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Inappropriate Crush

Who is your inappropriate crush? The guy that you have so much respect for that you really feel guilty about finding hot, but you can’t help it?

by Anonymousreply 139November 19, 2021 3:03 AM

Donald Trump

by Anonymousreply 1October 5, 2021 7:31 AM


by Anonymousreply 2October 5, 2021 7:49 AM

Too many to mention.

by Anonymousreply 3October 5, 2021 7:59 AM

As a lady, I mist myself with rose water and think of England whenever unnatural feelings overwhelm. You should try OP

by Anonymousreply 4October 5, 2021 8:18 AM

I was the subject of an unfortunate crush. I was involved in a long-standing, deeply (wholly) emotional relationship with a colleague, who was involved in a live-in relationship with another man, someone with whom I only very occasionally intersected. My co-worker told me his boyfriend had a crush on me.

by Anonymousreply 5October 5, 2021 8:25 AM

R5 What? Who had the crush? The boyfriend (Who you never saw) of the one you were having the emotional relationship with

by Anonymousreply 6October 5, 2021 9:01 AM

r6 struggles with reading comprehension continue well into her old age

by Anonymousreply 7October 5, 2021 9:06 AM

R7 WTF his post is indecipherable you ass.

by Anonymousreply 8October 5, 2021 9:44 AM

How do you make THIS thread boring?

by Anonymousreply 9October 5, 2021 1:44 PM

My new, straight, gorgeous next-door neighbor, Alex.

by Anonymousreply 10October 5, 2021 1:54 PM

A straight trainer at the gym I go to. All smiles, nods, and pleasant 'in passing' conversations. I just want to lean in and lightly kiss him on the lips. Damn it.

by Anonymousreply 11October 5, 2021 5:10 PM

What exactly does OP mean by "inappropriate"? I don't necessarily think it's inappropriate to have a crush on someone in a professional settingunless you are making it glaringly obvious. To be honest, the last crush I had that I'd deem "inappropriate" was on my 11th-grade history teacher who was in his late-thirties—I had many a masturbatory about him.

by Anonymousreply 12October 5, 2021 5:34 PM

Yeah R7, that shit was indecipherable.

by Anonymousreply 13October 5, 2021 5:36 PM

Seth Meyers

by Anonymousreply 14October 5, 2021 5:42 PM

My last sentence doesn’t leave any doubt: “My co-worker told me his boyfriend had a crush on me.” Especially since the preceding sentence pointed out I was involved in an intense emotional relationship with my “colleague.” Perhaps if I hadn’t interchanged colleague for co-worker there would’ve been less confusion.

by Anonymousreply 15October 5, 2021 5:53 PM

R12 tell me about him

by Anonymousreply 16October 6, 2021 12:33 AM

Al Roker--THERE, I finally let down my guard and admitted it!

by Anonymousreply 17October 6, 2021 2:10 AM

R17 pre or post weight loss?

by Anonymousreply 18October 6, 2021 2:26 AM

Mine is an older married straight guy i know. He just has this raw sexual energy about him, like he looks into my eyes and sees the sweet but desperate bottom and knows what I need. He touched my shoulder and a jolt of electricity went through my body. But he’s such a nice guy I feel guilty thinking about him that way.

by Anonymousreply 19October 9, 2021 9:37 PM

OP, maybe he would be offended if you didn't find him attractive.

by Anonymousreply 20October 9, 2021 9:57 PM

A friend has one on his nephew J.

by Anonymousreply 21October 9, 2021 10:06 PM


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by Anonymousreply 22October 10, 2021 12:07 AM

R21 Spill

by Anonymousreply 23October 10, 2021 12:40 AM

You, OP.

by Anonymousreply 24October 10, 2021 12:52 AM

Not naming any names.

