The online divide between estranged parents and their adult kids
I stumbled onto this website via Reddit. Fascinating study of the perceptions, experiences, and worldviews of each camp. The parents are almost invariably incredulous that their kids want nothing to do with them and see themselves as victims of pop psychology and millennial entitlement.
One unsettling recurring theme in the Reddit groups for estranged children of narcissists and borderlines is parents stalking and threatening their kids after they've cut off contact.
The admin of the most popular estranged-parents forum has built a cottage industry around her falling-out with her son. They never defended themselves until recently, when the DIL did an Ask Me Anything on Reddit and confirmed that, yep, she's nuts.
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | August 20, 2021 8:55 AM
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When my partner's mom called in a false police report/welfare check on him last year, I found the Reddit group on narcissistic parents and discovered that was a common tactic. It was helpful to read but overwhelming.
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | August 19, 2021 5:18 PM
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Dl will side with the estranged parents, watch.
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | August 19, 2021 5:34 PM
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Boomers are entitled, and tried to turn their kids into little obedient validation factories and insurance policies. Oops, looks like it backfired.
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | August 19, 2021 7:56 PM
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Sometimes it's the parent who stops contact. Technically, my son and I are estranged and have been for over a year.
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | August 19, 2021 7:59 PM
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R5 told us he was hardcore!
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | August 19, 2021 8:58 PM
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This is adjacent, but online (even more so than in real life I feel), everyone knows a narcissist: a parent, ex, former friend, or sibling.
No one ever IS that narcissistic parent, ex, former friend, or sibling.
Funny how that math figures.
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | August 19, 2021 9:04 PM
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Elizabeth Vagnoni is the woman who runs the forum. She wrote a book about her sons cutting her off and then parlayed it into minor internet fame with nary a word about why they did it. Her first article mentioned one of them seeing an email on her computer that he took exception to, but that was all we ever heard.
She bans anyone who dares to ask.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | August 19, 2021 10:02 PM
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Its complicated. Sometimes people will treat those close to them like dirt for years then act surprised when they are ignored by that person. On the other hand I have seen some individuals who will quickly drop family members over petty nonsense ( ie spouse dislikes family member, embarrassment over coming from a poor family). It's not that common but its not that rare either. The latter seems to be a bit more common in heterosexual men, though not exclusively. Without knowing the people involved it's difficult to judge.
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | August 19, 2021 10:06 PM
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Toxic parenthood is a reality, and a growing problem.
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | August 19, 2021 10:06 PM
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Imagine when all the kids of these social media mommies come of age
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | August 19, 2021 11:51 PM
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As with all things internet, you are only hearing one side.
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | August 19, 2021 11:54 PM
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You know that if they could the Boomers would have done the same to their folks.
My mother is counting the days until her narcissistic emotionally-manipulative two-faced mother dies (in her late 80s and in good health, so it’s taking a while...), but thanks to societal pressure on women from shitty 80s feminism + Catholic guilt she forces herself to feel the opposite.
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | August 20, 2021 8:55 AM
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