Why do so many straight guys date fat women?

comfy in bed!

They give the best head, and they do it frequently.

Limited options. This is what the incels are saying, that there's not enough women to go around.

I think a lot of the times, they get fat after.

But as R3 said according to MGTOW men, fat women are becoming as demanding and entitled as skinny women because society accepts fat women.

There’s no equivalent to the male Lizzo. Men still need to be close to skinny to be sexually desirable.

Even the “Dad Bod” isn’t even fat, it’s an out of shape body. It’s a skinny guy with a beer gut. Or flab. Not a morbidly obese one.

Define fat OP. Are we talking DL fat? Real World fat? Or, the medical definition of fat?

My guess is if a girl is nice and is giving up regular pussy and takes care of the guy, it doesn't matter if she has a few extra pounds. But, on the other hand, if you read some of the threads on here DLers have impossible standards.

For lazy guys they’re easier to get and to keep. Skinny, hot women are higher maintenance.

I've seen the same thing quite a few times - plump women and slim men. Very strange combo.

I've noticed interracial couples also have an economic element. Black guys with money are with well proportioned white women. Black guys without money are usually with some enormous white slob.

1) As R6 said, they require less work to keep. Perfect for lazy, stoner gamers.

2) They work harder in bed because of insecurity about being fat.

3) The man gets points for being "non-superficial."

4) The man also gets a built-in excuse to cheat and eventually leave. Because who could stay attracted to a fat cow? And oftentimes, women will agree.

Sometimes they've been together for a while and the woman got fat after she had the kids, sometimes he just wants steady pussy and will dump her the minute a more attractive woman pays him any attention, sometimes he has zero value other than his looks and can't get anyone hotter, sometimes it's real love.

Seriously, there are some very hot blue-collar guys who look good but who can't get a woman with much to offer, because they're poor, or unstable, jerks, marginally employable, etc. They may be great for a bit of fun, but nobody with any other options would stay them long-term.

What bizarro world are you all living in? Balding, disgustin, fat schlubs with decent to beautiful wives and girlfriends are everywhere.

[quote]Men still need to be close to skinny to be sexually desirable.

Only to gay men. I think there are only six skinny straight men in all of America.

They think they are safe. And they usually are.

Average Joe straight guys actually like or don't mind an extra ten pounds or so on a woman. The type of straight guy who is going to pinch a woman's waist or bother her about her weight, those guys are in the minority.

Fat people have low self esteem are easier to control and will often do anything to please sexually.

Perhaps you'd like your answer in song form.

Gat guys like to eat, and they like to gobble cock

I live in a blue collar area where a lot of the men are hot because of the workouts they get on their jobs. There are not a lot of thin or healthy weight women around here so it's supply and demand.

Shade in the summer and warmth in the winter.

"There’s no equivalent to the male Lizzo. Men still need to be close to skinny to be sexually desirable."

LOL LOL LOL!!!! It's much easier for men to be fat, because women are valued for their looks and men are valued for what they accomplish. Lizzo isn't considered a sex symbol so I don't know what you're talking about

Plenty of fat guys are with thin women. Look at Trump and his model wives

Most pop out a kid and whale out.

We already have a thread about Honey Boo-Boo.

R8 I think it’s economical cause you see skinny twig broke redneck men with huge enormous women too.

Why do so many closeted gay guys date fat women?

I know some lazy good looking guys and one has a fat ass for a wife. He cheats regularly. He is cute but very boring. Not much personality. The wife was chubby when they got together. She's a bossy type. Its comical.

This is where the perceptions of this board can get warped. Only gay guys are into skinny women.

Because they ain't shallow like the gays

More cushion for the pushin'.

Why, they remind them of bountiful harvests and fertility, of course!

R5 Real world fat.

I've seen a lot more of those types of couples recently and it's so odd to me. Even the super bro-y guys I know from work that go on about female anime characters and actresses, mostly have fat girlfriends.

I haven’t a clue, since I’m in EXCELLENT shape.

And not just for my age, either. I am still hot AF.

R10 nailed it, plus once these guys are married and have kids there's a lot of societal pressure to stay married

A lot of them will cheat on the fat wife either with married women or with women who are just looking for a quick no-strings fuck.

