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My partner of 25 years asked me if I knew who Sally Bowles is.

I said I have no idea. He replied "You are disgrace to queers everywhere!"

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by Post Gayreply 84July 24, 2021 4:07 PM

Is he hot

by Post Gayreply 1July 21, 2021 12:38 PM

Both things can be true.

by Post Gayreply 2July 21, 2021 12:39 PM

It's not your fault that you were not well educated, OP.

After 25 years, your partner should have known that.

by Post Gayreply 3July 21, 2021 12:42 PM

You are! Hand back your gay card.

by Post Gayreply 4July 21, 2021 12:45 PM

Next you'll be telling us you have no ideas about who should play Phyllis in the movie of Follies, OP.

Dear God, you might as well join a fraternity.

by Post Gayreply 5July 21, 2021 12:51 PM

Maybe this time...

by Post Gayreply 6July 21, 2021 12:59 PM

So who is Sally Bowles? Who is Phyllis? What are Follies? A movie about what?

by Post Gayreply 7July 21, 2021 1:33 PM

Forgive him. Gays only need to know about Follies and Sondheim.

by Post Gayreply 8July 21, 2021 1:38 PM

And ass.

by Post Gayreply 9July 21, 2021 1:41 PM

Perhaps tomorrow will not belong to you in regards to your relationship continuing.

by Post Gayreply 10July 21, 2021 1:53 PM

Mein herr!!!!

by Post Gayreply 11July 21, 2021 1:55 PM

Even if you care nothing for Fosse, Liza and Halston(!), surely Isherwood’s “The Berlin Stories” should be on the mandatory syllabus for every young gayling?

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by Post Gayreply 12July 21, 2021 9:57 PM

Geez OP, you are a disgrace to humanity!

by Post Gayreply 13July 21, 2021 10:20 PM

[quote]He replied "You are disgrace to queers everywhere!"

In fairness, I think he's talking about how rotten you are at sucking cock.

by Post Gayreply 14July 21, 2021 11:01 PM

If I were him, you would not make it to 26 years. The HORROR!

by Post Gayreply 15July 21, 2021 11:05 PM

Obviously, life isn't a cabaret for OP.

by Post Gayreply 16July 21, 2021 11:35 PM

Who ish Shally Bowlesh?

by Post Gayreply 17July 22, 2021 12:06 AM

Lady Peaceful..Lady Happy....

by Post Gayreply 18July 22, 2021 12:36 AM

I agree it’s disgraceful someone your age doesn’t know about salad bowls!

by Post Gayreply 19July 22, 2021 12:48 AM

[quote] "Is he hot"

If he was already eighteen years old twenty-five years ago, my guess is no.

by Post Gayreply 20July 22, 2021 12:58 AM

Liza Minnelli as Sally Bowles.

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by Post Gayreply 21July 22, 2021 1:01 AM

He's really referring to "Sally Bowls," a movie in which the late, great burlesque queen, Sally Rand, demonstrates her extraordinary takent to fan dance and pick up a spare at the same time. Bravo!

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by Post Gayreply 22July 22, 2021 1:12 AM

Seriously OP I am disgusted for you. Disgusted I say.

You DO know who played Sally in the movie?!?!

by Post Gayreply 23July 22, 2021 1:58 AM

I’m not old enough to have seen Jill Haworth, but if you’re not familiar with Natasha Richardson’s ASTONISHING performance, even if only vis a vis the cast recording, then you truly are a sorry excuse for a gay man.

I particularly loved the way she performed the dialogue leading up to “Perfectly Marvelous,” starting with, “I think people are people, I really do, Cliff. Don’t you? I don’t think people should have to explain anything…” Every syllable was inspired.

Not knowing Henry, Sweet Henry or I Had a Ball would be bad enough, but this is a simply going too far.

by Post Gayreply 24July 22, 2021 2:18 AM

I'm embarrassed for you, R23. You obviously have no inkling that Julie Harris played Sally Bowles twice before Liza Minnelli got a turn. On Broadway in 1951. And on film in 1955.

