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Big, Gay ,Sexy,Bears

The queer community isn’t always the most welcoming place for individuals who don’t fit the images of what many people ― and the media, hookup apps and fashion ― think gay men should look and act like.

In an effort to highlight those who are proudly living their lives on their own terms, YouTube fave Davey Wavey has launched a series titled #ThisIsMe.

The second episode in the series features Scott, a proud bear, who opens up about his relationship with his body.

“I’ve always been a big guy,” Scott told Wavey. “When I was a kid, I was the fat kid. When I was in college I was heavy. But I’m at the point in my life where this is who I am and I’m very comfortable with that. And so when I think about my body now, I recognize the places that I think are attractive.”

Scott, who lives in Palm Springs, California, with his husband, Brad, discussed the parts of his body that he loves ― he thinks he has “great nipples” and recently won a poolside “Mr. Butt” contest ― as well as the first time he really began to embrace his body after attending a bear event.

“It took me a while to accept that [men were interested in me] because I don’t think I was quite ready for that and the level of attention I was getting,” he said.

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by Bear Loverreply 68Last Thursday at 10:53 AM

He's lying. He'd kill a nun to be thin.

by Bear Loverreply 1Last Tuesday at 5:58 PM

The queer community isn’t always the most welcoming place for individuals who don’t fit the images of what many people ― and the media, hookup apps and fashion ― think gay men should look and act like.

You got that right!

by Bear Loverreply 2Last Tuesday at 5:59 PM

That picture makes my tits tingle!

by Bear Loverreply 3Last Tuesday at 6:02 PM

Wasn't the crying husbear thread enough to satisfy your fatphobia OP?

by Bear Loverreply 4Last Tuesday at 6:05 PM

Ummm,,,, that guy Scott Davenport ain't just some nobody. He's quite an important figure in the fight for same-sex marriage. Not sure if average Joe would have the same confidence.

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by Bear Loverreply 5Last Tuesday at 6:08 PM

How ironic.

by Bear Loverreply 6Last Tuesday at 6:11 PM

And what’s wrong with Muriel Puce? Seriously celebrate yourself, we’re only dancing on this earth for a short while. I say good for him. He may not be my type but he deserves to be loved and that starts with loving yourself. That’s what Rupaul tells me, so I know it’s true.

by Bear Loverreply 7Last Tuesday at 6:20 PM

Winning a poolside Best Butt contest in Palm Springs has been a turning point in many lives.

by Bear Loverreply 8Last Tuesday at 6:32 PM

I went to Provincetown one year and unbeknown to me it was Bear Week. Bear= FAT and HAIRY. WRONG

Many of the so called Bears were FAT but few of them were hairy unless having some facial hair makes you HAIRY.

Some guys were burly without being fat and some were muscle bears- husky with a build. It was NOT my scene. I don't like being where only ONE type of guy predominates.

If they had a SCENE QUEEN week in Provincetown that would be even worse.

by Bear Loverreply 9Last Tuesday at 6:35 PM

Sorry to be blunt but I don't think the person at OP's link is sexy in any way whatsoever.

He's grossly obese, must be very unhealthy and completely repulsive.

by Bear Loverreply 10Last Tuesday at 7:17 PM

[R4]

No…Bears are beautiful men . Bears are loving , caring, and sensitive and don’t deserve your fat-shaming bullshit

by Bear Loverreply 11Last Tuesday at 7:24 PM

Unfortunate nipple... everything.

by Bear Loverreply 12Last Tuesday at 8:01 PM

[quote]he thinks he has “great nipples” and recently won a poolside “Mr. Butt” contest

Runner-up Mrs. Dan Savage is plotting her revenge.

by Bear Loverreply 13Last Tuesday at 8:53 PM

Those hairy barrel chested muscle Bear fuckers make me weak in the knees.

by Bear Loverreply 14Last Wednesday at 5:54 AM

add in the leather suspenders….I’m on my knees begging for more

by Bear Loverreply 15Last Wednesday at 5:56 AM

Try it…..you just might like it

by Bear Loverreply 16Last Wednesday at 5:57 AM

Some of you gay men are really so vanilla…..you don’t know the pleasures of ‘rough’ sex.

by Bear Loverreply 17Last Wednesday at 6:00 AM

R9 - same thing happened to me. From all their words, you would have thought Bear Week was going to be full of body positivity and openness and acceptance.

Nope - a lot of fat, bitchy queens feeling themselves and getting their turn to be the Mean Girls.

There were some legit bears - hairy, built men with some weight on them - but most were just slovenly obese men who never met a buffet they didn't like and have never stepped foot in a gym.

The irony that this video was made by Davy Wavy - who is the biggest muscle mary trying to be all light and positivity, which is completely fake.

by Bear Loverreply 18Last Wednesday at 6:08 AM

[quote] And so when I think about my body now, I recognize the places that I think are attractive.”

