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How many men have you had sex with?

I know we've done this before, but it's been a while. About how old are you, how many guys have you had (anal) sex with, do you wish you had sex with more/less, who was the best, who was the worst? Any questions I missed?

by Anonymousreply 130November 1, 2021 3:44 PM

I stopped keeping count in my thirties when I realized that if the number itself actually meant something to me, I was being pretty pathetic: "Look at me, X number of men have found me attractive enough to fuck!"

by Anonymousreply 1October 20, 2021 7:26 AM

This should’ve been a poll.

by Anonymousreply 2October 20, 2021 7:39 AM

Close to four digits if you count blowies and handies.

by Anonymousreply 3October 20, 2021 7:41 AM

I'm 49 and I have no idea but it must be in the hundreds if not thousands. And I enjoyed almost every one.

And before anyone asks, I am not HIV positive and the only STDs I've ever had are two cases of gonorrhea and one of crabs.

by Anonymousreply 4October 20, 2021 7:43 AM

5000+, who knows. Who keeps count these days?

by Anonymousreply 5October 20, 2021 7:44 AM

"the only STDs I've ever had are two cases of gonorrhea and one of crabs. "

Well, that's comforting

by Anonymousreply 6October 20, 2021 7:49 AM

R3 I specifically said just anal.

by Anonymousreply 7October 20, 2021 7:52 AM

I can count them on my fingers.

by Anonymousreply 8October 20, 2021 7:53 AM


by Anonymousreply 9October 20, 2021 7:55 AM

I'm in my 30s, fucked 3 men, wish I'd fucked a few more when I was younger, black dude was the best, latino dude was the worst (I think he was really a bottom.)

by Anonymousreply 10October 20, 2021 7:57 AM

If you can actually count them, it's time you started living.

If you haven't fucked a prince and a pauper, your social circle is too small.

by Anonymousreply 11October 20, 2021 7:58 AM

[quote] [R3] I specifically said just anal.

Oh, in that case, 0.

by Anonymousreply 12October 20, 2021 8:10 AM

R11 I definitely think I've fucked too few but I think most of you have fucked too many. I wish my number were somewhere around 7-10. That would be perfect.

by Anonymousreply 13October 20, 2021 8:19 AM

3. Yeah, I know. I’m a whore.

by Anonymousreply 14October 20, 2021 8:26 AM

[quote]I wish my number were somewhere around 7-10. That would be perfect.

So small the dreams!

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by Anonymousreply 15October 20, 2021 8:31 AM


by Anonymousreply 16October 21, 2021 2:35 AM

I’ve been with hundreds of men, again and again, they promise the moon. They’re always coming and going, and going and coming, and always too soon.

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by Anonymousreply 18October 21, 2021 3:12 AM

When I was pretending to be straight, I slept with 13 girls. After coming out, I made up for lost time and lost count, long ago, of the many, many, many, many, many men who have had the pleasure of being inside my hole.

by Anonymousreply 19October 21, 2021 3:23 AM

[quote] And before anyone asks, I am not HIV positive and the only STDs I've ever had are two cases of gonorrhea and one of crabs.

Technically, crabs are not an STD.

by Anonymousreply 20October 21, 2021 3:25 AM

I'd say about 50. Topped 45 and bottomed for 5

by Anonymousreply 21October 21, 2021 3:32 AM

3. i'm 38. married for the last 13 years. i'm ok with that number

by Anonymousreply 22October 21, 2021 3:32 AM

Probably a few thousand. In my twenties I used to have about 10 guys a week. It's been a fun run.

by Anonymousreply 23October 21, 2021 3:42 AM

It would best be expressed as a percentage.

by Anonymousreply 24October 21, 2021 3:46 AM

R21 who was the best?

by Anonymousreply 25October 21, 2021 4:03 AM

It would have been a lot more if you had said "males."

by Anonymousreply 26October 21, 2021 4:18 AM

They aren't R20?

by Anonymousreply 27October 21, 2021 4:26 AM

I can definitely count 6 men I have been with unprotected. That’s really my one big boundary, that’s a big step for me as much as others might ridicule that.

by Anonymousreply 28October 21, 2021 4:27 AM

I was at a get together with college educated mostly single gay guys who were in their early to mid 30's. Average in a lot of ways--median income, nobody looks like a model or jabba the hut.

