Second date gift suggestions, or should I?

(I’m almost 25, by the way.)

Second date? I always give the guy the gist of my virginity. I’ve had a lot of sweet ones dates.

-10000/10

He "wants to wait " to have sex ? Bye Gurl ! You're already a distant memory. Dont embarass yourself any further.

Maybe a tasteful cock ring?

[quote] some kind of pre-promise ring or bracelet.

WTF? Who does this, let alone on a second date. Are you a lesbian? Are you really 25, or do you “look” 25? This sounds like elder gay fiction.

How about you just give him a little sanity? Instead of talking about relationships after one date? Sheesh.

If this is real, which highly doubt, pass on a gift. If you are that similar and so romantic, you are both bottoms....so keep a double headed dildo in mind when gifts really do come up.

Enjoy the date and have no expectations about the future.

:( I’m very picky and have been single for seven years. He also has a similar tale. Nobody believes in love at first sight?

You write like a 12 year old girl. Get him a BTS cd.

Double anal

He's Bi!

R9 So your last "relationship" was when you were 18 ? Let me guess,he was your best friend who's dick you started sucking at 15 then he went off to college and got a girlfriend.

R6 and R7 are right. You need to adjust your expectations radically. You should not give this person any gift. And, for heaven's sake, listen to yourself. Do you know how common love at first sight is compared to how common people think it must be happening to them? You have a situation that exists right now that you can really enjoy. Just live in the moment.

And now I'm annoyed because I think you are going to take a perfectly wonderful situation and ruin it. I'd advise against whining on DL when this goes South because you are forcing your fantasy on him. You will be savaged.

What R7 said. You had one date and you're thinking it's a relationship and you need to buy a gift? You sound nuts. Meanwhile you're not putting out and you think this guy is equally chaste because you think you're in a **relationship**. Okay, Jan.

R9 I'm a romantic, I completely believe in love at first sight no matter how much grief it has caused me.

Welp. I won’t come back on here for these type of suggestions. Close the thread, Muriel.

[quote]This sounds like eldergay fiction.

Fiction is right.

OP don't give him a gift so soon (unless it's some good weed or a nice bottle of wine) or you'll scare him away ;-)

And waiting for sex is a deal killer... I've learned the hard way.

If you don't fuck on a first date it triggers an alarm (you're gay, not going to get pregnant).

He's not that into you, you'll be friends.

Listen to R20 ,Op. Personally Im offended if they dont try to bang me on the 1st date. We are gay men,not 1950s teen girls.

See ya, R17. You wont be missed.

OP, it’s way too early for gifts.

Also you’re not a man.

The pleasure of denying your nonexistent date with your very extant vapid company, OP?

Why not cash? Then he know how much yoo care.

And, what 25 year old knows about Muriel....

Hun, you also failed at your attempt because no 25 year old writes like you did.

Handcuffs.

A "sentimental gift" on the second date is going to scare him off.

I know you're 25 years old, but GROW UP.

Oh no you don’t bitch, R17!

You asked for advice (however fake it might be) and you’re going to fucking get it. You’re 25 honey, not 12. You’ve been reading too much gay romantic fiction written by fat straight women. No gifts, no flowers, no poetry. The next date ends in bed. If you’re not compatible sexually, what is the point.

Get to fucking, idiot!

This will end in tears...

You're going to frighten him off so fast, he won't even finger-bang you.

Give him some tartar sauce. In a jar.

Invite him to your place for dinner. Tell him to bring nothing, but see if he brings you a host gift anyway.

These stories are getting worse all the time...

[quote] Any suggestions? Preferably something on Amazon or target, so I won’t have to go anywhere.

Does the pre-promise ring represent your pre-promise to make an effort in future?

[quote]And now I'm annoyed

People, please, stop telling trolls that they annoyed you or made you mad.

Yeah, go for the promise ring. Let us know how that works out. Do it.

Afterwards, you won't be able to find him with a LoJack.

[quote]We also had a wonderful time making out for an hour in his car after our dinner.

OP is a straight woman posting from 1952.

Don't buy him anything. But perform Salome's Dance of the Seven Veils in the middle of the next date. I would suggest Loïe Fuller's choreography from 1886, but I suppose you just are not vulgar. Good for you! Why not Rita Hayworth's?

