Big, Gay ,Sexy,Bears

He's lying. He'd kill a nun to be thin.

The queer community isn’t always the most welcoming place for individuals who don’t fit the images of what many people ― and the media, hookup apps and fashion ― think gay men should look and act like.

You got that right!

That picture makes my tits tingle!

Wasn't the crying husbear thread enough to satisfy your fatphobia OP?

Ummm,,,, that guy Scott Davenport ain't just some nobody. He's quite an important figure in the fight for same-sex marriage. Not sure if average Joe would have the same confidence.

How ironic.

And what’s wrong with Muriel Puce? Seriously celebrate yourself, we’re only dancing on this earth for a short while. I say good for him. He may not be my type but he deserves to be loved and that starts with loving yourself. That’s what Rupaul tells me, so I know it’s true.

Winning a poolside Best Butt contest in Palm Springs has been a turning point in many lives.

I went to Provincetown one year and unbeknown to me it was Bear Week. Bear= FAT and HAIRY. WRONG

Many of the so called Bears were FAT but few of them were hairy unless having some facial hair makes you HAIRY.

Some guys were burly without being fat and some were muscle bears- husky with a build. It was NOT my scene. I don't like being where only ONE type of guy predominates.

If they had a SCENE QUEEN week in Provincetown that would be even worse.

Sorry to be blunt but I don't think the person at OP's link is sexy in any way whatsoever.

He's grossly obese, must be very unhealthy and completely repulsive.

[R4]

No…Bears are beautiful men . Bears are loving , caring, and sensitive and don’t deserve your fat-shaming bullshit

Unfortunate nipple... everything.

[quote]he thinks he has “great nipples” and recently won a poolside “Mr. Butt” contest

Runner-up Mrs. Dan Savage is plotting her revenge.

Those hairy barrel chested muscle Bear fuckers make me weak in the knees.

add in the leather suspenders….I’m on my knees begging for more

Try it…..you just might like it

Some of you gay men are really so vanilla…..you don’t know the pleasures of ‘rough’ sex.

R9 - same thing happened to me. From all their words, you would have thought Bear Week was going to be full of body positivity and openness and acceptance.

Nope - a lot of fat, bitchy queens feeling themselves and getting their turn to be the Mean Girls.

There were some legit bears - hairy, built men with some weight on them - but most were just slovenly obese men who never met a buffet they didn't like and have never stepped foot in a gym.

The irony that this video was made by Davy Wavy - who is the biggest muscle mary trying to be all light and positivity, which is completely fake.

[quote] And so when I think about my body now, I recognize the places that I think are attractive.”

There's a spot just under his right earlobe and then another one on his left shin.

OP seems to have problems with punctuation spacing and....well, punctuation period.

Based on that photo, Freedom to MARY! is more like it.

On some level it's great that they've found each other and find each other to be sexually desirable. Fat women really don't have that except maybe chubby chasers.

The effeminate bears must not have it easy because no one expects a big burly bearded guy to start squealing like Richard SImmons and they must get mocked a lot

HAIRY MARY!

If I let myself go like that I’d be dead from a heart attack or diabetes well before loving myself.

This thread is making me have naughty thoughts.

Miss r9 has STATED her BOUNDARIES.

I like some chub on a guy, but the bear/cub clone culture repels me. And just because you're overweight doesn't mean you must have facial hair.

Hair….grow it…show it

But a #1 on the sides please with my flat top..

Op is not a bear, he's obese. There ought to be a distinction between the two.

Wait until his leg turns black and falls off from diabetes, that'll teach him.

Quite big tits..

R19 way to harsh my buzz.

Ewww, why is one tit bigger than the other? Fattie needs to lose a few dozen pounds and start dating within his age group.

R18 I have no experience with bear group events, but I've heard and read repeatedly over the years that bear groups are some of the most bitchy, exclusionary cunts in the community. I understand they're just as bad, if not WORSE than the gym addicts. And I've never been a fan of that Davey person. Ever.

You should check out the Carolina Bear Lodge it’s in you neck of the woods….don’t go by ‘what you hear’.

[R34]. Vanilla pretty boy…..just don’t get it

You just have squeeze into those size 32’s …starve yourself until you do

You think skinny looks good…i got news….it doesn’t

You just look sick and under nourished

And shallow--when you're good looking and in shape you just look shallow and conceited and who wants that?

Back when HIV was totally untreatable….I stayed away from skinny guys…they looked sick…maybe had HIV and didn’t know it.

