How many men have you had sex with?

I stopped keeping count in my thirties when I realized that if the number itself actually meant something to me, I was being pretty pathetic: "Look at me, X number of men have found me attractive enough to fuck!"

This should’ve been a poll.

Close to four digits if you count blowies and handies.

I'm 49 and I have no idea but it must be in the hundreds if not thousands. And I enjoyed almost every one.

And before anyone asks, I am not HIV positive and the only STDs I've ever had are two cases of gonorrhea and one of crabs.

5000+, who knows. Who keeps count these days?

"the only STDs I've ever had are two cases of gonorrhea and one of crabs. "

Well, that's comforting

R3 I specifically said just anal.

I can count them on my fingers.

Three.

I'm in my 30s, fucked 3 men, wish I'd fucked a few more when I was younger, black dude was the best, latino dude was the worst (I think he was really a bottom.)

If you can actually count them, it's time you started living.

If you haven't fucked a prince and a pauper, your social circle is too small.

[quote] [R3] I specifically said just anal.

Oh, in that case, 0.

R11 I definitely think I've fucked too few but I think most of you have fucked too many. I wish my number were somewhere around 7-10. That would be perfect.

3. Yeah, I know. I’m a whore.

[quote]I wish my number were somewhere around 7-10. That would be perfect.

So small the dreams!

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I’ve been with hundreds of men, again and again, they promise the moon. They’re always coming and going, and going and coming, and always too soon.

Millions

When I was pretending to be straight, I slept with 13 girls. After coming out, I made up for lost time and lost count, long ago, of the many, many, many, many, many men who have had the pleasure of being inside my hole.

[quote] And before anyone asks, I am not HIV positive and the only STDs I've ever had are two cases of gonorrhea and one of crabs.

Technically, crabs are not an STD.

I'd say about 50. Topped 45 and bottomed for 5

3. i'm 38. married for the last 13 years. i'm ok with that number

Probably a few thousand. In my twenties I used to have about 10 guys a week. It's been a fun run.

It would best be expressed as a percentage.

R21 who was the best?

It would have been a lot more if you had said "males."

They aren't R20?

I can definitely count 6 men I have been with unprotected. That’s really my one big boundary, that’s a big step for me as much as others might ridicule that.

I was at a get together with college educated mostly single gay guys who were in their early to mid 30's. Average in a lot of ways--median income, nobody looks like a model or jabba the hut.

Pretty much everyone had over 200 sexual partners (if oral sex is included). 10-15 years of gay sex in college or following college with the past 8-10 years in a post grindr/scruff app world. Everyone had a few slutty years where they were more sexually active than others.

1-2 partners per month is not crazy. And its the nature of gay hookups that they be about attraction, immediate convenience, and more often than not, no followup.

anal 0, bj hundreds

R30 what’s your favorite part of giving bjs, and which guy did you most enjoy giving one to?

"How many men have you had sex with?"

Why would you count? Are they like S & H Green Stamps?

Camel bucks?

Do you need to have like 20 thousand to get some cheap ass Radio Shack clock radio or Joe Camel visor?

R32 dang, you do know what year it is, don’t you?

All you whores don't keep diaries?

I wonder how many men have fucked Dan Levy.

My number is 9.

R32 Is it like that one Brady Bunch episode?

Dany Levy is a top.

LOL, my sides!

When one has had sex with thousands of men, sex was a great part of ones lifestyle. Single Eldergays, what fills that void when the fires have died down?

Who says the fires have died down?

Do whores count?

Of course they do, R41, as long as they’re men.

What about transmen?

I only count foreign men these days.

R42, they decidedly do not count.

All of them.

I could contract HIV from just reading through this thread. Just vile.

How do you even live in this world then R47??

I’m almost 56 years old and first had a non-anal sexual encounter at age 17 and anal sex at age 18. I came out in the mid 1980s so limited my anal contact for decades because of HIV fears.

Somewhere around 22-25 anal sex partners (vers here). If adding oral and handjobs, the count goes up to somewhere around 300.