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by Anonymousreply 25October 10, 2021 12:55 AM

I had a virtual crush on a guy I met here on Datalounge. We virtually dated a few days and then he ghosted me. I don't know if he keeps me on ignore.

by Anonymousreply 26October 10, 2021 10:10 PM

[quote] The guy that you have so much respect for that you really feel guilty about finding hot

That's a weird reason to feel guilty about a crush, OP.

by Anonymousreply 27October 10, 2021 10:14 PM

Is a crush on corpse #38721-A inappropriate or a crush on someone outside one's program?

by Anonymousreply 28October 10, 2021 10:17 PM

R27 is it? I sometimes wonder if I’m sex negative. But I have a hard time objectifying the guy I’m thinking about because I respect and like him so much as a person. That’s not to say I wouldn’t squeal in ecstasy if he wanted to fuck me. If anything it would probably be really hot sex because it feels so forbidden to me.

by Anonymousreply 29October 10, 2021 10:17 PM

I work at a medical center, and I have a crush on three of the doctors -- all with wives, all with children. I therefore will not "go there." But one of the guys really pings to me. And he has this ridiculously cute smile. Just so freakin' adorable.

by Anonymousreply 30October 10, 2021 10:26 PM

R29 You are funny. I think it's just fine to be attracted to someone I respect. I'm happy when that happens. Hate to be attracted to a jerk, cause that happened sometimes too. Well, that's a problem.

by Anonymousreply 31October 10, 2021 10:29 PM

Please say it’s not your dad or grandpa

by Anonymousreply 32October 10, 2021 11:09 PM

R32 imagine like actually....respecting your father??cant relate

by Anonymousreply 33October 10, 2021 11:21 PM

R32 now that would be an inappropriate crush! It’s on topic.

by Anonymousreply 34October 10, 2021 11:23 PM

I once had a crush on a man married to a woman in a wheelchair. I felt so terrible, but couldn't stop flirting with him.

I'm sick, I know.

by Anonymousreply 35October 10, 2021 11:24 PM

R35, these things happen.

by Anonymousreply 36October 10, 2021 11:26 PM

Did you give him oral/anal?

by Anonymousreply 37October 10, 2021 11:29 PM

One of my adorable handsome junior lecturers in drama school, back in the day. A rare good dude. He was so nice and decent to me and so patient, even though I was a fucking weird little stoner jerk who wasn’t showing up or working hard enough to even stay on the course by rights. If I saw him today (seven years later), I’d just apologise for being such a shitty excuse for a student.

by Anonymousreply 38October 10, 2021 11:35 PM

How can a crush be "inappropriate"? Unless it's like on a close relative or someone underage. I guess if you actually act on your crush, then they could easily be inappropriate.

by Anonymousreply 39October 11, 2021 12:46 AM

I have a crush on my supervisor's husband. He stops by our office from time to time, and he makes a point to say hello to me. He is cute with a hot body, but I do not think he is interested in me. My biggest fear is that his wife (my supervisor) might find out I have the hots for him.

by Anonymousreply 40October 11, 2021 1:02 AM

Christopher Meloni, Jon Ham, Josh Duhamel and James Marsden. Inappropriate because they're straight.

Matthew Fox, not only because he's straight, but also because he beats women.

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by Anonymousreply 41October 11, 2021 1:11 AM

[quote] Matthew Fox, not only because he's straight, but also because he beats women.

Wasn’t attracted to him before but I sure as hell am now

by Anonymousreply 42October 11, 2021 1:16 AM

16 year old son of my bf. (While in the Marines, he was briefly married to a woman before coming out).

Went to his sons football game Friday night and afterwards he drove home with us (while still in his gear) and even tho sitting in the far back of a Suburban, I could smell his teen stench and ripeness. Embarrassed to admit that I was leaking in my seat.

