Anal sex as bottom.

It's like being stabbed with a stick.

It's like taking a shit, but in reverse.

I LOVE the idea of it: anal is my go-to when I watch gay pron, and I like to imagine myself as the bottom. But when I actually engage, I can't take it for more than a few minutes and I've had enough. I admire the guys who can take it for a long time.

I'm more picky than Meg Ryan was when ordering dessert in When Harry Met Sally.

He needs to be gentle, I need to like him A LOT; and trust him and care about him and either he has to convince me that he's not going to really hurt me or I have to convince myself; I like to feel a teensy bit scared and mostly safe.

so, as you can guess, I hardly ever engage.

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There's no suitable option for my feelings on it.

I am vers top, emphasis on top - like 95/5 - I just have to be in the right mood to bottom, but when I do I fucking love it. Outside of that infrequent occasion (once every 6 weeks I'd say, on average), I have no interest in it at all.

Every 6 weeks sounds rather regular to me.

bottoming is really about closeness and intimacy than feeling great.

The last time was a FB who is such an amazing deep kisser that the entire act feels wonderful.

When I do it with someone I don't feel so close to, it's more the thought of it than the actual feeling that's fun.

I think those considering bottoming should spend a little alone time with a (not too big) dildo—maybe one with a vibrator or without—and masturbate with the toy in to understand how it can enhance a bottom’s orgasm. It can be so much better for the bottom if he is having sexy time whilst getting fucked.

The actual feeling of something up your butt doesn't do much for me by the orgasms are intense

Yes, please

It is not pleasurable in the slightest. It hurts like a motherfucker. No intention of ever doing it after a couple of times trying. Anal sex is the worst.

And if I'm a top, then I cum within seconds while entering the anus, so fucking is a big fail for both of us.

No means NO!

I think it's hilarious and I always get a kick out of it.

R6 Ha, I'd say I'm about 95/5 too, but then I mapped it out over the course of my active sexual life.... figures out to about once a decade or so.

It's all relative, in't it?

R7 I suppose it depends on how often you're having sex...if I have sex 20 times and one of those is bottoming, to me that's not that regular.

I go through phases. I've enjoyed being a total bottom for the right guy. Where are you, C? Miss you!

Poppers and meth help...alot

Poppers will make you a butt slut.

It can be the worst or best feeling of your life. It all depends on the skills of the top.

always and forever

With enough lube and a slight pause once it's all in (it takes a moment to relax), it's one of the best feelings ever. I know some men report little satisfaction from prostate stimulation, but for me, it's otherworldly, and, the majority of the time, it gets me rock hard and leaking precum like a faucet. I guess I was born to bottom.

With copious amounts of drugs, it's great.

I only ever top but if I never put my dick in someone’s ass again, I wouldn’t really care. I’m completely ambivalent about it.

Real bottoms don't need poppers.

Anal sex - stunning and brave.

actually it's neither, but it sure is fun

I wonder what percentage of us actually have regular anal sex.

In 2020/2021? I expect it's gone down.

Someone should do a poll except I don't think I'd ever believe it.

[Quote] Real bottoms don't need poppers.

I am not a natural bottom at all, but give me meth and poppers and my ass will open for the world.

Trying anal without those enhancements just hurts

[Quote] give me meth

... No.

As the Beatles once sang, "All you need is lube."

[quote]OP: Anal Sex as Bottom.

And here I thought it was Jimmy Cagney.

I'm nervous about trying it.

I'm a top. The few times I've tried it have been 100% unsuccessful. I describe it as putting your left foot into a right shoe; you just know it's supposed to be the other way (for me).

I've done it I think 5 times, all between the ages of 22-23. I agree with the poster above who said it felt good but he couldn't take it for a long time.

I really liked it at the time, but ever since I was a kid I've had, um, occasional pain problems in that area, and now I just don't want to do it because I don't want to cause more pain to myself again. It's not worth the pleasure of it.

The orgasms were amazing though, and no hands either.

I do top mostly now, but as another poster above said, if I never did that again I wouldn't really care either. Honestly, we focus so much on butt sex when we talk about gay sex, but 98% of the time it's handjobs, blowjobs and frotting. Also the last three guys I was with who wanted me to top them all rode my dick to orgasm and then acted weird that I might have wanted to finish myself off too (now I'm sworn off muscle mary's too).