Go to Claires at the mall and buy one of those broken heart necklaces. He can wear one half and you can wear the other. Also maybe a gift certificate to Orange Julius.

Buy him one of those Pandora charm bracelets OP. That sounds up your alley.

OP get him a lovely candy necklace. You can take turns biting off pieces. You can get them at WWW.NUTS.COM. Here's a link for convenience!

Get him an engraved cigarette case that says "Mad about the Boy"

Give him a sample place setting of fine bone china and sterling silverware. Tell him there's 11 more place settings where that came from.

Invest in yourself first, OP. Buy a large freezer so that you can stuff the parts of him you want to keep and then eat/toss the rest. It’s the gift that keeps on giving!

a blood test

Put a handful of candy corn, leftover from Halloween, on some aluminum foil an make it into a ball. Hurl it at his face while you screech "WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME???" This will result in an instant marriage proposal and you will live happily ever after.

OP, I suggest you pick him up for your second date in a UHaul. What are you, a lesbian?

Bring him a peach and then insert a straw into it and give him significant looks.

[quote]we genuinely enjoy each other’s company and complement each other so well.

You've had ONE DATE!! Holy shit, OP, you don't even know each other.

Give him the gift of cancelling the date and losing his number... YOU ARE UNSTABLE. Give yourself a gift of some therapy before you start dating anyone again you psycho.

You're a whore, darlin'

EST: 3.2/10

He's not that into you, OP.

Don't gift him anything yet, including access to your special no no place. Wait until he gives you his letterman jacket and makes you his official steady.

Bring two tickets for you both to see Madame Butterfly at the Met, as a “peace offering.”

Boy are you a chump. He’s sizing you up to drain your bank account and dump your body in a ditch. Haven’t you seen The Honeymoon Killers? Shirley Stoler is waiting in the wings…

Put a hand grenade in a gift-wrapped box. Hand it to him and say" This gift tells you everything about who I am."

Like paisley, a properly cleaned and primed hole never goes out of style.

Present him with a tiny vile containing your blood on a chain. Tell him this is so he will never be without you. Offer to help him clasp it around his neck right now. Right now.

[quote]He is seven years my senior

So you're the bottom because and older guy getting fucked by a younger guy is an abomination that isn't aesthetically pleasing...

Shouldn't he be buying you the flowers, being the fuckEE vs the fuckER?

So what happened, OP? Did you buy him a Precious Moments figurine or not?

[quote]I genuinely am developing deep feelings for him

No, you aren't.

You have a crush on him. Deep feeling come with time, shared experiences, and intimate knowledge of him.

What you have is a crush.

Girl, I have the perfect gift for you!

Let's try that again.

[quote] Maybe a tasteful cock ring?

Or how about a tasteful and demure presentation of hole. That always seems to be well received and appreciated.

If you want to creep him the fuck out, then by all means, get him a gift ON THE SECOND DATE. If he shows up, it'll be the last time.

Not trying to be mean (as others have said, it's highly likely this isn't true), but if it is, it's completely offside for reasons that shouldn't require an explanation.

[quote]He is seven years my senior— but honestly he looks younger than me. By far the most handsome man I’ve ever dated, and the first one that wasn’t some online nonsense.

-99/10

A plot hole so massive that a fat Trump could slither through it.

It’s for this kind of thread that I subscribe to Data Lounge. I laughed out loud so much in the barbershop that people asked what I was reading.

Save your money OP. You’re going to need for therapy sessions. Lots and lots of therapy.

I am going to take OP at their word and assume you are telling the truth.

Here’s the deal - dating in your 30s is a lot different than dating in your 20s. If he is a functional human being (none of you bitches are, btw), then he has probably been burned in the past and isn’t looking for some intense junior high school crap. He probably wants more stable and less drama. If you give him a “gift”, especially a sentimental one, it shows that you have so much drama you come with your own stage and orchestra. I’d say for date 2, offer to do an activity or go somewhere that he mentioned to you- it shows you paid attention when he talked last time.

A gift on the second date?? 🙄

Newsflash: this is not 1880, and you’re not his “gentleman suitor.”

Please grab reality very firmly by the horns and hold on extremly tight.