His body, pecs, fuzzy blonde tan legs and cocky smirk ... god damn . He's a walking sex god . And his father knows it too

by Anonymousreply 43October 11, 2021 1:46 AM

Alec Baldwin. He’s an asshole, but he was a walking wet dream back in the day.

by Anonymousreply 44October 11, 2021 2:25 AM

Inappropriate crush? That would be a brother, or father or sisters husband or best friends boyfriend. Otherwise they are all appropriate and can be acted on if you think it might be reciprocated.

by Anonymousreply 45October 11, 2021 2:56 AM

R43 that’s such an awkward position for you to be in. Do you ever think of the son while you’re getting fucked by the dad?

by Anonymousreply 46October 11, 2021 2:59 AM

R45 so do you know that from experience of a crush on one of those? Tell us about it.

by Anonymousreply 47October 11, 2021 3:00 AM

My Mormon Bishop.

by Anonymousreply 48October 11, 2021 3:12 AM

Finn Wolfhard

I know he hasn't been 18 for long and I'm much older than him but he is so gorgeous that I can't help it.

by Anonymousreply 49October 11, 2021 3:13 AM

I had a crush, for a while, on the physicians assistant I would deal with at my doctor’s office. I think it was mutual. Our first meeting was for a physical. Nothing inappropriate happened, of course. Yes, he’s gay. His touch felt special and I got a hard-on. He just said, “It happens”.

by Anonymousreply 50October 11, 2021 3:19 AM

My dad.

by Anonymousreply 51October 11, 2021 3:19 AM

R50 how did he know you got hard? Were you nude?

by Anonymousreply 52October 11, 2021 3:25 AM

R51 how long have you felt this way? Would you ever think about exploring a physical relationship with him?

by Anonymousreply 53October 11, 2021 3:25 AM

R43, is the lad's name Joel?

by Anonymousreply 54October 11, 2021 3:28 AM

First cousin once removed, the son of my favorite girl cousin. He's married with children, but still the hottest thing around.

by Anonymousreply 55October 11, 2021 3:48 AM

The next model I’m shooting in November. He’s a straight bodybuilder who is going to launch OnlyFans and a porn career. He’s gorgeous.

I don’t feel too bad because I feel I have to “fall in love” with him in a way to be able to capture him perfectly. I’m going to be working with him for a while so I need those romantic feelings to do my best job even if it seems awful.

But I’d never tell him.

by Anonymousreply 56October 11, 2021 3:58 AM

R52 Yes, it was a full physical. Prostate check and turn and cough included. One of my testicles has a bump on it. It was caused several years ago by some kind of bacteria traveling down there through my urethra, bareback sex has its other risks. Anyway, he was checking it out in detail.

by Anonymousreply 57October 11, 2021 4:22 AM

R57 past couple times I have gone the doctor didn’t even bother to check my balls. TBH, I was quite offended. What do I have to do to get my balls checked?

by Anonymousreply 58October 11, 2021 4:24 AM

R58 That’s a good question. That was 2017 and I moved away from that city. That doctors’ office was one of those that “served the (gay) community”. I haven’t been checked that thoroughly since then.

by Anonymousreply 59October 11, 2021 4:47 AM

A retarded guy who collects the carts at Safeway.

by Anonymousreply 60October 11, 2021 4:52 AM

[quote] A retarded guy who collects the carts at Safeway.

Dat's da suck job!

by Anonymousreply 61October 11, 2021 4:56 AM

My completely inappropriate Crush is Tom Holland (aka Spiderman in the MCU). I'm 56.

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by Anonymousreply 63October 11, 2021 5:15 AM

R62 nothing inappropriate about that. He’s super gorgeous, sexy, and talented.

by Anonymousreply 64October 11, 2021 5:17 AM

Oh, yeah, I guess I've had an inappropriate crush on a Down's Syndrome guy I've seen at the store with his parents. He has the NICEST big ass!

by Anonymousreply 65October 11, 2021 5:19 AM

Kelsey Grammer.

by Anonymousreply 66October 11, 2021 5:23 AM

[quote] Oh, yeah, I guess I've had an inappropriate crush on a Down's Syndrome guy I've seen at the store with his parents. He has the NICEST big ass!

Dat's da rim job!

by Anonymousreply 67October 11, 2021 5:31 AM

[quote] Kelsey Grammer.

