Have you ever met a guy like this?
He's flaming, but hides in the closet because he erroneously believes no one can tell he's gay
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Have you ever met a guy like this?
He's flaming, but hides in the closet because he erroneously believes no one can tell he's gay
by Anonymous | reply 53 | October 15, 2021 3:59 PM |
Then, how do you know he’s gay?
by Anonymous | reply 1 | October 14, 2021 1:25 AM |
R1, reading comprehension is your friend.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | October 14, 2021 1:28 AM |
“Nelly” was a great word but it may as well be the name of comfortable shoes without laces. That’s the only folks using them anymore.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | October 14, 2021 1:28 AM |
I'm QUITE sure I don't know what you're talking about
by Anonymous | reply 4 | October 14, 2021 1:29 AM |
Do you mean straight men who are nelly? I know one or two.
And I still think they’re gay.
by Anonymous | reply 5 | October 14, 2021 1:29 AM |
[quote] Do you mean straight men who are nelly?
R5, reading comprehension is also your friend.
by Anonymous | reply 6 | October 14, 2021 1:32 AM |
Well I never in all my life!
by Anonymous | reply 7 | October 14, 2021 1:32 AM |
OP’s question is confusing.
If a man is “in the closet”, he’s gay but pretending not to be. If he’s all aflame, that isn’t very closeted.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | October 14, 2021 1:36 AM |
I guess he acts effeminate but has a girlfriend? Or the OP knows for certain that he frequents gay bars or uses an app, yet pretends he straight?
by Anonymous | reply 9 | October 14, 2021 1:39 AM |
Effeminate straight men exist, so you need evidence he actually is attracted to men such as seeing him kiss a guy to conclude he is closeted
by Anonymous | reply 10 | October 14, 2021 1:41 AM |
I knew a guy like this in my 20s who would hit on me (frau) when he was drunk, but I could just tell his heart was never in it.
I went to his wedding to his lovely boyfriend this spring :-)
by Anonymous | reply 11 | October 14, 2021 1:59 AM |
John Mulroney.
They are a rare breed, but do exist.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | October 14, 2021 2:00 AM |
A gale male is not Nelly. He's NELLIE!
by Anonymous | reply 13 | October 14, 2021 2:03 AM |
I knew someone who was like this in his 20s but decided to stop fighting and came out in his 30s.
by Anonymous | reply 14 | October 14, 2021 2:07 AM |
richard Grieco
by Anonymous | reply 15 | October 14, 2021 2:07 AM |
You mean Mulaney?
by Anonymous | reply 16 | October 14, 2021 2:09 AM |
[quote] he’s gay but pretending not to be. If he’s all aflame, that isn’t very closeted.
That's rather the OP's point.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | October 14, 2021 2:17 AM |
[quote] richard Grieco
Why him? He doesn't seem "Nelly" to me at all.
by Anonymous | reply 18 | October 14, 2021 2:17 AM |
Clay Aiken, before he came out.
by Anonymous | reply 19 | October 14, 2021 2:19 AM |
Conservative Aussie politician Christopher Pyne wins this
by Anonymous | reply 20 | October 14, 2021 2:31 AM |
Sounds like me through 2 wives and 53 years.
by Anonymous | reply 21 | October 14, 2021 2:36 AM |
[quote]Clay Aiken, before he came out.
He got savaged here for that pathetic denial in his Rolling Stone interview—the same one where he posed on the cover all sultry like Jennifer Aniston.
[quote]“One thing I’ve found of people in the public eye,” Aiken says, “either you’re a womanizer or you’ve got to be gay. Since I’m neither one of those, people are completely concerned about me. They’re like, ‘What are you, then?’ I’m sure it has to do with being raised by women. I wouldn’t want somebody gawking at my mom and grabbing her butt and catcalling at her, trying to hook up with her at a bar. I’m not saying I’m not going to look. Hello! But you know what I mean?”
by Anonymous | reply 22 | October 14, 2021 2:37 AM |
When I was dipping my toes into the gay waters but not announcing it to anyone. One of the guys who came into the bar I worked at said he could see me from space.
by Anonymous | reply 23 | October 14, 2021 2:47 AM |
Liberace owns this thread.
