RuPaul Been w/ His Partner For 27 years - What's His Secret For Staying Together?

If they're happy, good for them. However, seeing each other every 3 weeks seems more like a fizzled relationship that turned into best friends. I suppose many relationships, gay or straight, turn into that.

But - are they really married? It annoys me when people say their 'hubby' and they aren't married.

Their relationship seems happy, mature, and supportive. Good for them, indeed!

Well it obviously has to be “open” if they want a relationship. The white husband is delicious. In stark contrast, Ru probably isn’t desired sexually by anyone; he must pay for “service.”

He’s an asshole—going on about Marsha P Johnson. Fuck him. Stop plugging him here.

Young couple.

How tall do you think they are? Google says RuPaul and his husband are both 6'4". Maybe that's Ru's height in heels.

Georges is 13 years younger than RuPaul - he was 21 when they first got together

R6 - I remember RuPaul from his club kid days. I think he's more like 6'4" or 6'5" WITHOUT shoes. With his high heels and hair, he was easily close to 7ft tall.

I believe his partner is taller than him.

But how much dick is this guy getting on a ranch in Idaho?

They always say how his partner manages a ranch - does he really? He's also listed as an artist. Does he just live out there and help out? It seems like they twist this story to be a bit too Brokeback Mountain.

Open marriage = Usually only one half does the fucking around and the other half allows it because they have no self esteem and don’t want to be alone.

R8 - “but how much dick is this guy getting on a ranch in Idaho?”

Honey, with their money the “dick” is flown into them weekly.

[quote] Open marriage = Usually only one half does the fucking around and the other half allows it because they have no self esteem and don’t want to be alone.

So RuPaul should turn down all the guys throwing themselves at him?

According to this, they married in 2017:

"I've never said this television before—we are married," he said on Hollywood Today Live. "I met him on the dance floor at Limelight in 1994 on his birthday. We got married this year on the anniversary of when we met."

Every three weeks? Georges is only sticking around for the $$$$

[quote] Open marriage = Usually only one half does the fucking around and the other half allows it because they have no self esteem and don’t want to be alone.

Oh grow up. What a ridiculous and archaic view of open marriages. I'd say 99% of gay relationships are open, whether it's acknowledged or not, as is a huge number of straight relationships. Most people are not monogamous for the rest of their lives. Relationships survive because people figure out how to fulfill their physical needs without giving up on their love for one another.

[quote]So RuPaul should turn down all the guys throwing themselves at him?

LMAO! Oh yeah - I’m sure that’s happening.🙄😂

[quote]I'd say 99% of gay relationships are open, whether it's acknowledged or not,

Pulling figures out of your prolapsed asshole again? Not everyone is a whore, dear.

My suspicion is it’s less rosy and more transactional than they would publicly admit. Deets would be revealed in the fullness of time, one way or another.

[quote] So RuPaul should turn down all the guys throwing themselves at him?

[quote] LMAO! Oh yeah - I’m sure that’s happening.🙄😂

RuPaul is incredibly wealthy. Of course there are guys throwing themselves at him.

Does she have the AIDS? She looks awfully skeletal, and MUCH older than her age.

[quote]RuPaul Been w/ His Partner For 27 years - What's His Secret For Staying Together?

Jhirmack!

R14 - that opinion of open marriages in neither archaic or ridiculous. It's an opinion based on experience shared by many.

Now, I will agree that 'open' is a wide-range. Giving your partner a pass a few times a year or playing together once and awhile with someone else is not the same as one partner who has many sexual trists on a weekly basis.

The ones that are constantly going around and acting like a single man but who are partnered - those are the ones we are talking about.

[Quote]How tall do you think they are?

Georges LeBar is 6'8".

[Quote]One of the things that attracted RuPaul to his future love was his height. The Drag Race star is 6-foot-4. LeBar is 6-foot-8 and was wearing platforms the night they met at a New York City nightclub.