That's is inappropriate but not because of any age difference involved.

by Anonymousreply 68October 11, 2021 5:32 AM

I’m crushing on a guy who’s in his mid-late 20’s and I’m 58 and I go to the same coffee shop he goes to and I sit waiting to catch a glimpse when he comes in and I get crazy if I miss him. But we’ve never spoken . Made eye contact a few times, smiled, nodded and then he walked away and I lived on that for 3 days.

by Anonymousreply 69October 11, 2021 5:34 AM

"Red T-Shirt Guy." I'll see him with his dog when I am on my way home from my daily walk. Probably early 30's, beautiful shaved head, quite nice guns, solid physique, not the most handsome of men but then I'm no oil painting myself. I finally got a response the other day to my friendly greeting of "Good Morning." It put a spring in my step, and elsewhere too.

by Anonymousreply 70October 11, 2021 7:28 AM

Most of the male cast members from MTV's "The Challenge." I can almost feel a cold sore popping up.

by Anonymousreply 71October 11, 2021 10:52 AM

[quote] That's is inappropriate but not because of any age difference involved

Well exactly. Crushing on Kesey Grammer is inappropriate because he’s Kelsey Grammer. Though most of my crush is on Frasier Crane.

by Anonymousreply 72October 11, 2021 2:06 PM

Respect is appropriate, but if something is inappropriate is stealing your friend's or close relative's partner. Only a dick can do it. But having a crush on them you can't control. I guess this is inappropriate crush.

by Anonymousreply 73October 11, 2021 3:00 PM

Troye Sivan gave up Shawn Mendes as his celebrity crush, because he is Camilla's boyfriend and Camilla is Troye's friend. He is such a decent guy.

by Anonymousreply 74October 11, 2021 3:02 PM

Mine is so inappropriate I'll never tell it.

But you could guess if you observed me.

by Anonymousreply 75October 11, 2021 3:02 PM


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by Anonymousreply 76October 11, 2021 3:37 PM

[quote] how long have you felt this way? Would you ever think about exploring a physical relationship with him?

Since high school. I used to suck his toes while he napped on the couch. He never woke up, but he must have known. I’m pretty sure he got hard through his jeans.

by Anonymousreply 77October 11, 2021 5:20 PM

R77 Is your papa's name Armie?

by Anonymousreply 78October 11, 2021 5:25 PM

R22 thinking about it, Grealish is probably also an inappropriate crush, given that he’s borderline retarded.

Stupid cute though🤤

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by Anonymousreply 79October 11, 2021 10:31 PM

Hot r77. How old is your dad now? Depending on how old he is it may be now or never to make your move. Sucking on your toes is just an appetizer. You deserve a full meal.

by Anonymousreply 80October 16, 2021 5:57 AM

My boss and I think it’s mutual. He’s in an LTR though and I don’t think he’s a reckless whore like me so he wouldn’t act on it. We flirt a lot things get super intense then he backs off for a few weeks. We have a great working relationship aside from the sexual attraction.

by Anonymousreply 81October 16, 2021 6:06 AM

Hot r81. How do you flirt? Just coquettishly lifting your caftan every now and then and giggling?

by Anonymousreply 82October 16, 2021 6:12 AM

Marco Rubio

by Anonymousreply 83October 16, 2021 1:14 PM

R80, he’s 62, but looks hot for his age. And I’m the one who sucked his toes.

by Anonymousreply 84October 16, 2021 2:35 PM

A number of my counselors at summer camp over the years. It was fun to see them NAKED in the showers.

by Anonymousreply 85October 16, 2021 2:38 PM

Most of these aren’t inappropriate. Tom Holland? Come on, huh? Inappropriate is more like R43, who takes the cake so far. Those teen jock boys are the worst.