There's a spot just under his right earlobe and then another one on his left shin.

by Bear Loverreply 19Last Wednesday at 6:11 AM

OP seems to have problems with punctuation spacing and....well, punctuation period.

by Bear Loverreply 20Last Wednesday at 6:13 AM

Based on that photo, Freedom to MARY! is more like it.

by Bear Loverreply 21Last Wednesday at 6:14 AM

On some level it's great that they've found each other and find each other to be sexually desirable. Fat women really don't have that except maybe chubby chasers.

The effeminate bears must not have it easy because no one expects a big burly bearded guy to start squealing like Richard SImmons and they must get mocked a lot

by Bear Loverreply 22Last Wednesday at 6:19 AM

HAIRY MARY!

by Bear Loverreply 23Last Wednesday at 6:22 AM

If I let myself go like that I’d be dead from a heart attack or diabetes well before loving myself.

by Bear Loverreply 24Last Wednesday at 6:45 AM

This thread is making me have naughty thoughts.

by Bear Loverreply 25Last Wednesday at 6:51 AM

Miss r9 has STATED her BOUNDARIES.

by Bear Loverreply 26Last Wednesday at 6:55 AM

I like some chub on a guy, but the bear/cub clone culture repels me. And just because you're overweight doesn't mean you must have facial hair.

by Bear Loverreply 27Last Wednesday at 7:17 AM

Hair….grow it…show it

by Bear Loverreply 28Last Wednesday at 7:26 AM

But a #1 on the sides please with my flat top..

by Bear Loverreply 29Last Wednesday at 7:28 AM

Op is not a bear, he's obese. There ought to be a distinction between the two.

by Bear Loverreply 30Last Wednesday at 7:35 AM

Wait until his leg turns black and falls off from diabetes, that'll teach him.

by Bear Loverreply 31Last Wednesday at 7:41 AM

Quite big tits..

by Bear Loverreply 32Last Wednesday at 7:45 AM

R19 way to harsh my buzz.

by Bear Loverreply 33Last Wednesday at 7:47 AM

Ewww, why is one tit bigger than the other? Fattie needs to lose a few dozen pounds and start dating within his age group.

by Bear Loverreply 34Last Wednesday at 8:06 AM

R18 I have no experience with bear group events, but I've heard and read repeatedly over the years that bear groups are some of the most bitchy, exclusionary cunts in the community. I understand they're just as bad, if not WORSE than the gym addicts. And I've never been a fan of that Davey person. Ever.

by Bear Loverreply 35Last Wednesday at 8:09 AM

You should check out the Carolina Bear Lodge it’s in you neck of the woods….don’t go by ‘what you hear’.

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by Bear Loverreply 36Last Wednesday at 8:24 AM

[R34]. Vanilla pretty boy…..just don’t get it

by Bear Loverreply 37Last Wednesday at 8:27 AM

You just have squeeze into those size 32’s …starve yourself until you do

by Bear Loverreply 38Last Wednesday at 8:29 AM

You think skinny looks good…i got news….it doesn’t

by Bear Loverreply 39Last Wednesday at 8:30 AM

You just look sick and under nourished

by Bear Loverreply 40Last Wednesday at 8:32 AM

And shallow--when you're good looking and in shape you just look shallow and conceited and who wants that?

by Bear Loverreply 41Last Wednesday at 8:34 AM

Back when HIV was totally untreatable….I stayed away from skinny guys…they looked sick…maybe had HIV and didn’t know it.

by Bear Loverreply 42Last Wednesday at 8:39 AM

I'll never see size 32 again.

by Bear Loverreply 43Last Wednesday at 8:40 AM

Really ….it’s who you are on the inside that really counts

by Bear Loverreply 44Last Wednesday at 8:43 AM

R44 It's who's inside you that really counts!

by Bear Loverreply 45Last Wednesday at 8:49 AM

I agree with both….

by Bear Loverreply 46Last Wednesday at 9:06 AM

Davey Wavey is a prime example of the stereotypical superficial and status conscious gay man. For him to be delving into this topic is quite hilarious.

by Bear Loverreply 47Last Wednesday at 12:30 PM

DW is just doing whatever he can to try and stay relevant. What's he supposed to do instead, get a real job?

by Bear Loverreply 48Last Wednesday at 12:35 PM

I could not accept myself like this. I'm pretty screwed up and therefore can only deal with my body within certain parameters. Parameters that require less than 1800 calories and an hour of weights and cardio per day. I still feel I could do more. I envy this big fat happy guy and I respect what he has done for the community.

I also could not find him attractive.

by Bear Loverreply 49Last Wednesday at 12:50 PM

Russian bears.

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by Bear Loverreply 50Last Wednesday at 12:52 PM

I find bears so hot and they are my preferred type---except for the obese ones...unless they are really really hairy.