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by Post Gayreply 25July 22, 2021 2:23 AM

The other remarkable thing is he is obviously ignorant of “I Am A Camera” as well.

by Post Gayreply 26July 22, 2021 2:59 AM

it's gonna happen. Happen sometime. Maybe this time I'll win...

by Post Gayreply 27July 22, 2021 3:01 AM

R25 I’m sorry but…there is only LIZA.

by Post Gayreply 28July 22, 2021 4:40 AM

For poor OP.

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by Post Gayreply 29July 22, 2021 4:43 AM

Are you still together?

The youngest you can be is 43. I'm only a few years older.

I was in theatre, so, of course, I knew. But, in the 1990s and early 2000s, cabaret had a big resurgence on stage and big-named celebrities had a revolving door hopping into the role.

I mean, you have to have had actively avoided pop culture or not been into movies to not know. Are you not American? Honestly, what Gen-X-er gay doesn't know Cabaret?

by Post Gayreply 30July 22, 2021 4:45 AM

OP, was this the sample of your creative writing you sent in to one of those correspondence courses in the 1970s? Because if not, your partner is dumber than an autistic box of rocks that just downed a fifth of voddie to wash down a handful of Mandrax. for sticking with you for 25 years. If ever DL had a Prayer Circle, this would be the perfect opportunity to create one.

by Post Gayreply 31July 22, 2021 4:57 AM

R26 and I no Leica you, OP.

Oh dear, I suppose OP doesn't know what a Leica is either.

by Post Gayreply 32July 22, 2021 11:55 AM

Sally Bowles , Sally Fields what’s the difference?

by Post Gayreply 33July 22, 2021 12:00 PM

Sally wasn't so great. If she were, her name would be the title of the movie like Sophie, Norma, Erin, etc.

by Post Gayreply 34July 22, 2021 12:11 PM

R34 Sally made choices! Sally spoke (or sang) of a living wage in her own manner! Sally would have went out and had that water brought in special for you folks, as long as it was German spring water!

by Post Gayreply 35July 22, 2021 12:19 PM

Were there vicious face slaps? If not, call me the next time

by Post Gayreply 36July 22, 2021 12:27 PM


by Post Gayreply 37July 22, 2021 12:28 PM

For the record, I am older than most on DL.

When I came out, I went to a gay bar in Studio City. I got rejected because of my age.

Since then, I want little to do with the gay culture.

by Post Gayreply 38July 22, 2021 12:29 PM

[quote]Sally would have went out

Oh, dear.

by Post Gayreply 39July 22, 2021 12:30 PM

You’re gay, not an encyclopedia. If that name hasn’t come up in 25 years, there is a reason for it. That reason is likely because they are irrelevant to your interests. Apparently your partner hasn’t bought it up sooner either.

by Post Gayreply 40July 22, 2021 12:30 PM

R39 Erin wasn’t very articulate or good at grammar either!

by Post Gayreply 41July 22, 2021 12:32 PM

Don't worry about it, OP.

Thanks to social media, 500 channels from which to choose (if you still have Cable), any streaming platform, Sirius radio, we no longer have common reference points when it comes to popular or middle brow culture.

While Christopher Isherwood's "Berlin Stories" are good, I'm not sure they fall into the category classic literature.

I had no idea who Lil'Nas (spelling?) was or that gay guy who wears dresses to Awards events.

I did know who Carl Nassib was when he came out. I follow the NFL, and I noticed his tight butt when he was a rookie...then again I know a great many athletes by name -- gay or straight -- because they have tight butts!

by Post Gayreply 42July 22, 2021 12:33 PM

I'm sorry to say this, OP, but....you and your partner DO know each other? Are acquainted?

by Post Gayreply 43July 22, 2021 12:35 PM

[quote] ...because they have tight butts

When I realized that I was gay at 50+ .. I suddenly remembered being infatuated with my friend Eddie's ass from the showers in 9th grade PE class. It was perfect..

Football uniforms are so distracting.

