

I've rejected guys on dating sites for being Asian. The cringiest one was seeing one hot guy and doing a 180 turn in my messages when I saw he was Asian. I lied and said I didn't like facial piercings only to have him say he had them taken out. Complete body shudder. I'm not so racist today but out of the game.

r67 r65 What is the point of telling someone you weren’t into them because their nose hair was showing, they were formerly fat, or their politics repulsed you?

Life is too short for giving people constructive criticism which most of them don’t want. The short answer for why someone assumes they are being ghosted—which everyone learns in grade school, therefore comprehends and accepts and assumes—is that there wasn’t chemistry.

There's no point r101 but you get turned off by what turns you off.

The good thing is there are billions of people on the planet. No matter what you look like, someone will be happy to fuck you

R87, how come you don't host?

R89 ooh, I've had that happen before. I actually made out with a guy who never seemed to smile (nothing beyond a tight-lipped smile), and then I said something that be couldn't help himself on and laughed, I realized a good number of his teeth were black. I dated him a bit longer until I realized he was bipolar and dumped him, but I never french kissed him again!

When I was dating regularly I seemed to end up with an unusual amount of guys who would confess to me on the first or second date that they were moving "soon", usually within six to nine months. Those irritated me because I felt like the person was wasting my time. Even if you like the person, there's this artificial deadline looming so you naturally hold back after that point.

When I date guys hoping to find a partner and find out he has a really loose hole, I know he’s a slut and move on

R106, that routine is the typical “Im not interested in you” excuse.

R101 are you joking? Most people don't learn that in grade school. They may be told or taught that, but self-esteem issues get in the way of adult reactions like that.

R108 Not for the guys that used it on me. They did end up moving.

R100 you know what's funny about that preference - as I've gotten older I've started finding more Asian men attractive. I think our pickiness relaxes a bit as we get older.But I was there with you, they just did nothing for me at all sexually, would not turn me on, etc.

Not sure if it is socially unacceptable enough but one guy I dated I dumped because he rarely spoke. He wasn't mute but just not a talker and I like someone to talk with. One funny thing happened the first time I slept over - I had a nightmare that a dog jumped up on the bed - which woke me and him up. There was no dog but it was a weird thing to mare about. I wonder if that meant something?

R112 dunno about your dream but I dated a guy like that. I had to supply all the conversation because he just didn't say anything, but kept wanting to go out with me (like he'd suggest places) so I figured he was just really self conscious or something.

After that dwindled out I heard from a friend that he had been trashing me behind my back when he found out I was invited to a party he was also invited to - saying that he hoped he wouldn't run into me, etc.

It was pretty weird because I am usually pretty able to tell when people dislike me and I didn't get that feeling from him at all. I did find out he was that boring with other people, though.

R85. I shudder to think of the freaks you guys have gotten intimate with totally oblivious of some horrifying kink at play, yet to be revealed later. You've kissed someone X amount of times, and then one night they ask you to drop a deuce in their mouth?!! 🤐 YIKES!

I went to Europe with a guy I had been dating a few months. He had a good job and we were splitting expenses. I rented the car, he wanted to pay cash for his share of the gas. After filling up and paying, I gave him his change. I guess the euros challenged him, he accused me of not giving him the proper change. I told him to tell me where he wanted me to drop him off and I have never seen or spoken to him since.

Most often when a man "gets ahead of himself" with presumptions about a long term relationship.

Joking about your marriage ir honeymoon or where you will live or retire before you've the least confidence that those things might be a real possibility...that's fine. Feeling each other out for likes and dislikes, compatibility questions is fine too, Soo long as you don't take it too seriously too fast (with exception for a few insurmountable differences.) But when someone you've barely met --or incredibly, met for the first time-- trots you out in front of friends (obviously to elicit their opinion of you(, and when the basic ground questions are too much a drill to get fast to information best revealed in time, that sort of urgency/desperation pushes me away fast.

R115 nothing worse than a cheap, and suspicious man!

I was seeing a guy, a French guy, in graduate school, just a few dates, he was a little weird but ok, we hadn't had sex, then one night walking by the university chapel he noted the door was open. He then went on to describe how significant it was and it was God talking to him and realized suddenly he was schizophrenic. He also smoked continously which I have since learned some schizophrenics do as self medication. I thought it was because he was French. He was sorta cute so I regret not having sex. I ghosted him after that conversation (before ghosting was a concept.)

R118 what was God saying to him?

It’s not socially acceptable to reject trans for being trans? Am I supposed to play straight man to some sick fucker with tittys and school girl dress or what? Fuck that.

R120 no, now they call us transphobic for being sexually attracted to actual men and not women pretending to be men, i.e., "trans identifying women". Didn't you hear that genital preferences are all in the mind? Sexual orientation therefore doesn't exist and we are all pansexual.