Pretty much everyone had over 200 sexual partners (if oral sex is included). 10-15 years of gay sex in college or following college with the past 8-10 years in a post grindr/scruff app world. Everyone had a few slutty years where they were more sexually active than others.

1-2 partners per month is not crazy. And its the nature of gay hookups that they be about attraction, immediate convenience, and more often than not, no followup.

by Anonymousreply 29October 21, 2021 4:40 AM

anal 0, bj hundreds

by Anonymousreply 30October 21, 2021 4:43 AM

R30 what’s your favorite part of giving bjs, and which guy did you most enjoy giving one to?

by Anonymousreply 31October 21, 2021 7:49 AM

"How many men have you had sex with?"

Why would you count? Are they like S & H Green Stamps?

Camel bucks?

Do you need to have like 20 thousand to get some cheap ass Radio Shack clock radio or Joe Camel visor?

by Anonymousreply 32October 21, 2021 10:49 AM

R32 dang, you do know what year it is, don’t you?

by Anonymousreply 33October 21, 2021 2:19 PM

All you whores don't keep diaries?

by Anonymousreply 34October 22, 2021 1:04 AM

I wonder how many men have fucked Dan Levy.

My number is 9.

by Anonymousreply 35October 22, 2021 1:11 AM

R32 Is it like that one Brady Bunch episode?

by Anonymousreply 36October 22, 2021 1:14 AM

Dany Levy is a top.

by Anonymousreply 37October 22, 2021 3:29 AM

LOL, my sides!

by Anonymousreply 38October 22, 2021 4:51 AM

When one has had sex with thousands of men, sex was a great part of ones lifestyle. Single Eldergays, what fills that void when the fires have died down?

by Anonymousreply 39October 22, 2021 5:00 AM

Who says the fires have died down?

by Anonymousreply 40October 22, 2021 6:25 AM

Do whores count?

by Anonymousreply 41October 22, 2021 6:27 AM

Of course they do, R41, as long as they’re men.

by Anonymousreply 42October 22, 2021 6:38 AM

What about transmen?

by Anonymousreply 43October 22, 2021 6:42 AM

I only count foreign men these days.

by Anonymousreply 44October 22, 2021 6:45 AM

R42, they decidedly do not count.

by Anonymousreply 45October 22, 2021 6:45 AM

All of them.

by Anonymousreply 46October 22, 2021 6:46 AM

I could contract HIV from just reading through this thread. Just vile.

by Anonymousreply 47October 22, 2021 6:50 AM

How do you even live in this world then R47??

by Anonymousreply 48October 22, 2021 7:25 AM

I’m almost 56 years old and first had a non-anal sexual encounter at age 17 and anal sex at age 18. I came out in the mid 1980s so limited my anal contact for decades because of HIV fears.

Somewhere around 22-25 anal sex partners (vers here). If adding oral and handjobs, the count goes up to somewhere around 300.

by Anonymousreply 49October 22, 2021 4:27 PM

R47 Wearing condoms on my fingers as I type. Let’s make it clear I had to buy snug fitting ones strictly for this purpose, as I would normally wear something a bit more forgiving for other purposes.

by Anonymousreply 50October 22, 2021 4:39 PM

I'm like MacDonald's - billions served.

by Anonymousreply 51October 22, 2021 4:43 PM

[quote] I was at a get together with college educated mostly single gay guys who were in their early to mid 30's. Average in a lot of ways--median income, nobody looks like a model or jabba the hut.

[quote] Pretty much everyone had over 200 sexual partners (if oral sex is included).

How was that number determined? Did everyone go around the circle announcing it? or was there a questionnaire?

by Anonymousreply 52October 22, 2021 4:47 PM

I'm 51. I've had anal sex with 3 men and mutual oral with hundreds.

by Anonymousreply 53October 22, 2021 5:22 PM

1000s if you could random blowjobs, etc.

by Anonymousreply 54October 22, 2021 5:23 PM

I've never bottomed. I am a total top. Have banged 1000 men.

by Anonymousreply 55October 22, 2021 5:32 PM

Between a thousand and two thousand. Just with partner now for 15 years. Am senior now.

by Anonymousreply 56October 22, 2021 6:04 PM


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by Anonymousreply 57October 22, 2021 6:07 PM

Given the number of people on this thread that have had hundreds, if not thousands, of partners - I wonder how many DLers have fucked without knowing it....

by Anonymousreply 58October 22, 2021 6:08 PM

Hundreds, if not thousands.

