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Does skin suddenly dry up at 40 or something?

I’m almost 40 and have always had oily skin. The past few months though, my skin and my lips are just totally dry. For the first time in my life I have to use moisturizer 🧴 and I have to keep up with it too. I also have to keep reapplying chapstick. And I live somewhere that is humid and it’s still like this, so I can only imagine how dry my skin will be in the winter.

Is this normal as you approach 40? What other bullshit do I have to look forward to?

by Anonymousreply 50July 23, 2021 5:50 AM

Are you drinking enough water?

I once took a vacation where it was very hot. After a week of sweating and a very long plane ride home I woke up the next day with my stomach distended like it was about to burst and terrible pains in my back.

I went to urgent care. The first thing the doctor did was feel my forehead and she said you are very dehydrated. She could tell just by the touch of the skin.

by Anonymousreply 1July 21, 2021 6:04 AM

Yes, it's normal OP. Amlactin and Olay Regenerist are your drugstore friends.

by Anonymousreply 2July 21, 2021 6:05 AM

Fucking hell, wait until you are 50 or something. My friends made fun of me for how much I paid attention to moisturizing. Classic fag. Mary! Whatever.

I look as bad as those bitches who did nothing. Cunts. That said, happy we are here...(54)

ANYWAY, do something. It won't hurt (olive oil has given me some hope) but it really does, in my experience, boil down to genes-and to be blunt, most of us don't have "those" genes.

by Anonymousreply 3July 21, 2021 6:18 AM

R1 I drink water all the time, but also drink coffee and soda, so I don’t know if the caffeine is doing something.

R2 I’ve been using Cera’Ve Face Lotion 🧴 and it’s OK, but I will try your suggestions when the bottle I have runs out.

R3 I needed a laugh!

by Anonymousreply 4July 21, 2021 6:30 AM

My anti-aging advice? Stay away from magnifying mirrors. You'll be much happier.

by Anonymousreply 5July 21, 2021 6:37 AM

R5 I do!

by Anonymousreply 6July 21, 2021 6:43 AM

And stay out of the sun.

by Anonymousreply 7July 21, 2021 6:47 AM

R7 I do that too.

by Anonymousreply 8July 21, 2021 6:49 AM

I don't know, OP. I'm 40, but have been using a moisturizer w/ SPF and one without before bed. Gay 101 - alway, always use a good moisturizer from an early age. Drink a few glasses of water when you wake up, don't drink alcohol for than a few times a month, and make sure to get a semen injection 2-3 times a month either orally or anally to keep your testosterone up. Outside semen contains testosterone that build collagen in the skin and lubricates your joints. It's why some men and women age prematurely.

by Anonymousreply 9July 21, 2021 6:49 AM

My lips started 'changing' in my late 30's and of course, I feel as though I drink a ton of water already, but I'm sure I need more.

Strangely, the one product that seems to help me is Aquaphor. Not Vaseline, or any natural emollients such as coconut oil (I've tried all of that).

I hate the fact that we lose so much moisture as we age, but it's strange because the skin on my face is still alright, but my lips really feel the effects of aging. Lips are a delicate area, and are prone to being rather exposed (sometimes I'm actually thankful for masks).

By any chance, are you on new medication? Sometimes that will be a side effect-

by Anonymousreply 10July 21, 2021 7:05 AM

Kiehls Facial Fuel - It's cheap, it works, and it feels good on your skin. Get the avocado eye cream to avoid crows feet if you are feeling adventurous.

You are welcome.

by Anonymousreply 11July 21, 2021 7:14 AM

[quote]make sure to get a semen injection 2-3 times a month either orally or anally to keep your testosterone up. Outside semen contains testosterone that build collagen in the skin and lubricates your joints. It's why some men and women age prematurely.

Well maybe that’s my problem right there.

by Anonymousreply 12July 21, 2021 7:25 AM

R10 I’ll have to try Aquaphor lip balm since I never have. Worth a shot. And nope, no new medications recently.

by Anonymousreply 13July 21, 2021 7:28 AM

R11 I’ve been looking for a new face mask so I’ll try it.

by Anonymousreply 14July 21, 2021 7:28 AM

For lips, I like the Palmer's cocoa butter stick. It's very creamy and soothing.

by Anonymousreply 15July 21, 2021 7:56 AM

[quote]make sure to get a semen injection 2-3 times a month either orally or anally to keep your testosterone up. Outside semen contains testosterone that build collagen in the skin and lubricates your joints. It's why some men and women age prematurely.

And, since you've definitely got firsthand knowledge, what happens when you're full of shit?

by Anonymousreply 16July 21, 2021 8:44 AM

As a pasty white person of Celtic extraction, with rosacea and cavernous pores and flakes and milia and even some lines altead, of course this is happening to me and I only just turned 29💔I don’t even drink or smoke is the sad thing, but I look like I do.

