The term "gaslighting" is now used by idiots who've no idea what it means

Good morning, Daffodilllls!

I don't want to gaslight you, OP, but the video doesn't seem to match the caption.

You've merely misplaced, the captions, Paula at r2.

Here, I'll put them in your bag for you.....

You're SO forgetful, Paula!

Ingrid was gorgeous in it.

The original Ingenue, r5

The profile shots at the beginning, the way they are lit, what isn't lit. So good. (around 2:00)

Was this an early Hitchcock?

R6 excuse me????

Lady Hollywood! How we could have possibly forgot YOU is passing all understanding.

Not Hitchcock, Cukor.

True, dear, you are older than I.

Cukor had dark corners then.

Interesting.

Angela Lansbury in an early role. And my personal passion, Joseph Cotten.

Darling, since you decided to claim 29 until you were beyond dead, we're ALL "older" than you.

Paulaahhh

I hope you are not beginning to imagine things again, Paulahh....

I recommend serious Dataloungers to look into the works of heterosexual Patrick Hamilton.

He did Gaslight and the gayish Rope. He did the dark, moody and despairing 'Hangover Square' (which is NOTHING like the abortion of a film made from it) which displays his alcoholic obsession for an unattainable woman—

Lady Angela Lansbury you WHORRRRRE!!!!!

Tell more, r17.

How did you discover him?

[quote] How did you discover him?

I looked at Google then Wiki and then visited a lending library.

So many 20th century stories have been based on this one story.

I was gaslit before all y'all. Before it was trendy and before I knew there was a name for it. But I knew it wasn't good. If someone is telling you that what's happening doesn't jive with your perception, trust yourself and your own reality. And get the fuck out.

[quote] I … I … I

Who are you, R22? Should we know about you?

I am old and wise, and am worth knowing.

The term 'Gaslight' is misused - liberally - on social media, but is also denigrated by members of the same, as seen at r24

Gaslighting these days means 'Disagrees with me' or 'Doesn't give me everything I want or job I apply for, and publish everything I write' and DOESN'T ASK ME HOW I AM!

Well, yes, r26. That's rather the point of the thread.

I love you madly, though, for realising it.

Remember, Ma, Blanche saw you put your car keys in the refrigerator and the eggs in your purse.

R26 Unfortunately, there are so many of them that they are going to make their incorrect definition of it and use of it stick and become the norm, as in "I don't care what it means! It should mean this, therefore it does."

Its cousin "narcissist" is also overused. Far more people are narcissistic ... or just shitty or unlikable or self-centered ... than are actual, card-carrying narcissists.

"Gaslighting" is now used quite wrongly

R30 And "sociopath."

[quote] Joseph Cotten.

I've never been partial to him.

He wasn't particularly good looking and he carried the taint of being Selznick Contract player. You could tell he appeared in a picture as part of a deal with a more appealing property- Bergman or Welles.

The outrage brigade on reddit in their infinite hive mind wisdom who constantly scream that the most minor thing in a relationship is abuse (usually written "ab*use" because the real word would trigger people) constantly scream about gaslighting.

"I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, but he denies it." "Don't let him gaslight you!"

Ubiquitous, and it's a shame. What was once a useful word has become just another buzzword for the you-go-girl brigade.

(Have you ever heard anyone, ever, accuse a woman of "gaslighting" a man?)

[quote](Have you ever heard anyone, ever, accuse a woman of "gaslighting" a man?)

Actually, it's pretty common on reddit subs focused on infidelity and cheating.

Of course women gaslight. It's a common tactic of narcissists as the only reality is their own. The feelings and perceptions of others don't matter!

R36, thank you. I'm clearly hanging out in the wrong part of Reddit (the naked part LOL). I mostly see "gaslighting" used in advice columns, and those are overwhelmingly female-dominated.

R37, I wasn't asking whether women actually do the thing we call "gaslighting". I was asking whether accusing women of gaslighting - using that word - was as common as similar accusations against men. R36 tells me that it is.

Boris the Nazi Incel likes to flick his clit while Donald Trump gaslights him.