by Anonymousreply 59October 22, 2021 6:19 PM

How are thousands possible? There’s not time enough in the day, let alone that many gay men in a given area, unless you’re traveling constantly.

by Anonymousreply 60October 22, 2021 6:32 PM

R60 unless you're being efficient and having group sex and/or orgies. That's one way to plow through holes.

by Anonymousreply 61October 22, 2021 6:37 PM

R60, Datalounge goes into primetime at some frequency. After trips the fridge, that leaves a lot of free time for DLers.

by Anonymousreply 62October 22, 2021 6:46 PM

Christ, deliver me from this abominable fudge factory.

by Anonymousreply 63October 22, 2021 7:13 PM

I've 54 and I've had anal (as an exclusive bottom) with 500+ guys, and oral with countless more. Truck stops, porn stores, gym saunas and steam rooms, park bushes, alleyways, backrooms of bars/clubs. I once bottomed for an orderly in a hospital utility closet when I drove my dad there for chemo. You name the place, I did it! Sometimes with condoms, sometimes raw, and some of this was during the height of the AIDS panic. And to all your sex negs, I've never had a single STD!

by Anonymousreply 64October 22, 2021 7:42 PM

I thought I was a big ole ho but several have answered in the same range as me.

I am condoled.

by Anonymousreply 65October 22, 2021 7:46 PM

R47 Oh, you'd be kicked in the cunt for being a nellie, sanctimonious prisspot before anyone would let your precious pucker hole get in any danger, Mary.

by Anonymousreply 66October 22, 2021 7:47 PM

Total top here, I've fucked 2 guys, and had oral with around 17, I live in the middle of nowhere that no doubt helped keep my numbers low.

by Anonymousreply 67October 22, 2021 8:01 PM

After reading this thread, I feel like I need to have my eyes decontaminated!

You skanky whores!!!


by Anonymousreply 68October 22, 2021 8:12 PM

R67 hey baby. How you doin? Do u like chubby hairy Southern European men?

by Anonymousreply 69October 22, 2021 8:18 PM

It depends where you live your20s and 30s. Numbers will be high in the big cities. Heck that's WHY we moved there in the first place!

by Anonymousreply 70October 22, 2021 8:36 PM

Most I don't remember. I came up with a list of 15, and I remember them because they became people in my life—not necessarily lovers, as we used to say; some were fuckbuddies, friends, even romantic rivals in two instances.

However, I got a case of anal warts which put me off assfucking for a long time. I think I got fucked by maybe three guys between then and the AIDS onslaught, and then I completely shut down, anally speaking.

Somehow I have remained HIV-negative, in spite of getting fucked by numbers of guys whom I no longer remember. Sometimes I think that was lucky. Sometimes I think Billy Joel was right when he sang "Only the good die young."

by Anonymousreply 71October 22, 2021 8:44 PM


by Anonymousreply 72October 22, 2021 9:04 PM

Tens of thousands. And never had an STD, even crabs.

by Anonymousreply 73October 22, 2021 9:06 PM

I would say around 2,500 (rough estimate - I was an absolute whore when I was a young and pretty thang). I started out as a bottom, and gradually became a top. I lived at the bathhouses back then. I’m now 65, married (been together 25 years) and monogamous. Best top was a guy I knew in DC. His cock was like a forearm. I took it like a champ. Best bottom was a guy I met in Chicago. Skinny, blond, loved to duck for hours. He would come over every evening, we’d fuck, go to sleep, wake up and fuck off and on through the night. This went on for a couple of years. I wish I had done more.

by Anonymousreply 74October 22, 2021 9:07 PM

I'm in my late 30's. Gold-star gay. Sex with... 17 guys. Oral-only only adds a few more. Been in several long-term monogamous relationships and I also live in an extremely rural area, so opportunities are limited. Yeah, I wish it was higher.

by Anonymousreply 75October 22, 2021 9:22 PM

R64 did you douche and pre-lube every time you left your home? Or did you just engage in a lot of chafed, fudgepacking anal?

by Anonymousreply 76October 22, 2021 9:49 PM

[quote]OP: Any questions I missed?

Here's one you should have ended with, OP: "Can you tell I'm a peepee-pinching fetishist?"

by Anonymousreply 77October 22, 2021 9:56 PM

I don’t know. I’ve been fucked in the ass a total of two times. The rest I topped and that was probably under 15 total. I’ll only get my ass fucked if I’m in a relationship now. I’ve had way more oral encounters than anything else. No STDs.

by Anonymousreply 78October 22, 2021 10:01 PM

[quote] Somehow I have remained HIV-negative, in spite of getting fucked by numbers of guys whom I no longer remember. Sometimes I think that was lucky. Sometimes I think Billy Joel was right when he sang "Only the good die young."