It's so weird what turns you on and what doesn't

by Bear Loverreply 51Last Wednesday at 3:16 PM

[quote]Some of you gay men are really so vanilla…..you don’t know the pleasures of ‘rough’ sex.

No longer having to push when you go number two?

by Bear Loverreply 52Last Wednesday at 10:21 PM

[quote]The queer community isn’t always the most welcoming place for individuals who don’t fit the images of what many people ― and the media, hookup apps and fashion ― think gay men should look and act like.

That's a bit of an overstatement.

Bears may be in their own orbit within the gay world, but it's hardly an insignificant, disorganized, or downtrodden group. Though not often seen stomping down the runways of the top fashion houses, bears are everywhere: bear bars; bear sex apps; bear social organizations; #gaybear on Instagram = 5M results, other #oso is another 1M+, and endless variations on bear turn up millions of images (a few with four footed bears.) Any city that has a gay bar probably has a gay bear bar, or two, or more. Bears have constructed their own world within the gay world and done a rather good job it it would seem. They are involved and don't want for inclusion or get cropped out of the picture.

I've never been attracted to big bears and few have been attracted to me, but the snobby bears, the working class bears, the casserole and cake baking bears, the gregarious meet everyone bears, the sex pig bears, the cuddle bears, the bears that go apeshit of Muppets, the fussy bears, the IT bears, whatever subdivision you chose, they have a basic body type (with variations) in common and a sense of identity and self possession that goes against the gain of the whatshisname's premise of outsiders. I think gay bears are more nucleus than outer fringe in the gay world.

by Bear Loverreply 53Last Wednesday at 11:27 PM

R18- Davy Wavy is a perfect example of someone who has attitude who shouldn't because he's NOT even hot. He's merely SCENEY and QUEENY.

by Bear Loverreply 54Last Thursday at 4:59 AM

Do they sell 42DD bras at these events?

by Bear Loverreply 55Last Thursday at 5:00 AM

R53 Interesting points.

In the 80s/90s "bears" were kind of a catchall word for non-mainstream gay scenes. You would see hairy men of all ages and sizes. The only real "discrimination" from within was anyone deemed to be part of the mainstream gay scehe (polo shirts, cologne, etc.)

Now it's all very much its own scene. Muscle bears and daddies are in one cluster, the "chubby" men are in another, there are cubs and otters and daddies, oh my! But with all those variations, the openness of the scene is gone. It's as cliqueish and bitchy as any other mainstream gay scene, possibly even MORE so.

by Bear Loverreply 56Last Thursday at 5:05 AM

R56- TOO many labels which I find limiting.

by Bear Loverreply 57Last Thursday at 5:08 AM

R57 exactly

by Bear Loverreply 58Last Thursday at 5:17 AM

[quote]It's as cliqueish and bitchy as any other mainstream gay scene, possibly even MORE so.

There's something to that, R56, definitely. There's a lot of self-sorting among gay men all around. In Europe it's true, too, but less so than in the U.S. I think. I can go into a bear bar in various cities and countries and, in half an hour or so, the barmen have introduced themselves, one of them has bought me a drink, and half a dozen people who look different from me and have no particular interest in me sexually will have said hello and started a conversation -- and no just the old regulars who can spot a newcomer from his footfall before arriving at the front door. That, to me is very much an attribute of bears, that they are from my experience more gregarious about meeting new people and everything isn't so fucking serious all of the time. They will take a chance to speak with someone outside their little circle.

by Bear Loverreply 59Last Thursday at 5:41 AM

Men this size smell bad.

by Bear Loverreply 60Last Thursday at 6:06 AM

R60- Not in the winter.

by Bear Loverreply 61Last Thursday at 6:08 AM

Bearrison Street Fair…San Francisco…..October…..Be there

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by Bear Loverreply 62Last Thursday at 6:27 AM

Do fat guys smell? I'd think they'd be perspiring a lot.

by Bear Loverreply 63Last Thursday at 7:40 AM

I like BO armpit scent…it’s arousing

by Bear Loverreply 64Last Thursday at 8:31 AM

The pictured individual is morbidly obese, which is associated with a shorter life and a poor quality of life. Why would I embrace his physical self? I would encourage him to do everything he can to alter the lifestyle that has caused this- but only if he asked (I’m a professional). No different from advocating no smoking or wearing a face mask during the pandemic, although he is posing a risk only to himself.

by Bear Loverreply 65Last Thursday at 8:37 AM

The pictured individual looks like he'd be the same one all those years ago who said "Dats da suck job!"

by Bear Loverreply 66Last Thursday at 9:56 AM
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by Bear Loverreply 67Last Thursday at 10:01 AM

eeep

by Bear Loverreply 68Last Thursday at 10:53 AM
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