I might’ve bit off more than I was thinking on the night I made this post. Tasteful Friends, I’ve had a hard 2021. He made me so happy; and I am extremely grateful. I am a dating novice, I don’t exactly know what to do. He’s a beautiful man with a big heart. I don’t care if he’s only a bottom, or a power bottom. I’m likely a vers top and I’m considerably hung. Our bedroom adventures will likely go well. He’s always told me I’m his type; if that makes it more sensical.

We met on an app over a year ago and we’ve constantly corresponded since that time. We did have a pause for a few months as my dad got cancer and my home got destroyed. It ain’t easy being me, and let me tell you; when the ugly responses started coming in, I lost so much trust in everything around me for days. I cried the whole night it started coming in. I was expecting an ‘aww’ type of response, not the blistering hate and bitchery I usually come on here for. I apologize for even considering that as something nice, I guess he’d like some dick more than anything.

I won’t lie though, many of the joke suggestions were hilarious.

Have you seen him again, r71?

R73 — we hope to go out tomorrow evening. It has felt like forever waiting for this. I miss him 🥺

R61 is totally correct by the way, it’s an absolute crush. I should’ve recognized my feelings better!

Thank you R69 — that is likely what I am going to do. I’m sure he’s been burned before, we’ve never talked about past relationships, just the internet stuff we have gone through, lightheartedly.

I'm liking your redemption arc, OP. Keep a clear head on your shoulders, and have a good time on your next date. I am no stranger to the instant crush, but believe me, you've gotta take it easy.

r71 r72 Chin up OP. Most of the responses here were really just people having a laugh. Nothing to take too seriously. Good luck with your guy ( not being sarcastic).

Stop it. My friend got blown on a date and sent flowers Respect yourself op

OP sounds like Marshall Applewhite, before starting Heaven's Gate.

OP, are you the fledgling prostitute/ex barista who moved to Tx after failing in NYC? You sound familiar.

R81, unfortunately not. Just a down on his luck Louisiana musician boy drooling over a next-town guy who treats me well. And is an excellent kisser!

*Actually OP. Don’t drink Gallo Family and DL!

R71/OP, I apologize for the bitchy comments I have made on this thread. I remember your posts about the hurricane destroying your house. Best of luck with your new guy.

Thank you R84, much love!

Awww

Op: will you report to us what happens on the 2nd date? Whether you give a gift or not.

R87 - no gifts will be given I'm pretty sure. Our plans had to change last minute -- I'm heading over to his house and watch a movie with him or something (he was called into work). I leave in about two hours. It's definitely late, but I'm perfectly fine with that. All my homophobe family is asleep so I can just walk down the street and let him pick me up. I may prefer a late evening date more in the future than I care to admit!

Go get 'im! Hope you have fun.

Just send him a simple, casual video of you screaming PLEASE DON'T LEAVE ME!!!!

R6 your reply made me laugh so much, I have no idea why

good luck OP!

best to engage in some penis play tonight.

let us know how it goes!

R92 — if it goes that way, I wouldn't mind that honestly. ;) All about the cock with this boy.

Honestly, OP, I was sorta bitchy earlier, but I am a romantic. It is possible that you might have met another person who is as dramatic as you and I kinda hope that is true. I, too, would love to meet a person I could completely fall in love with and do all the little lovey dovey things I really want to do. Sadly, I haven't found that. So I hope you have and will enjoy it!

How about a plaster cast of your erect penis and a bag of marshmallows?

R94 — I'm hoping that is so. Usually one of the classic relationship things I've noticed is having a lot in common. Honestly, we really don't have a great deal in common. He is very quiet, cool, and reserved. I like cats, he likes dogs. He has a dash of mystery in his personality, and that's something I love. He is an excellent kisser and embracer. This type of love was so peculiar to me on that night, but I'm like an addict looking for a fix since that night. That personal, deep affection made me happy. And basically, nothing makes me happy anymore. Hence I had such a huge desire to treat him right and asked if I should give him a gift.

R95— send me a plaster cast and I'll get the marshmallows.

[quote]Preferably something from Amazon or Target so I don't have to go anywhere.

That is profoundly sad in so many ways.

My "second date" with my husband was a hike. We also "waited to have sex" for a couple months. That was 27 years ago... we are still together. There are very many ways to be gay.

R97 — You are so correct about that. I am also hiding my relationships around my parents because of their severe homophobia. These are sad times- we don't have a lot of those opportunities to go on things like hiking or even a walk on the beach. Also, that was written when gay Cupid struck me with his arrow of course. I've toned down since then, but am longing for being together still. Which hopefully will be in an hour and a half!