R47 Wearing condoms on my fingers as I type. Let’s make it clear I had to buy snug fitting ones strictly for this purpose, as I would normally wear something a bit more forgiving for other purposes.

I'm like MacDonald's - billions served.

[quote] I was at a get together with college educated mostly single gay guys who were in their early to mid 30's. Average in a lot of ways--median income, nobody looks like a model or jabba the hut.

[quote] Pretty much everyone had over 200 sexual partners (if oral sex is included).

How was that number determined? Did everyone go around the circle announcing it? or was there a questionnaire?

I'm 51. I've had anal sex with 3 men and mutual oral with hundreds.

1000s if you could random blowjobs, etc.

I've never bottomed. I am a total top. Have banged 1000 men.

Between a thousand and two thousand. Just with partner now for 15 years. Am senior now.

758

Given the number of people on this thread that have had hundreds, if not thousands, of partners - I wonder how many DLers have fucked without knowing it....

Hundreds, if not thousands.

How are thousands possible? There’s not time enough in the day, let alone that many gay men in a given area, unless you’re traveling constantly.

R60 unless you're being efficient and having group sex and/or orgies. That's one way to plow through holes.

R60, Datalounge goes into primetime at some frequency. After trips the fridge, that leaves a lot of free time for DLers.

Christ, deliver me from this abominable fudge factory.

I've 54 and I've had anal (as an exclusive bottom) with 500+ guys, and oral with countless more. Truck stops, porn stores, gym saunas and steam rooms, park bushes, alleyways, backrooms of bars/clubs. I once bottomed for an orderly in a hospital utility closet when I drove my dad there for chemo. You name the place, I did it! Sometimes with condoms, sometimes raw, and some of this was during the height of the AIDS panic. And to all your sex negs, I've never had a single STD!

I thought I was a big ole ho but several have answered in the same range as me.

I am condoled.

R47 Oh, you'd be kicked in the cunt for being a nellie, sanctimonious prisspot before anyone would let your precious pucker hole get in any danger, Mary.

Total top here, I've fucked 2 guys, and had oral with around 17, I live in the middle of nowhere that no doubt helped keep my numbers low.

After reading this thread, I feel like I need to have my eyes decontaminated!

You skanky whores!!!

MARY!

R67 hey baby. How you doin? Do u like chubby hairy Southern European men?

It depends where you live your20s and 30s. Numbers will be high in the big cities. Heck that's WHY we moved there in the first place!

Most I don't remember. I came up with a list of 15, and I remember them because they became people in my life—not necessarily lovers, as we used to say; some were fuckbuddies, friends, even romantic rivals in two instances.

However, I got a case of anal warts which put me off assfucking for a long time. I think I got fucked by maybe three guys between then and the AIDS onslaught, and then I completely shut down, anally speaking.

Somehow I have remained HIV-negative, in spite of getting fucked by numbers of guys whom I no longer remember. Sometimes I think that was lucky. Sometimes I think Billy Joel was right when he sang "Only the good die young."

Thousands.

Tens of thousands. And never had an STD, even crabs.

I would say around 2,500 (rough estimate - I was an absolute whore when I was a young and pretty thang). I started out as a bottom, and gradually became a top. I lived at the bathhouses back then. I’m now 65, married (been together 25 years) and monogamous. Best top was a guy I knew in DC. His cock was like a forearm. I took it like a champ. Best bottom was a guy I met in Chicago. Skinny, blond, loved to duck for hours. He would come over every evening, we’d fuck, go to sleep, wake up and fuck off and on through the night. This went on for a couple of years. I wish I had done more.

I'm in my late 30's. Gold-star gay. Sex with... 17 guys. Oral-only only adds a few more. Been in several long-term monogamous relationships and I also live in an extremely rural area, so opportunities are limited. Yeah, I wish it was higher.

R64 did you douche and pre-lube every time you left your home? Or did you just engage in a lot of chafed, fudgepacking anal?

[quote]OP: Any questions I missed?

Here's one you should have ended with, OP: "Can you tell I'm a peepee-pinching fetishist?"