I agree with their view of marriage. I am curious why people still think sexual monogamy and living together 24/7 is the ideal relationship. To each his own - but I think gay men offer a modern view of what marriage should/can be. Trying to adhere to the midcentury myth of marriage seems like an irrational and arbitrary way to live life that would make me absolutely miserable - like my parents.

which one is the top/bottom?

I find it hard to believe that RuPaul would allow his husband to access his bank account or share finances. RuPaul has always been about one person - RuPaul.

Despite his attempts to rebrand himself as a self help guru to the nations' youth, he works in Hollywood and it should be no surprise that he is as self-focused as the pop psychology he pushes on others.

I think it's clear, R24.

Whatever works for individual relationships works for individual relationships. I'm not denying that this works for them, but I'd be lying if I said that when I hear about a couple having an open relationship I think of it as a lesser relationship. An arrangement like this could never work for me. A major component of a fortifying relationship is committment & committment is so foundational in a relationship. My relationship with my partner holds so much value in my life because of concepts like sacrifice & honor. Sure, I see people who turn my head every day & sometimes they turn back. But knowing that I belong within the intimacy of my partner & I is what gives our relationship the weight & fulfillment it does. Also, I feel like trustworthiness in an open relationship is rather impossible. We know a couple whose been with each other for 20+ years & they claim to share everything between them, but I know that they both keep as many hook-ups from each other as they can--and I think they know that about themselves, too! Jealousy & resentment cannot help but show their ugly faces after so long, and if they don't then there was never any emotional investment to begin with. I think these two men keep the truth from each other just to avoid having to deal with this aspect of an open relationship. Like I said, whatever works for other people works for them...but I really don't understand how it really works.

[quote] I think it's clear

Then tell us?

I think it's legitimate. RuPaul would likely cut him off in a second if he tried to set boundaries or limit him in any way, so I'm guessing the husband is a doormat and the three weeks apart requirement is from RuPaul. If the husband doesn't like it, then he's gone, cut out from Ru's life.

[quote] Jealousy & resentment cannot help but show their ugly faces after so long, and if they don't then there was never any emotional investment to begin with.

Which is why one of the rules when starting up an Open Relationship - is NOT to tell the other when they are hooking up on the outside

So the other person is totally oblivious. As long as safe sex was practiced, the other person doesn't need to know

[Quote]I am curious why people still think sexual monogamy and living together 24/7 is the ideal relationship.

I agree. In the old days, many married men had mistresses, or plain ol' sexual encounters with other women (or men). The agreement was to keep all this as discreet as possible. For many people, especially men, monogamy requires too much discipline to follow through. An honest open relationship is much better than a forced monogamous one.

R31 - there's a huge difference between having a few flings over the years and having a mistress or hooking up all the time. Why did women tolerate mistresses? Cuz they didn't have any economic clout or divorce was considered a moral failing and didn't want their kids in a 'broken home'. It's not like women were like - yeah, cool - fuck around and have this long term relationship with another woman. It's cool.

I believe George is also Australian - so you have to wonder how much being with RuPaul allowed him opportunities to stay in the US. To be honest, I'd rather be in Australia than Idaho, but to each his own.

Wyoming, not Idaho.

R33 - even worse. Wyoming and South Dakota.

I think he spends less time on that ranch than they let on. From George's own website:

"I paint, plain and simple; my background is in fashion and design, studied in Paris, New York and most recently in Miami. My images are a reference from my history comparing it to the present,art is about exploring life for me."

Doesn't sound like a full-time ranch manager's bio. And some sites say it is a 6,000 acre ranch, not 60,000.

There is a Lebar ranch in Wyoming on Google Maps, so it checks out. But I just don't think this is full time ranching - but I could be wrong.

People tend to call a large amount of property "a ranch" because if they have a certain number of sheep or whatever they can claim massive tax breaks. So they pay someone to look after the animals required to get the tax classification for the property.

R35 - I remember reading somewhere that he grew up on a ranch in Australia - so it may be a yearning for that.

I just can't imagine living in NY, Paris and Miami and then holing up on some isolated ranch in Trump country.

There does seem to be quite a few buildings at that ranch from Google satellite maps. I presume those are for the animals.