I'll never see size 32 again.

Really ….it’s who you are on the inside that really counts

R44 It's who's inside you that really counts!

I agree with both….

Davey Wavey is a prime example of the stereotypical superficial and status conscious gay man. For him to be delving into this topic is quite hilarious.

DW is just doing whatever he can to try and stay relevant. What's he supposed to do instead, get a real job?

I could not accept myself like this. I'm pretty screwed up and therefore can only deal with my body within certain parameters. Parameters that require less than 1800 calories and an hour of weights and cardio per day. I still feel I could do more. I envy this big fat happy guy and I respect what he has done for the community.

I also could not find him attractive.

Russian bears.

I find bears so hot and they are my preferred type---except for the obese ones...unless they are really really hairy.

It's so weird what turns you on and what doesn't

[quote]Some of you gay men are really so vanilla…..you don’t know the pleasures of ‘rough’ sex.

No longer having to push when you go number two?

[quote]The queer community isn’t always the most welcoming place for individuals who don’t fit the images of what many people ― and the media, hookup apps and fashion ― think gay men should look and act like.

That's a bit of an overstatement.

Bears may be in their own orbit within the gay world, but it's hardly an insignificant, disorganized, or downtrodden group. Though not often seen stomping down the runways of the top fashion houses, bears are everywhere: bear bars; bear sex apps; bear social organizations; #gaybear on Instagram = 5M results, other #oso is another 1M+, and endless variations on bear turn up millions of images (a few with four footed bears.) Any city that has a gay bar probably has a gay bear bar, or two, or more. Bears have constructed their own world within the gay world and done a rather good job it it would seem. They are involved and don't want for inclusion or get cropped out of the picture.

I've never been attracted to big bears and few have been attracted to me, but the snobby bears, the working class bears, the casserole and cake baking bears, the gregarious meet everyone bears, the sex pig bears, the cuddle bears, the bears that go apeshit of Muppets, the fussy bears, the IT bears, whatever subdivision you chose, they have a basic body type (with variations) in common and a sense of identity and self possession that goes against the gain of the whatshisname's premise of outsiders. I think gay bears are more nucleus than outer fringe in the gay world.

R18- Davy Wavy is a perfect example of someone who has attitude who shouldn't because he's NOT even hot. He's merely SCENEY and QUEENY.

Do they sell 42DD bras at these events?

R53 Interesting points.

In the 80s/90s "bears" were kind of a catchall word for non-mainstream gay scenes. You would see hairy men of all ages and sizes. The only real "discrimination" from within was anyone deemed to be part of the mainstream gay scehe (polo shirts, cologne, etc.)

Now it's all very much its own scene. Muscle bears and daddies are in one cluster, the "chubby" men are in another, there are cubs and otters and daddies, oh my! But with all those variations, the openness of the scene is gone. It's as cliqueish and bitchy as any other mainstream gay scene, possibly even MORE so.

R56- TOO many labels which I find limiting.

R57 exactly

[quote]It's as cliqueish and bitchy as any other mainstream gay scene, possibly even MORE so.

There's something to that, R56, definitely. There's a lot of self-sorting among gay men all around. In Europe it's true, too, but less so than in the U.S. I think. I can go into a bear bar in various cities and countries and, in half an hour or so, the barmen have introduced themselves, one of them has bought me a drink, and half a dozen people who look different from me and have no particular interest in me sexually will have said hello and started a conversation -- and no just the old regulars who can spot a newcomer from his footfall before arriving at the front door. That, to me is very much an attribute of bears, that they are from my experience more gregarious about meeting new people and everything isn't so fucking serious all of the time. They will take a chance to speak with someone outside their little circle.

Men this size smell bad.

R60- Not in the winter.

Bearrison Street Fair…San Francisco…..October…..Be there

Do fat guys smell? I'd think they'd be perspiring a lot.

I like BO armpit scent…it’s arousing

The pictured individual is morbidly obese, which is associated with a shorter life and a poor quality of life. Why would I embrace his physical self? I would encourage him to do everything he can to alter the lifestyle that has caused this- but only if he asked (I’m a professional). No different from advocating no smoking or wearing a face mask during the pandemic, although he is posing a risk only to himself.

The pictured individual looks like he'd be the same one all those years ago who said "Dats da suck job!"

eeep

she gay?

That dude looks like a straight up deliverance man!

I guess SOMEONE has to love that body. It might as well be him.

Absolutely not my type at all, almost the complete opposite. But each to their own.