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Finding friends after 40 or 50

The unpartnered after 40 thread made me think about this.

We've moved a few times and I'm just finding it really challenging to find ways to make new friends.

I don't go to bars much and it seems like when we meet other gay men or gay couples, one or both want to fuck one or both of us.

We have some hobbies and have met a few people in our neighborhood, but it seems like we're missing out on the kind of event or thing that bonds people together in HS or college.

Just not sure what to do.

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by Anonymousreply 4Last Thursday at 8:06 AM

I’ve met most out in bars when I go by myself. Just like your 20s. But I get that in many cities, middle aged gay men don’t go out to bars or feel self conscious. We have lots of bars where there are middle aged men who are social.

by Anonymousreply 1Last Wednesday at 11:15 AM

Being 40 and long time partnered I too have found it difficult to make new gay friends. I have made some new straight friends through work and hobbies. We don’t like to go to bars and meeting gay couples where all four of us get along great isn’t easy. I’ve known all my close gay friends since my twenties.

by Anonymousreply 2Last Thursday at 5:23 AM

[quote] We don’t like to go to bars and meeting gay couples where all four of us get along great isn’t easy. I’ve known all my close gay friends since my twenties

this right here

by Anonymousreply 3Last Thursday at 5:52 AM

My hubby and I (Trans) have the same problem. We live in our home for work and our friends are in other cities. The str8s our age are all raising kids, and there isn’t a lot of gay stuff/elder gay stuff in our area.

by Anonymousreply 4Last Thursday at 8:06 AM
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