I asked out a guy at my gym who had been flirting with me and he completely freaked out

What were the flirty initiatives he made that led you to think he wanted sex? Share them and let DL be the judge.

Maybe he's just playing hard to get. Try sneaking up behind him and slowly slipping your hand into his gym shorts and licking his earlobe and let us know if it works.

Asking someone out is not necessarily about having sex, R1.

Meet him at the showers! 🚿

Perhaps starting out with presenting hole was too forward for him.

R5 Presenting hole wasn’t the scary part, it was when the rosebud appeared!

Maybe he's just a prick tease. Plenty of those around.

I had a man of color lick my earlobe on the city bus and, in a Barry White voice, grunt “lets join loins”. I felt more assaulted than propositioned.

It's pathetic how many people will lead another on just for their ego.

He probably noticed your tinymeat while you were undressing, OP.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet OP. Be thankful.

Well, I said "hello" and he said "hello" back and he smiled...and now he says that he's straight

But it might be the age gap that gives him cold feet. He's probably in his early 30's, looking older because- bulk. I'm 72 yo, but I'm very slender, and I look more around 58/60.

R12 R13 THAT'S FLIRTING????? You need to chill. Are you the same DLer who once posted a thread about a man in his 40's flirting with you at a store checkout counter because he asked you what time it was?

OP: Is he gay?

R13 = oh dear. Everything suddenly becomes crystal clear.

R14 yes that would be me, why ? R15 what he's saying now is , the young woman who's training with him is his GF, but I swear I can read the room, he's DEFINITELY gay. Also he's always wearing very fitting tank tops and tight gear, and has a very trimmed stubble. I've been with him in the locker rooms several time, when I blow dry my ballsack, even though he pretends not to pay attention /does the towel dance, I can feel he's watching

R16 wins!

R14- That was me. Last January a guy at Costco was flirting with me while I was waiting in line for the cashier. I'm 55 years old not 72. He was flirting with me, although, unfortunately I've had NO flirting from any guy since that day at Costco in February.

I bet you don't look a day over 40 OP, it's his loss.

A completely failed effort.

.0001/10

🙄

why thank you R20 . (I say that I'm 55 , not 72 because I LOOK 55, not 72) . Age is only a number, age is boring, age doesn't matter. My friend Sally always tell me that I look like her little brother, and she's 49. Most people tell me that I look like a younger George Clooney

Did you hiss upon his rejection, OP?

R23 Let's just say I would have preferred to deal with it in private, and not at the management desk. I'm sorry, but in my book, if you go to the steam room, you want to play.

R22 What about your balding, gray hair?

[quote] I'm 72 yo, but I'm very slender, and I look more around 58/60. —OP

And you people think we're making up the "But I Look 10 Years Younger" Meme

It's an old reference, r24

R25 1) How did you know , is this just random lucky guess? 2) I've decided to go for the "silver fox" look. Dying the hair black actually ages me a bit, and damages the scalp , hence the balding spots. 3) I have terrific skin, and my skin routine is on point. You can't avoid a few wrinkles here and there, but a clean, moisturized glowing skin makes a world of difference, as quite a few millenials with a daddy complex have made very clear (costco, this one -even though he chickened out)

OP, your description of this behavior isn't exclusive among gay men, it cuts across all combinations of sexual preferences. I think you're on to something, when you suppose he's an uptight Millennial/Social media addict, who has never really learned how to talk to people, face-to-face, and freaks the fuck out when someone has the fall to be upfront, and direct with him. Cheer up, you did nothing wrong.

*gall

Homophobe. who cares if you asked him out and he was straight. The proper response is , wow thanks but I am straight. End of story.

OP, you didn't take a giant dump in the toilet and not flush, did you?

R30 well, that's not what the police said, but thank you all the same

[quote] you didn't take a giant dump in the toilet and not flush, did you?

It actually saves water

OP This reminds me of the time I bought nice Calvin Klein boxer briefs for a FWB I'd been casually seeing for a few years. I told him he should model them for me. I don't think he liked his own body, but I happened to love it (5'10", hairy, with just a few extra pounds).

