People act like it’s strange. I’m tired of straight people and their problems.
Is it wrong that I want only gay friends?
|by Anonymous||reply 43||June 23, 2022 5:58 PM|
Where do gay men even find friends? All the sites and apps are strictly for hookups. So where does a gay man find people to do regular non-sexual stuff with?
|by Anonymous||reply 1||June 16, 2022 2:09 AM|
[quote]I’m tired of straight people and their problems.
Makes total sense. Gay men are completely drama-free.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||June 16, 2022 2:23 AM|
It must be asked. OP, are you a frau. I've heard straight women say similar things.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||June 16, 2022 2:26 AM|
I'm working on a project that will take me on a multiple-month business trip and there is absolutely no way that I will take along a straight assistant.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||June 16, 2022 2:28 AM|
I'm tired of EVERYONE'S problems.
But it doesn't make me a social-ghetto hider.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||June 16, 2022 2:46 AM|
Taking along an "assistant," R4? Young, handsome, and fit, no doubt. I'm sure you'll have fun with the "interview" process... ;)
|by Anonymous||reply 6||June 16, 2022 3:51 AM|
R6 - Yes, yes, and yes. They make better sales people, and they also handle any video-based media interviews because nobody wants to see my ugly face. And, no, never have, never will.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||June 16, 2022 7:45 PM|
Straights segregate themselves from gays all the time, so why can't OP do the same?
|by Anonymous||reply 8||June 16, 2022 8:31 PM|
I don't have any lesbian friends. Plus, I've met exactly three gay people since I moved here to Deplorable Haven FL, and they're all rabid Trumpers (sigh). But even when I lived in an urban area with more than a few lesbians, I was never able to make any lesbian friends. It's like there's some kind of coded lesbian behavior that I never quite "got." It seems that there's a certain way you're supposed to act if you're a lesbian, and I just can't do it. Or as a therapist told me many long years ago, "You place a very high value on being your authentic self." And it's true -- I used to joke that I couldn't pretend to be someone I'm not even for a 20-minute job interview. WYSIWYG!
But I think it's served me well in life for the most part. Yeah, I've shot myself in the foot many times over, but the people who like me like me for exactly who I am -- and if they don't like me, fuck 'em.
Of course, I can say that now that I'm retired.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||June 16, 2022 8:50 PM|
there's nothing wrong with that OP
|by Anonymous||reply 10||June 16, 2022 9:15 PM|
All my friends are gay! ALL! MY! FRIENDS! ARE! GAY!
|by Anonymous||reply 11||June 16, 2022 10:06 PM|
Not strange, OP. Actually, I can relate-- I only want sensual heterosexual girlfriends. To each his own.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||June 16, 2022 10:15 PM|
Why are you worried about it? Choose friends you like, and hopefully like you too.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||June 16, 2022 10:15 PM|
Senior lesbian @ r9, I've noticed your signed posts lately. Post more!
|by Anonymous||reply 14||June 16, 2022 10:16 PM|
I’m tired of gay people and their problems.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||June 16, 2022 10:19 PM|
We have a few straight couples and one gay couple with whom we socialize. The straights get upset when I tell them I don’t want to go to places that are too heterosexual. The gay couple we see are homebodies and it’s hard to get them out of the house.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||June 16, 2022 10:32 PM|
OP I asked you a fkin question.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||June 16, 2022 10:35 PM|
Oh, honey- we're not your friends.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||June 16, 2022 11:25 PM|
am i the only one here that honestly hates other gay people and finds them loathsome whiny tedious dissolute bitchy and hard to please?
|by Anonymous||reply 19||June 17, 2022 2:39 PM|
The feeling is mutual, Mary.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||June 17, 2022 3:57 PM|
Too many gay friends and you'll end up sounding and acting like a mincing flamer.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||June 17, 2022 4:00 PM|
R16 What are these places that are 'too heterosexual?' Are they asking you to hang out at the Chick-Fil-A?
|by Anonymous||reply 22||June 17, 2022 4:05 PM|
Sounds discriminatory, R4. Hope you've lawyered up.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||June 17, 2022 4:06 PM|
I would certainly hesitate or resist saying this to someone out of the blue, but as you've asked OP...Yes, indeed I find this to be an odd and unhealthy choice, for various reasons.
