Met a Chinese Surgeon Married to an American Lawyer

You see that exact sentiment among wealthy people constantly. Totally not prejudice, though.

Speaking truth to asshole.

R1 and R2 what do you both mean?

How exciting for you.

He probably insists on doing the laundry!

Defacto thread

Are there any other interracial or intercultural relationships on DL?

Did you find your partner "not like other X?"

Well, the Chinese guy probably knows "anyways" is not a word.

[quote]Anyways, I got to talking and asked them bout the cultural differences. The surgeon smiled and said "well, he was not like most Americas."

Oh, many dears. Probably they didn't want to communicate with you, OP.

Americans are always blissfully unaware that they are not universally beloved.

R7 No, thinking that someone is tolerable because they don't fit your negative stereotypes about their group and they're "one of the good ones" is indicative of prejudice.

I'm surprised they can maintain a relationship, although wealthy people often don't date or marry for love. God knows, the American husband is probably delusional and identifies as being essentially European or something like a lot of rich deluded Americans do.

OP Ouch that really stung me. I am going back to bed.

Jesus, are we going to get inundated now with troll threads about Asian vs Western gays? This is the second one this morning!

R11 Idk. This American seemed very worldly. He talked a lot about opera/classical music, classic literature, foreign affairs, and scotch. I kind of wanted to date him lol

[quote] “he was not like most Americans."

Secret keywords that he’s uncut, OP.

Can't parse this gibberish. Sometimes it's helpful to run these things through a grammar checker before posting, OP. They are free and can save you the embarrassment that you should be feeling right now, but can't.

R14 Sounds very typical for well educated Americans from wealthy backgrounds. Was he thin?

R17 thin, but can tell he enjoys pasta . He mentions he jogs everyday.

[quote] thinking that someone is tolerable because they don't fit your negative stereotypes about their group and they're "one of the good ones" is indicative of prejudice.

If he’s married to one if ‘those people,’ then he’s not THAT prejudiced. It’s perfectly valid to dislike characteristics typical of a group.

I find a LOT of Americans to be the sort of people i wouldn’t piss on if they were on fire; around here, we call them MAGAts. Given how noisy they are, it would be easy to assume most Americans are like that if you’ve never met any.

Even without them, American ‘characteristics’ tend towards loud, extroverted, and ignorant of or disrespectful towards other cultures. The ‘ugly American’ stereotype didn’t come from nowhere.

You’re not like that? Neither am i (i hope), but people don’t base their judgements on a survey of every member of that nation/group. I think you’re overthinking this.

Yes, your remarks are very much 'lol'-worthy, Miss OP. Quite hilarious.

And don't hold your breath waiting for the American half of the couple to call you to ask for a date.

What would be the lesbian counterpart?

R19 Prejudice! You consider yourself "one of the good ones" because you use your six inch voice while being an asshole.

If he dislikes Americans so much, he can always go back to where he came from.

You should have told him that.

Did you get his recipe for bat soup?

[quote] If he dislikes Americans so much, he can always go back to where he came from. You should have told him that

Yes, he should have, thereby confirming for this guy that his husband is a diamond in a coal bin.

Nowhere in the reported conversation did the guy say ‘I don’t like Americans!’ You made all that up in your head.

You leaping to that conclusion and taking aggressive offense is probably EXACTLY the sort of behavior he’s seen, and disliked, among more ‘typical’ Americans. Congratulations! You’ve made his point for him.

He said that his husband was not scared to discuss taboo subjects or ask tough questions. And that his husband was always honest and upfront about things.

I can't get over the income these two must bring in.

R26 They both sound fucking unbearable. The husband is 100% one of those craven, groveling upper class types who are repulsed by their own people.

R28 what do you mean? elaborate.

In my experience, people of means are not necessarily out of touch with the rest of society. Rather, many wealthy people often have a difficult time understanding some of the seemingly bad decisions that people in lower socioeconomic groups make.

R30 what kind of decisions? Like fast food?

I find it strange that they are identified as different because they are wealthy. I think their personality is more affected by their work than their money. Both have jobs that are likely all absorbing. Their lives are about work - which gives them no time to indulge in the trivia of average “normal” people life.

Wtf is the point of this troll thread?

I'm American and I'm quiet and cultured. Big fucking deal.

Trumptards are not all Americans. It would be like me saying all Brits are horsey looking with bad teeth, full of ugly women wearing sensible walking shoes and tweed.

Well, if poor people knew how to spend money then they wouldn't be poor.

"I'm direct" = cover for being an unapologetic asshole

OP what is your native language? Just curious

pictures please

R36 German

R37 idk how to upload pictures on here

[quote] [R19] Prejudice! You consider yourself "one of the good ones" because you use your six inch voice while being an asshole.

I have no idea what the fuck a ‘six inch voice’ is supposed to be, but I certainly do consider myself ‘one of the good ones,’ a case you’ll never be able to make for yourself.

When I think of good classy Americans, I think of James Ivory, Leontyne Price, Christopher Reeve, and Lauren Bacall.

"He was a Chinese surgeon"

Meaning he was trained in China and still practicing there?

Or he was Chinese-American and was trained and practiced in the US?

R41 His family is from Shanghai and he went to medical school there. He came to US for last year of medical school. He had to take a few tests and he passed them. Zero debt.

OP, since you seem fixated on stereotypes most of the world associates Germans with anti-semitism, Nazis and humorlessness.

Who cares how much money they make , good for them. Their lives are jam packed everyday i imagine WORKING. tet them think whatever the fuck they want, its a free country.

R44 I bet they never spend time together

R39 It's an idiom meaning "to speak quietly" especially indoors. My self worth isn't measured in what Europeans think, hope they don't catch on to what a cunt you are.

[quote] My self worth isn't measured in what Europeans think, hope they don't catch on to what a cunt you are.

Wow! You’re a comically pissy little bitch! I may be a ‘cunt,’ but i doubt your social calendar is packed, if it takes so little to set you off.

They said their first date was a screening of The White Countess.

It is a beautiful Merchant-Ivory film with Ralph Fiennes, Natasha Richardson, Hiroyuki Sanada, Lynn Redgrave, John Wood, and Vanessa Redgrave. Written by Kazuo Ishiguro.

OP - In what context did you ask about cultural differences? How do cultural differences matter if they like each other? In what way is he different from other Americans? Was the surgeon implying that he married an Asian man? I have seen a lot of such couples so that is not unique. Is it because the combination shocked you? I also don't think just because someone goes to Opera, reads books, listens to classical music makes them any better than any other person who watches football. All that high-brow stuff is an acquired taste and just to remind you everyone breaths the same air. Anyway, I am even amazed that you would make a breathless post about the couple.

OP is trolling you all, lol

R49 that's the thing, to people like them opera, classic leather bound books, etc are not "high-brow," it's just a way of life.

What’s the point of this post, OP?

[quote] The surgeon smiled and said "well, he was not like most Americas."

So the American is uncut.

R53 I think he meant he wasn't fat or obnoxious.

Let me guess the household includes a Range Rover and an Audi.

The kitchen has a Wolf range

They both have profiles on Grindr. The Asian dude lists his ethnicity as "other"

R55 lol I think an Range Rover and a BMW

I don't know what a wolf range is.

Probably not, they seemed madly in love with each other.

They seem pretentious and insufferable.