I quoted this from a poster in the ‘Twitter nut and attention-seeker wants kill himself’ thread. I think it’s the plague and epidemic of our times. Feeling and living this way couldn’t be more destructive and debasing. I believe most mental health issues would be resolved if people subjected themselves to the arduous and rigorous task of evolving into a person that truly has NO FUCKS LEFT TO GIVE. Mind you, this does not mean turning into a callous, selfish, egotistical turd; quite the contrary, actually.
Yes, in order to not give a fuck about what others think or feel about you, one must begin by developing a self-esteem, which may at first require self-centered tendencies. However, most people confuse self-centeredness in this process as [italic]others[/italic] making them the center of [italic]their[/italic] world. Additionally, even when they have the right idea about what self-centeredness entails, most people still miss the mark by getting stuck in this developmental stage.
The true mark of someone who doesn’t give a fuck is the acceptance that they are not better or worse, more important or less important, more entitled or more undeserving than anyone else. In a sense, one has to build up their ego - this is, of course, if one does not have an ego that manifests healthily; otherwise, skip to the following step - only to tear it back down in order to arrive at a true and valid self-estimation of oneself, i.e., a healthy self-esteem.
Often this requires much solitude, pain, shedding of illusions, delusions, and fantasies, reconciling with life’s torturous and inevitable rites of passage - namely aging and death - and adopting a brutally honest outlook on life and oneself. Only after one has stripped oneself naked and raw of hubris and transient adornments can one begin to not care in the egocentric sense and expand and care in the altruistic sense.
This is one of the reasons why DL is the only social media platform I interact on: No one on here gives a fuck who or what you are, and, so, it doesn’t interfere with my own current growth process. Plus, I like the generation of humility DL at its best can be conducive to.