Find a small dick top.

A friend of mine told me small dicks can actually be more painful, that a larger dick goes right in past and sits a bit more comfortably. I'm no expert, but take that for what it's worth.

Small dicks inside you feel like you're being jabbed with a golf pencil. It does not feel good. Find a big, thick one and use a lot of lube.

I'm average small but most bottoms say I'm their best sex ever. Evah.

I have a dick on the larger size, but what guys tell me is best about it is the shape which sort of "locks in".

R12, I have fantasies of topping and bottoming and they're fantastic; and when I live them out I'm like, 'this is just stupid.'

For the bottoms on the thread, what's the most comfortable position for you to do it? As a top, I prefer to do it missionary, so I can watch your face and see how you're liking it, listen to the moans etc. Second best to that is you on top.

I'm not such a fan of doggy because it feels a lot more impersonal. Even with a one-night root I want to have some sort of connection.

Okay, I never had a pleasurably bottom experience with another person.

But, years ago in about my late 30s, I started fingering myself whilst masturbating, and it was pleasurable. I didn't do it every time, but it was a nice thing to do every now and again. A "treat" if you will. It's more work than just masturbating, so it's not something I'm interesting in doing ALL the time. After a while, I kind of stopped fingering. Too much extra "work," and whilst the build-up was great, the climax was never as good as just pure masturbating.

Recently, I found a nice-sized dildo which has given me some pleasurable experiences. It's not as "great" as just masturbating, only because the climax isn't as great. But, getting there is different and fun. Again, not something I do all the time. Another "treat" if you will. That's my experience.

Now, incorporating someone else into the picture and having it be just as pleasurable? So many factors to consider: my mood, my trust level with that person, that person's penis length/girth, the position, the style ... I'm probably too old for that shit.

I think I was born without a prostate as there is never any sensation of pleasure. I feel...nothing.

@R44

Tie for 1st: Missionary, cowboy

3rd: standing

4th: Doggy

Doggy feels the best for me but missionary Is more intimate, especially if the top of a great kisser

R44, missionary for me is always best. Not only is it more intimate, but I also hits me just right. It's not a good angle for my partner, though, so we usually do it doggy or cowboy style. Cowboy is a close #2 for me, so that works just fine.

Sex for me, regardless of what we do, is always better and more intense for me if I care about the person. Don't get me wrong. I had a few good experiences back in my single days with top guys who knew what they were doing, but I always feel there is a level of trust that goes with bottoming for a guy. I had a lot more just ok to not-so-great experiences with tops in my single days. The worse was when they'd shove it in, pump a few times, cum, then get up and leave pretty quickly. Such a disappointment. It always surprised me how many of those guys called me back for a second time. I never returned their calls.

My partner is very careful and makes sure he does the slow entry and lets me adjust before he goes to pound town. Another great aspect of it for me--the after sex cuddling time. The whole intimate experience makes sex better for me.

I’ve had sufficient.

^The worst

It is amazing to read about how many don’t like bottoming yet there are so many bottoms.

I’ve had pleasurable experiences and some not so pleasurable. My ass is tight. I love topping and bottoming. My issue with bottoming is prep. I have to clean and use a dildo to prepare the area. That is exhausting. There is no spontaneity. Some dicks make me feel like I have to urgently piss and I don’t like that.

I love missionary so I can grab the guys ass, back, arms, head and vice versa when I’m topping.

How do you know there are so many bottoms?

Have we ever done a poll? I think it's just DL lore that everyone except Muriel is a bottom.

😥[quote] It is amazing to read about how many don’t like bottoming yet there are so many bottoms.

Many who love and live to bottom are busy bottoming. GTG.

I do enjoy it, but the top has to know what he's doing.

My bottom, my choice.

That sounds very controlling. You need to discuss it with him.

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I lived in the Middle East for a long time and it was always assumed the white guy would be the bottom. I have bottomed for a ton of Arab men and pretty much only did it to keep them happy. The only part I really didn't like is the prep that goes into it.

What does DataLounge mean by “surprise anal”?

It’s Pickle Surprise - but with anal instead of a pickle.

At my age any sex is a surprise.

No, never.

I love it when Daddy molds my boi pussy with his cock...

Only like it with a top who knows what he’s doing. Then it’s pure Heaven.

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