He looked at me like I'd grown an extra two heads. Beforehand, there was absolutely no reason at all to believe he might've had that reaction. It was very odd. I still have those underwear in a drawer, tag attached.

OP I think you made a mistake by asking him out. A guy who flirts at the gym is looking to fuck. You should made a passing comment about how you're parked in the emptiest part of the gym parking lot and have really tinted windows.

OP-I think you are trying to impersonate me. I am the person who started a thread about a man who was about 47 years old at Costco flirting with me last January. He asked me the time when in all likely hood he had not only a cellphone but a watch. He was WELL dressed too. Maybe when I stop wearing a mask every time I go to Trader Joe's , Costco , etc I will be noticed again. Although at my age (55) I can't expect TOO much.

[quote] OP-I think you are trying to impersonate me.

Sorry I'm not the OP, I totally hidjacked this thread, I'm really a rotten little bitch, but I couldnt resist

OP is "72 & 2 HOT 2 B BELIEVED"!

[quote] But it might be the age gap that gives him cold feet. He's probably in his early 30's, looking older because- bulk. I'm 72 yo, but I'm very slender, and I look more around 58/60.

OMG - WTF were you thinking. Misinterpreting signals? Your Gaydar dysfunctional?

As long as you didn't do anything wrong, you weren't obnoxious or embarrassing, then there is no need for him to "freak out." If he would rather decline your offer, then he can say it civilly and end it there. Yes, it's awkward, but as adults, sometimes we just have to be polite and say no. But to "freak out?" That's a bit too much.

There was also this time where I chanced upon a hot guy who was smoking. He asked me for a cigarette (when clearly he had one), so I knew what that meant. I answered him with a fey wink: “Your place or mine?” And he got all huffy with me & stopped off, after calling me “fruit.” Never in all my life have I been so offended (until the gym incident).

He probably just said no because he was afraid you were overheard.

Start slipping him notes.

Some straight guys do what women do and flirt to feed their ego, and then pretend like they weren’t when guys respond. Don’t let yourself get played.

The amount of people on DL who don't get snark/parody comments is disheartening.

So many people responded to R38s obvious fun-nonsense with serious gasps. Smh. If straights ever come here in any number we're sure to lose the "gays are clever" stereotype.

Did he laugh at your puny cocklet?

OP = Do you know where he works?.....Call his job and tell them he is rude. I once made a scene with and ex roommate at his job at Wells Fargo because he was rude to me at the club one weekend. That next Monday I showed up (and he was closeted too)...I will never forget the look on his face when he saw me...Pure GOLD...One of the greatest moments of my life.

OP, how is saying “hello” to someone flirting? Since when is a smile code for “I want to have your babies and live happily ever after”? Seems like he was just being friendly.

So...a straight guy was "flirting" and you thought he wanted to fuck? GOTCHA

So many people didn't read the thread...

Old Queen Davey Wavey would have known how to handle a straight guy!!

Maybe he’s just playing hard to get and just reeling you in……

He must have been downwind when you were blow drying your balls.

Keep pursuing him. You'll wear him down.

[R48] OP, how is saying “hello” to someone flirting? Since when is a smile code for “I want to have your babies and live happily ever after”? Seems like he was just being friendly.

If you lust after someone enough…....a smile may be all the affirmation you need to believe he is open to something more.

Good thing Miss OP didn't have any wine (RED) with her in the gym.

A cute guy bumped into me in the street one time. I know he did that deliberately.

I bought him a big engagement ring and hid it cleverly in a fruit bouquet which I had delivered to his office. Could not believe the crap I caught after that. He refused to make eye contact with me. It's very awkward 'cause we work in the same office building. Some men will do anything to get admiration.

OP IS Darren Criss

Me stepping up to my gym crush bro

Bump

[quote] I blow dry my ballsack

I like you OP. You go on being you!

You go to the gym every day? He flirted, you responded, THEN he saw the real you and LOST INTEREST. Work on yourself.

R14- That was me. I started a thread about this guy who was standing in line in front of me at Costco in February 2021. He turned around and looked at me then a moment later turned around again and asked me if I had the time- he was flirting by the way.

