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I'm clearing out my 87-year-old mother's place. What mementos should I keep? What is it that you wish you had kept?

My 87-year-old mother died a peaceful death last summer. She was a very practical person, she didn’t like clutter and was very into the clean surface spaces ideal. So we’re not having to deal with dolls, or any other tchotchke collections, thank goodness. We sold the house and now I'm going through her stuff and, other than photos/videos/media, what keepsake should I hold on to. Or for those who went through this process, what are you sorry you didn't keep? TIA.

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by Anonymousreply 5November 26, 2021 11:50 PM

Cash, jewelry, and safe deposit box keys.

by Anonymousreply 1November 26, 2021 11:43 PM

We don't know your relationship with your mother. You know what is meaningful. Keep a couple things. You're old yourself, no?

by Anonymousreply 2November 26, 2021 11:43 PM

Any diaries or letters. Family cookbooks or old cookbooks with any of her notes in the margin.

by Anonymousreply 3November 26, 2021 11:45 PM

Keep some stuff you like that you can use everyday that reminds you of her at her best. Maybe some nice teaspoons or a vase it doesn't have to be fancy. Invite family members to come and take things that they are fond of.

by Anonymousreply 4November 26, 2021 11:46 PM

I didn’t the same thing with my mum’s stuff a few years ago, only she’s still alive (but has dementia).

I kept some old photos and photo books but honestly that was about it. There were trays and TRAYS of slide photographs that I would never have time to go through and look at, but I did take some to have scanned by professionals and loaded onto a USB drive which I then connected to a digital picture frame for my mum to have (at first she kept turning it off!). I also make certain to keep important documents like birth and marriage certificates, including those of my grandparents - grampy was born in Scotland and if I ever wanted to move to the UK that will be needed for a grandparents visa.

by Anonymousreply 5November 26, 2021 11:50 PM
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