Thanks, BonniePrinceCharlie

by Post Gayreply 44July 22, 2021 12:53 PM

“Eddie my love, I love your ass so, so, so!”

by Post Gayreply 45July 22, 2021 12:56 PM

Maybe OP isn't Amercian. Most countries have their own gay icons. I'm sure many DLers never heard of people like Leslie Cheung, Jolin Tsai, Raffaella Carrà or Googoosh.

by Post Gayreply 46July 22, 2021 1:12 PM

... and yet you are willing to come to this public forum and crow about your ignorance?

by Post Gayreply 47July 22, 2021 1:21 PM

The 'real' Sally Bowles

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by Post Gayreply 48July 22, 2021 1:22 PM

The Wikipedia article has a picture of the actual woman Sally was based on. It also quotes Isherwood's introduction to her in the novel, which is very DL:

[quote]"A few minutes later, Sally herself arrived. 'Am I terribly late, Fritz darling?'.... Sally laughed. She was dressed in black silk, with a small cape over her shoulders and a little cap like a page-boy's stuck jauntily on one side of her head.... I noticed that her finger-nails were painted emerald green, a colour unfortunately chosen, for it called attention to her hands, which were much stained by cigarette smoking and as dirty as a little girl's. She was dark.... Her face was long and thin, powdered dead white. She had very large brown eyes which should have been darker, to match her hair and the pencil she used for her eyebrows."

In other words, at first sight her gay-bestie-to-be is already wanting to give her a makeover.

by Post Gayreply 49July 22, 2021 2:06 PM

[quote] Maybe OP isn't Amercian....

Sorry!. Part of my family rode over on the Mayflower, landing on 12/8/1620.

by Post Gayreply 50July 22, 2021 2:22 PM

Watch Cabaret op it’s an amazing movie

by Post Gayreply 51July 22, 2021 2:27 PM

[quote] He replied "You are disgrace to queers everywhere!"

Is English his second language?

by Post Gayreply 52July 22, 2021 2:33 PM

He should move out.

If he needs a place I have a girlfriend known as Elsie. They could share four sordid rooms in Chelsea

by Post Gayreply 53July 22, 2021 2:39 PM

R50 Were they rowing behind the Mayflower OP? Kind of like the short bus? November 11, 1620 After more than two months (66 days) at sea, the Pilgrims finally arrived at Cape Cod on November 11, 1620.

by Post Gayreply 54July 22, 2021 3:42 PM

Even the name "Follies" sounds ridiculous.

by Post Gayreply 55July 22, 2021 3:46 PM

come on you didn't watch Schitts Creek where Moira put on CAB R REY? and Stevie played Sally?

by Post Gayreply 56July 22, 2021 3:46 PM

[quote] ..Were they rowing behind the Mayflower OP?...November 11, 1620...

Guess we were both wrong, R54

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by Post Gayreply 57July 22, 2021 3:51 PM

Years ago at a party, my then partner (who was nine years my junior) said he'd never heard of Liza Minnelli until he met me. Someone yelled "Kill him now!"

by Post Gayreply 58July 22, 2021 4:31 PM

R30 I’m gay gen-x and while I know that Cabaret is a thing, I’ve never watched it, don’t know anything about it, not esp interested, etc. It falls into the category of “things I can’t muster the energy to be interested in” with other stuff like sportsball. So I think it’s possible to be of an age but not know anything about the details of Cabaret. I clicked on this post too see why I’m a failed fairy, lol,

by Post Gayreply 59July 22, 2021 4:33 PM

[quote] My partner of 25 years asked me if I knew who Sally Bowles is. I said I have no idea. He replied "You are disgrace to queers everywhere!"

This is why you get that [italic]ring on your finger.[/italic].

If you were in a position to say, “Talk to a lawyer about it,” you’d have something. But as it is you’ll just be cast into the street.

by Post Gayreply 60July 22, 2021 4:36 PM

I dated a guy a few years ago who'd never heard of Cabaret. I showed him the movie. He loved it. End of story.

Sometimes, people just need to be exposed to these things.

by Post Gayreply 61July 22, 2021 5:19 PM

Had Sally made her way back to Chelsea by this point?

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by Post Gayreply 62July 22, 2021 5:57 PM

[quote]r25 You obviously have no inkling that Julie Harris played Sally Bowles twice before Liza Minnelli got a turn. On Broadway in 1951. And on film in 1955.

All previous Sally Bowles were blown from memory by Our Miss Brooke’s scintillating interpretation in 2001.

Brooke is a star of TODAY. So there is no excuse for not knowing who Sally Bowles is.