Or you’re one of the few who has the gene that prevents you from being able to contract it.

by Anonymousreply 79October 22, 2021 10:04 PM

Not that many and I got HIV! If I knew I was going to convert I would have been an all out whore. Typical for me.

by Anonymousreply 80October 22, 2021 10:28 PM

R4. Are you me?

by Anonymousreply 81October 22, 2021 10:39 PM

I never went for rough street trade. I always made sure my stud tops were healthy looking, which is probably why I never contracted HIV, despite having bottomed raw god knows how many times over the years. You can generally tell from someone's appearance if they're poz and unhealthy.

by Anonymousreply 82October 22, 2021 11:24 PM

A few dozen men at various times. No HIV, No STD's at all.

by Anonymousreply 83October 22, 2021 11:27 PM

For context: I'm 40 and have always lived in a major US city with a decent sized gay population.

I've topped 3 men, bottomed for 3 men, and have sucked/jerked about 20 men in addition to that. When I was younger, I was super afraid of contracting any sort of STI (though I never did); now that I'm older various meds for depression, etc. have taken away much of my desire - though I wouldn't say I was overly sexual in my "prime".

As it stands now, I'd rather just be single and watch porn when the mood strikes. Sometimes I wish that I was more in the mix and getting laid more often, but I don't think that's in the cards. Good for those who are 50+ and still horny on a daily basis, though.

by Anonymousreply 84October 25, 2021 9:26 PM

A mere legion.

by Anonymousreply 85October 25, 2021 10:48 PM

R82 wow. its been decades since ive heard anyone say that. congrats.

by Anonymousreply 86October 28, 2021 8:30 AM

I don't do anal. So zero in that definition.

by Anonymousreply 87October 28, 2021 9:01 AM

R82, do you actually know anyone who is HIV positive?

by Anonymousreply 88October 28, 2021 9:40 AM

Whenever this question comes up, I always think it needs to be defined exactly what 'sex' covers - is it penis in anus, penis in mouth, jerking, only if there's a climax involved....?

by Anonymousreply 89October 28, 2021 10:00 AM

[quote]I specifically said just anal.

Many, many, many men. But only for their birthday.

by Anonymousreply 90October 28, 2021 10:03 AM

My active sex life lasted over 40 years. I lost count probably around the 20 year mark. I don't even want to give an estimate as you'd think ill of me.

by Anonymousreply 91October 28, 2021 10:06 AM

But it sure was fun, while it lasted.

by Anonymousreply 92October 28, 2021 10:07 AM

This is Datalounge R91, we'll find plenty of other reasons to think ill of you.

by Anonymousreply 93October 28, 2021 4:20 PM

I refuse to take PrEP because of the potential sides effects. My body has always been extremely sensitive to meds. However, I'm a bottom and I never make the top use a condom. I only hook up with tops who's profiles say they're on PrEP, so I feel pretty secure that I'm not going to catch HIV from bottoming raw. Basically I leave it to the top to be on PrEP, and has worked out for me very well so far.

by Anonymousreply 94October 28, 2021 5:58 PM

^^ So you believe everything you read on someone’s profile on an anonymous sex site?

by Anonymousreply 95October 28, 2021 10:03 PM

Can the number include repeat business?

by Anonymousreply 96October 28, 2021 10:14 PM

[quote] I feel pretty secure that I'm not going to catch HIV from bottoming raw. Basically I leave it to the top to be on PrEP, and has worked out for me very well so far.

PLEASE tell me you're not that dumb and naive and are just trolling.

by Anonymousreply 97October 29, 2021 3:56 AM

Christ. This fetishist/troll OP actually is shitting on people here WHO DO NOT FOLLOW THE BUTTHOLE-FUCK RULES.

by Anonymousreply 98October 29, 2021 4:05 AM

A summary.

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by Anonymousreply 99October 31, 2021 2:14 AM

Anal? Let’s see if I can count them…

Caspar, Charles, Seth, Andrew, Mark, Ben, Bill, Aaron, Chris, Ishmael, Yetkin…I think that’s all. I didn’t realize I’m in the double digits now.

