Do Gays Take Their Spouse’s Surname When They Marry?

I think that's really subjective. I know couples who each person kept their names; I've also known couples who used a hyphenated or double last name.

We kept our own last names, but there I times why my husband decides we should have the same last name. I will never change mine - especially to my husband's since no one will be able to pronounce it.

If you hyphenate it, how do you decide whose goes first?

R3, the Top's last name goes first.

My partner and I are getting married next year. We're keeping our surnames as they are. No name changes for us. We're both professionals and are known by our current names. Plus I think it's antiquated to take someone else's last name.

Do you really have to ask, you peasant op?

I think people who still do that are doing it more for attention. There's no real point.

Some do.

We retain our names. Married for 50 yrs in January. I think would be a nice gesture. I wouldn't change mine because it is difficult to pronounce. His family has never been supportive. My family likes him more than they like me! I don't care enough to ask.

My husband and I took each other’s names. Mine is our middle name and his is our last name. I am so proud to have this.

Eldergay, we have remarkably similar stories. Our 50th was NYE. Fifty years! I congratulate you and send our warmest happy anniversary, guys.

What more of your story can you share?

R11...Lots of great stories...Not for this thread. Thanks for the kind words. 1972 was a good year.