I don’t know. I’ve been fucked in the ass a total of two times. The rest I topped and that was probably under 15 total. I’ll only get my ass fucked if I’m in a relationship now. I’ve had way more oral encounters than anything else. No STDs.

[quote] Somehow I have remained HIV-negative, in spite of getting fucked by numbers of guys whom I no longer remember. Sometimes I think that was lucky. Sometimes I think Billy Joel was right when he sang "Only the good die young."

Or you’re one of the few who has the gene that prevents you from being able to contract it.

Not that many and I got HIV! If I knew I was going to convert I would have been an all out whore. Typical for me.

R4. Are you me?

I never went for rough street trade. I always made sure my stud tops were healthy looking, which is probably why I never contracted HIV, despite having bottomed raw god knows how many times over the years. You can generally tell from someone's appearance if they're poz and unhealthy.

A few dozen men at various times. No HIV, No STD's at all.

For context: I'm 40 and have always lived in a major US city with a decent sized gay population.

I've topped 3 men, bottomed for 3 men, and have sucked/jerked about 20 men in addition to that. When I was younger, I was super afraid of contracting any sort of STI (though I never did); now that I'm older various meds for depression, etc. have taken away much of my desire - though I wouldn't say I was overly sexual in my "prime".

As it stands now, I'd rather just be single and watch porn when the mood strikes. Sometimes I wish that I was more in the mix and getting laid more often, but I don't think that's in the cards. Good for those who are 50+ and still horny on a daily basis, though.

A mere legion.

R82 wow. its been decades since ive heard anyone say that. congrats.

I don't do anal. So zero in that definition.

R82, do you actually know anyone who is HIV positive?

Whenever this question comes up, I always think it needs to be defined exactly what 'sex' covers - is it penis in anus, penis in mouth, jerking, only if there's a climax involved....?

[quote]I specifically said just anal.

Many, many, many men. But only for their birthday.

My active sex life lasted over 40 years. I lost count probably around the 20 year mark. I don't even want to give an estimate as you'd think ill of me.

But it sure was fun, while it lasted.

This is Datalounge R91, we'll find plenty of other reasons to think ill of you.

I refuse to take PrEP because of the potential sides effects. My body has always been extremely sensitive to meds. However, I'm a bottom and I never make the top use a condom. I only hook up with tops who's profiles say they're on PrEP, so I feel pretty secure that I'm not going to catch HIV from bottoming raw. Basically I leave it to the top to be on PrEP, and has worked out for me very well so far.

^^ So you believe everything you read on someone’s profile on an anonymous sex site?

Can the number include repeat business?

[quote] I feel pretty secure that I'm not going to catch HIV from bottoming raw. Basically I leave it to the top to be on PrEP, and has worked out for me very well so far.

PLEASE tell me you're not that dumb and naive and are just trolling.

Christ. This fetishist/troll OP actually is shitting on people here WHO DO NOT FOLLOW THE BUTTHOLE-FUCK RULES.

A summary.

Anal? Let’s see if I can count them…

Caspar, Charles, Seth, Andrew, Mark, Ben, Bill, Aaron, Chris, Ishmael, Yetkin…I think that’s all. I didn’t realize I’m in the double digits now.

And I’m 42.

[quote]All you whores don't keep diaries?

The Datalounge IS our diary, darlin'.

I don't know.

I try to count and get to six with Dopey and can't remember who the seventh was.

I liked Dopey. He was special. Or is it "special"? Anyway, he was older than he looked.

I just remembered who the seventh was.

Blitzen.

R94, I condole you.

I had sex with three guys already today. I had a grindr hookup early this afternoon. Bottomed for him. Dick was average, about 7" so it didn't do much to satisfy me. Later I sucked off two dudes in the gym sauna. One was small about 6" but with very large head. The other was about 8", beer can thick. Heading out shortly to chill with my boys, and who know who else I'll be able to scrounge up.

R106 You only described the dicks and not the men who were attached to them.