I don't really find that the straight people close to me have more problems, or more annoying problems than gay people. Could it be that you simply know many highly annoying people?
|by Anonymous||reply 24||June 17, 2022 5:45 PM|
When I ask you a fkin question OP, you answer me.
Do you hear me?
|by Anonymous||reply 25||June 17, 2022 5:52 PM|
R23 - Somehow, I don't think there are going to be any complainers.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||June 17, 2022 5:57 PM|
[quote]Too many gay friends and you'll end up sounding and acting like a mincing flamer.
Could you put a little more effort into your trolling, please? I'm embarrassed for you.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||June 17, 2022 10:51 PM|
R21 faulty logic!
|by Anonymous||reply 28||June 22, 2022 4:42 PM|
I don't think it's strange at all. Gay people have to unpack the homophobia that pervades the dominant culture. Straight people often never have to unpack it, challenge their own biases that lurk underneath "tolerance."
|by Anonymous||reply 29||June 22, 2022 4:45 PM|
Post divorce and pre-covid I developed a totally gay friend network. I joined my local gay men's chorus, as well as an all gay volunteer group. Met people through those activities and started getting invited to parties. One couple had a regular standing cocktail party on Fridays that all the connected local gays would attend. This was all in Southern California. I've recently moved to Idaho and trying to figure out how to rebuild my homosocial network here. There're no gay male orgs near me, the closest are umbrella LGBTQIA%$! groups which seem to be dominated by women. I'm certain the gays around here are having pool parties and get togethers just have to meet the right folks to get invited.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||June 22, 2022 7:21 PM|
I knew a guy who would only patronize gay doctors, dentists, and lawyers.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||June 22, 2022 7:32 PM|
I don't find it wrong, but I do find it rather sad. Trust me OP, there are lots of very gay friendly straight men out there and they make wonderful friends. My #1 best friend is a straight man and both of his children are my godchildren. And before his wife died I was also very close to her.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||June 22, 2022 7:48 PM|
Fag hag alert!
|by Anonymous||reply 33||June 22, 2022 7:48 PM|
Which is why you spend time hanging out on a gay message board r19...
|by Anonymous||reply 34||June 22, 2022 8:07 PM|
I know many gay men here in NY who only have gay friends, they don't really interact with straight people outside of work and family.
I mean there are many straight guys where all their friends are straight guys. There is nothing crazy about it.
|by Anonymous||reply 35||June 22, 2022 8:09 PM|
Is this even unusual? Gay people are smarter and funnier.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||June 22, 2022 8:15 PM|
OP I want a fkin answer.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||June 22, 2022 8:17 PM|
[quote]Gay people are smarter and funnier.
You haven't met many gay people, have you? I have, and I can 100% verify that there are many MANY gay people that are boring and witless. It's only on this site that I can really find smart gays.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||June 22, 2022 8:20 PM|
[quote]You haven't met many gay people, have you?
Sorry. What I meant to say is that gay people are smarter and funnier except for you and your friends.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||June 22, 2022 8:32 PM|
It’s disgusting if you ask me
|by Anonymous||reply 40||June 22, 2022 8:33 PM|
This is the downside of the modern discourse around identity and celebrating who you are and your differences. That's all wise and true but some people take it to the extremes and decide to make one characteristic about themselves their entire personality. And then they end up segregating themselves from people in other groups based on caricatures and stereotypes of what THOSE groups are like.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||June 22, 2022 8:42 PM|
R41 except straight guys usually are as terrible as we stereotype them as... I really wonder what world you live in
|by Anonymous||reply 42||June 23, 2022 5:54 PM|
Nope. Nothing wrong with all gay friends.
But it could close you off to some really awesome friendships with some heterosexuals.
We aren’t all cunts.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||June 23, 2022 5:58 PM|