by Anonymous | reply 24 | October 14, 2021 2:50 AM |
^ He was just unlucky in love and built a wall around his heart! 😞
by Anonymous | reply 25 | October 14, 2021 2:58 AM |
My ex boss met her hubby doing theatre in college. He looked gay, acted gay and smelled gay. I don’t know how she couldn’t have known. Or she did and didn’t care.
by Anonymous | reply 26 | October 14, 2021 3:18 AM |
Why are my little ol' ears burnin'?
by Anonymous | reply 27 | October 14, 2021 3:24 AM |
I'm an eldergay who couldn't be bothered and "came out" when I was 18. Maybe a wise move but maybe not. At any rate over the years I've met many guys who were real sissies but claimed to be straight and I think some of them were. Big, straight sissies.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | October 14, 2021 3:33 AM |
Nobody is butcher than a big butch gay man. Or woman. Love my gay sisters, butch or femme.
by Anonymous | reply 29 | October 14, 2021 4:05 AM |
Gender stereotypes! Oh the horror!
by Anonymous | reply 30 | October 14, 2021 4:18 AM |
Sexuality in our society is so unnecessarily complicated. Go to Spain or South America. As long as you're the top, all is understood and forgiven.
by Anonymous | reply 31 | October 14, 2021 4:26 AM |
"He's flaming, but hides in the closet because he erroneously believes no one can tell he's gay..."
Why is every one looking at ME...???
by Anonymous | reply 32 | October 14, 2021 5:22 AM |
Reporter Cameron Fontana is married to a woman, but it doesn't prevent his nelliness from busting out all over.
by Anonymous | reply 35 | October 14, 2021 7:01 AM |
Tony Randall was straight but always gave a gay vibe.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | October 14, 2021 7:08 AM |
R31 I don't know much about Latin America, but you are completely wrong about Spain. European Catholics don't care what is your position in anal intercourse. They see all homosexual acts as unnatural fornication. Of course it's allowed inside the sacred walls of church and deep in the closet. But if you try to explain to European Mediterranean homophobes that you are a top, trust me, they wouldn't invite you to watch football and drink bears together. They are equally appalled and scared (at least pretend to be) by a guy that wants to plow mens' butts as the one that is plowed.
I've heard that top has the privileged position in Middle eastern Islamic cultures, don't know if that is true or myth. And of course inside gay community particularly her on DL, where he is considered to be a minor deity.
by Anonymous | reply 38 | October 14, 2021 9:07 AM |
I was in the military with a guy everyone was 100% positive was gay. His dad and his brothers were all military officers, so I thought he was merely trying to overcompensate when he signed up himself and eventually married a woman.
Since the repeal of Don't Ask, Don't Tell, I know several formerly straight men who have husbands and boyfriends. However, I looked him up on Facebook and he now has young kids with his wife.
by Anonymous | reply 39 | October 14, 2021 9:46 AM |
"R31 I don't know much about Latin America, but you are completely wrong about Spain. European Catholics don't care what is your position in anal intercourse."
But R31 didn't say "Catholic Spain" - he said "Spain". You do know that only around 20% of Spaniards are practicing Catholics.
"But if you try to explain to European Mediterranean homophobes that you are a top"
Oh, gotcha. You are making a judgment of Eastern Mediterraneans when you are referring to Spain? Except Spain is most definitely not Eastern Mediterranean.
"trust me, they wouldn't invite you to watch football and drink bears together."
On this, we likely agree. They aren't drinking bears.
"I've heard that top has the privileged position in Middle eastern Islamic cultures, don't know if that is true or myth. And of course inside gay community particularly her on DL, where he is considered to be a minor deity."
Top is a "minor deity" on DL? You haven't been here long.
by Anonymous | reply 40 | October 14, 2021 9:56 AM |
Yes, Stan the Mormon.
Elizabeth Smart's father who denied being gay until he came out. That was a sad situation, but I'm glad that he finally declared the opposite.
by Anonymous | reply 41 | October 14, 2021 9:57 AM |
Marcus Bachmann
by Anonymous | reply 42 | October 14, 2021 11:00 AM |
OP has a pretty limited view about men in general. She probably has been stuck in the mindset of the boomers. Girlish straight men do exists, lotsa them in the aristocracy.
by Anonymous | reply 43 | October 14, 2021 11:20 AM |
I used to work with one.