I've been fucked by my husband maybe 4 times but by other men hundreds of times. sometimes marriage isn't about the sex.

R108 so what does he do? Just watch? What is the point of the marriage?

It pleaseth the Lord.

R109 must be young

Four, I have been with my partner for almost 24 years.

Aw r112 how do you guys make it last? Was it love at first sight? When was your first time with him?

I think about what might have been

R113, It wasn't love at first site, we met in an AOL chat room, and we went on a date. The first time we made love was on a trip we took to Atlantic City, we had a wonderful time, and we have been together ever since. We do a lot of things together, so that keeps our lives fresh. We are in love, but our relationship is also a comfortable thing we are used to.

Well, I NEVER! 🤡

Awww r115 I’m so happy for you. That must have been a memorable trip to AC.

[quote] memorable trip to AC.

What is the oh dear for?

Thank you R117, it was.

I only sleep with non-binary, non-conforming, non-labeled forms of life.

R121 As opposed to the ALIENS.

Hmmm I wonder if st8 guys are jealous if they read this thread.

I highly doubt it R123.

you'd be wrong, R124

At least in person, with my straight friends, when I occasionally tell them stories of my gay escapades - the jealousy is palpable. No, actually, it is expressed outright. Especially from the married ones!

But behind your back, they talk about what a bag of sluttery you are.

I highly doubt straight guys are jealous. Many probably still equate gay sex with AIDS; they're unable to separate the two. So when they hear these slutty stories, all they're wondering about is your HIV status.

I love all the assumptions and generalizations coming from what one might assume is a progressive, woke and marginalized crowd.

You posers are no different than the enemy.

"The enemy"?!?!

Get a grip, MARY! @r128. Go take your pills, dear.

Which decade are we talkin'?

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I see gay-hating closeted DeFUCKto is still creating homosex-related threads so he can secretly jerk off to gay sex stories provided by the good DL guys.

Hey DeFUCKto, how many sock puppet accounts do you have by now?

It took more than one man to change my name to whore.

Anal - I've topped for about a dozen or so. Tried bottoming, that didnt work good.

Oral, frot etc, couple of thousand, more maybe, I lost count a long time ago - decades

I have never engaged in anal sex as top or bottom, and have never eaten out ass or had mine eaten out. Anal and ass-eating are disgusting IMO. I will only get blown with a condom on, and if I do decide to perform oral on a man, he must wear a condom. A little paranoia never hurt anyone, especially since most gay men are walking petri dishes.

I’ve had anal with about a dozen guys (as a bottom, always with a condom) & oral with about 300.

I have only had one lover since I was 12 years old. So I don’t care how hot you get me. I wouldn’t do him cold.

I can hear deFUCKto fapping to this thread.

So your answer is 0, R135?

Aren't trolls 5900 and 5901 DeFugToad? Why did she oh-deared herself????

If you're counting oral it's probably 200-300. Maybe over 300. Ok, definitely not over 400. I was pretty slutty in my 20s and early 30s. I'm in my early 40s now and slowed way down in the past 10 years.

I’m 48. My final count is 16.

R140 5901 is me, but 5900 isn’t.

Between 150 and 200. Something like that.

R143 = another sock puppet account of DeFUGto. LOL.

Well over a thousand.

Easy.

R145 I think you don’t understand what a sock puppet is. If I sign my post, how can that be a sock puppet?

This is a hard question to answer, so I have to break it down into categories.

Number of men I have had sex with in the context of a long term loving relationship = 1.

Number of men I have had sex with (we both ejaculated) and we were in his or my home = 6 that I can remember

Number of men I have had sex with (we both ejaculated) and we were in a hotel room = probably about 15-20, I can't remember all of these.

Number of men I have been sexual with (one or both of us ejaculated) but not in a hotel or home = more than I can count, since I still have an urge to cruise public places, bathhouses, gym locker rooms, spa steam rooms, etc. It has always been about the thrill of the hunt.

R148 what happened with the one you loved? Are you still together?

How many zeros have you got OP? At one point in the timeline we didn't even bother turning round to see who was doing the fucking.