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by Post Gayreply 63July 22, 2021 8:26 PM

It’s truly sad that there are some gay men who think Cabaret starts and ends with the movie when true fans of the theater and Kander & Ebb should be appalled that the score was hacked to bits and the heart of the show (Fraulein Schneider and Herr Schultz) were ripped out of the story.

The movie as a vehicle for Liza is fine, but aside from K&E, the debate with Cabaret should be between Hal Prince and Sam Mendes. Do you miss Why Should I Wake Up? and Meeskite in the revival? Do we need the back-to-back Don’t Tell Mama AND Mein Herr from the film inserted into all new versions (yes!). Which version of The Money Song/Money is better? Is What Would You Do? the most underrated song in the show?

As completely brilliant as Prince’s original staging was, is this a rare case of the revival/revisal improving upon the OG model?

by Post Gayreply 64July 23, 2021 12:59 AM

The movie of Cabaret is like a rapier going through the original musical - and a very good thing. He removed the heart of the show because the Weimar Republic didn't have a heart.

by Post Gayreply 65July 23, 2021 2:28 AM

Weimar Republic? It is Herr Schultz and his doomed love for Fraulein Schneider that is the heart of the show. His act of bringing her a pineapple is the heart of the show and when she turns his back on him to save herself is what rips our hearts out.

The stage show never argues that the Weimar Republic had a heart. Far from it. Schneider thinks only with her head to stay alive. Schultz acts on his emotions and pays the price.

Sally and Cliff are fun and flashy, but a great Herr Schultz makes or breaks the show.

by Post Gayreply 66July 23, 2021 12:09 PM

Actually R48, this is the real Sally Bowles.

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by Post Gayreply 67July 23, 2021 1:23 PM

You've led a sheltered life...you need to get out more. What good is sitting alone in your room?

by Post Gayreply 68July 23, 2021 3:25 PM

You don't need to know all that faggoty stuff be a gay man. Who decided about all this gay stuff anyway?

by Post Gayreply 69July 23, 2021 5:20 PM

Herr Issyvoo decided.

by Post Gayreply 70July 23, 2021 6:59 PM

[quote]Sometimes, people just need to be exposed to these things.

Keep it zipped, buddy--no one needs to be exposed to your "thing."

by Post Gayreply 71July 23, 2021 7:13 PM

R59, same. I had to look up Sally Bowles. Cabaret is one of those movies I've meant to watch for about 20 years now; just have not gotten around to it [yet].

Not knowing about Grey Gardens and Big & Little Edie is another gay cultural milestone I need to eventually tackle at some point.

by Post Gayreply 72July 23, 2021 7:18 PM

The movie of Cabaret is really quite good. It's well worth watching.

by Post Gayreply 73July 23, 2021 7:52 PM

Yes Darling, you linked to the same wiki page R67

by Post Gayreply 74July 23, 2021 9:16 PM

I just realized Joel Grey probably isn’t gey.

by Post Gayreply 75July 24, 2021 1:31 AM

Does he know Fraulien Maria is OP?

by Post Gayreply 76July 24, 2021 1:34 AM

I think it's either very sweet or very sad that after 25 years, your partner doesn't know you that well.

by Post Gayreply 77July 24, 2021 3:05 AM

[quote]R75 I just realized Joel Grey probably isn’t gey.

My friend knows the (tiresome) author who wrote the novel WICKED. She brought her handsome husband backstage, and Grey was relentlessly flirting with him.

An animal!

by Post Gayreply 78July 24, 2021 5:00 AM

[quote]Yes Darling, you linked to the same wiki page.

Not really!

by Post Gayreply 79July 24, 2021 11:19 AM

Sally Durant Plummer is the only Sally you need to know. If you don't know who she is grab your pooch and jump off a building.

by Post Gayreply 80July 24, 2021 11:49 AM

Excuse me. Sally Rogers???


by Post Gayreply 81July 24, 2021 12:20 PM

Gives a new meaning to the pineapple song.

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by Post Gayreply 82July 24, 2021 12:42 PM

There really needs to be a gay cultural quiz one can administer on potential boyfriends to see if they meet the criteria and worth dating.

by Post Gayreply 83July 24, 2021 12:49 PM

R78 OK, well that makes sense!

by Post Gayreply 84July 24, 2021 4:07 PM
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