The fat wife puts up with it because she understands she's not going to land anyone else looking like that.

My bitchy snooty closet case 30-something cousin, who I have spoken of here often, married a bossy ugly heifer Frau who manages him at work, and recently even spawned a baby with her.

Not sure why he chose her as a mate specifically, aside from the fact she makes really good money at their company (better than him), but from observing them together I’d say that it’s easier for him to square away creeping a gay second life, knowing he has a wife at home who a) is aware she likely can’t get a better-looking higher-class man (my cousin is lapsed/impoverished UMC and lazy, she’s hardworking LMC), b) wants to be the alpha partner and a securely married Supermom more than she wants a faithful DH who’s straight and crazy about her, and, c) will inadvertently piss off his parents who he’s hated forever in a pass-agg way (they wanted a slim posh pretty and agreeable daughter-in-law).

Weird arrangement, but hey, it works for them, so who am I to condemn or judge. I don’t care, I don’t do it.

More cushion for the pushin'.

I love watching gays try to explain straights.

I's like watching a cat try to play piano.

Most of straight guys are not into skin and bones I guess

Curvy is in. Have you not seen a Kardashian? Most straight men will be ok if a women is overweight but in proportion. It's all about the golden ratio. If you look like a tomato on stilts, perhaps not.

They’re dating their pussy.

Money and/or greencard.

Marilyn Monroe was a sex symbol but Audrey Hepburn was not a sex symbol.

Some men like curves.

There is a big class thing here around weight.

Otherwise, I must ask, why are gay men's hags always overweight? And who else would take them to and dance with them in chic gay bars? Lucky girls.

Hey, I'm gay and I love fat guys.

See "I still love fat fucks".

So I kind of understand those straight guys who like fat girls.

Lavender camouflage.

Actually, the reverse us true. Many fat male slobs married to attractive women us way more common.

r45 not from my observation. I see really hot guys with fat women. Most of the time it is after a couple of kids the women get plump.

Isn’t this question best posed to Shawn Mendes rather than this forum?

Some men don't care as long as they get pussy. Some men go crazy without pussy. Child-bearing hips are a sign of health.

My theory is straight women are not as attracted to slender/skinny men as gay men are. So you might be seeing those men and consider them desirable when they don’t do as well in the market for straight women.

Your observations are biased, r46.

Once a woman pops out a kid, the weight she gains is more often than not permanent.

Why do so many gay incels obsess over this? It sounds like OP is just salty that she can’t get laid.

[quote] I see really hot guys with fat women.

How old are these "really hot guys"? I'm guessing 20s, maybe early 20s. Youth, itself, is "hot." By late 30s, lots of formerly hot men look like Average Joes at Walmart.

Also, how are you describing "fat"? If you could post a photo or name an actress, that would help.

Guys, it's harder for women to stay thin. We can't eat as much as you can without plumping up. I took my daughter and her two buddies to the mall yesterday (hadn't spent much time with them for a year and a half). They wanted Starbucks but said they didn't eat lunch. I wanted to say "good, 'cause the guys on DL say you shouldn't eat lunch AND a frappachino." But I didn't say that. (My daughter is still skinny. She doesn't like Starbucks but does drink too much soda.)

Anyway, women are shorter and we just can't keep up. We get fat easily. Will all the body positivity stuff, it's become normal and okay. Maybe we shouldn't have had all the anti-anorexia stuff in the 80's and 90's. Maybe a touch of anorexia is good for girls. Not really joking here.

Keep dreaming OP.

Sometimes if the guy has a really shitty personality, attractive women won't be into him. He'll have to settle for someone with no options. My cousin is fat and married to someone like this. He's thin, better looking than her and slightly younger. But he's such a shit person, I can't imagine anyone finding him attractive. No one can stand him.

R55

Oh my eyes.

🤢🤮

That lady @ R55 has a BAD yeast infection.

Gross.

Take care of your body, hoes. It’s the only one you’ve got! 1 hour on the treadmill every other day, with weights on the other days, will be enough to keep you light and TIGHT.

[QUOTE] I've noticed interracial couples also have an economic element. Black guys with money are with well proportioned white women. Black guys without money are usually with some enormous white slob.