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by Anonymousreply 86October 16, 2021 3:12 PM

Christ I wish the incest freaks would take their shit somewhere else. I’m sure there are specialist sites.

by Anonymousreply 87October 16, 2021 3:30 PM

R43 is such fanfic

by Anonymousreply 88October 16, 2021 5:22 PM

Blanche Devareaux. I wanna give that pussy a ride and to be in the same watermelon sugar as that long list of geriatric gentlemen callers.

by Anonymousreply 89October 16, 2021 5:46 PM

I would say one of my best friends. He was the best man at my wedding. He's married with 2 kids, and very straight. I think he knows I have romantic feelings for him, but also knows I would never act on them. He's playful and flirty at times, but I'm glad it is the way it is - I've had this situation before, but actually ended up having an affair, and let's just say the fantasy was waaay better than the reality.

by Anonymousreply 90October 16, 2021 6:09 PM

Growing up I went to a catholic grade school which was attached to our church. All the priests were old, overweight and sexless. Then we got Father Mike, a tall, athletic redhead. I had such a crush on him. Actually I didn't know it was a crush at the time since I didn't understand why I did everything I could to be near him. Alas, nothing ever happened. I hadn't thought of him for ages until I ran across some Twink porn with some older guy (Legrand Wolf) playing a doctor who looks exactly like Father Mike did 40 years ago.

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by Anonymousreply 93October 18, 2021 4:40 AM

R90 I wanna hear about the affair.

by Anonymousreply 94October 18, 2021 4:57 AM

R94. It was my boss. He was bi, married, no kids. He didn't have an open marriage per se, however they both looked the other way I guess you could say. It was hot and heavy and very romantic, I thought it would go somewhere, but he never did. It was pretty painful for me, but it allowed me to find some self-esteem and break out of a long term relationship that had died years before. It lasted about a year, we are still friends.

by Anonymousreply 95October 18, 2021 10:21 PM

Teeny Bopper, my teenage lover who lives in my love house by the river.

by Anonymousreply 96October 18, 2021 11:33 PM

Conor Mcgregor

I would like him from top to bottom.

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by Anonymousreply 97October 20, 2021 2:21 PM

R97 great photo. I agree, he’s fuckable.

by Anonymousreply 98October 20, 2021 4:03 PM

My friend's husband.

A cross between Chris Meloni and Andrew McCabe. Ex military and super furry. It's all I can do not to cum in my shorts every time I see him. He's like a yellow Lab in human form - a furry ball of happiness, always grasping my shoulder and calling me "buddy" or "champ."

I can't take another second, one of these days I am going to fucking blast my load in my shorts when he's talking to me. LOL

by Anonymousreply 99October 20, 2021 4:14 PM

R99 HOT!!! Why don’t you make a move?!

by Anonymousreply 100October 20, 2021 4:15 PM

R100 Cause he would be an asshole for fucking a friend's husband! And didn't say if the friend is female.

by Anonymousreply 101October 20, 2021 4:21 PM

Some of you really aren't understanding the assignment.

No famous person would be an inappropriate crush, unless you're perving out on someone underage.

Having a crush on someone famous is more "pretend boyfriend" vs. "inappropriate crush."

by Anonymousreply 102October 20, 2021 4:25 PM

I wasn't perving on JD Grazer, just liked his acting skills.

by Anonymousreply 103October 20, 2021 4:28 PM

Matt Gaetz is most certainly inappropriate, but yet there I am.

by Anonymousreply 104October 20, 2021 4:36 PM

Chase Chrisley

by Anonymousreply 105October 20, 2021 4:55 PM

I'm still friends with an old coworker. When I last visited him, circa 2013-14, his two kids were in their early teens. His son was a blur, staying out of our way, playing video games, etc. I couldn't even remember him from that visit. (His daughter was more memorable on that visit because she screamed at her friends every five seconds on the phone.)

I visited him again this summer, staying outside for COVID protection. Out comes this tall, shaggy haired barefoot young man (now 19), shirtless and muscled and big and beefy and BULGY and just so hot. He sat down and talked with us.