Checked every single gay box there was, including being extremely Nellie. Always claimed he was straight. No girlfriend, wife, lived with mother, etc.
by Anonymous | reply 44 | October 14, 2021 11:34 AM |
R43, no, I'm not talking about guys who are actually gay. You have a pretty limited view if you think closet cases don't exist
by Anonymous | reply 45 | October 14, 2021 11:34 AM |
Huh?
by Anonymous | reply 46 | October 14, 2021 11:46 AM |
Jared Kushner ~ he should be coming out soon.
by Anonymous | reply 47 | October 14, 2021 12:03 PM |
R40 It doesn't matter if they are practicing Catholics, Catholicism is deeply rooted in their culture and shaped the mentality. I am from Eastern Mediterranean country, Croatia, but know very well west Mediterranean countries Italy and Spain. Of course, there are a lot of progressive and non homophobic people in Spain, there was influental progressive movement La Movida after Franco's death and their socialist PM Zapatero was one of the first to introduce same sex marriage in Europe. But if you were talking about the progressive Spaniards I assure you they really don't hold tops in gay sexual in higher regards than bottoms. Logically so, because it would be very strange for progressive people to judge people upon their preferred sexual position.
As for Catholic and traditional people, some of them can be compassionate and milder, but Catholicism itself is very hostile towards homosexuality. It considers it unnatural and deviated and there is not a grain of truth in the myth that they despise the bottom while giving full acceptance to top. They think of top as equally deviated and degenerated for wanting to fuck men, instead of having "natural" procreative sex with women. Maybe a bottom would be slightly more despised for being "a woman", but straight homophobic man would be even more avoiding the top of fear that the degenerated beast would try to jump them. Of course, as i mentioned, homosexual activity, whether in top or bottom role, is very vivacious inside the church walls.
As for watching football and drinking bear, it's a manner of speaking, a phrase, but drinking beer is also part of football supporters straight male subculture, even in wine drinking Mediterranean country. My family is from Adriatic coast and are strict wine drinkers, but when Croatia played in the football World cup finale, guys brought bottles of lager even though it is not our tradition. Hence my remark.
Also, my family comes from communist background back to WW2, and consider church the enemy number 1, but there is so much Catholic atavism in us that is hard to eradicate.
by Anonymous | reply 48 | October 14, 2021 12:19 PM |
I've heard those statements about some societies that are homophobic only towards men who practice bottoming while consider those who are topping to be straight. Something like ancient Greece and Rome, where homosexuality was tolerated in adult males if he was the active partner. Usually it is said that it is like this in Middle eastern Islamic cultures and some other obviously primitive and patriarchal cultures that tolerates sexual acts as long as you don't have the "female, submissive role". Because the important thing is not to be a woman.
On some threads I noticed that the same has been said about Balkans, Eastern Europe, Italy and now Spain. But this is absolutely not true. Because Christianity and particularly Catholic and Ortodox church that shaped mentioned nations' values was traditionally homophobic and anti homosexual. So either active or passive participant of sexual act which they consider unnatural and even bestial are committing a crime against nature in their mindset. Pre Christian societies were certainly more accepting than Christians. Their only tolerance is towards closet, they say: do it inside your four walls. So, a guy bragging in the pub how he is a top fucking guys wouldn't be considered as one of the dudes.
As for free minded, non religious and progressive people in these countries, I don't think they care what other people do in bed, nor who is the top.
So, I wonder where did those myths come from. It is only in the minds of some gay men with internalized homophobia who think that people will respect them if they claim to be tops.
by Anonymous | reply 49 | October 14, 2021 3:26 PM |
What happens if the closet catches fire?
by Anonymous | reply 50 | October 14, 2021 4:25 PM |
R50 If they are lucky they escape to Narnia
by Anonymous | reply 51 | October 14, 2021 9:11 PM |
I heard this once and I think it's still true...
Why is it that the butchest lesbians and the nelliest gay guys think no one knows they're gay?
by Anonymous | reply 52 | October 15, 2021 2:56 AM |
Aaron Schock before he (eventually) came out
by Anonymous | reply 53 | October 15, 2021 3:59 PM |
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