Is that the royal we, r150?

This is R148 responding to R149.

No, we are no longer together, but we were together for about four or five years. He was the best out of all of them. But he is happy and so am I, so it is fine to let him go. I still have the memories of the good times we had.

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Imagine if you whores could funnel all that sexual energy into doing something productive with your lives that is more in line with GOD's plan. But I suppose that would take even a minimal amount of self-control, which you boys seem to lack. Just remember, sins of the flesh will not grant you access to HIS kingdom. I pity you.

R154 my soulmate ❤️

R154: JFC, you are a lousy troll and not remotely amusing. You can't even keep your lies consistent. Using ignoredar, you say in one post that you've bottomed for 500+ guys. In another post, you claim tens of thousands of partners (RME), then later say, "I have never engaged in anal sex as top or bottom, and have never eaten out ass or had mine eaten out." Now, you're playing the sanctimonious religious prude.

Damn son, you need remedial lessons in Trolling 101. You fooled Defuckto, which isn't saying much.

BTW, 7" is not average penis length. It's about 5 1/2," you cavernous whore.

^ average ERECT penis length

That depends on what your definition of sex is.

I'd say around 1000 anal.

R158 Do you think he's ever done anything with a man? Is he a womanizer or just a sex addict who will fuck anything?

Around 1995 I sat for hours one day writing down every encounter I could remember. I got bored after 500,and I know there were many more than that. I got syphilis once,gonorrhea once and thats it. Even I dont know how in the fuck I didnt catch hiv . I slept with every danger factor,and rarely used condoms. My nurse friend swore I was just naturally immune to hiv. She might have a point.

R160 Everything I know about Clinton suggests he is just a pussyhound and his numbers are high!

I never learned to count that high.

R161 I admire your honesty.

R154, word on the street is that your blessed Jesus sucked cock and ate ass.

[quote] [R140] 5901 is me, but 5900 isn’t.

The troll is lying, of course.

If we're only counting anal sex . . .

As a bottom: none

As a top: roughly 300

69 years old, HIV- and no STDs

'Only-Tops' are not gay.

They are just men.

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Does receiving blow jobs count?

Asking for a friend...

R161 are you a top?

R171 Nope. Bossy Bottom before there were bossy bottoms!

758 upthread amuses me, reminding me …. About seven years in, one warm NYC evening out on the streets in the Village, I ran into a trick I’d taken home before . He began giving me a rough time about his attractiveness and desirability. I told him not to go there with me, he was the 792nd guy I’d taken home and I didn’t remember his name. Took him home again, saw him maybe two more times, we became friends and Fire Island Pines roommates several years. His birthdays I would give him small silver trays with 792 engraved. So let’s see, 25 and an apartment in the Village, You go out, walk around rake around, take people home. Maybe two-three a week, sometimes one, so probably my 792 wasn’t so far off the mark. It took me two-plus decades to realize why it was so easy. All around NYC guys came downtown to the Village hoping to find sex. There I was, blond/blue 39L with an apartment. Lucky them. Time out for affairs, let years add up, men you’ve had sex with add up.

Could we say males instead of men.

It brings my tally up quite a bit.

R172 at least you own it!

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I'm not one to judge, but this just seems like sad, empty, meaningless lives. This is not what GOD intended for any of us. You should try something constructive like going to church or volunteering, just something beyond promiscuity and filth to give your lives some meaning. Have a blessed day.

R177, I think maybe you have wandered into the wrong party. Are you here with somebody we know?

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[quote]Have a blessed day.

She says while polishing her gun.

Love you R179.

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I'm thinking it's around 700.

99 percent of those interactions were me blowing them. I was a hungry little cumpig.

And almost all between ages...well, let's say a younger age and age 35.

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[quote] Technically, crabs are not an STD.

r20 Yeah, everyone has crabs, nothing to worry about.

None. I am an incel.

[quote] That depends on what your definition of sex is.

r151 No, start with the basics. We need to find out what his definition of "is" is.

Let's see .... seven decades, probably 660