Smart young man, a little bit of a dreamer/stoner type but so confident. Put his feet up and rested his hands behind his head as he was talking. Haven't been able to stop thinking about him since.

by Anonymousreply 106October 20, 2021 5:04 PM


Sounds like he was putting on a display - "Put his feet up and rested his hands behind his head as he was talking." And shirtless.

Does he know you're gay? Any vibes?

by Anonymousreply 107October 20, 2021 5:24 PM

R107 He does know I'm gay, when I was there before I was with my then BF.

I usually have solid gaydar but I just found him so fucking attractive on so many levels....my ability to judge is clouded.

by Anonymousreply 108October 20, 2021 5:27 PM
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by Anonymousreply 109October 20, 2021 5:44 PM

R106 fucking HOT.

by Anonymousreply 110October 20, 2021 5:45 PM

Patrick Mahomes. I don’t even care about football. I don’t know how it happened or how much worse it may get. I have a Chiefs mobile app on my phone now and am learning to think ill of his fiancé.

by Anonymousreply 111October 20, 2021 5:53 PM

R111 I agree, I think he’s so cute. I just want to kiss him. And I feel guilty because he seems so sweet and innocent.

by Anonymousreply 112October 20, 2021 6:13 PM

R106 I think you need to start making excuses to get over there as much as possible. DL needs the details when this happens.

by Anonymousreply 113October 21, 2021 7:52 AM

[quote]Having a crush on someone famous is more "pretend boyfriend" vs. "inappropriate crush."

OR next time you could come up with a more interesting thread because the majority CLEARLY doesn’t care about your distinction.


by Anonymousreply 114October 21, 2021 10:44 AM

R114 it wasn't "my" thread, poodle. I just made a suggestion.

by Anonymousreply 115October 21, 2021 2:24 PM

A very-gay friendly co-worker. He's straight with 4 kids and an orthodox Jew (not ultra-orthodox). He's very socially liberal but his arch-conservative wife keeps influencing him.

He gave me the longest, tightest hug when I left that job.

I still kind of crush on him when thinking about him. He's not even that particularly good looking--sort of nerdy, inn fact. He's just so full of life, always smiling, and hilarious.

by Anonymousreply 116October 21, 2021 2:28 PM

About 15 years ago, I had a thing for my boss.

Looked like Spike Jonze the director (the way Spike looked then - he now looks a bit more like Bob Odenkirk, who is still hot and all but just more mature looking.)

Blond, bearded and hot. He was very animated and wired and I just wanted to suck him dry and calm him down LOL.

by Anonymousreply 117October 21, 2021 3:15 PM

R117 Did he know you liked him?

by Anonymousreply 118October 23, 2021 9:58 PM

[quote]Who is your inappropriate crush? The guy that you have so much respect for that you really feel guilty about finding hot, but you can’t help it?

What a strange reason for a crush being described as "inappropriate." I would say that crushing on someone for whom you have great respect is the healthiest kind of crush. OP, what's your damage?

by Anonymousreply 119October 23, 2021 11:07 PM

(89) After your fling with Blanche, make sure to make an appointment with your doctor to be tested for STD's.

by Anonymousreply 120October 23, 2021 11:26 PM

Unfortunately my crushes were always with st8 married guys.

by Anonymousreply 121October 23, 2021 11:31 PM

R121 Same. They’re all I want. My dream arrangement would be where some guy’s wife doesn’t want sex anymore and she agrees to let him sleep with me regularly.

by Anonymousreply 122October 25, 2021 2:56 AM

R122 Honey, the guy would look for another lady, not you.

by Anonymousreply 123October 25, 2021 8:32 AM

Yes they are, R86. So cocky, knowing everyone is looking with envy.

by Anonymousreply 124October 25, 2021 1:01 PM

R121 Mine too.

by Anonymousreply 125October 25, 2021 2:38 PM

A few years ago it was Brandon - one of my organization's clients who was on many, many antipsychotics.