OP idk your skin type, but estheticians say that many products for moisturising will not really work to improve skin, due to being oils and creams that sit on the skin and give ersatz glow rather actually hydrating. Many of us with dehydrated skin really need facial products that are water-based and seal with a lipid, like toners and gel serums with binding polymers. Or at least that’s what I’m hearing (can anyone recommend such products?)

by Anonymousreply 17July 21, 2021 9:19 AM

I'm 34 and have oily skin. I struggle with adult acne. Woke up with another zit yesterday.

by Anonymousreply 18July 21, 2021 9:21 AM

You didn’t start moisturizing until 40??? Good luck with your soon to be prune-like face!

by Anonymousreply 19July 21, 2021 9:52 AM

Anyone know of good plastic-free organic hyaluronic/niacimide moisturiser?

by Anonymousreply 20July 21, 2021 9:51 PM

I recommend Naturopathica (not sure if that fits your description R20); their products used at spas and while it's not cheap, you don't need to use as much & the products for dry/sensitive skin are well worth the $$, particularly the moisturizers

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by Anonymousreply 21July 21, 2021 10:10 PM

Honey, everything dries up after 40.....

Focus on inner beauty.

by Anonymousreply 22July 21, 2021 10:17 PM

[quote]I'm 34 and have oily skin. I struggle with adult acne. Woke up with another zit yesterday.

Mine was oily too at 34 - now it’s dry at 40. So just wait.

by Anonymousreply 23July 21, 2021 10:18 PM

Just this ...

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by Anonymousreply 24July 21, 2021 10:55 PM

Why did you post that picture of Angelina Jolie, R24?

by Anonymousreply 25July 21, 2021 11:22 PM

I was just listening to podcast on this very subject. A dermatologist was taking about how common it is for people as they get older to have itchy dry skin. She said to think of the skin cells as the brick, and ceramide, the lipid fatty molecules in between the skin cells, as the mortar. We lose ceramide as we age and thus get the itchy, dry skin. Use moisturizers with ceramides to replace it, Cerave comes to mind. Moisturize twice a day, and especially right after bathing, when your skin is still moist. Moisturizers threat come in a jar have less alcohol than pump moisturizers, alcohol being more drying. Aqua Phor is a very good moisturizer as well.

by Anonymousreply 26July 22, 2021 12:06 AM

I have very oily skin - to this day and I am 55. I have few wrinkles thanks to that and having used Retin A since I was 15.

by Anonymousreply 27July 22, 2021 12:37 AM

OP do you consume good fats in your diet? Have you been tested for any deficiencies? Start taking fish oil, and possibly add some saturated fats to your diet if you're eschewing them. I'm still oily in my fifties. I have never avoided fats however. Not bragging, but I still battle with occasional breakouts.

I'm curious what exactly your diet is, as you said you were oily before. Having the Testosterone checked is good advice as well. Are you losing leg hair? Is your beard growth slowed? Are you feeling more emotional than usual? All pertinent questions to ask yourself.

by Anonymousreply 28July 22, 2021 1:50 AM

40 is the do or die if you want to look barely 29. If you've been fit, moisturized, avoided the sun, and don't have major life stresses, you should still look good. If you are 40, overweight, poor nutrition, bad labs (cholesterol, etc), no skin care regime, it's now or never. You can change things around but if you wait any longer there is no going back.

Did you like my semen injection suggestion? Personally, I do think it's legit. We all need semen either coming or going to feel good and keep that youthful glow. Orally or anally, it's all good. As for my source? A really good porn where the MD tells twinks they need semen injections to get their libidos back. It/s really hot!

by Anonymousreply 29July 22, 2021 2:17 AM

I'm sure this won't be the case OP but just wanted to add to the other responses - being pre-diabetic can make massive changes to the skin on your face causing very dry skin issues. If you are predisposed to Type 2 diabetes then be aware that this could be a warning sign. If you are then get tested.

by Anonymousreply 30July 22, 2021 2:28 AM

I want some dryness so I can exfoliate the skin and wrinkles away.

by Anonymousreply 31July 22, 2021 3:00 AM

I know that dude upthread is trolling about semen injections. BUT start tracking your hormones levels. There are plenty of online clinics, some better than others. But at least baseline your hormone levels at 40 before they really drop and then you can optimize in the future.

by Anonymousreply 32July 22, 2021 3:14 AM

[quote] What other bullshit do I have to look forward to?


by Anonymousreply 33July 22, 2021 3:45 AM

Suggestions for vaginal dryness? Douching doesn't help!

by Anonymousreply 34July 22, 2021 5:02 AM

R32 How do I do that and what am I supposed to do when I find out what they are?

by Anonymousreply 35July 22, 2021 6:36 AM

OP - I'm the troll talking about the semen injections and I got the stupid idea from a porn I saw the other day where the MD prescribes semen injections to boost testosterone on twinks. It's pretty hot. There is no scientific proof but in all realness, I don't think they can hurt either. You can get them from your local Scruff, Grindr, or rent boy. I just had one today.

by Anonymousreply 36July 22, 2021 6:49 AM

Use micellar water to wash your face, it's less drying.