There’s very few men with money, I don’t care if he’s white, black, brown, red, yellow, purple or polka dotted, who are married to white slobs.

R54, I hope you die so your daughter is raised by a better person than you.

[quote]not from my observation. I see really hot guys with fat women. Most of the time it is after a couple of kids the women get plump.

You really don't understand why you see this? I mean, you really can't figure it out? Moron, you only notice hot guys. Make an effort today to notice all the couples you see and you'll see you are wrong. You're going to see so many disgusting, fat, ugly, unkempt men once you actually look you'll probably turn straight.

Fat chicks are always up for BJ.

most of them were slimmer when they married. but kids will do that to ya.

That old nursery rhyme hold true: Jack Sprat shall eat no fat, his wife should eat no lean, between them both as you can see, have licked their platters clean.

Also in many instances the women are more educated formally than their husbands who largely tend to work in skilled labor positions. In both instances an illusion of stability is present, as they've made 'safe' partnerships.

More bounce to the ounce, more cushion for the pushin'!!!

ALL PRAISE FUPA!!!

Dan Savage talked about this. Lots of young guys find thicker women attractive but go for stick figures in their youth because of social pressure (which is largely self enforced). Once they decide to start fucking who they want to fuck and stop caring what their friends think, they go for what they like.

One major difference ive noticed on apps is that in LA, there are very few guys who list they're into or open to dating/hooking up with chubby guys. A tiny fraction of any other city. Wonder what that's all about. (And chubby can mean 30-50 lbs over ideal weight, which would be like 220lbs on many guys, it doesn't have to be fat enough to need a scooter).

Tits and ass are one thing.

Big old belly is another.

r53 I would say the early 30s, early '40s Most of the guys at my gym are way hot then they come in with their wives and whoa nelly. There is a guy I run into at the local supermarket. He looks every bit a gay porn star, his wife is about 200 - 220 lbs. I just don't get it.

R66 Dan Savage : Those who can not do teach.

Because they’ll degrade themselves in bed. Like Ned Beatty in Deliverance.

Marilyn Monroe had curves.

Hi, I'm the OP. I asked this not out of jealousy, but curiosity. As a gay man, I understand that I have limited options for partners. Straight men have a much bigger pool to chose from, so I don't understand why they wouldn't go for the hottest girl.

Some guys see a huge pair of tits or a big ass and they don't care what the rest of the woman's body looks like. Some guys like to cuddle, and they love cuddling with someone very soft.

My roommate loves obese women and he describes them as "voluptuous".

"I don't understand why they wouldn't go for the hottest girl."

Oh, most straight men will go for the hottest girl, and see the hottest girl walk off with a guy who's hotter, richer, sexier, or just more fun than he is.

Only a tiny minority of human beings are hot, but we tend to overstate their numbers because we pay attention to them and ignore the masses of ordinary-looking people. Which leaves the real hotties in the position of being able to pick and choose, and the rest of us having to settle for someone who isn't part of the sexual 1%.

Those men have low social value. That's the beginning and end of it really.

Sometimes what feels great to the body and hand doesn't "look" great.

[quote]Straight men have a much bigger pool to chose from, so I don't understand why they wouldn't go for the hottest girl.

Do you have any straight friends? Have you ever hung out with any straight people. That is not how it works.

[quote]Some guys see a huge pair of tits or a big ass and they don't care what the rest of the woman's body looks like.

To understand how standards change, a big ass was not something anyone wanted even just 15-20 years ago. These mutants like the Kardashians with their deformed, tumorous asses would have been looked at with disgust in the 1990s and 2000s.

It must be tricky for women after pregnancy. I was looking at photos of a friend on facebook. When he and his wife got married he was kind of chubby and she was smoking hot. He went to drama school and lost a ton of weight there. Now 9 years later and 2 kids he's skinny and good looking and she's kind of plump and looks much older than him.

Blame Eve I guess.

Some financially independent women are no longer attracted to a man's bank account so men use their physical appearance like a male peacock to attract women which explains the popularity of the thin or metrosexual male. Women also feel less physically threatened by a thin man who won't try to overpower them.

[quote] tumorous asses would have been looked at with disgust in the 1990s and 2000s.