He had great hair, a fit as fuck body only schizophrenics seem to be able to maintain, and zero personality - perfect for safe daydreaming.

by Anonymousreply 126October 25, 2021 2:55 PM

R123 no because their wives would be threatened by a lady but not by me. I’ve put extensive thought into this.

by Anonymousreply 127October 25, 2021 9:07 PM

R86 my neighbors have a son who I think is going to be fine as fuck in 2 years when he turns 18. Deep voice and very athletically gifted.

by Anonymousreply 128October 26, 2021 5:08 PM

R128 I can see that he is fine to you now that he is 16, too.

by Anonymousreply 129October 26, 2021 5:11 PM

R129 just for the record I didn’t say that. You did.

by Anonymousreply 130October 26, 2021 5:12 PM

[quote] my neighbors have a son who I think is going to be fine as fuck in 2 years when he turns 18. Deep voice and very athletically gifted.

Even when he's 18, he won't like fatties like you

by Anonymousreply 131October 26, 2021 5:14 PM

The son of a family friend. He’s 26 or 27 years old. It feels inappropriate because I have known him since he was about 12, and I was 27. I started feeling attracted to him when he was in his early twenties. He’s got quite a fat ass and big (muscly) legs from playing soccer, and a beautiful complexion. Chestnut hair and large blue eyes. I suspect he is going to turn into a fatty in his thirties, but right now, he is perfect.

Unfortunately, I think he realises I have a crush in him. He obviously finds it hilarious, and I feel a bit like a mouse being played with by a cat. He flirts with me in a jokey way. I wish I could enjoy it, but it just feels demeaning.

by Anonymousreply 132October 26, 2021 5:29 PM

You need to risk it all for that soccer stud, R132. You only live once.

by Anonymousreply 133October 26, 2021 6:19 PM

R133 I agree. Worst thing that can happen is says no.

by Anonymousreply 134October 26, 2021 6:47 PM

I'm a classical musician, semi-retired after a 35-year international performing career. I'm also the founder of an international conservatory, and nowadays I am primarily focused on that. I teach and conduct an orchestra there, and the principal violinist (who just turned 18 a couple of weeks ago) is a protégé of mine, perhaps the finest student of my entire career.

In a way, I am indeed in love with this beautiful boy. He is adorable, wickedly intelligent and with a naughty sense of humor (clearly obsessed with sex), and a sensitive artist and perfectionist. His face is like porcelain, framed in soft, black hair. I suppose the best way to describe him is having a striking resemblance to the young gay porn model Vance Winter. I get the sense that he is attracted to me as well, given the way he always wants to come over to my house to visit, and how he stands and sits very unusually close to me (significantly closer than necessary). He knows I'm gay (he even played his violin at my same-sex wedding), and I know he trusts me completely. I'm not entirely sure if he is gay (I wouldn't ever ask), though it would all make complete sense if he were.

:: sigh pathétique :: Honestly, he makes my mouth water. If I were 30 years younger, I would surely make a move. Now, at age 48 and married to my husband of 13 years, it would never happen; I'm always a consummate professional.

by Anonymousreply 135November 19, 2021 2:38 AM

R135 he played his violin when he was 5?

by Anonymousreply 136November 19, 2021 2:41 AM

R136 Haha, no, my wedding was only three years ago. My husband and I have been together 13 years, only three of those years married.

by Anonymousreply 137November 19, 2021 2:45 AM

R135 I think it sounds like you two have a really special bond… I would enjoy the sexual tension, but don’t spoil it by making a move. Even if he’s receptive, you would lose the unique connection you have if it became romantic or sexual.

by Anonymousreply 138November 19, 2021 2:50 AM

R138 Thank you. You are right, and no, I would definitely never act on it. I'm just going to continue to be for him, the nurturing adult that I sorely needed in my own life at his age. I'm his teacher and mentor; I'm not meant to be his father, lover, or therapist.

by Anonymousreply 139November 19, 2021 3:03 AM
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