And I’m 42.

by Anonymousreply 100October 31, 2021 2:31 AM

[quote]All you whores don't keep diaries?

The Datalounge IS our diary, darlin'.

by Anonymousreply 101October 31, 2021 2:39 AM

I don't know.

I try to count and get to six with Dopey and can't remember who the seventh was.

I liked Dopey. He was special. Or is it "special"? Anyway, he was older than he looked.

by Anonymousreply 102October 31, 2021 2:47 AM

I just remembered who the seventh was.


by Anonymousreply 103October 31, 2021 2:49 AM
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by Anonymousreply 104October 31, 2021 4:07 AM

R94, I condole you.

by Anonymousreply 105October 31, 2021 4:24 AM

I had sex with three guys already today. I had a grindr hookup early this afternoon. Bottomed for him. Dick was average, about 7" so it didn't do much to satisfy me. Later I sucked off two dudes in the gym sauna. One was small about 6" but with very large head. The other was about 8", beer can thick. Heading out shortly to chill with my boys, and who know who else I'll be able to scrounge up.

by Anonymousreply 106October 31, 2021 5:11 AM

R106 You only described the dicks and not the men who were attached to them.

by Anonymousreply 107October 31, 2021 5:13 AM

I've been fucked by my husband maybe 4 times but by other men hundreds of times. sometimes marriage isn't about the sex.

by Anonymousreply 108October 31, 2021 6:12 AM

R108 so what does he do? Just watch? What is the point of the marriage?

by Anonymousreply 109October 31, 2021 6:15 AM

It pleaseth the Lord.

by Anonymousreply 110October 31, 2021 6:18 AM

R109 must be young

by Anonymousreply 111October 31, 2021 7:09 AM

Four, I have been with my partner for almost 24 years.

by Anonymousreply 112October 31, 2021 7:23 AM

Aw r112 how do you guys make it last? Was it love at first sight? When was your first time with him?

by Anonymousreply 113October 31, 2021 7:25 AM

I think about what might have been

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by Anonymousreply 114October 31, 2021 7:39 AM

R113, It wasn't love at first site, we met in an AOL chat room, and we went on a date. The first time we made love was on a trip we took to Atlantic City, we had a wonderful time, and we have been together ever since. We do a lot of things together, so that keeps our lives fresh. We are in love, but our relationship is also a comfortable thing we are used to.

by Anonymousreply 115October 31, 2021 8:20 AM

Well, I NEVER! 🤡

by Anonymousreply 116October 31, 2021 8:24 AM

Awww r115 I’m so happy for you. That must have been a memorable trip to AC.

by Anonymousreply 117October 31, 2021 8:30 AM

[quote] memorable trip to AC.

by Anonymousreply 118October 31, 2021 8:32 AM

What is the oh dear for?

by Anonymousreply 119October 31, 2021 8:34 AM

Thank you R117, it was.

by Anonymousreply 120October 31, 2021 8:36 AM

I only sleep with non-binary, non-conforming, non-labeled forms of life.

by Anonymousreply 121October 31, 2021 9:17 AM

R121 As opposed to the ALIENS.

by Anonymousreply 122October 31, 2021 9:33 AM

Hmmm I wonder if st8 guys are jealous if they read this thread.

by Anonymousreply 123October 31, 2021 9:41 AM

I highly doubt it R123.

by Anonymousreply 124October 31, 2021 1:23 PM

you'd be wrong, R124

At least in person, with my straight friends, when I occasionally tell them stories of my gay escapades - the jealousy is palpable. No, actually, it is expressed outright. Especially from the married ones!

by Anonymousreply 125November 1, 2021 1:41 AM

But behind your back, they talk about what a bag of sluttery you are.

by Anonymousreply 126November 1, 2021 6:06 AM

I highly doubt straight guys are jealous. Many probably still equate gay sex with AIDS; they're unable to separate the two. So when they hear these slutty stories, all they're wondering about is your HIV status.

by Anonymousreply 127November 1, 2021 6:10 AM

I love all the assumptions and generalizations coming from what one might assume is a progressive, woke and marginalized crowd.

You posers are no different than the enemy.

by Anonymousreply 128November 1, 2021 8:23 AM

"The enemy"?!?!

Get a grip, MARY! @r128. Go take your pills, dear.

by Anonymousreply 129November 1, 2021 3:42 PM

Which decade are we talkin'?

by Anonymousreply 130November 1, 2021 3:44 PM
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