Just an FYI. “Experience” means what to people?
I remember being very experienced, yet being a passive or perhaps even a bad lay.
And to be clear, I am absolutely neither, it turns out.
But I didn’t know until much later. Not into porn or sex that is just expressed as porn sex each time. That’s boring to most.
That said, no one taught me how to be a good lay, despite me having multiple partners to which I may have ascribed to the men who were the subject matter or the benefactors or creative partners (lol!) of my gained experiences.
I became a great lay when I finally met a guy who matched my wave length and I, his. And sadly, this is REALLY , REALLY rare to find when dealing with heterosexual hookups between straight women and straight men.
Straight men fit the most part, are horrible in bed, or barely mediocre. Not sure why that is, other than porn and young women who haven’t yet learned how to make themselves orgasm every single time they get laid, if they’re so inspired to do so, is the problem.
Straight men, and by all indications, even gay men, think that having a perfect body and a huge dick are required for great hetero, bi, or gay sex. I’ve had the worst sex ever with the most perfect looking guys.
As far as becoming a great lay is concerned, that only happens when you’re no longer concerned about how you look naked and can really enjoy yourself instead of behaving as if though you’re auditioning for a role.
And the rest is just random discovery and chemistry. Chemistry is the deal breaker or maker. If it’s not there, it’s not going anywhere despite mechanics or lack of inhibition. The good thing about chemistry is that you can build it over the phone, some… but not much. It has to be built face to face for it to truly be there and for some people, it happens immediately and for others who are a bit more cerebral or intellectual, it might take longer, unless their potential sexual partner os just as smart as they are and can keep up.
Interesting that you kinda like ‘em less conversational, OP. Definitely a guy thing, whether smart or not, because really smart women usually can’t get into stupid men, unless it’s a one night stand thingy.
If you’re going for a man who has recently come out and has always only had straight sex or gay sex a few times, he s probably gonna be terrible in bed or is full of shot and has had plenty of gay sex and loved it and will be enthusiastically GREAT.
Either way, be will become better in bed quickly as most men do when they’re actually gay and now are fucking men instead of women they’re not attracted to. LMAO.
You’re doing the Lord’s work OP. Show him how it’s done. Lol.
Too bad most straight never get this teaching moment “opportunity” learning how it’s done. No one tells them either, so there that.
Sigh- straight women aren’t having the hot sex lives they always claim to be having in cosmopolitan.
PS- OP. The ex wife will make your life a living HELL of they have kids. Get ready to rock in roll.