In the 90s, this would be an madtv/snl skit.

Also notice the obese woman describing herself as "curvy". In the 90s, that would be laughed at too.

R82, "beached whale" screamed through my mind at one point in that video.

I am an overweight woman but I'm not proud of it and know it's unhealthy. The stick thin thing went way too far but the other end of the spectrum is just as bad. I'm kind of glad men are starting to feel the pressures a little bit. Maybe things will even out now to a normal middle ground where people aren't treated horribly due to being overweight but being too skinny or too fat is seen as something that can be caused by multiple things, many of which can be treated with education and access to healthy, simple food.

R84, I agree with you totally. And men are totally feeling the pressures now. Instagram changed everything.

The blacker the berry the sweeter the juice!

Enjoy "straight guys!"

R83 Beyonce and J. Lo were considered curvy. Same with being “thick”. It was that extra 10 pounds from the normal weight that made the thighs thick and the booty round. It used to mean having a coke bottle frame, now today it’s a teapot. Thick and curvy are nice ways of calling someone fat.

In 2021, to me, fat is someone who is out of shape. Like morbidly obese people are obese. Fat is smaller than obese in my head. Lizzo is obese. Amy Schumer is fat.

Men would rather marry a pretty, chubby woman than an unattractive, thin woman.

Skinny women turn into skeletons after age 50. Chubby women just remain chubby and look younger.

I don't know if it's so cut and dry, but socio-economic factors seem to matter. A straight married white friend of mine from work invited me to a house party where it was all his college dude bro friends and their wives (he's also a dude bro, but we get along what can I say?).

Very frauish 30 year old women, most of whom have very thin featureless bodies. Like teen boy body types. Not a curve in sight. It was weird and it stood out to me. I don't find rail-thin men or women attractive, but I'm also Latino.

Alan Walker, who is a British-Norwegian music producer with a net worth of $15 million, has a pretty but chubby girlfriend.

I get what you’re saying OP, but always keep in mind that the lives of us heterosexuals truly are sick and boring. :)

I’m a 40 year old female; the breeders in my particular social circle started doing so about 15 years ago. The women my age who have had a few kids are nearly all unrecognizable due to weight gain. The divorces tend to start once the kids hit middle school and don’t need constant hovering. Cheating-separation-divorce ensues.

It’s all pretty disappointing as I had formerly assumed my cohort would be less prone these inane patterns.

Many fat women are very good cooks. They may remind men of their mothers especially if mom wasn't thin.

Many straight guys don't like the constant attention hotter women get from other men.

Straight guys often don't get the amount of money and focus hot women spend on shopping, clothes, makeup, beauty treatments.

Couple may have faith/religion, hobbies & past times, values & goals in common so physical appearance isn't #1.

R89 R92 neither one of those women are remotely chubby. Those dudes aren’t hot either. Some of you hav serious mental problems.

[quote]Alan Walker, who is a British-Norwegian music producer with a net worth of $15 million, has a pretty but chubby girlfriend.

She isn’t chubby. GTFO

That's chubby? WTF?!?

Beauty standard keep evolving. And no, the Kardashians didn't invent "big butts are beautiful"

The world used to love fat women.

Correct link

They used to call that zaftig r98.

There's a difference between curvy like Marilyn Monroe and fat. Most straight men do like more meat on the bone, but the waist-hip ratio is important (which is what Jennifer Lopez has naturally and the Kardashians achieve artificially). The question is why hot men settle for apple-shaped, cellulite-ridden, saggy-boobed fatties.

My sister has been with the same man since high school in the late 70s, when she was hot and curvy (not fat), then let herself completely go. Her husband had a brief chubby phase, then got himself in shape. My mom and I used to wonder how hard it must be for him to have gotten together with a hottie, only to spend the rest of his life with a cow. He's decent, loyal, and family-oriented, so I guess he accepted it as a trade-off.

Some of you also don't realize how much easier it is for men to lose weight than it is for women. Fucking biology causes us to hold onto fat in case we get pregnant while fucking society demands thinness beyond what's healthy.

I love threads like this. I imagine most of the overly critical posts come from sad, old, wrinkled fatties who haven’t had a cock since Reagan told Gorby to tear down the Berlin Wall.