R121 That’s just not gonna happen but at least some of them look like attractive dudes. Im more grossed out by the psychos dressed as some cheap, grotesque parody of a woman who think I want to fuck that, be their man…

I generally agree with R65 that actually telling someone why you don't want to continue with them is best. Aside from the guy I mentioned above, the only other man I recall ghosting was one who griped to me about how inconvenient not being able to drive (to and from his bartending job!) was after his license was taken away for DUIs. I don't regard that as a socially unacceptable reason, I dropped him like a hot potato with zero regrets.

R123 but then you're further punishing an already punished felon! Don't you trust the justice system to reform the young man? Must felons be punished for lyfe???

• FTM

• Fat

• No car

• Snaggletoothed

• Bald

• Ugly feet

I ghosted a guy who was just so full of himself and how wonderful he apparently was. Looking back, it was probably just a defense mechanism for low self esteem. Either way, it just got on my nerves

When I first came out and was looking for gay friends, I ghosted guys who wouldn’t follow up as promised for a party invite or a planned dinner.

I had no patience for flighty gays and fuck there are so many of them.

I tolerated them for a while because I hoped to make a circle of friends, but not calling back when promised was the big deal breaker.

R127 I took that as a sign that they just weren't that interested. If they were, they'd return a phone call or text!

That being said, I would give them a few reminders before giving up. But yeah you can usually tell when you're a backup option for filling an empty social slot versus someone they're genuinely into. And also some are just sociopaths.

When I first came out, I was a doormat for so many men—both sexually and friendship-wise.

After a year or so, I decided I wasn’t going to take this shit anymore. If you’re an asshole, I will no longer be with you. That narrowed the friendship and relationship prospects considerably

R129 what's your definition of an asshole?

R130, not keeping your word, treating me and other people badly, farting alot

His parents lived in a trailer. (They called it a pre-manufacured home) Done!

R131 with the number of furries who are into farts, they have a lot of people who would love them!

When I find out someone doesn’t have a college degree, that’s an immediate turn off.

I make them watch "Brideshead Revisited" (1981) and if they don't think it's the greatest thing ever, then they're not for me.

I rejected a guy who had 4 toes. In retrospect that was so stupid because he was really cute otherwise

Foreskin

R136 what if you wanted to have children somehow? His kids would be freaks!

Guys who can’t kiss. Got no time for that

R139 brings up an interesting thought. Have any of you ever had sex with a guy who couldnt kiss for shit but was a great fuck ? I have,and it always puzzled me why he could do one so well and not the other.

R140 top or bottom?

R89, I spent an entire year getting my teeth fixed for this reason.

Tending to a client I laughed too hard one day, and while she was laughing with me suddenly turned serious and said, “Oh, you’re missing a tooth!”

I was horrified and set up a dental appointment the very next day.

HA HA HA *toothless gap laugh*

yeah, if the don't kiss and just want your load...meth mouth.

I dated a smart guy who was working on his Doctorate. Funny and cultured. Yet, he had baby hands. His body was normal, but he had tiny hands, a result of having cerebral palsy. I tried and failed to look past that.

[quote]R139 brings up an interesting thought. Have any of you ever had sex with a guy who couldnt kiss for shit but was a great fuck ? I have,and it always puzzled me why he could do one so well and not the other.

My first boyfriend was great in pretty much all respects except that he was a terrible kisser. The pros outweighed the cons.

R145 I hooked up with a guy at a club once who I realized had a baby hand after I got back to his room and had made out with him for awhile. I realized then that he'd been keeping his hand hidden the whole time (the other hand was normal). I didn't freak out or anything, we fooled around some after that but I never saw him again. In that case though it was just a hookup so I wasn't in the position of rejecting him for dating.

I dumped a hot german top that always shaved his big cock, thighs and ass. He claimed that as long distance marathon runner he shaved his body so he wouldn’t bleed on his pubes.

I ditched a guy who walked with a limp. Plus he was an asshole

My SIL's cousin died this year (covid?) and I remembered two good hookups with his short but very thick dick.

He was a nonsmoker who didn't want me to smoke on days we dated.

My addiction decided a half hour of bossy, thick dick was not worth the nicotine withdrawal.

[quote] I can think of at least three instances when I and hookups decided to leave it at that because one of us was moving.

And you fell for that?!

😂

In a just world, you dizzy cunts would only be allowed to date each other.

I understand why so many gay men are perpetually single.

R134

C U Next Tuesday

R152 you seem vengeful. During the Christmas holidays, no less 😥

Lol @ …R155. As opposed to the compassionate souls dumping all over men with crooked teeth? You are funny. You read the sign on the way in, right?

R156 be the change you seek in others!

Thank you, Sister.

I would reject r30 for not knowing the difference between anesthesiologist and aesthetician.

Does them being pre-op trans count?

R159 you might want to recheck your evaluation of that.