A bag of weed would be nice

Or maybe money if you picked him off the street

[quote]I'm heading over to his house and watch a movie with him [bold]or something[/bold]

Winky wink! Have fun with that "something"!

If you must give him anything... something you've grown or made. Weed is great for the right folks. But if you grow vegetables or fruit... or can bake.... Or a woven potholder you made at summer camp.

Sharp eyes, R101. ;) R102 — we actually talked about pot and we both agreed, that it gives us both anxiety even though it has its downsides. He can't drink alcohol because of private reasons, but he can in small moderation if he's home. He also works in healthcare, so pot wouldn't be a good thing to drug test per se, in Louisiana that is.

R103 OMG, Louisiana! I'm very invested in this sweet Southern love story down in the bayou, now. I really hope y'all have something special.

I think a house is a nice gift for a second date.

OP You're at like a 10. Bring it back to about a 6 or 7.

[quote]r96 He has a dash of mystery in his personality,

Married.

R107 Nope — pretty sure about that.

I still think doing the dance of the seven caftans in the middle of a crowded restaurant would be memorable.

R109 So would jumping in the fountain at the country club and declaring yourself a slut. But, I wouldn't recommend it.

This will end in tears And quite possibly a restraining order

I was going to make snide comments to Op,but after finding out he lives in that cesspool of a state I dont have the heart. I condole you ,Op.

A tattoo of his face on your ass.

OP, this is sweet and I hope it goes well. I’m not against a small thoughtful present early on. My partner brought over lightbulbs for a fixture he noticed needing replacing early on, probably not the second date, but early on. I thought it was very thoughtful. They were an odd size so I didn’t have any on hand usually.

[quote]He can't drink alcohol because of private reasons

This may, indeed, wind up in a restraining order.

Our get together last night was very cozy and wonderful. We are very, very compatible in the bedroom. No gifts needed at all, falling in love was the ultimate gift for the both of us.

[quote]Second date gift suggestions

Many religious institutions claim to possess the foreskin of jesus-the-christ.

Fleshlight

R113 A tattoo of his ass on your face.

Barf. My idea of a long-term relationship is staying for breakfast.

Oh, um, R120 I've got an early meeting in the morning so maybe you should go, ok? Oh, and maybe wipe the jizz off your chin before you go outside.

Herpes!

It's du de rigueur here in Baltimore.

And if it's really serious the second date is not too soon for syphilis. Of course here in Baltimore it's almost always not so much a gift as a trade from both to the other.

[quote]We are very, very compatible in the bedroom.

Pics or it didn't happen.

R122 - My dentist told me that in our area, just short of 100% of the adult population carries it.

OP does a thread about wanting 2nd date gift suggestions then doesn't get a gift and says none was needed, thus wasting everyone's time. Sweet.

I’m so excited for you both. Please do keep us updated on how things progress between you. Just have fun and enjoy yourselves. You only live once.

Not sure why anyone here cares about this romance, they’re definitely both fug

[quote]R125 OP does a thread about wanting 2nd date gift suggestions then doesn't get a gift and says none was needed, thus wasting everyone's time.

I want to speak to a manager.

Our relationship ended. Sadly, you girls got it right. I have some rough days ahead of me. My heart is lost, and I can’t even cry. I’m sorry I wasn’t good enough for you, Crimm…

Sorry to hear that OP.

He doesn't deserve you.

R130, R131 — Thank you both. Just because I cared genuinely, he dumped me. His Grindr app was more important than me.

A book on a subject he’s discussed with you. A bio of fav performer or something like that. Shows you’re listening to him and will be something he enjoys.

Give him an IOU one Rim Job.

What a sham thread.

OP, nobody on DL saw this coming. Did we gurls?

If he had given me the right second date gift, I wouldn't have had to dump him.

You made out in his car for an hour - who does that?

A monogrammed tote bag from Land's End or L L Bean would make a delightful second date gift. Personal, but yet not overly intimate.

[quote] You made out in his car for an hour - who does that?

My mom was entertaining a gentleman caller that night so I really had no choice.

Sorry OP.

IF a date gave me a gift on the second date, I would consider it a huge red flag, unless it was lube and magnum condoms.