It's an hour outside of Casper, where I presume there is SOME civilization. I dunno - it just seems a bit weird and not true to life.

R9

When. I was younger …I met someone in a bar ..and we hit it off right away….when it was clear that things were headed for the bedroom…..he turned and introduced his lover of like 30 years…they were both older and I was looking for Daddy ..so it was all good….and he said to me…’If your going home with me….your going home with him too.’.. The beginning of a beautiful friendship and lots of sex……one of my fondest memories……they had an open relationship…….no secrets…kept them together for thirty years+…

R27 Whatever works for you. But monogamy in and of itself is not proof of solidity or commitment. An open relationship is not a lesser relationship, it's just an open relationship.

I’m confused because it says he inherited the ranch in Wyoming from family - but also that he is Australian. Odd.

I used to see George and Ru all the time as they lived on my block. George was really tall and hot and always wore a cowboy hat. A rancher even in NYC. Ru definitely married up looks wise.

Exactly R38 - nothing says commitment more than sleeping around with other people and acting single.

Does he fuck Ru with the big white wig on?

Ru said in an interview with NPR that they leased most of the land to oil companies for fracking and the rest to actual ranchers for grazing. It doesn't sound like they have any livestock

[quote]RuPaul is incredibly wealthy. Of course there are guys throwing themselves at him.

Doubtful. Since he’s married, it’s not like any of them have a chance of “securing the bag” now.

r43, sure, they won't get the gold ring, but they might get some diamonds and pearls.

RuPaul lucked out on this guy. His hubby is hot.

He needs to give some advice to Richard Simmons on how to land a man.

There's not enough fraking oil in all of Wyoming to make me fuck that!

I 've never heard so many outdated archaic dumb view points in my life. You all are gay men correct? I think what Ru and his husband are doing is fantastic and more power to both of them.

My husband and I have been together 17 years and we are best friends. I can't imagine spending my life with anyone else. But we are also open and honest. We continue to have actual conversations not about cheating on each other but does this work in our relationship. And we set ground rules. No long tern affairs. No unsafe sex. I travel for work and its not like its happens all the time but yeah once in awhile I hooked up and so has he. What we realized its doesnt end the relationship. My point is just because you are together and committed doesnt me you stop being you. And it works for us.

Back when Ru and Michelle did their podcast, he mentioned the relationship a lot. I think Georges comes from money and likes the ranch life--a gentleman rancher. (I only learned here that he's a painter--Ru never mentioned it.) They travel a lot, and Ru visits the ranch and dresses up like a cowboy. It sounds to me like they have a good relationship. We all know men aren't made to be monogamous, and they've found what works for them. If I recall correctly, Ru sounded pretty asexual.

Good for them.

There is always the judgemental, "people should be monogamist" crowd that shows up in every thread that covers this topic. Building a life with someone is about much more than whether someone else touches your penis.

"We all know men aren't made to be monogamous."

Link, please. Otherwise you're just pulling shit out of your gaping maw of a hole.

Quit making excuses and rationalizations for centuries of mens' bad behavior.

Bullshit R50. If someone as a couple makes that decision then thats between them.

R50 = Hausefrau Deluxe

I just can't imagine RuPaul having sex. He's so ugly! Smart move to allow the husband some leeway as, irrespective of RuPaul's wealth, Georges looks like someone with a need to spread his seed far and wide.

[quote] No long term affairs.

How do you control that, R47?

How do I control that? Uh we don’t do it that how. There’s no need to control anything. That’s my whole point. Stay don’t stay. Leave don’t leave. We are there because we want to be. There is no sneaking around because we tell each other everything. It works.

RuPaul supports "Fracking!"?

"I agree with their view of marriage. I am curious why people still think sexual monogamy and living together 24/7 is the ideal relationship."

I don't think most people actually think this. But, on the other hand, people are people - envious, insecure, protective people. Open relationships can be great, but I've seen many that just don't work because someone gets pissed, someone is insecure they're getting the wrong end of the bargain, someone went too far and crossed some established or not established line -- and because, occasionally, one member of the couple actually falls in love with a third-party that they're being "open with." Relationships are hard no matter what the arrangement.