In meth land that’s how it goes, skinny husband fat wife.

It's only in the past 10 years or so where the meaning of "curvy" and "thick" has shifted to mean "obese" or "fat". So weird. I read a tweet the other day of some girl describing Lizzo as "thick".

R60, you hope I die? I guess I said some rough stuff about the anorexia. Sorry.

Okay, but really, let's get serious. We're not talking about hot, curvy women like the Kardashians (who or whom I think ARE trashy, but they are also good looking and some of them are smart). That is just an extreme of a body type. Yes, guys like that. (Aside: Is body type just caused by heredity or does what you eat and the way you exercise fit in there anywhere?) I am straight up and down, get apple like when fat. Not ideal for a woman. In college and in my 20's I was 5' 2 1/2" (five two and a half) and around 100 pounds. That was the only way for me to have any kind of shape. There were certainly guys who were not interested, but, looking back, there were a lot of guys who were into me. So either of these body types (skinny straight or Kardashian Kurvy) can get plenty of guys, if they put any effort into their hair and makeup. A guy will probably have a preference between those two, most would choose the skinny with curves, the hourglass.

Fat is a whole different thing. Fat is fat. Fat face. Fat arms. Fat.

R107, pretty much any woman can get "plenty of guys." Even the fat ones. Straight men will fuck anything.

R92 and R89, WTF is with calling those women "chubby"???

They're slim women, just not camera-thin or model-thin.

" (Aside: Is body type just caused by heredity or does what you eat and the way you exercise fit in there anywhere?) "

Body type is totally heredity. Excercise and diet can modify your proportions somewhat if you want to take the trouble, but the only thing that dramatically changes the proportions of your body is plastic surgery.

Like the Kardashians have all had from the eyebrows down to the toes.

For the same reason they buy beanbag chairs

R108 yes yes, of course you're right. You brought me down a peg. But what I was trying to say was that there are plenty of guys who are not adverse to the very skinny body type. It's not the ideal body type for a woman, but it's up there.

Sometimes the woman started off thin but had a couple of kids and the man isn't going to up and leave his family. I'd imagine they do give good head if they are fat when they meet the guy. I've seen this situation and this guy had a fat gf and they were engaged because he did everything for him. But he had a thin woman on the side.

The bigger the cushion, the better the pushin'.

Thanks gay guys. This has been really enlightening.

I work with a lot of younger straight guys and it's "all about the booty" these days. The main problem is, unlike the ideal promoted on social media, big booty girls do not have tiny waists and chiselled features, they're basically fat all over, but do have smaller waists when they;re young. Guys go for these booty types who then hit their late 20s or have kids and balloon right up. But hey, they still "got booty".

All the "My 600-Lb Life" women have men that spend their whole life dealing with them. Buying fast food for them, washing their folds, wiping their butts. Some of them are little redneck runts, some are a bit chubby, but they all seem to be afraid of the big heifer losing weight and leaving them. I don't get it, I don't even think they're able to have sex. Maybe the woman is paying for everything.

Women get fat after they have grabbed a man.

Straight women care for holes only

In what world are the women @ R89 and R92 considered chubby? (And I'm medically underweight, so I'm not a defensive fat whore.)

Agreed R11

Some gay men have a weight fixation where the world is binary anorexic vs. Behemoth.

I think that the hot working class men with fat wives stay married because they couldn’t care less about weight. They’re also strangely submissive. I’ve seen lots of fat bossy wives and longed to comfort their husbands.

By today's standards, not sure I would call that "chubby" R92?

She is very pretty R92 and hardly chubby. Compared to Kim K she is quite svelte.

Exactly how DL'ers see things.

Straight men in general do not like Kardashian fat asses. That's more of a black thing.

R7 Why is that a strange combo? There's an equal amount of fat guys with skinny chicks. If not even more of them. Is that a strange combo too?

R126 "Straight men in general do not like Kardashian fat asses. That's more of a black thing."

So black men don't fall under the umbrella of straight men? You know that OP isn't black and wasn't talking about black couples? Dumbass

r128 is not only incurably stupid by also lacks reading comprehension skills. "Straight men IN GENERAL" idiot.

R129 That doesn't make it any better, you moron.