Follow-up with a good toner like Thayer's witch hazel and aloe vera.

Then apply some Vitamin A serum and Vitamin C serum to the area.

Then slather on some Kiehls Ultra Facial Cream. I found you can use it all over and it works great for me.

Next work some Lancome Rénergie Lift Multi-Action Eye Cream around the eyes to avoid crows feet, dark circles, and wrinkles around the eyes.

Switch it up with Creme de la Mer from time to time.

Finally, breathe bitch because after this you gonna look handsome as fuck!

by Anonymousreply 37July 22, 2021 7:04 AM

I love this moisturizer!

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by Anonymousreply 38July 22, 2021 7:19 AM

Nuetrogena has had some recalls very recently. Do a quick search to make sure your product is not on the list.

by Anonymousreply 39July 22, 2021 7:23 AM

R37 witch-hazel is a dehydrating astringent unsuitable for toning. It will just parch and stress your skin the fuck out, and potentially cause irritation.

The misinformation all over this thread is staggering. Isn’t there posting anyone here who actually trained in dermatology or clinical beauty?

by Anonymousreply 40July 22, 2021 9:55 AM

I use Amlactin Rapid Release. It is the only lotion I have tried that really works and exfoliates as well. I have Icthyosis and no one knows since I exfoliate so much.

by Anonymousreply 41July 22, 2021 10:20 AM

I meant to type Amlactin rapid relief.

by Anonymousreply 42July 22, 2021 10:22 AM

Today I need to book in to a private dermatologist to get a nail mark looked at. I was thinking about getting an appointment to look at my face at the same time—mainly dry skin/rosacea/flakes/acne scars and blood spots. What is the best and most comprehensive checkup to go for, price wise? I can’t really afford to get much heavy treatment or follow-up.

by Anonymousreply 43July 22, 2021 2:23 PM

Are you talking about your face or body or both?

Google Caroline Hirons, she gives great advice - the best thing I took from her is to use non foaming cleanser and to not wet face before applying. I use the Cerave Hydrating Cleanser and I love it - was a little hesitant at first because I’ve tried the Cetaphil cleanser that all the dermatologists recommend and didn’t like the film it left behind but the Cerave doesn’t do that at all, I love it. Coming of age In the era of Apricot Scrubs, I’d been conditioned to want the harsh squeaky clean but all I was doing was stripping my face of moisture.

Try a hyaluronic acid serum before moisturizer, it is supposed to be very hydrating and you don’t have to spend a lot, I’m pretty sure Cerave makes one (I don’t work for them, honest! I just think they are a good brand.)

Also, don’t wash your face with hot or very warm water.

Ps: r40 Yes, most witch hazel is drying but there are some that are alcohol free - Thayers makes one:

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by Anonymousreply 44July 22, 2021 10:20 PM

Thank you R44! The other person who freaked out when mentioned witch hazel didn't fucking read the fact I said Thayer's since it has no alcohol.

by Anonymousreply 45July 23, 2021 4:55 AM

I'm 40 and my skin is still oily. I use a tea tree oil cleanser and The Ordinary's Marula Oil, sunscreen when I need it.

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by Anonymousreply 46July 23, 2021 5:00 AM

All gay men over the age of 40 should be showering using a moisturizing soap - like Dove or Oil of Olay. Lukewarm showers to mildly warm showers are better than hot showers.

PS Wait until you hit 60 and you start to notice the little divots in your skin - when you are looking at what is soon to become your grandmother's crepey skin.

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by Anonymousreply 47July 23, 2021 5:11 AM

As you can see from this thread, everyone's skin is very different and what is good for the goose is not necessarily good for the gander. Get the best products you can afford and that work with your skin. Expensive isn't necessarily better, but usually is. The more natural and less drying, typically the better.

by Anonymousreply 48July 23, 2021 5:31 AM

A sensible piece of advice I once read from a dermatologist was that you're better of getting something cheaper because then you won't be afraid to apply it liberally and frequently and that's the most important thing. The tendency is with something expensive you're afraid to use more than tiny dabs.

by Anonymousreply 49July 23, 2021 5:43 AM

Yes, but you should test everything in dabs to make sure you aren't allergic or have a reaction. Less is usually more with good products.

by Anonymousreply 50July 23, 2021 5:50 AM
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