In some ways, the "professed monogamy plus cheating" model makes perfect sense. Then again, that model isn't any more successful as any other model.

Ru Paul said in an interview that the ranch is a moneymaker for them because they’ve sold leases to the property for mineral exploration and grazing.

There’s a lot of whores on here who are obviously upset not everyone wants a fake relationship!😄

Everything in life is transactional. What works for you won’t work for someone else. If someone wants to “steal” my husband, go ahead! In fact, do it - I’ll be set for life.

Transactional is the word. But love and the human heart deserve a better fate than the ecological nightmare that they’ve chosen as stewards of their property. I don’t stand in judgement as I am a Christian, reflective of the love of Jesus. Everyone and everything in Ru’s compromises for wealth and companionship reek of exploitation and sin.

Oh my God and fucking Jesus too.

Your religion and your "loving" God wants to send you to the burning pits of hell R61. Or haven't you read 'The Good Book'?

I can see why seeing each other only every 3 weeks seems strange to most people, but it's their relationship and it works for them, so it's really no one else's business. I've always thought it's crystal clear that Ru is absolutely head over heels in love with him, and I assume likewise. Good for them.

I wonder if most of the negative comments here are from bitter old queens who can't hold down a relationship and will die alone?

Have known RuPaul from back in club kid days, and for one am *VERY* proud of Ru!

Other drag queens, gays and tons of trans threw Rupaul shade. The latter because she wasn't "real" or " cunty" because didn't take hormones, have implants and in general lived in boys clothes unless was getting paid (performing).

Ru paid them no mind and kept a laser beam focus on her/his life and career. Fast forward almost thirty years and who has the last laugh?

Ru has fuck tons of money, multiple homes, fame, success, oh yes and long term partner (now husband) . Only a few others from back in day like Shannon come close. Even then that's because they managed to nab at least a long term partner.

Meanwhile all those *fabulous* and *real* trans are either broke, dead (HIV/AIDS, liver disease, cancer, cardio-pulmonary), currently or in past incarcerated (usually prostitution), and so it goes. While those trans are barely eking out a living a shop bottoms on B'way at Bloomingdale's or elsewhere, RuPaul can swoop in a buy the whole fucking counter..

Please! At this point that guy is there for one reason only. Ru's money. If that was gone tomorrow, he'd be gone the next day.

Did RuPaul have money 27 years ago, R66?

Apparently you don't understand what the words "at this point" means R67.

R67 - yes, I would say Ru did have some money in 1994, it was after Supermodel exploded in like 92? He was well known then and wasn't just a club person in NYC.

I always wondered who in the music industry plucked him out of obscurity and managed his rise. The song was perfect for the Supermodel excess that was everywhere at the time. And getting LaWanda Page to voice on the record was genius.

He did take the high road and was about love and positivity - except for when he traded barbs with Milton Berle. Remember that? Milton was being disrespectful and Ru was having none of it. It was really hard on RuPaul for a while after that.

After Supermodel he bought a West Village new construction apartment. He’s been successful for a long time.

I find sex kind of meaningless. You feel good (or not,lol) for a bit and then move on. I think in the first stages of a relationship it may catch some feelings, but mostly I view it as a short term exchange. Relationships are made for a certain amount of secretivity: upperclass Victorians knew this well. I sometimes wonder if my past addiction to fleeting assignations via cruising has made me numb to sexual meaning.

R70 - and glad he did, I'm sure. I remember reading years ago that Cindy Crawford bought a West Village townhouse for like 800,000 in the late 80's/early 90's.

Imagine what that is worth now.

That sounds like the perfect relationship for me. You have your life. He has his life. You see each other when you see each other, no fuss, no muss, and no complications.

Interesting that Ru describes his husband as “the person I LIKE most in the world” but describes himself as “the person my husband LOVES most in the world.”

Likes vs loves?

Okay, I'll ask again. Does Ms RuPaul have HIV/AIDS?