This thread has become a modern day game of To Tell the Truth!

He saw you in better light, OP. Bright light is your enemy. You're a two-face.

You’re 72 and he’s 30. You’re 42 years older than him. Look to someone closer to your own age. 10+ or 10- your age is fine.

I once had the hottest (but completely professional) flirtation with the fellow eldergay working the men’s underpants department at Bloomingdale’s.

R64- For you

Most everyone at my gym knows I'm gay; we've all been working out there for over a decade. Some straight guys are very happy to see me; others have never said a word to me. I've encountered a few situations with some who interact with me all the time.

One approached me a couple of years ago; I have known him for several years. We were talking at the gym and he asked me if I wanted to continue the conversation at his place. My jaws were sore for about a week. We acted as if nothing happened afterward.

Another asked me to spot him while he did some squats. In this situation, you stand close behind the lifter and reach in front of him to hold the lower part of the chest steady. This guy told me he would feel most comfortable if I would put my middle fingers on the buds of his nipples, He then knew he could confidently lift. I made him do two more reps than he expected to.

There are a couple of guys who pull down on their tank tops and reveal some nipple skin outside the fabric. Other guys don't bother hiding their nipples at all, even when we are extremely close up.

One guy has no problem showering with me. He makes no attempt to shield anything. He's gorgeous, well-built, nice cock with a thick blond bush. He asked me if I wanted to join him at the wedding of another gym member. I said "yes". A couple of days later, he told me he had other plans that wedding night. Then he showed up at the wedding. I don't know if he chickened out or if others were teasing him about it.

Lastly, a member asked me to model some clothes for a practice run for a photo shoot he was doing later that week. I agreed. We started off with business casual, then athletic wear, then speedos and underwear. He became more excited which each request to strip off another piece of clothing. We got to a point where he asked me to reveal some pubes above a speedo waistband, then more pubes; finally he asked me to remove the speedo. I did. I was waiting for him to put the camera down, but he, too, got cold feet.

I never shared this stuff with any of my friends at the gym. I didn't want to jeopardize any other opportunity down the road.

R69- Your story -3/10

R70 Tighr, In his other posts R69 mentioned he was in the sixth grade back in 1971. No one asks 60 year olds to model underwear for them..

It was an earlier memory, R71.

It was all a dream r71.

So it’s OK for us to flip out and get defensive when women hit on us?

Great thread

OP is deluded with erotomania, misconstrues friendliness with flirtatiousness. SAD!

I'm age 60 and there's a young guy at work in his early thirties. He's cute, pleasant personality, and has a great ass. We talk regularly by the coffee machine, he's always happy to see me, enjoys my sense of humor, and at times I swear he's outright flirting with me. But I always end it pleasantly and go about my business. Why would anybody at their prime of life want to hook up with someone twice his age? I wouldn't even entertain the idea if he made a pass at me. OP is an idiot.

OP you are quite busy making up stupid threads, copying tweets, etc.

I can't imagine what flyover town r69s story has to take place in where he is 'the gay guy" at the gym. Most gyms have tons of gay guys and it is hardly unusually.

I’m 100 yrs old and if a 21 year old put his arm in my ass, I’d just lay there while he fisted me

Trollin' trollin' trollin'

Bravo to the troll!

He wasnt flirting, R19

He was looking at your rotisserie chicken

It's people in general brains fucking warped.

I tried to be friends with a straight couple in town the psycho mental gymnastics I had to deal with every time we hung out was mind blowing.

I just wanted people to drink with once in awhile and now I need therapy.

Sounds like a control freak who wanted to control the situation

I love peace of mind and will not trade it for a piece of ass

Flirting with cute guys is fun and sexy, I like looking at them and talking to them, subtley checking them out, innocent really, I'm 58yo, it's the highlight of my day. :-)

R86- I bet it would be a REAL highlight if one of those cute guys flirted back ( as in being attracted to you)

Bump

Update?

Bump

He probably noticed your tiny meat in the locker room, Miss OP.